What happens when one of the world’s most infamous playboys, known everywhere for his rambunctious lifestyle and lack of boundaries, decides it’s time to settle down? When he starts to take a deeper look at his life, and some of the possible reasons behind his wild behavior, and if there might be more to life than sleeping around and getting hammered every night?

Tucker Max is a bestselling author and self-proclaimed “raging dick-head.” He’s become famous for his reckless and crazy lifestyle. This episode is a throwback to an interview I did with Tucker two years ago, when he was just starting to settle down, and to move into a calmer time of his life.

We talk about a lot of the reasons behind Tucker’s own time of reckless living, and some of the ways in which it can be ok, and some of the reasons it can be very harmful and destructive. In addition, there are a lot of really specific tidbits for people who want to meet more women, or people in general, to find better relationships. For example, if you want to meet more women, simply list out the things you’re interested in. Of those, throw out any that women in general are not interested in, and then find ways to connect and get involved with groups centering around those remaining things. You will not be able to help but meet women.

This one is a riot, but also full of useful information at the same time. Tucker has been through a lot, and developed valuable insight into the psychology of party culture, where it’s right and wrong, and how to understand how it should fit into your own life specifically. Enjoy!

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Are you interested in learning about one of the most powerful tools, that the greatest minds throughout history have used? One of the best ways to ensure that you’re getting where you want to be going, that you’re taking progressive steps to accomplish your goals, and that your focus is in the right place? I’m not talking about some new technological breakthrough or expensive service, this episode is all about journaling.

People tend to find new, different things exciting. Humans get a dopamine rush when they learn about something new and different, and are able to picture the ways in which this new thing could help them in the future. And yet something as simple and old-fashioned as journaling is routinely overlooked and ignored. It may not be flashy, but it gets results.

Simply the act of writing something down is not only going to give you a much more full understanding of the subject you are writing about, it will also make you far more likely to actually implement it. There is something incredible about the act of writing, especially goals, and it causes humans to operate in ways that facilitates the accomplishment of those goals.

This episode is all about journaling, the oldest and one of the most powerful tools of self development available. Learn how journaling can help you, best practices to help you get the most out of it, where you can fit it into your daily life, as well as much more, on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

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Are you an effective human being? Do you get stuff done, or do you procrastinate? Do you focus on what you need to do to achieve your goals, or are you stopped in your tracks by every distraction, every phone notification and email? Do you live your life in a way that will cause your look back on your life, from your deathbed, and be proud of what you accomplished? Are you an elite person?

Regardless of where you stand on the road to becoming an elite human being, Daniel Francis is here to help you learn how to achieve the next level. This interview is packed with practical, step-by-step methods to get more out of your time on earth. Daniel is a master at clarifying the steps and the processes that need to be put in place for you to be truly satisfied with your output, not wasting time on frivolous and less worthwhile activities, and instead being ruthlessly dedicated to those things that will bring you true, lasting and fulfilling happiness.

Throughout, Daniel has a really visceral take on achieving lasting happiness in a life, from his detailed attention to his physical senses, to taking “cave time” for big decisions, to mastering his mornings and nurturing his evenings. His habit of turning his phone completely off, not just silencing it, shows his dedication to being truly present, and to ruthlessly accomplishing his goals.

Wherever you stand on the spectrum of a life truly optimized for happiness, fulfillment and achievement, you’ll get a lot out of this episode. If you’re looking for practical steps to build a better life on several different levels, you’ve come to the right place. So please join me on this journey of exploring the processes we can put in place to take our lives from average to awesome, with Daniel Francis, on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

When you get your communication with yourself sorted out, you start to communicate more effectively with the world around you as well

You can’t wait for things to happen to you. You must go out and make them happen

You have to be connected with your emotions to know what your calling and passion is. You have to connect with your senses and emotions

Use your senses more regularly. Focus on them

Take time to appreciate and be thankful for the world around you

Find people who are doing something similar to what you want to be doing, and then model them, and their behaviors

Look at the things that you feel obligated by, and ask yourself if it is all really necessary. Unnecessary obligations will trap you and keep you from going out and doing what you really want to do

Take “Cave Time,” where you go into isolation and ask yourself simple questions to help you gain clarity on life direction and decisions

Look for experiences that will bring you longer-term joy and increased happiness, rather than short spikes of pleasure

Be the master of your mornings. Consider not turning your phone on until later in the day

Use the nighttime, while you are sleeping, to program your subconscious. You can do this by focusing on important things right before going to sleep

Notifications, unanswered messages, etc, on your phone put a tremendous pull on your mind. If you can turn the phone all the way off at times, so that you’re not even getting those notifications, it will free your mind up

Imagine yourself on your deathbed, and ask yourself two questions:

What would I be pissed at myself for not doing in my lifetime?

