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Hey #TheJoshCast, we here at the last episode of “Living Single”. The single life is blessing and a curse. Single people still face a stigma, even though their ranks have grown. Yet a new study suggests singles become happier as they age. One strategy: Focus on creating a full life now, for yourself, rather than finding a partner. After Katie Tomaszewski divorced at the age of 28, she felt ashamed to be alone. So she did what she thought a single person should do: She over-dated, over-worked and over-socialized, inviting friends over for dinner nearly every night because she was afraid of being lonely.

“It was constant socializing and constant distraction,” says Ms. Tomaszewski, now a 36-year-old Pilates instructor in Chicago. “I became desperate and depressed, looking for someone—anyone—to save me from being alone.”

Yes, it can be tough to be single. But a new study published this past December in the Journals of Gerontology offers hope for those who are struggling. Singles today are more satisfied with their lives than singles in the past, the study found. And people who are single become more satisfied with their lives as they grow older, according to researchers from the German Centre of Gerontology in Berlin, who analyzed data from the German Ageing Survey, a nationally representative sample of people between the ages or 40 and 85. Experts say the findings ring true for Western countries broadly. This is important news, because one of the biggest demographic trends of the past 50 years is the rise of singles: In 2017, the U.S. Census Bureau’s American Community Survey reported that more than 120 million U.S. residents, or almost 48% of adults aged 18 or older, were divorced, widowed or had never been married. In 1970, 29% of the population, or 39 million adults aged 18 or older, were single.And yet single people still face a stigma. Bella DePaulo, a social scientist and author of “Singled Out,” has been studying singles since the late 1990s and has coined the phrase “singlism” to describe the ways in which people discriminate against singles. The stereotyping includes the assumptions that singles are miserable, lonely or selfish; that they are desperate to get married; that there must be something wrong with someone who is single. Some single people internalize all that, even if they like being single,” Dr. DePaulo says. “They even sometimes think that liking single life is itself a sign that something is wrong with them.”

Society is organized around couples—they get breaks on everything from club memberships to tickets and events. And it can be a drag for singles when people offer advice or insist on fixing them up. “I think the phrase ‘fix you up’ is telling,” says Dr. DePaulo. “It seems to suggest that you are broken, and that coupling will mend you.”

She says the hardest time to be single is around the age of 30. That’s when the expectation to be married becomes most intense. Friends and relatives are marrying, or are already married, and single people often feel like the odd person out. This feeling is most acute in single people who socialize primarily with couples. “Couples often demote their single friends to lunch or daytime events or children’s birthday parties, basically treating them as if they are not fully adult,” Dr. DePaulo says. It is possible for single people to adjust their attitude and become happier. In a not-yet-published study done at Simon Fraser University, in greater Vancouver, British Columbia, psychologists gave single people one of two made-up articles to read, one reporting that singles are generally happy in life and one reporting that they are not. People who read the happy version of the article reported higher levels of life satisfaction and lower desire to find a relationship than those who read the more negative version. Basically, “if you have a fear of being single this undermines your well-being,” says Yuthika Girme, a social psychologist and lead researcher on the study.

Hey #TheJoshCast fam, There is no doubt that being in a relationship is an amazing experience. The intimate cuddles, the emotional attachment, and the feeling of excitement of being together are just a few of the things that people can experience as a couple. Everybody who is in a relationship or who has been in a relationship knows the various benefits of having a significant person in their life with whom they share romantic feelings. These benefits of being in a relationship, however, highlight the drawbacks of being single. Unfortunately, some people tend to focus on those drawbacks and see singleness as something to get rid of. This can be the reason why some people who have been in a relationship want to find a partner again after break-ups, and why some who never been in a relationship are eager to be in one. The butterflies and sparks of relationships make some people focus on the “loneliness” aspect of being single. At some point, singleness may bring the feeling of loneliness and dullness, but it is not always the case. If you are tired of being single and you can not still find yourself in a relationship, you may want to consider looking at singleness the other way around. This article will talk about three ways that one can do to make the most out of their singleness. Before going through the list, you must know that the golden rule of being a happy single is loving yourself! As social creatures, people do not exist for romantic relationships alone. You also have relationships with other people around you such as friendships and your family relationship. While you are single and free from romantic commitments, make more time to bond and have fun with other people around your circle. Go on a road trip with your friends, have a movie night with your family or go to karaoke with your colleagues. In everyday life, you can celebrate small or big wins with them, appreciate their efforts more often, show your gratitude and do them some favor.

