The Intuitive Divorce: A Better Divorce for Moms

Your divorce will end. Co-parenting won’t. When your ex suddenly claims Thanksgiving AND Christmas, the panic can drag you right back into the fight. This is also where you have more power than you think, and where your kids can find theirs.

In this episode:

- What one Inner Circle grad did when her ex rewrote the holiday calendar

- Her daughter’s “hard NO,” and why it’s not the win it feels like

- The hands-in-the-middle ritual that got mom, dad and daughter to the same table

The moves you make now are writing your kids’ story. Make it one where they find their voice.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

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The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

He never parented 50/50 in the marriage, so why is he demanding it in the divorce? If 50/50 custody is the threat that keeps you up at night, listen in. If he wants to pay like he parents 50/50, he has to actually parent 50/50.

In this episode:

- Why so many dads are advised to push for 50/50, and why it lands on your rawest nerve

- “Are you Uber Eats or Dad?” What happened when one mom handed her husband the parenting time he’d fought for

- The program grad who told me “You’re going to kill me,” and why her answer delighted me

Your kids aren’t a bargaining chip. Don’t be conned by the 50/50 conundrum. Create your own solution.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

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BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

Your lawyer can’t get you through this. Neither can ChatGPT. Getting calm, clear and strategic can. In this episode, I’m sharing how one Inner Circle graduate turned a contentious divorce, narcissistic ex and all, into what she calls “a peaceful exit.”

Lean in and learn:

- The shift that took her from suffocating to acting like the CEO of her divorce

- What she did when her lawyer told her to give less and ask for more, and the one-word answer that changed everything

- The hidden cost of “winning” a fight in divorce, and why the math often comes out to net zero

You can take the reins at any moment, no matter how contentious things get.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

When we think of divorce, we think fight first, heal later. It’s straight out of the conventional divorce playbook, and it’s costing you more than you realize. By the time you land on the other side, you’re likely drained and depleted, along with your bank account, your kids and your lifeforce.

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful tool we recently workshopped in my group coaching class: how to break the “thought loop” that keeps you stuck, so you can feel and heal as you go.

- The hidden habit that’s quietly shaping how you feel, how you show up and the future you’re creating (and why it can be broken)

- The raw, real thought loops mothers just like you shared in class, and what was really hiding beneath them

- How one mama married to a narcissist reframed “I constantly have to defend myself” into a line that took the power right out of his tactics

- A simple two-question exercise to move you closer to the way you WANT to feel, starting today

You’re getting out of your marriage for a reason. Remember your reasons, and don’t leave your healing on the negotiation table.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

A birthday during divorce doesn't exactly sound like a party. But skipping it? Hell no, mama. Not this year.

Your birthday is your true new year, and right now you're living through the biggest change of your life. You've already said "no more." Underneath that is "I deserve more." That's worth celebrating, even in the middle of the mess. And your birthday is coming whether you're ready or not, so let's get out in front of it.

In this episode:

- Why your birthday, and every holiday, can't go on hold while you're divorcing

- How to plan a birthday that fits who you are now, so you're not setting yourself up for disappointment

- The letter I ask every mama to write to herself, and why she'll be so glad she did a year from now

[Want the other side of this? Listen to my earlier episode, "When Birthdays Disappoint," about the year my own birthday didn't feel like a party, and what I wrote in my letter.]

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

Be honest: have you asked AI about your divorce yet? How to tell the kids, how to word a text to your ex, whether you're making the right call?

I get it. It's fast, it's there at 2 a.m., and it feels like you're getting somewhere. But there's a trap in that little box, and it can cost you in legal fees, in time, and in your peace.

In this episode:

- What AI is actually good for during your divorce, and where it stops being useful

- The trap that keeps smart, capable moms stuck in the weeds

- The one voice that should make the final call, and why it isn't your lawyer's

When this is over, everyone on your team goes home. You're the one who lives with the decisions, so make sure they're yours.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

It might be one of the most heartbreaking, painful things that can happen in divorce — and it's also one of the most avoidable. I'm talking about parental alienation.

