Carter and Mo often talk about independent jiu-jitsu. In this episode they apply the independent mindset to other areas. Is it possible to create an independent website? Does an increase in wealth make it harder to be independent? Carter and Mo discuss the idea of digital real estate and finding the balance between success and the lifestyle you want.

• The concept of digital real estate and why Mo decided not to use Shopify (01:09)

• Realising that you can do things your own way (04:38)

• Is there a way to decentralize jiu-jitsu? (08:34)

• If you are leasing digital real estate then you are always at the risk of being evicted (11:22)

• People who start with an independent mindset and then become corporate (14:44)

• Has Bitcoin become corporate? (16:12)

• The journey of Joe Rogan from rough and ready podcast to Spotify king(19:21)

• When people reach a certain level of wealth they lose a certain amount of freedom (20:29)

• Finding a balance between success and lifestyle (22:07)

• Independence is freedom(24:42)

BJJ Fanatics

https://bjjfanatics.com

Howard Stern

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Howard_Stern

As people get older they often complain about being a certain age. Could this be the nocebo effect? Thinking negatively about your health can cause you to feel aches and pains. Is it possible to change this view and look at ageing in a positive way? Mindset is vital to finding success in business, jiu-jitsu and life. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss if mindset is more important than skill, how mindset impacts longevity in jiu-jitsu and the role of failure in success.

Instead of looking at what your losing as you get older look at what you're gaining

• People complaining about the age they are happens at every age (00:58)

• Life is happening right now (02:26)

• The nocebo effect is infectious (04:04)

• Balancing enthusiasm and wisdom (05:08)

• In 2021 Mo wants to keep his opinions to himself (09:05)

• Carter is questioning everything he thinks he knows about jiu-jitsu (10:07)

• Changing your mindset can lead to things happening(11:36)

• Finding a jiu-jitsu style that won't be impacted if you have to take time off (14:32)

• What do you lose in boxing as you get older? (20:00)

• Developing an old man jiu-jitsu game as a young person (20:56)

• These days young people in jiu-jitsu train harder and have a better attitude than in the oast (24:26)

• Is mindset more important than skill? (27:01)

• The role of failure in success (32:16)

• Why some people stick with jiu-jitsu and some people don't last (36:32)

Is the nocebo effect hurting your health?

https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/is-the-nocebo-effect-hurting-your-health

Napoleon Dynamite

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_Dynamite

A Beautiful Mind

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Beautiful_Mind_(film)

Bernard Hopkins

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bernard_Hopkins

The Ruotolo Brothers Funky Jiu-Jitsu

https://www.bjjheroes.com/editorial/the-ruotolo-brothers-funky-jiu-jitsu

Where do your beliefs come from? Have you developed them over time, tinkering and thinking about them or have they been socialised into you? We are socialised by the media, our friends and our family into having certain viewpoints. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss how we figure out what we actually believe and become an independent thinker.

• Which viewpoints are yours and which are socialised? (01:49)

• What does Naval Ravikant mean when he talks about ideas being socialised? (04:36)

• Ask yourself - what do you actually believe (08:07)

• The expert fallacy (08:30)

• Applying the idea of tinkering to your beliefs and viewpoints (11:32)

• Shutting out the media on the path to being an independent thinker (16:55)

• Rather than listening to the media, read history (19:25)

• Happiness is a choice (24:03)

• The issues with basing your jiu-jitsu on somebody else's jiu-jitsu (25:16)

• Thy myth of linage in jiu-jitsu (28:15)

• Carter’s plan to examine his beliefs in life and jiu-jitsu (32:05)

Private Parts

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Private_Parts_(1997_film)

The Joe Rogan Experience #1309 - Naval Ravikant

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3ijkVfaht5kcFPvHcCbYYD

Can self development books and jiu-jitsu instructional videos hamper learning? The only way to actually learn is to try things out until you find what works for you. Mentorship, videos and books might seem like they have the answers but they also take you away from doing things. In this episode Carter and Mo consider if mentorship is procrastination, the role of playfulness in sparring sessions and finding training partners with the right mindset.

