Q4 business planning for entrepreneurs is not about launching something new, it is about closing out the business you already built this year. If you are staring down October wondering what big move you need to make before December 31st, this episode is your permission to slow down instead. Sandra Bettina breaks down why Q4 works better as a closing quarter than a launch quarter, and what that actually looks like once your calendar starts filling up with the holidays.

Sandra Bettina, wedding planner, business coach, and host of The Life She Built, walks you through the exact audit she uses in her own business each fall: what worked, what you have outgrown, what needs closing, and what you are carrying into next year. You will hear her go-to question for testing whether a goal still fits, what does current “you” want, and the four column brain dump she recommends before the holidays hit: close, clean up, decide, and prepare. By the end, you will have a clear, unsexy list of what to finish before January, and permission to stop there instead of overhauling your whole business in twelve weeks.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why Q4 should be your closing quarter, not the time to launch a new offer, rebrand, or business, and what to do instead if you already have a launch planned.
• How to run a simple business audit of the last nine months so you know what actually worked, what drained you, and what you have outgrown before you plan anything.
• Why closing your open loops, like unpaid invoices, unfinished client work, and unused subscriptions, matters more in Q4 than starting a single new project.
• How to get directionally clear on next year's business, clients, and role without jumping into full quarterly goal setting before you are ready.
• Why you need to know your enough point for money, plus how to clean up your books and estimate your taxes before January arrives.
• How to spot the friction points slowing down your systems and operations, and why your only job in Q4 is to identify them, not overhaul everything.
• Why December never gives you a full three months of Q4, and how to build your one page close, clean up, decide, and prepare brain dump.

We talk about:

00:00 Why Sandra moved her podcast studio home

01:49 Why Q4 isn't the time to launch anything new

03:39 Q4 is your closing quarter, not a launch quarter

04:16 The unfinished projects brain dump exercise

05:39 Why a full business audit comes before planning

06:43 What actually worked in your business this year

09:04 Closing every open loop before January

14:14 Does your business really support the life you want

16:18 Cleaning up your books before tax season

31:16 The four column brain dump, close, clean up, decide, prepare

Connect with Sandra

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Watching your parents get older is one of those quiet transitions nobody really prepares you for, and it is exactly what has been sitting with Sandra Bettina lately. In this episode, she pulls back the curtain on what a genuinely unfiltered week looks like for a woman running a business, raising two daughters, and watching her own parents age from six hours away. If you have ever caught yourself reminding a parent to get their hearing checked, or wondered whose job it is to plan the next visit, this conversation will feel like talking it through with your most honest friend.

Sandra Bettina, wedding and event designer, entrepreneur, and host of The Life She Built, walks through the real reason she moved her five year studio, part financial decision, part human design as a manifestor, why she is rethinking her version of success as she heads toward 40, and the low maintenance friend dichotomy that has her wondering if being easygoing has quietly hidden the parts of her that still need to be checked on. She also gets into back to school mental load, marriage date nights, and why she decided to bring listeners along for the ride instead of processing it all privately. Come for the honesty, stay for the reminder that you are allowed to be figuring it out too.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why Sandra moved her five year studio into a new upstairs space, and how a financial decision, a landlord conversation, and her human design as a manifestor all played into the timing.
• What it means to notice your parents getting older in real time, from reminding them about hearing checks to renegotiating who initiates family visits when you live six hours apart.
• How watching her daughters grow and her parents age at the same time is reshaping what Sandra considers her own personal version of success right now.
• The low maintenance friend dichotomy, and why being easygoing with friends can quietly overshadow the parts of you that still need to be checked on and included.
• A real look at back to school mental load, including the lunch system that actually works when your kids refuse to eat the same thing twice in a row.
• Why date nights fell off the calendar this summer, and the small scheduling fix Sandra and her husband are using to reconnect before Q4 hits.
• What Sandra's road to 40 looks like, including the boundaries she is setting and why she chose to share the journey publicly instead of privately.

We talk about:

00:00 Why the studio background looks different this week

02:27 The real reason behind the studio move

06:00 How human design shaped her choice to go upstairs

09:00 Noticing her parents are getting older

10:43 Motherhood guilt and redefining what is enough

12:00 What does success actually mean to her now

14:06 Her road to 40 and living it out loud

15:49 Is the low maintenance friend label hiding something

20:21 Back to school lunches and the mental load of moms

23:54 Marriage, date nights, and getting back into routine

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

Ready for more honest conversations like this one? Follow The Life She Built on Instagram at @thelifeshebuiltpod and join Sandra's list for updates at https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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When a right business decision stops fitting your life, it doesn't mean you made a mistake, it means you have changed.

In this solo episode, Sandra Bettina walks through why she is closing the studio space that housed her wedding planning business for over five years, and how she knew it was time to leave something that once worked perfectly for her. If you have ever felt guilty for outgrowing a decision that used to feel exactly right, this episode names that feeling and shows you are not alone in it.

Sandra Bettina, wedding business coach and host of The Life She Built, shares the exact self check questions she has used to make hard calls like this one, including whether she is keeping something out of need or out of ego, and whether it still supports the version of success she has actually defined for herself. She walks through why closing a chapter you loved is not the same as admitting it failed, and why the right decision can still come with real grief.

