Lauren Venables on Safety, Somatics, and Dropping the Guard to Create Deeper Intimacy

Lauren Venables, a Sydney-based feminine embodiment and intimacy coach who supports high-achieving women in feeling safe enough to drop their guard and receive intimacy, pleasure, and devotion through somatic practices, nervous system work, trauma-informed coaching, grief, and relational healing. Lauren shares how she was shy, perfectionistic, and afraid to be seen as a teen despite being a dancer, and how bullying and a lack of safety in relationships shaped her early intimacy and self-expression.

She describes a major turning point after a nine-year relationship that lacked passion and polarity, followed by years of mindset work before discovering body-based nervous system practices.

She emphasizes creating safety in the body to support boundaries, communication, consent, and deeper intimacy, and outlines a practical approach for discussing desires with a partner: get clear on what you want, regulate through breath and somatic awareness, then speak from vulnerability without blame. The conversation explores redefining sex as intimacy and pleasure rather than penetration and performance. They address shame in the body, releasing emotion through somatic validation and feeling sensations, and the importance of self-pleasure for understanding desire and communicating preferences.

The host and Lauren discuss how BDSM/kink communities often model clearer communication and boundaries, and they examine how mainstream porn and sexualized media can distort expectations and harm self-worth. Lauren reinforces that it’s never too late to reconnect with libido, especially by restoring safety amid burnout, hormones, or menopause.

She also describes practitioner self-care, energetic boundaries, mentors, nature grounding, and her future aims to follow her “aliveness,” and continue living what she teaches through ongoing learning.

00:00 Meet Lauren Venables: Embodiment, Intimacy & Nervous System Safety

00:51 From Shy Teen to Confident Coach

03:15 Dancer in Her Head: Perfectionism, Bullying & Fear of Being Seen

04:43 Why High-Achieving Women Keep Their Guard Up in Love

07:06 Safety, Discernment & Finding Your Yes/No in the Body

08:24 When Success Masks Coercion: The Hidden Side of “Having It Together”

11:03 Lauren’s Turning Point

13:31 Learning to Ask for What You Need: Masculine Safety & Being Held

16:02 How to Talk About Desire Without Shame: Somatic Prep + Vulnerable Language

20:06 Redefining Sex as Intimacy: Beyond Penetration, Toward Connection

23:11 Feminism, Polarity & the Craving to Be Led (Without Losing Power)

26:13 Boundaries Without Walls: Discernment, Nervous System Clarity & Shame Release

30:38 Meeting Shame with Validation: Somatic Tools to Let It Dissolve

33:08 Why We Rush Self-Pleasure (and What We Miss)

34:12 Know Your Desire: Self-Exploration & Communicating Needs

35:46 What Kink Communities Get Right: Consent, Boundaries & Debriefs

37:58 Learning to Love Yourself Through Body Work

39:09 Porn, Media & Sexual Scripts: The Impact on Self-Worth

42:59 1:1 vs Group Work: Safety, Shame, and Going Deeper

44:48 “You’re Never Too Old”: Reclaiming Libido by Creating Safety

49:13 The Body Keeps the Score: Integrating Mind + Somatic Healing

51:04 Holding Space Without Burnout: Practitioner Self-Care & Boundaries

53:40 Grounding in Nature + Looking Ahead (Practice, Love, and Closing)

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Navigating Modern Therapy and Relationships with Briana Bass

In this episode, Briana Bass, a licensed professional counselor associate and board-certified clinical psychologist, shares insights from her unique background, combining high-level corporate experience and work in addiction centers.

She discusses the transformative power of modern, evidence-based therapy in addressing the challenges of today's high-pressure world. Briana reflects on her formative years and explains how modern therapy differs from traditional approaches by focusing on real-world issues such as chronic stress, gender roles, political climate, and technology.