What would need to happen for me to get to this point, on my deathbed, and be ecstatic, fulfilled with peace, and ready to pass on

Free Gift: FreeGiftFromDaniel.com - Confidence Equation

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Do you have a method in place to make sure that you accomplish everything that you want to get done? Is there a reliable system to guarantee that you are accomplishing what you set out to, thereby making progress on the big goals in your life? Or do you find that you get stuck on meaningless activities, on a human hamster-wheel, constantly working but rarely making progress?

Michael Sandler knows a thing or two about getting things done. He’s the host of one of the top ranked self-help podcasts in iTunes, Inspire Nation, has completed a 5,000 mile, 40 day, solo, unsupported bike ride across the country, was a successful businessman, became a leading barefoot running coach, and so much more. He’s mastered the ability to see a goal through to fulfillment, and he’s paid careful attention along the way to the things that have allowed him to see such success.

This episode of The James Swanwick Show is all about how to put processes into place that, over time, allow you to accomplish incredible things. Michael talks about techniques to skip intermediate steps on the way to success, essentially jumping to the top rung of the ladder. We get into Michael’s 5-step method to accelerate success, how to build tasks into a brainless system that help get them done without you even thinking about it, and how looking at time as blocks and putting the most important thing you have to do into the very next available block can help you be productive even through an unpredictable schedule.

But one of the most poignant moments of the show comes when Michael makes the statement that “fear has never killed anyone. What kills you is knowing that you didn’t go for it.” And you can see that Michael truly lives his life this way. Being afraid is not a problem. The problem is in allowing fear to hold you back from really going for what you want to accomplish in this life. Don’t be someone who looks back on their life with regret about the things that they didn’t even attempt to accomplish. Give it a shot! Take the initial first steps, and use Michael’s 5-step method to make progress on your dreams.

So listen up and pay attention to this episode, in order to learn how to accomplish more faster, to not get burnt out, to work harder and smarter than everyone, and to ultimately accomplish your goals and live the life that you want on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

You don’t always have to start from the bottom of something. Look at what the people at the top are doing, and emulate them to skip intermediate steps

When we truly believe that we can be the best, we will not only practice, but we will visualize. This process of believing and visualize is extremely powerful in accomplishing goals

Be fearless in taking steps toward your goal. They don’t have to be big steps, but they need to be headed the right direction

Take a small step toward what you have to do (something like putting it in your calendar) to make sure that it actually happens

Taking action will often help you to adjust your vision for where you want to go and how you want to get there

When there is an obstacle in front of you, before you try to overcome it, take a second and try to understand why it’s there and if it means you should course-correct

You must be aligned personally with the work you are doing. Otherwise, you will get burned out on it

Build the things that you must get done into a brainless system

Look at your time as blocks of time. Then make a commitment to grab the first block that becomes available to get the stuff that you have to do done

Write it down. Don’t underestimate the power of journaling as if it has already happened. Burn this visualization into your brain, including all the details, with a lot of emotion

Initiate. Get started!

Take small baby steps at the beginning, which eventually start to turn into larger steps

Have a plan. Know where you want to go. Have a goal in mind, and adjust your sails as you go

Work harder and smarter than anyone else. Put in the time and effort.

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Inspire Nation Show on iTunes

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Mindful Running

Do you take care of your skin? Do you exfoliate on a regular basis? Do you use a good, nutrient dense mask? Do you even know what any of this means? Maybe you think that skin care is for women and ‘girly’ men, and that you’re too tough and badass to use any of that. If that’s you, pay attention to this episode of the James Swanwick Show, because our guest today, Andy Hnilo is here to change your mind.

Women understand that the way you feel about yourself and how you look affects your performance and how your personality comes across to others in dramatic ways. While this fact is often lost on men, the truth is that when your skin is vibrant with life you not only look better, but you feel and perform better. You’re at your optimal best, and that state of performance and vibrance is worth striving to attain.