In this episode, I'm interviewed by Jackie Pilossoph of Divorced Girl Smiling to get real about what parental alienation actually looks like, the signs to watch for at every age, and exactly what to do if you think it's happening to you.

We cover:

- The "Divorce Vows" I created for the moms in my program — a simple template that can soften even the most contentious co-parenting relationship

- The signs to watch for in little kids versus teenagers (and why teens are much harder to read)

- The non-blaming script I use to open a hard conversation with an ex who's crossing this line

- Why courts don't want to hear the words "narcissist" or "parental alienation" — and what to document instead

You only control one side of the divorce street. But that side matters more than you know.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

If your kids are pulling away — going quiet, keeping score, repeating things that clearly didn't come from them — you're not imagining it.

Parental alienation is the one piece of divorce damage that doesn't end when the paperwork does. It follows your kids into adulthood, into how they handle conflict, into every relationship they build after this. And the hard truth is that the courts aren't coming to fix it.

But there's more in your hands than you think.

In this episode:

- The signs I see in my clients' kids constantly — the messenger, the little reporter, the teenager who suddenly has nothing to say to you — and how they show up differently at every age

- Why the courts rarely step in, and the one rule I give every client about what she puts in writing

- Five things you can start doing today to be the anchor your kids need — and why the most important one has nothing to do with your ex

Somewhere down the road, your child may ask you about this time. I want you to like the answer you have for them.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

I have been waiting to celebrate this woman practically since the day I met her.

When Edwina first called us, she could barely get the words out. Her husband had just revealed — in their third couples counseling session — that he was in a relationship with another woman. He was still living in the house. Their nine-year-old daughter didn't know yet. And on top of it all: a dear friend dying, a break-in, and squatters downstairs who would eventually drag her to court.

She was cracked open, raw, and completely dysregulated. And she leaned in anyway.

In this conversation, Edwina walks you through the messy middle — the ugly cries in the park, the daughter she was determined to protect, the moment she realized she'd been giving her sunshine to someone who no longer deserved it — and how she came out the other side with her voice back.

We get into:

- The phrase from a friend's grandmother that became her compass — and what she says has to come before you can "show them what you're made of"

- The boundary she set the day her ex sat down on her sofa like nothing had changed

- What she did to the house that made visitors say "something feels different in here"

- Her hard-won advice on lawyers, alcohol, and where crying is actually worth the money

Edwina isn't telling you divorce was a piece of cake. She's telling you it was a powerful journey — and so, so worth it.

If you're in the thick of it and wondering whether any of this is possible for you, listen to her answer to my last question. I want every mother navigating divorce to have what she's having.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy early stages of divorce with clarity and confidence. Hosted by divorce coach Kristen Noel, the show explores communication strategies, boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner, working with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and preparing emotionally and financially — so you can heal, reclaim your mojo, and step into your next chapter.

Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com

Divorce stirs the anger pot — and if you fight your anger, your anger fights you back. Your anger isn't the enemy. It's a messenger, and in this episode I'm showing you how to stop wrestling it and start listening to it.

You'll hear:

- The 10 most common anger triggers I hear from the mamas in the Inner Circle — and what they all have in common

- A mic-drop moment from a recent film about staying "for the kids" that will flip that reasoning on its head

- The dashboard-warning-light question to ask yourself when anger flares, so it guides you instead of traps you

You don't have to do this alone. There's a better path to a better divorce — an Intuitive Divorce.

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If you’re a professional, independent mother facing off with divorce, worried about your emotional wellbeing, your kids and your future…and want a better way to navigate it all, here’s how we can help:

FREE DIVORCE WORKSHOP

BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL

The Intuitive Divorce Podcast helps mothers navigate the messy waters of divorce to achieve the best outcomes for themselves and their kids. Your host, divorce coach Kristen Noel, shares strategies for engaging with lawyers and courts, protecting your children, and holding boundaries with a high-conflict or narcissistic partner — plus how to prepare emotionally and financially for this difficult transition. Heal, reclaim your mojo, and set yourself up for a beautiful next chapter. Learn more at: intuitivedivorce.com