She also touches on the loneliness epidemic, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of authenticity and communication in building deep, meaningful relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Briana Bass

00:45 Briana's Formative Years

02:35 Modern Therapy Explained

04:57 Challenges of Modern Life

07:33 The Impact of Technology on Relationships

16:41 Loneliness in a Connected World

17:30 Deepening Emotional Intimacy

22:25 Navigating Life Transitions

24:10 Navigating Life's Changes Together

25:02 The Power of Communication

25:41 Rebuilding Connection

26:04 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability

27:34 Practical Tips for Reconnecting

30:23 The Impact of Modern Dating

38:47 Challenges of High-Pressure Environments

40:33 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

43:01 Maintaining Mental and Emotional Health

45:18 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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Rebuilding Self-Trust with Brylye Collins: Navigating Love, Life, and Leadership

In this episode, Brylye Collins, a relationship coach, talent leader, and founder of Building with Bry, shares her journey from a corporate HR and talent acquisition background to empowering singles in finding intentional relationships. Drawing on over 20 years of experience, Brylye discusses the importance of self-trust and clarity in dating, her transition from traditional corporate roles to relationship coaching, and the unique challenges high-achieving professionals face in their personal lives.

Brylye also talks about the value of embracing one's individuality outside of societal labels, the drawbacks of relying on dating apps, and the importance of practicing self-care and intentional living. Additionally, she introduces her upcoming workbook and single empowerment retreats aimed at helping individuals reconnect with themselves before pursuing relationships. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of modern dating, the importance of realistic expectations, and fostering genuine connections.

00:00 Introduction to Brylye Collins

01:27 Career Journey and Transition

03:18 Founding Rose Talent Consulting

04:52 Building with Bry: Personal Empowerment

05:40 Reconnecting with Yourself

09:45 Challenges in Modern Dating

17:19 Matchmaking Insights and Practices

21:37 Client Expectations and Realities

24:51 Evaluating Client Readiness

26:30 The Lessons in Meeting People

27:09 Navigating Post-Divorce Relationships

28:23 The Impact of Modern Communication on Relationships

31:22 The Importance of Thriving Solo

33:26 Embracing Solitude and Self-Discovery

35:02 Handling Intimacy After Long-Term Relationships

36:59 Empowerment Retreats and Workbooks

43:01 Balancing Personal Wellbeing

45:57 Finding the Right Relationship

50:25 Final Thoughts on Relationships and Self-Growth

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Embracing Pleasure and Power: A Deep Dive with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

In this insightful episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a naturopathic doctor, author, and pleasure and intimacy coach, shares her revolutionary approach to women's sexual health and wellness. As the CEO of the Pleasure Collective and host of the Amazing Pleasure Principles podcast, Dr. Wiggins combines her 13 years of holistic medical experience with personal insights as a sexual abuse survivor to help high-achieving women reclaim their pleasure. She discusses her journey, the impact of hormone health on sexual desire, and the systemic issues in women's healthcare. Dr. Wiggins also emphasizes the importance of pleasure in all aspects of life and offers practical advice for women to receive and enjoy more from their lives. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the deep connections between pleasure, health, and overall well-being.

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Jordin Wiggins

01:20 Formative Years and Early Influences

03:24 Hormone and Sexual Health Journey

05:23 The Pink Canary and Rediscovering Pleasure

07:01 Challenges in Women's Health and Hormone Therapy

09:35 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships

21:39 Expanding the Definition of Pleasure

26:35 Medical System Gaps and Women's Health

35:05 Receiving in Life and Relationships

39:13 The Value of Support and Compensation

39:56 Embracing Sensation and Tantra

40:34 Emotional Shifts and Relationship Dynamics

41:58 Navigating Perimenopause and Hormone Therapy

44:09 Pleasure-Centered Relationships

46:35 Challenges of Long-Term Relationships

49:07 Self-Discovery and Authenticity

51:35 Protecting Mental Wellbeing

54:26 Healing from Abuse and Rebuilding

01:01:17 Recognizing Coercive Control

01:04:12 Starting the Journey to Deeper Intimacy

01:07:35 Future Plans and Final Thoughts

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Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach

In this episode, Xanet Pailet, a nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach, shares her transformative journey from a 26-year sexless marriage and a successful career as a healthcare executive to becoming a somatic sexologist and author. Pailet discusses her immersive healing retreats, her approach to trauma-informed body-based sexuality, and the importance of emotional and physical intimacy. She offers practical insights into how couples can reconnect and rekindle their passion, emphasizing the roles of empathy, safe communication, and somatic experiences. As she gears up for the release of her new book, 'The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit,' Pailet provides valuable advice for those seeking to improve their intimate lives.