But if you’re convinced about skin care already, don’t go to the drug store and start grabbing the first skin care products you find! Throughout this episode, Andy Hnilo will walk you through the potholes of finding a healthy, natural product to put on your skin. One that will not be leaking chemicals and synthetic materials into your bloodstream through your skin, but that will bring you all the benefits of all-natural, earthy, healthy ingredients.

So try it! After you listen to this episode, pick up some of Andy’s Alitura skin care products, and give it a shot, especially if you never have before! You may just find your mind clearing, your vibrancy returning, and even your perspective on life improving as you feel better about yourself every day!

You’re your own biggest billboard. Make a good visible impression

Your appearance, and how you feel about yourself, can have an effect in the way you act, and how good the impression you make on others is

Exfoliate, nourish, and moisturize

Exfoliate: Acure Facial Scrub

Nourish: Use a good, nutrient dense mask: Alitura Clay Mask

Moisturizer: The Alitura Moisturizer

When products start getting into 20-30 ingredients, the likelihood of synthetic materials being part of it goes up

AlituraNaturals.com

Acure Facial Scrub

Ben Greenfield Fitness Podcast

Dr. Bronner’s Peppermint Liquid Soap

Do you take care of your skin? Do you exfoliate on a regular basis? Do you use a good, nutrient dense mask? Do you even know what any of this means? Maybe you think that skin care is for women and ‘girly’ men, and that you’re too tough and badass to use any of that. If that’s you, pay attention to this episode of the James Swanwick Show, because our guest today, Andy Hnilo is here to change your mind.

Women understand that the way you feel about yourself and how you look affects your performance and how your personality comes across to others in dramatic ways. While this fact is often lost on men, the truth is that when your skin is vibrant with life you not only look better, but you feel and perform better. You’re at your optimal best, and that state of performance and vibrance is worth striving to attain.

But if you’re convinced about skin care already, don’t go to the drug store and start grabbing the first skin care products you find! Throughout this episode, Andy Hnilo will walk you through the potholes of finding a healthy, natural product to put on your skin. One that will not be leaking chemicals and synthetic materials into your bloodstream through your skin, but that will bring you all the benefits of all-natural, earthy, healthy ingredients.

So try it! After you listen to this episode, pick up some of Andy’s Alitura skin care products, and give it a shot, especially if you never have before! You may just find your mind clearing, your vibrancy returning, and even your perspective on life improving as you feel better about yourself every day!

You’re your own biggest billboard. Make a good visible impression

Your appearance, and how you feel about yourself, can have an effect in the way you act, and how good the impression you make on others is

Exfoliate, nourish, and moisturize

Exfoliate: Acure Facial Scrub

Nourish: Use a good, nutrient dense mask: Alitura Clay Mask

Moisturizer: The Alitura Moisturizer

When products start getting into 20-30 ingredients, the likelihood of synthetic materials being part of it goes up

AlituraNaturals.com

Acure Facial Scrub

Ben Greenfield Fitness Podcast

Dr. Bronner’s Peppermint Liquid Soap

Relationships are at the core of everything you want in the life. Regardless of what your goals in life are, there are people in your life who will be instrumental in helping you achieve those goals. So how do you connect with those people? Who do you continually meet new people, and continue to deepen already existing relationships? In this interview, James gets to the 10 most important tips to keep in mind as you work on building your network. So sit up and take notes, because embracing these ten points will change the course of your future. Get ready to learn and implement!

Always ask: “How can I help?”

Always ask “Who?” – Who are the most important people to your life-success in the coming year

Do your homework: Research and know the person before you reach out to them

Never look back and say, “What if.” Never say “Woulda, coulda, shoulda.” Step up do the thing that scares you

Always be working on improving one hard skill and one soft skill

Build your own faculty for learning. Find out who the people are that can teach you those skill that you are constantly working on

Find people who are your lifeline. Must include these four characteristics: Intimacy, candidacy, candor, accountability

Embrace candor in your life. Make it safe for people to give you feedback, and also for you to give feedback by wrapping your feedback in honesty, understanding, and compassion

Spend time and effort building your personal brand

KeithFerrazzi.com

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi

James Swanwick's People Skills Course

“If you’re doing the things you want to do, people will hone in on that energy, and you’ll attract the right relationships into your life.” - Dr. Michael Friedman

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Are you the sort of person who is constantly looking to better yourself? The kind of person with boundless energy for improvement, who wants and plans to do really big things in the world? Will you stop at nothing to accomplish your goals? And one last question: Do you really think that spending the weekend hungover is helping you get there?