Whether you like it or not, your time and attention for other people around you will decrease once you are a part of a couple. Spending more time with other people, especially with your family and closest friends, create stronger and lasting relationships. Aside from spending time with other people, make sure to also spend time for yourself. Whether we are in a relationship or not, we sometimes end up forgetting about self-care due to a lot of responsibilities in front of us. While you are single, take the time and opportunity to pamper yourself more. Go out and see your favorite movie, receive a relaxing massage from a spa shop, get a makeover, eat from your favorite restaurant, buy and wear outfits that best represents you, buy the things that you always want to purchase, travel to your dream destination, etc. Yes, you deserve all these things. Can not an individual do these things while in a relationship? They can, but most relationships can cause limitations. Some relationships can hinder us from doing things that can make us happy aside from the things that we can do as a pair. Being in a relationship is a way different story, you can do things that you can not do alone. However, we are more autonomous while we are single than while we are part of a pair. Your partner may not prefer your favorite movie genre or your dream destination, among other things. Financial constraints can also be one of the reasons that hinder some people from spending for themselves.

Why is it important to create other relationships stronger? You can look at it as a lifetime investment. Not all romantic relationships last, that is the truth. Another truth, your relationships with your friends and family do. In singleness or not, you can always count on with people whom you created strong bonds with.

Hey #TheJoshCast fam, International Women's Day is a global holiday celebrated annually on March 8 to commemorate the cultural, political, and socioeconomic achievements of women.It is also a focal point in the women's rights movement, bringing attention to issues such as gender equality, reproductive rights, and violence against women. International Women's Day is commemorated in a variety of ways worldwide; it is a public holiday in several countries, and observed socially or locally in others.The UN observes the holiday in connection with a particular issue, campaign, or theme in women's rights.In some parts of the world, IWD still reflects its political origins, being marked by protests and calls for radical change; in other areas, particularly in the West, it is largely sociocultural and centered on a celebration of womanhood. There are a lot of admirable ladies around, and you might be insecure with them because you think you could never be half as good as they are. However, always remember that no one is perfect, and everyone has her own share of flaws and goodness. If you want to be a good person, then you just have to improve your good side and strive to overcome the bad.To give you an idea of what you should work on yourself, here are the qualities that make you a good woman.More beautiful inside than out

Physical attractiveness is not everything. Instead of focusing on how you can be flawless and sexy, give more time to how you can control your temper, help other people, and be a good citizen in your community. Be someone who is a blessing to others by having a good character and a kind heart that encourages everyone. Secure and content. Insecurity brings out jealousy and envy in one person, and they will cause you to be bitter towards others. For this reason, instead of concentrating on what you lack, learn to appreciate who you are and be grateful for what you have. Celebrate yourself including your imperfections because they make you interestingly unique.Kindness is the language that everyone understands. Choose to show genuine kindness to the people around you by being generous with your smile and offering help whenever you can. Be polite and approachable as well, and do not be rude to anyone even if you feel upset or annoyed. True compassion moves. Meaning, instead of just feeling pity towards people in desperate situations, find out how you can help them. You can join a charity or organization which cares for people in need. You can also practice generosity and hospitality even through small things. A beautiful soul is someone who can be a shoulder to cry on for others. If you have friends who are going through some hard times, take the initiative to check on them and assure them that you are willing to listen. Be an encouragement to them even without saying anything. There are times when all people need to be okay is someone who will listen to them without judgments and accusations. A good person shows respect to all kinds of humans, whether young or old and rich or poor. Moreover, she honors those in authority above her, including her parents, senior citizens, government officials, and her supervisors.Diligent and responsible. With social media and smartphones conquering the world, procrastination is a leading opponent of productivity. Be a role model of how to be hardworking and responsible, whether in school or work. Beat laziness by being goal-oriented and strive for excellence in whatever you do.

One of the hardest character traits to achieve is humility. Be careful not to think highly of yourself, especially because of your achievements. Furthermore, be willing to admit mistakes and apologize for them. If someone corrects you, take it as constructive criticism and be thankful instead of being defensive.