• 2 interesting podcast episodes Mo and Carter have listened to recently (02:37)

• Is mentorship actually procrastination? (04:27)

• Why Carter has little patience for beginners (06:02)

• The problem with looking for a prescription for what to do (07:29)

• Using books for inspiration rather than as instructions for how to be successful (11:11)

• Many of the best guys Carter has trained with have never watched instructional videos (13:45)

• Train in a way that will allow you to train every day (15:18)

• A combat athlete should look at their career as a marathon and not a sprint (20:39)

• Your greatest creativity will come when you are not prescribing and are in a flow straight (20:18)

• The playfulness and creativity than can occur in sparring sessions when you don’t focus on winning and losing (23:36)

• The best negotiation is when both parties get what they wanted (26:11)

• You have to have training partners with the same mindset as you (30:04)

JRE MMA Show #107 with Georges St-Pierre

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dND27ql8fwrlYM5eb5wPg

Naval Ravikant’s podcast

https://nav.al/

Gordon Ryan

https://www.instagram.com/gordonlovesjiujitsu

Born Standing Up by Steve Martin

https://www.amazon.com/Born-Standing-Up-Comics-Life/dp/1847391486/

Being good at jiu-jitsu doesn’t mean that you will always beat everyone. Maybe you are having a bad day. Maybe there is just someone who you always lose to. Can there be advantages to sparring with people who always dominate you?

In this episode Carter and Mo discuss how watching videos of fighters sparring can be more illuminating that watching actual fights, progress versus happiness and having an objective for every training session.

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While writing The Book, Carter hit a bit of a roadblock. He realised that the key to being different to other books was to be authentic. Rather than write about well known jiu-jitsu people, he realised his friends perfectly demonstrated the lessons he was writing about. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss the various benefits authenticity can bring in business, jiu-jitsu and life.

• No body can be you better than you (02:25)

• Ways in which Carter is bringing authenticity to his book (03:42)

• Using the people they actually know to show the lessons that they are trying to teach (04:50)

• The best sell is when you’re not selling at all, you are just talking about something you are passionate about (08:45)

• Carter getting fascinated about warehouses (12:22)

• Building your business around the kind of life that you want (14:23)

• Wherever you go there is someone making money. You don’t have to be a certain way to be successful (16:34)

• Why emulation and imitation in jiu-jitsu can hamper learning (18:12)

• Sometimes you have to alter your training so it works for you (22:05)

• One of the great thing about jiu-jitsu is the immediate results you get when doing something right (or wrong) (26:24)

In this episode Carter and Mo talk about discipline. Not the discipline to work hard but the discipline to say no. When it comes to business, you have to say no to bad deals. In jiu-jitsu, as you get older, saying no becomes more important, be that cancelling a training day, thinking about who you train with or not training certain styles. This can promote longevity and in many circumstances make you better. It’s hard because we automatically compare ourselves to other people but at the end of the day what matters is comparing yourself to yourself.

• Different ways of handling training as an older guy training with a younger guy (00:55)

• The discipline of saying no to bad business deals (04:44)

• Balancing price and value in Mo’s new business venture (06:11)

• Staying strong when losing bids and sticking to selling value (08:49)

• Selling value often means providing great customer service (09:36)

• You can’t define your success by what other people are doing (12:42)

• Sometimes you have to say no to training (13:49)

• The myth that a black belt should be able to beat anyone who is not a black belt (15:38)

• Saying no will often allow you to make better progress in the long run (17:20)

• Steroid use in jiu-jitsu (23:38)

• Detaching your ego so that you can say no to pushing yourself too hard (28:00)

• People are mentally and physically different. Not everybody can do everything (30:13)

• The discipline to know what your limitations are (31:34)

• Learning how to compare yourself to yourself (32:13)