00:00 Introduction to Xanet Pailet

01:04 Personal Journey and Formative Years

02:00 Challenges in a Sexless Marriage

05:41 Awakening and Self-Discovery

09:37 Transition to a New Career

13:05 The Importance of Pleasure and Intimacy

15:12 Modern Challenges to Intimacy

24:32 Tools for Improving Intimacy

27:46 Expectations vs. Reality of Couples Retreats

28:57 Tools for Emotional Safety and Empathy

30:19 Physical Aspects of Intimacy

31:18 Navigating Empty Nest Syndrome

35:19 The Importance of Somatic Experiencing

43:20 Future Plans and New Projects

48:35 Self-Care and Professional Boundaries

51:19 Taking Action to Reclaim Intimacy

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Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle

In this episode, we dive deep into sexuality, intimacy, and diverse relationships with Gigi Engle, a renowned sex and relationship psychotherapist. Starting with Gigi's formative years and journey in sex education, the discussion spans various topics including the pitfalls of traditional sex education, the impact of pornography on young minds, and the importance of pleasure-based sex education.

Gigi shares insights on the dynamics in kinky and polyamorous relationships, the significance of open communication, and how societal norms shape our views on intimacy. They also discuss Gigi's forthcoming book 'Kink Curious,' shedding light on its contents and its aim to guide beginners and seasoned kinksters alike. The conversation further touches on the intersectionality of gender, sexuality, and disabilities in sex therapy, and ponders the future of sexual wellness in the age of AI and virtual connections.

00:00 Introduction to Gigi Engle

01:04 Formative Years and Early Career

03:55 Sex Education and Societal Norms

05:45 Impact of Pornography on Sexuality

12:00 Redefining Sex and Pleasure

16:26 Communication and Consent in Relationships

25:46 Exploring Kink and BDSM

29:07 Insights from Writing 'Kink Curious'

30:20 Introduction to the Book

30:35 Book Structure and Content

31:58 Exploring Unique Kinks

33:01 Non-Monogamy and Polyamory

36:39 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics

41:26 Therapist's Personal Journey

49:44 AI in Sexual Wellness

53:22 Future Trends and Final Though

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Exploring Power, Art, and Intimacy: A Deep Dive with Mistress Malisandre

Mistress Malisandre, an artist, author, and power dynamic educator, discusses how her work with the House of Embers explores the transformation of power through art and immersive experiences.

She shares her journey into power dynamics, beginning with observing power in her formative years and eventually becoming a professional dominatrix. Malisandre elaborates on the misconceptions surrounding BDSM and how she integrates elements of power dynamics into the lives of vanilla couples, emphasizing the importance of communication and consent.

She also reflects on the vulnerability involved in her role, the ritualistic aspects of her practice, and her efforts to mentor others in the community. Additionally, Malisandre talks about her ongoing projects, including writing a book, and her mission to change conversations around power dynamics and therapy. The conversation touches on themes of intentional living, self-acceptance, and the necessity of maintaining boundaries.

00:00 Introduction to Mistress Malisandre

00:42 Early Life and Power Dynamics

03:21 Exploring Power in Relationships

04:50 Journey into BDSM

08:47 Misconceptions About BDSM

13:13 Communication in Relationships

18:24 Professional Domination and Personal Growth

31:15 Art and Ritual in Domination

41:17 Empathy and Holding Space

42:05 Freedom Through Control

42:52 Understanding Power Dynamics

44:07 The Process of Release

48:09 Setting Boundaries in Domination

53:35 Maintaining Personal Wellbeing

58:54 Balancing Vulnerability and Strength

01:08:32 Future Aspirations and Projects

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Exploring Erotic Integrity with Dr. Claudia Six

Dr. Claudia Six, a clinical psychologist, couple’s counselor, and author with over 35 years of experience, discusses her journey from a shy teenager to a renowned sex therapist. She shares her background, influences, and key concepts from her book 'Erotic Integrity: How to Be True to Yourself Sexually.'