Today’s guest on the James Swanwick show is Dr. Michael Friedman. Dr. Friedman is a clinical psychologist, and today’s show is all about how that drinking habit of yours, which may be no major problem, might not be helping you in any way, and may in fact be hampering your success in more significant ways than you realize.

One of the most powerful tools that Dr. Friedman recommends is what he calls “motivational interviewing.” This process consists of laying out, in a very honest fashion, the pros and cons of drinking. And, as Dr. Friedman points out, it is essential that the pros be adequately represented - as there are in fact pros to drinking! Things like being less inhibited, feeling more accepted by groups, and other aspects, should be considered real and significant pros! But then reposition and look with equal honest at the cons, because when the cons of drinking are approaching with this level of honesty, most will find that alcohol is indeed a net loss for them in their life.

This episode is all about the importance of taking a careful inventory of yourself and your relationship with alcohol. Ask yourself why you’re drinking, and choosing to get drunk. For most people, the answer is that they want to be more sociable, and maybe even find a mate. But consider the absurdness of this plan! To think that you will be able to attract and cultivate better relationships, whether romantic or platonic, in a state of drunken stupor is ludicrous!

So prepare to be enlightened about alcohol in society! Dr. Michael Friedman will help you understand when it does and does not make sense for you specifically, and how you can really start to take control of this area of your life. All of this, of course, leading you to a better, healthier and happier life, on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“One of the dangerous things about moderate drinking is that you can end up being dependent on it in a very subtle way.” Dr. Michael Friedman

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“The best way to convince anyone to do anything is to be the best example yourself.” - James Swanwick

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30daynoalcoholchallenge.com

James Swanwick’s Interview on Brick by Brick

MichaelFriedmanPhd.com

Psychology Today Blog: Brick by Brick by Dr. Michael Friedman

Full show notes available at: http://jamesswanwick.com/podcast/michael-friedman

“If you’re doing the things you want to do, people will hone in on that energy, and you’ll attract the right relationships into your life.” - Dr. Michael Friedman

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Are you the sort of person who is constantly looking to better yourself? The kind of person with boundless energy for improvement, who wants and plans to do really big things in the world? Will you stop at nothing to accomplish your goals? And one last question: Do you really think that spending the weekend hungover is helping you get there?

Today’s guest on the James Swanwick show is Dr. Michael Friedman. Dr. Friedman is a clinical psychologist, and today’s show is all about how that drinking habit of yours, which may be no major problem, might not be helping you in any way, and may in fact be hampering your success in more significant ways than you realize.

One of the most powerful tools that Dr. Friedman recommends is what he calls “motivational interviewing.” This process consists of laying out, in a very honest fashion, the pros and cons of drinking. And, as Dr. Friedman points out, it is essential that the pros be adequately represented - as there are in fact pros to drinking! Things like being less inhibited, feeling more accepted by groups, and other aspects, should be considered real and significant pros! But then reposition and look with equal honest at the cons, because when the cons of drinking are approaching with this level of honesty, most will find that alcohol is indeed a net loss for them in their life.

This episode is all about the importance of taking a careful inventory of yourself and your relationship with alcohol. Ask yourself why you’re drinking, and choosing to get drunk. For most people, the answer is that they want to be more sociable, and maybe even find a mate. But consider the absurdness of this plan! To think that you will be able to attract and cultivate better relationships, whether romantic or platonic, in a state of drunken stupor is ludicrous!

So prepare to be enlightened about alcohol in society! Dr. Michael Friedman will help you understand when it does and does not make sense for you specifically, and how you can really start to take control of this area of your life. All of this, of course, leading you to a better, healthier and happier life, on this episode of the James Swanwick Show!

“One of the dangerous things about moderate drinking is that you can end up being dependent on it in a very subtle way.” Dr. Michael Friedman

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“The best way to convince anyone to do anything is to be the best example yourself.” - James Swanwick

(click to tweet)

30daynoalcoholchallenge.com

James Swanwick’s Interview on Brick by Brick

MichaelFriedmanPhd.com

Psychology Today Blog: Brick by Brick by Dr. Michael Friedman

Full show notes available at: http://jamesswanwick.com/podcast/michael-friedman