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- #189 The Impact of the Patriarchal Culture on Women in Midlife
Today Cindy interviews transformation coach & holistic practitioner, Linda Dieffenbach, who discusses the ancestral, biological, and historical impact of patriarchal culture & how women in midlife are affected personally and professionally whether they are conscious of it or not. The conversation evolves into the effects on our relationships, health, and belief systems, as well as what the feminist movement has done for us in response. Listen to the end to hear best ways to change the power dynamics and create greater equality and overall life satisfaction for everyone.
Linda Dieffenbach is a devoted and empathetic personal transformation coach and holistic practitioner with over 20 years of experience. She is deeply committed to assisting individuals in overcoming the detrimental effects of trauma and toxic conditioning while guiding them towards self-actualization. Linda's personal healing journey from childhood trauma led her to recognize the transformative potential of Reiki, sparking her enthusiasm for holistic healing practices. Leveraging her background in Social Work, Linda offers a distinctive approach that blends trauma awareness, energy healing and coaching expertise, compassionate guidance, and intuitive assistance to empower her clients in attaining clarity, self-awareness, and self-empowerment on their healing and personal growth pathways. She establishes a nurturing and safe space for clients to explore and embrace their personal path to achieving their highest potential. In addition to one-on-one sessions, Linda leads practitioner trainings, workshops and events that support individuals through their journey of self-discovery and growth.
Connect with Linda:
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To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_______________________
Chapters
00:43 Introduction of Guest
02:01 Impact of Patriarchal Culture
02:49 Not Man-Bashing Here
03:53 Power Structure of the Patriarchy
06:31 Effects on Women in Midlife
09:50 How We Believe & Behave Differently
12:25 How It Affects Our Relationships with Partners (a.k.a. The Survival Strategy)
13:20 Classic Female Training As A Survival Instinct
14:45 Unconscious Ancestral Patterns
15:35 Caretaking Careers/Helping Professions
16:18 Trauma & Caretaking Role in Childhood
17:21 A Client Story ~ Negating Our Needs
19:08 The Effects On Our Health
21:57 The Deeper Look At Patriarchal Patterns
24:28 Pushing Against the Culture/The Feminist Movement
31:21 How to Change This ~ Progress Is Possible
33:20 Start With You ~ Powerful Questions
37:43 Tune Into Yourself ~ Be Present to Your Wants & Needs
39:15 Following the Voice of Your Heart
40:06 In A Corporate Environment
42:13 Always Be Your Bottom Line
44:00 The Importance of Doing The Inner Work
48 min - #188 What It Means to Win in Midlife
Having just spent weeks watching the Olympics, Cindy noticed that true winning goes far beyond getting a gold medal. Today she suggests wins available to you in midlife and challenges you to create your own and to work on winning every day.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_______________________
Chapters
00:47 The Olympics & What It Means to Win
03:44 Midlife Winning
05:26 Accepting Yourself
06:19 Discovering What you Really Want Now
08:00 Letting Go of the Past
10:15 Learning New Ways of Being
12:50 Setting Yourself Up To Age Well & To Be Happy
16:10 Review of the Five Wins
16:54 Work On This Daily
19 min - #187 5 Things You Must Let Go of When A Relationship Ends in Midlife & How to Begin Again
Having your heart broken from the ending of a relationship can be one of the most stressful, gut-wrenching experiences you can have in midlife, so today Cindy teaches five things you can do to help yourself move through and beyond the grief of it all by letting go. Then she explores a path with ways to begin again so you can create a life you love.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_______________________
Chapters
01:23 What We’re Talking About Today
02:00 The Fantasy
03:36 The Dream
04:51 The Roles
07:12 The Mistakes
09:05 The Drama
13:54 Beginning Again
14:20 Grief
15:38 Gratitude
17:00 Golden Opportunities
18:15 Goals & Intentions
19:27 Get A Mentor
22:35 You CAN Begin Again
25 min - #186 How to Have Relationship Confidence in Midlife
By midlife, you’ve had all kinds of relationship experiences, especially if you’ve been widowed or divorced and have looked for love again. Yet your confidence may be low as you may wonder if you are capable of a healthy relationship at this age and stage of your life. Today Cindy shares the #1 Relationship Killer, how to grow your self-love, how to rebuild your confidence after a breakup or divorce, and ways to show up as a confident partner whether you are dating or in a committed relationship.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_______________________
Chapters
01:24 Definition of Relationship Confidence
01:45 Why It’s Hard
02:24 The #1 Relationship Killer
03:20 Ways to Grow Your Self-Love
06:55 Rebuilding Your Confidence After A Breakup or Divorce
15:45 Being A Confident Partner in Midlife
22 min - #185 Extreme Self-Care in Mid-Life
We’ve all heard the term self-care a million times, but even so it can be tough to remember its importance in our daily lives. Then when exceptional circumstances enter the picture, we may be blind-sided and less able to tend to ourselves. Today Cindy shares the work of Cheryl Richardson, internally-known, best-selling author and coach, who wrote the book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care, and teaches how to create your own Extreme Self-Care Kit, so you are prepared to handle any of life’s curve balls.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_______________________
Chapters