Hey #TheJoshCast fam, Let’s talk about Living Single. Our Host, Joshua is a 90s baby that loves the 90s! Let’s dive right in, Living Single is an American sitcom television series that aired for five seasons on the Fox network from August 22, 1993 to January 1, 1998. The show centered on the lives of six friends who shared personal and professional experiences while living in a Brooklyn brownstone. This is important news, because one of the biggest demographic trends of the past 50 years is the rise of singles: In 2017, the U.S. Census Bureau’s American Community Survey reported that more than 120 million U.S. residents, or almost 48% of adults aged 18 or older, were divorced, widowed or had never been married. In 1970, 29% of the population, or 39 million adults aged 18 or older, were single.And yet single people still face a stigma. Bella DePaulo, a social scientist and author of “Singled Out,” has been studying singles since the late 1990s and has coined the phrase “singlism” to describe the ways in which people discriminate against singles. The stereotyping includes the assumptions that singles are miserable, lonely or selfish; that they are desperate to get married; that there must be something wrong with someone who is single. Some single people internalize all that, even if they like being single,” Dr. DePaulo says. “They even sometimes think that liking single life is itself a sign that something is wrong with them.Society is organized around couples—they get breaks on everything from club memberships to tickets and events. And it can be a drag for singles when people offer advice or insist on fixing them up. “I think the phrase ‘fix you up’ is telling,” says Dr. DePaulo. “It seems to suggest that you are broken, and that coupling will mend you.”She says the hardest time to be single is around the age of 30. That’s when the expectation to be married becomes most intense. Friends and relatives are marrying, or are already married, and single people often feel like the odd person out. This feeling is most acute in single people who socialize primarily with couples. “Couples often demote their single friends to lunch or daytime events or children’s birthday parties, basically treating them as if they are not fully adult,” Dr. DePaulo says.It is possible for single people to adjust their attitude and become happier. In a not-yet-published study done at Simon Fraser University, in greater Vancouver, British Columbia, psychologists gave single people one of two made-up articles to read, one reporting that singles are generally happy in life and one reporting that they are not. People who read the happy version of the article reported higher levels of life satisfaction and lower desire to find a relationship than those who read the more negative version. Basically, “if you have a fear of being single this undermines your well-being,” says Yuthika Girme, a social psychologist and lead researcher on the study. So how can you be happiest being single? Focus on creating a full life now, for yourself, rather than finding a partner. Surround yourself with other happily single people. Watch the language you or others use to refer to singlehood. (Ever walked into a restaurant alone and had the host ask: “Table for just one?”) Be proud of the life you’ve created.

Hey #TheJoshCast, we here with a new episode on The Controversial topic of “Why do women cheat?”! It’s so easy to fall back on old assumptions that men are more likely to cheat, with the usually list of justifications (like how they can't "keep it in their pants"). That's becoming more and more untrue as time goes on. "Traditionally, it's been argued that women are more likely than men to cheat because they're unhappy with the existing relationships, while men are more likely than women to cheat because they're looking for sexual variety or an opportunity presented itself," says, Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., a "sexpert" at LELO and a professor of human sexuality at NYU. "That's still true to some extent today, but the gender gap in infidelity is closing among the newer generations."In older generations, men were much more likely to cheat than women, whereas in the current generation women and men are cheating at similar rates," she adds. "And the current generation of men and women are more similar in their reasons for cheating than older generations." Of course, there are some variations between men and women. "A recent study showed men were more likely than women to cheat for reasons related to sexual desire and variety, and due to situational factors like being drunk," Vrangalova says. "However, the top three reasons for cheating endorsed by both women and men were exactly the same: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors."Sometimes, the reasons women cheat are sexually motivated.If you want to dig a little deeper into why women cheat, Alicia Walker, Ph.D., an assistant professor of sociology at Missouri State University, is a good person to ask — she spent a year interviewing women who've had extramarital affairs for her book, The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife. She found more nuance to the idea that women cheat for sexual variety.”In my studies on women's infidelity, I found women were outsourcing the sexual pleasure in their relationships in an effort to remain in their primary partnerships," she says. "They believed that if they continued to go without their sexual needs being met, they would have to break up their families and break their partner's heart. None of the women made the decision to cheat lightly. After years and sometimes decades of trying to improve things in their marriages, they decided to look elsewhere." That doesn't mean that women who cheat are always looking to save their primary partnership. Sometimes, it's the opposite: "One of the main reasons women cheat is to blow up a relationship that makes them feel trapped in some way," says Charlynn Ruan, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and founder of Thrive Psychology Group, a group practice in California that specializes in women. "Often they're with a partner who seems like a nice person, but is controlling, stifling, or emotionally unavailable. The woman tries to make changes, to get their partner to do couples therapy, or push their partner to grow or meet them more emotionally, but when the woman doesn't succeed in these attempts, cheating gives a reason for their partner to leave them."This often comes with a lot of guilt, Dr. Ruan adds. "I think the unconscious narrative is often, 'He's a nice guy, but I'm miserable. There is something wrong with me,'" she says. "So, they act out to end the relationship. In heterosexual couples, research shows that women are much more likely than men to initiate divorce, and are happier after divorce than men. But, for women who struggle with guilt over leaving a partner, feel like he needs her, and don't feel their own happiness is enough justification to reach escape velocity in their relationship, cheating gives them a way out."

