The King Maker Program: A pep talk for the parents of young adults

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"Life is a Banquet, And most poor suckers are starving to Death". A quote from the movie "Auntie Mame", 1958 with Rosalind Russell and in 1974 with Lucille Ball.  Lets listen to how this quote and movie relates to Essential Change. 

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This episode deals with Wanting. How the word is used without regard to its negative meaning and why we are comfortable using it. The 3 things we can do to prevent it from forming and action on worthy goals. 

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This is a special episode and interview with Robert Foley, a trained Lawyer, addiction coach and advocate for recovery.
We talk about his early family life, his legal career, addiction, sobriety, and his eventual life of service to the recovery community.
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Parenting Your Child in Recovery

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The power of Starting and Re-Starting productive habits is key to making Essential Change. The enemy of change is focusing on the destination instead of the process and repetition of good habits. 

Parenting Your Child in Recovery

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This episode deals with 10 areas you can start looking at when you are setting goals for your life. We like to call it the "Goal Tree". Most of us are good at a few of them but may need some help with others. They are in no particular order or importance and, as usual, we recommend any professional help or coaching to invest in yourself and those that love you. 

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Some thoughts on the current path of the recovery model and how it could be tweaked to help more people. A model that takes into consideration the the entire scope of complicated and confusing lives. 

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Managing the the behavior and actions around addiction treatment. 

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Welcome to my dive into dealing with self esteem and how we strive to overcome our need for constant work in that area of life. 

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Parenting Your Child in Recovery

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The 2ndStarts story ends with a service in the form of a “live course” that gives those with detrimental behaviors, or the potential for ( detrimental behavior ) a different option in which to change, improve and heal their lives. 
The 2ndStarts story starts about 34 years ago, and my decision to become a nurse. The choice was almost an accident, even though I was the son and grandson of two nurses. During the early years of my healthcare profession, I became obsessed with becoming an entrepreneur. I had a multitude of ideas that brewed constantly from my mind but soon found out that I certainly did not possess a number of traits that should accompany a captain of industry. I had a natural tendency to daydream and procrastinate. It did not take long for me to realize that I had to get hold of those debilitating traits, or I would never be able to realize my dreams of being a self-made man.
The late-night infomercial scene, which contributed significantly to my entrepreneurial dreams, lead me to the concept of self-help. The promise to change a person into “ more” was captivating. I devoured these materials. I read and followed everyone and every program. I learned so much about human nature, procrastination, fear of failure, fear of success, etc., etc., etc. 
I soon learned the hard way that the knowledge of these principles did not always translate into success. These self-help gurus and their programs were not necessarily helpful but extremely entertaining. The entire industry began to boom, and some of the gurus became rock stars. Magazines and programs were everywhere, but the results, as it translated to making money, getting successful real estate deals, and providing life-changing results far lagged behind the growth of the self-help industry itself. My results also lagged. I continued to study and learn about the self-help industry but soon resigned that I didn’t have what it took, and it wasn’t just me. The rate of success was extremely low, although the advice and tactics seem very sound.
As the focus of my healthcare career changed, I became introduced to groups of people whose procrastination and the lack of focus and clarity required a more significant price to pay than that of the struggling entrepreneur. There was a vast difference between not making a couple of extra dollars compared to incarceration, illness, or death. 
But the mentally and physically ill, and the socially and behaviorally disadvantaged had their own set of advocates already. Medical professionals, therapists, and social service workers were there to protect and serve this population, but the results were not much better, and relapse remained extremely prevalent. And these results were with the best and well-intentioned minds available. 
At this point, I began to wonder were these groups destined to suffer the same fate I have previously resigned myself to in my entrepreneurial efforts. Some of us didn’t have what it took to “ cut the mustard.” They certainly had a lot more to lose. I began to dedicate my time to explore this question. I asked many questions about myself and people like me. Honest questions. I also probed the minds of both correctional professionals and inmates, medical professionals, and substance abusers. These interviews, along with my in-depth study of self-help methods, brought me to some fascinating conclusions. These conclusions served as the basis for the 2ndStarts system of life management.

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