Jocko Podcast

https://jockopodcast.com/

David Goggins

https://davidgoggins.com/

Education of a bodybuilder by Arnaold Schwasneggar

The Joe Rogan Experience

https://open.spotify.com/show/4rOoJ6Egrf8K2IrywzwOMk

Dear over 45 trainee by Steve Maxwell

https://maxwellsc.com/blog.cfm?blogid=200

Consistency is key. Keep showing up and you get to 150 podcast episodes or a black belt in jiu-jitsu. But how do you stay motivated to keep going? Whether it’s jiu-jitsu or business, how do you keep your head in the game? Understanding and accepting your limitations can be key to keeping going. When you find yourself limited (by injury or time) and you embrace those limitation you may find yourself getting better. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss embracing limitations and how they stay motivated.

• What it feels like to reach episodes 150 (00:00)

• Play the game you want to play or stop playing (01:41)

• How do you stay motivated with jiu-jistu if you aren’t into competing (03:20)0

• when dealing with an injury focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do (06:18)

• When you accept your limitations the freer you become (08:57)

• Being unsatisfied is often what leads to progress (12:07)

• Skill versus effectiveness (13:47)

• In jiu-jitsu why do we expect an older instructor to be able to compete with a younger person? (16:08)

• Real estate is ultimately boring so how does Carter stay motivated (17:31)

• The danger of taking deals just for something to do (22:54)

• How Mo keeps himself motivated and his business skills sharp (24:33)

Naval Ravikant

https://nav.al/

There is a lot of debate in Texas right now about Governor Abbott’s decision to rescind mask orders. What this really does is allow people and businesses to have the freedom of choice to choose the actions and behaviours that are right for them. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss where responsibility for other fits in to this, whether jiu-jitsu schools are getting back to normal and whether coddled people can find the keys to success.

• Being on vacation, eating, walking and napping (00:39)

• Changes to mask and business occupancy policies in Texas (02:23)

• You have to decide what the right action is for you (09:37)

• Should everybody be quarantining or just vulnerable people? (14:17)

• If you quit jiu-jitsu for a year you’re probably not coming back (19:22)

• What are the individuals’ responsibility to other people? (21:12)

• Should people who are vaccinated be getting back to real life? (24:15)

• Are jiu-jitsu schools going to make people get vaccinated? (29:06)

• Some data from Rollbliss about how business is booming because jiu-jitsu schools are booming (30:59)

• Are kids these days tough or coddled? (32:46)

• Bad kids vs bad parenting (37:21)

• The formula to succeed stays the same (40:32)

ZDoggMD

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFyRz1N_T-rnSkbaAH_TFAw

Blinkist

https://www.blinkist.com/

Full Metal Jacket

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Full_Metal_Jacket

Gordon Ryan

https://www.instagram.com/gordonlovesjiujitsu

When is a niche just being close-minded? Is John Fedro’s mobile home business a niche or is he just missing opportunities by being too focused? Similarly in jiu-jitsu being tightly focused can mean missing opportunities to win. In this episode Carter and Mo explore the difference between having a niche and not being open to other possibilities because ‘it’s not what you do’.

• Is it possible to lightly spar? (00:00)

• Being more open to other ideas and viewpoints (05:02)

• A good deal is simply buying something below market value (07:48)

• What is the difference between being in a niche and being close minded? (12:01)

• Some people are focused on buying anything which is undervalued (14:58)

• Carter reached a point where it became difficult to make money in mobile homes (16:35)

• How John Fedro strengthened his niche (17:35)

• Gordon Ryan is a good example of using the right tool at the right time (20:14)

• The difference between a niche and pigeon holing (23:22)

• The problem with politicians who change their position in order to run (24:49)

• With every negotiation you have to find common ground (27:18)

Tom Mckay

https://www.flipanythingusa.com/

John Fedro

https://www.mobilehomeinvesting.net/

Gordon Ryan

https://www.bjjheroes.com/bjj-fighters/gordon-ryan

Warren Bufffet

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warren_Buffett