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Cultural stereotypes tell us that it’s usually men who step out on their wives and girlfriends. However, research shows that nearly as many women cheat as men. Which makes sense, because it takes two to tango, so to speak. That said, men and women often cheat for different reasons, with the motivations typically (though not always) falling in line with our general understanding of male vs. female sexuality. Basically, men tend to be comfortable with a purely sexual experience devoid of emotional connection, while women tend to be more interested in sexuality that includes (or at least promises) a degree of emotional intimacy. So, both men and women engage in infidelity, but they often do so for different reasons.

Generally, a woman’s decision to cheat is driven by one or more of the following factors:

A woman may have an issue with sex, porn, or love addiction. In such cases, a woman with unresolved childhood trauma, especially sexual trauma, will attempt to self-soothe her emotional pain, anxiety, and depression with romantic and sexual fantasies and activity. For this woman, sexual behavior is not about having fun, it’s about numbing out.

A woman may feel unappreciated, ignored, and neglected in her primary relationship. If a woman feels more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a loved and respected wife or girlfriend, she may seek external validation through hookups and affairs.

A woman may have an issue with alcohol or drugs—substances that affect her decision-making, possibly resulting in regrettable sexual decisions (including infidelity). Some women cheat because they have unrealistic (and therefore unfulfilled) expectations about what their partner and their relationship should provide. A woman may think her partner should fulfill her every whim and desire, 24/7/365, failing to see that this is an impossible standard. And when her expectations are not met, she may seek external fulfillment.

A woman may cheat because she lacks self-esteem. She may feel unattractive, or old, or disempowered, or whatever, and seek extramarital romance and sex to bolster her view of herself. She may reason, “If someone wants to be with me, I must be worthwhile.”

Some women cheat because they are reenacting or latently responding to childhood trauma—everything from abandonment to overt sexual abuse. Often, this is a way of trying to control or master abuse that they couldn’t control or master as a child.

Some women just don’t understand what love really feels like. They think the rush of first romance (technically referred to as limerence) is what true love feels like. These women fail to understand that in healthy long-term relationships, the neurochemical rush of limerence is replaced over time with less intense but ultimately more meaningful forms of intimacy and connection.

A woman might cheat because she craves intimacy but isn’t getting it from her primary romantic partner. More so than men, women feel valued and connected through emotional interaction and communication. If a woman is not getting this need met at home, she may seek fulfillment elsewhere.

Some women cheat to alleviate boredom or loneliness. This is especially likely with women who find themselves at home for long periods of time (perhaps caring for young kids, or even after the kids are grown and gone). These women feel a lack of importance and meaning, so they use hookups and affairs to fill the void.

Hey #TheJoshCast, I want us to talk about something that’s hard and controversial. Sometimes it can feel like cheating is built into the fabric of the male psyche, but none of the reasons men (and women) try to excuse their behaviour aren’t worth interrogation. Men hear the old adage “boys will be boys” so often that sometimes we believe the hype and treat it like a manifesto. Cheating, for example, isn’t exclusive to men but it’s definitely looked upon as something we’re much more prone to doing. But why do we do it? Is it “just because”?