01:23 Extreme Self-Care Idea
02:31 Extreme Self-Care Kit
03:23 Questions to Create Your Kit
18:43 Every Day Counts
20 min - #184 The Four Criteria of Decluttering
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the amount of material possessions you have? Do you secretly wish it would all just go away? Clutter is unhealthy but very common, so today Cindy talks about how to easily choose what needs to go, the benefits of releasing stuff, and how doing so could even be considered a spiritual practice.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_____________________________
Chapters
00:47 My Apology
01:34 How Best to Communicate with Me
03:17 Loose Ends
03:37 Step 3 of The Mid-Life Makeover Method
04:30 Clutter is Common
05:04 Electronic Clutter
07:17 Memory Clutter
11:56 The Four Criteria
12:32 Materialistic Clutter
22:45 Clutter is Unhealthy
24:57 Benefits of Decluttering
29:27 The Fire Test
32:06 Take A Tour
32:37 Ways to Dispose Clutter
33:26 Decluttering As A Spiritual Practice
37 min - #183 Living Deep
Cindy is reflecting today on how life can be happy & celebratory while at the same time sadness & grief can show up as well. She discusses living deeply, truly knowing yourself, honoring your needs, and living a life that feels like it truly matters.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_____________________________
Chapters
02:04 My Book
02:54 Loving Yourself
06:45 Denial of Self
08:20 Go Deep
09:01 Wake Up ~ The First Step
09:33 Quote
11:52 Sadness & Grief
16:39 Appreciate Every Day
18:32 Make it Matter
20:22 More to Life
22:55 You Matter
26 min - #182 10 Benefits of Loving Yourself in Midlife
As a life coach, I see the struggle of women in midlife to love themselves. Many feel it is selfish and others are so overwhelmed caring for others they simply forget about themselves. Today I am sharing ten benefits of loving yourself in hopes you will be convinced this is not only a good idea but also essential to have a healthy, happy life in midlife and beyond.
Click here for my free guide, “It’s Your Time: How to Start Loving Yourself Unapologetically Today!”
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer_____________________________
Chapters
01:01 Free Guide Offer
02:45 Benefits of Loving Yourself
02:55 No More Guilt
03:25 “Selfishness”
05:16 Boundaries
06:28 Your Passions
07:46 Things You Want
08:29 Honest and Direct Conversations
11:06 More Energy
11:52 Say “No” More Easily
14:06 Healthier
16:35 The Ripple Effect
22 min - #181 Your Thoughts, Your Choice (aka The Hammer Story)
How you choose to think about anything or yourself can either feel good or hurt very badly. Today Cindy helps you reframe common thoughts in midlife encouraging you to move from living in the fear column to the love column. Listen in to hear her personal stories that prove the power of focusing on what we want.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer____________________________________________________Chapters00:58 The Hammer Story
04:53 Quote by Allen Cohen
05:43 Choosing Thoughts That Hurt
06:26 Humans Are Creative
08:08 The Wrist Story
12:02 Think Properly to Feel Good
12:36 The Love and Fear Columns
16:35 Reframing Common Thoughts of Midlife
21:00 This is a Practice, a Choice
25 min - #180 Caregiving in Midlife
Whether you have a parent with dementia, a spouse with compromised health, or a loved one in a nursing home, one of the greatest challenges of being a woman in midlife is caregiving. Today Cindy breaks down the emotional & relationship struggles, the signs & symptoms of caregiver stress, and ways to help yourself through the experience.
To schedule a FREE Mid-Life Strategy Session with me, head to http://timewithcindy.com to book your 30 minute call. There’s no obligation, and I can help you get to the TRUTH of what you REALLY want and create a plan to get you there.
For more inspirational content, join me on my socials and sign up for my newsletter:FacebookInstagramLinkedInNewsletterYouTubeWant to be a part of an amazing group of women all striving to grow their self-confidence, stand up for themselves, and finally say “YES!” to what they’ve always wanted? Join The Mid-Life Makeover Group.For more personalized support, accountability, and life-changing strategies, consider applying to my Mid-Life Makeover Group or 90 Day Mid-Life Makeover Program. Learn the mindsets, skill sets, and success habits to move you out of your less than satisfying life of unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, loneliness, rapid aging, and toward FINALLY be the star of your own life! Get all your questions answered here: https://www.cindydwhitmer.com/coachingBlessings,Cindy D. Whitmer___________________________________________________
Chapters
02:28 What is Caregiving?
05:09 The Emotional Struggle
07:39 When Relationships Shift
10:14 Caregiver Stress 11:09 Signs & Symptoms
11:55 Depression
12:23 Isolation
12:58 Sleep Deprivation
13:41 Worrying
14:05 Your Physical Health
15:13 Dealing with Caregiver Stress
15:18 Empower Yourself with Learning
16:03 Ask for Help
17:20 Establish a Routine
18:20 Time for Yourself - Daily Joy
19:33 Keep Your Health a Priority
21:38 End of Life Conversation
24:46 Resources
27 min
About The Kindness Principles Podcast™
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The Kindness Principles Podcast™ was developed from an inspiration Cindy Smarsh received one day, that what the world needs now more than ever is kindness. She believes kindness is more than a…
virtue ~ it’s a cultural strategy that empowers people to create meaningful lives, healthier relationships, stronger organizations & a world where everyone can thrive. You can count on powerful stories, interesting conversations, inspiring ideas, & practical ways to integrate kindness into your life & work so you can be happier, healthier, & more successful. You can learn more about her work at cindysmarsh.com.