Dr. Six elaborates on the challenges couples face regarding sexual satisfaction, authenticity, and connection. She also addresses the impacts of body image issues, pornography, and the evolving nature of relationships throughout different life stages. Additionally, she offers insight into the importance of self-awareness and honesty in sexual relationships and discusses her own aspirations for personal and professional growth.

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Claudia Six

00:55 Teenage Years and Early Influences

02:39 Journey to Becoming a Sex Therapist

08:58 Understanding Erotic Integrity

13:51 Navigating Sexuality in Relationships

20:14 Challenges of Long-Term Relationships

34:41 Impact of Pornography on Sexuality

37:17 The Role of Porn in Sexual Education

37:41 Talking to Kids About Porn

38:31 Porn as Entertainment, Not Education

39:28 Authenticity in Relationships

40:37 The Door Handle Moment

41:04 Challenges in Modern Relationships

42:15 Monogamy vs. Non-Monogamy

43:24 Understanding Infidelity

48:29 Role Play and Sexual Exploration

50:13 Cultural Differences in Sexuality

52:36 Faulty Beliefs and Relationship Dynamics

56:23 The Loneliness Epidemic

01:00:57 Future Plans

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The Sacred Undressing Journey with Nedjma Belaid

In this episode of the Intimacy Inquiry, host Andrew welcomes Nedjma Belaid, founder of With Kind Awareness. Nedjma, a former pharmacist turned empowerment coach, shares her inspiring journey from people-pleasing to deep self-love and authenticity. She discusses her diverse experiences, including her transition from mathematics to pharmacy to spiritual coaching, and the various coaching modalities she has mastered.

The conversation delves into topics such as overcoming people-pleasing, the process of 'sacred undressing,' the balance of masculine and feminine energies, and the importance of self-responsibility. Nedjma also touches on the challenges of adapting to life changes, supporting others on their journeys, and the potential impact of AI and virtual reality on personal connections and coaching.

00:00 Introduction to the Intimacy Inquiry

00:56 Nedjma Belaid's Formative Years

01:58 From Mathematics to Pharmacy

03:55 Struggles with People Pleasing

06:26 Journey to Self-Love and Authenticity

10:10 The Sacred Undressing Journey

12:53 Non-Pharmaceutical Approaches to Mental Health

20:35 Embracing Feminine Energy in Business

30:37 Impact of Personal Growth on Relationships

34:40 Navigating Personal Growth and Relationships

35:31 Sobriety and Social Reactions

36:31 Veganism and Social Perceptions

39:11 Processed Foods and Personal Choices

41:17 Dealing with Disappointment and Inner Work

45:17 Exploring Plant-Based Medicines and Psychedelics

50:03 AI Companions and Virtual Reality

57:08 Coaching and Personal Wellbeing

01:00:33 Future Aspirations and Global Impact

01:04:31 Final Thoughts and Farewell

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Kimberly Braun: From Monastic Solitude to Spiritual Luminary

In this episode, former Carmelite nun Kimberly Braun shares her profound journey from the cloistered life of a monastery to becoming a spiritual luminary, retreat leader, and author. She explores the evolution of her spirituality, the mystical experiences that shaped her, and the reasons behind her decision to leave the monastic life. Kimberly discusses how her lifelong practices of meditation, presence, and contemplation have transformed her, leading her to guide others in integrating spiritual wisdom into everyday life.

The conversation delves into topics like the nature of reality, the essence of prayer, the impact of technology on human connection, and the concept of home. Throughout, Kimberly’s insights into intimacy, joy, and love offer a compelling narrative of spiritual exploration and service.

00:00 Introduction to Kimberly Braun

01:04 Early Life and Spiritual Awakening

06:09 Journey to Becoming a Carmelite Nun

06:47 Mystical Experiences and Monastic Life

24:48 Leaving the Monastery and New Beginnings

41:28 The Smartphone Distraction Epidemic

42:46 The Evolution of Human Connection

46:01 The Paradox of Technology and Spiritual Growth

48:28 The Complexity of Intimacy in Modern Times

50:05 The Joy of Simple Pleasures

58:46 Writing and Publishing a Book

01:16:07 The Concept of Home and Belonging

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