Psycho-sexologist and psychosexual and relationship therapist Kate Moyle says, “The reasons for infidelity are varied and often unique to the situation, individual or couple; however, there may be other factors at play that influence the decision to act on the desire to cheat or motivate the person to take the step to stray.” How many times have we heard of a guy who is part of a supposedly perfect couple going ahead and cheating anyway? It’s just very us, isn’t it? Take Jay-Z, for example: if three albums’ worth of material is to be believed – Beyoncé’s Lemonade, Jay’s 4:44 and the pair’s collaboration Everything Is Love – then the megastar rapper himself played away from home, and he, it would seem, had everything to lose. Kate Moyle reckons no man is immune to wondering whether their needs might be better served elsewhere, no matter how cushy their current setup might be: “The culture that we currently live in promotes the idea of more, more, more and that the grass is always greener,” she says. “It can feel that we are metaphorically constantly looking through the looking glass into other people’s lives and relationships, and although we know it’s often a curated reality, we can’t help but compare ourselves and this can create expectations and disappointment.” Maybe our wandering eye comes from a reluctance to be tied down, a problem with committing or a relationship going too fast. Rather than confront the situation head-on, some men act out – the sexual equivalent of a toddler defacing a wall with crayons while you’re not looking. It’s like we want to be found out. While all infidelity can leave a scar, this is a pretty destructive reason for cheating. Saying it’s over will hurt, yes, but letting your partner discover your infidelity and do the dirty work for you is not the most grown-up of solutions. Perhaps it’s easier to deal with the shame of what you’ve done than try to explain why a relationship isn’t working for you, but the fewer landmines you leave in your wake, the better. Is this the kind of behaviour people expect from us? As men, we have a lot to live up to when it comes to sex. We’re pressured to be always-on, perma-aroused sex machines – think of the dubious scientific fact that a man thinks about sex every seven seconds, or the differences between talking about a man who has a lot of sex and a woman who does the same. Divorcee Marsha, who was married for eight years until her husband’s incessant infidelity broke them up, tells me, “Boys are taught they should go and see the world before they settle down – sow their wild oats – while women are supposed to dream of being a bride who’ll be there waiting when they’re done.” There’s a level of immaturity that seems to be accepted in men and a bogus assertion that we can’t control ourselves. Having a variety of sexual partners is seen as a badge of honour among some men and Marsha is not here for it. “It’s only when they get caught that they understand the real consequences of what they’ve done,” she says. “Most men wouldn’t care about anyone else if they weren’t caught.”

Hey #TheJoshCast fam, I was asked a question by an audience listener and she asked me “What is a booty call?” . I wanted to answer this question in intensive details. This Urban dictionary definition pretty much nails what a booty call is. It’s when someone calls you late at night to hook up, usually when they have no other options, and after the bars have closed and they’ve struck out with everyone else. They don’t like you for anything more than gittin’ “a little.”

There is no relationship. There’s no commitment of monogamy or commitment of any kind. A booty call is a shallow, usually one-sided relationship for the benefit of gittin’ the “goods” without putting in the work.

You don’t want to be someones booty call. Yet, in sales, particularly with channels, too many people and companies are nothing but booty calls.

A booty call in sales is when a channel partner or a customer calls you up asking you for help or to do something for them, but never seem to be available for you. The channel has a big deal on the table and their prospect is interested in your product or service and the channel asks you to come in and help close the deal. But, when you call the channel and ask them to introduce you to a customer of theirs they just can’t seem to find the time or won’t do it. A sales booty call is when a customer calls up and asks for a demo or a free trial but then when you ask for a meeting to share your new product coming out at the end of the quarter, they are nowhere to be found.Sales booty calls are brutal. It’s when your partners and customers are quick to call you up and ask for a little love, but are nowhere to be found when you need a little love back. Sales booty calls, like real booty calls, circumvent a relationship for one person’s gain. Most booty calls exploit one person’s desire for a relationship for the other person’s desire to get the “goods” without a commitment. You don’t want to be a booty call. Never have a one-sided relationship where your partners or customers take but don’t give. Provide enough value that your customers and partners are willing to give as much as they take or get out. Create enough value so that a real relationship, a give and take relationship, can exist.If you’re channel partners will only work with you when it serves their needs. You are a booty call. When your customer only wants to talk with you when they need you to give them something, you are a booty call.Don’t be a sales booty call, they are the worst. At least a real life booty call can feel good. But, with a sales booty call you’re just getting screwed!