This episode is a reminder that you get to keep checking in on decisions you already made, and that changing your answer is information, not failure.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Sandra Bettina explains why she is closing the studio that housed Sandra Bettina Weddings and Events for over five years, and why leaving something you love does not mean it was the wrong decision.
• She breaks down the exact questions she asks herself before any big business decision, including whether she is keeping something out of genuine need or simply out of ego and sunk cost.
• Sandra shares why the right decision does not always feel good, and why she is letting herself grieve this studio space even while knowing the move itself is right.
• She talks through how a decision that was completely right five years ago can stop being right today without invalidating the choice she made back then.
• Sandra explains the difference between quitting because something failed and leaving because you have outgrown it, and why business owners rarely separate the two.
• She walks through how she is defining success for her business right now, and how that clarity is what made this decision obvious instead of confusing.
• Sandra closes with the two lessons she keeps coming back to: trust yourself when the answer changes, and remember the right thing rarely feels easy.

We talk about:

00:00 Recording the last episode in this studio

00:23 Five years built inside these walls

00:51 Why the right decision can still feel sad

01:14 The questions Sandra keeps asking herself

02:12 Would she sign this lease again today

02:57 Redefining success and why it changed her answer

04:19 What the studio gave her business at the start

04:51 Why a right decision does not have to last forever

05:40 Grieving something you still love

07:28 Does this still fit, would you choose it again

08:14 Trusting yourself when the answer changes

09:25 The two lessons Sandra is carrying forward

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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Stuck deciding whether to quit your business is not a failure state, it just means you don't have enough information yet, and no one ever told you what to do in the meantime.

If you've been waiting for some kind of gut-certainty or spiritual download to tell you whether to stay or walk away, and it hasn't come, nothing is wrong with you. You are not required to have clarity today. You are required to have a process.

Sandra Bettina, wedding industry veteran, business coach, and host of The Life She Built, walks through twelve concrete steps for what to actually do while you're still deciding whether to stay in your business or leave it, including her keep, change, release, and don't know matrix, a 30, 60, or 90 day decision window, and the design your Tuesday exercise for testing what you actually want your life to look like. She also covers exactly what to do if you get to the end of this process and still don't know, because that is a real, common outcome, not a failure.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why being stuck deciding whether to quit your business is not a willpower problem, and the exact phrase to repeat to yourself instead of forcing an answer you do not have yet.
• How to set a 30, 60, or 90 day decision window that lets you gather information about your business instead of reevaluating your entire existence every single morning.
• The keep, change, release, and don't know matrix, a framework for anyone stuck deciding whether to quit that breaks one impossible question into a dozen smaller, answerable ones.
• Why designing what an ordinary Tuesday looks like reveals more about whether your business fits your actual life than imagining your dream vacation or retirement ever will.
• How to experiment with a new direction, teaching, consulting, or a different industry, without committing to a full reinvention before you know if you even like it.
• Why creating distance from your business, then paying attention to what you miss once you are rested, gives you clearer data than trying to think your way to an answer.
• What to do if you finish this entire process and still do not have a clear answer about whether to stay in your business or leave it for good.

We talk about:

00:00 Stuck deciding whether to quit, and why that's okay

01:01 Step 1: stop deciding every single day

01:52 Step 2: preserve your options while you're unsure

02:52 Step 3: create a 30, 60, or 90 day decision window

03:57 Step 4: start with what you already know you don't want

05:24 Step 5: change one variable at a time

06:51 Step 6: build your keep, change, release, don't know matrix

07:57 Step 7: what does an ordinary Tuesday actually look like

09:37 Step 8: experiment before you reinvent yourself

10:59 Step 9: stop monetizing everything that makes you happy

12:12 Steps 10 and 11: run the numbers and create distance

14:47 Step 12: reassess and what to do if you still don't know

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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Are you burnt out or have you outgrown your business? That is the real question underneath every “I do not want to do this anymore” moment.

If you have looked at the business you worked so hard to build and thought about walking away, this episode is for you.

The advice you have probably heard, listen to your gut, follow what lights you up, wait for a hell yes, sounds great until you are actually depleted and none of it applies. Burnout and outgrowing a business feel almost identical from the inside, but they call for completely different next steps.

Sandra Bettina, host of The Life She Built and a wedding industry veteran turned business coach for women entrepreneurs, walks through the specific questions that actually separate burnout from outgrowing a business, including the business fairy thought experiment and the fantasize about quitting question.

You will learn why self care cannot fix a structural business problem and how to tell if you are protecting your business or just protecting the identity it gave you. If you have been asking whether you are done or just exhausted, this conversation gives you a real way to find out.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Sandra Bettina breaks down why common advice like listen to your gut and follow what lights you up stops working the moment you are genuinely depleted, and what to ask yourself instead.
• Learn the real difference between burnout, which sounds like I do not want to feel like this anymore, and outgrowing, which sounds like even if it were easier, I still would not want it.
• The business fairy thought experiment walks you through imagining three to six months of guaranteed rest with zero business consequences, then asks if you would actually want to come back.
• Discover why self care and vacations cannot fix a structurally broken business model, and how to tell when rest is masking a deeper problem you keep avoiding instead of solving.
• The fantasize about quitting question reveals whether you actually want out of the business itself or just out of the current conditions you happen to be working under right now.
• Sandra Bettina explains how to recognize when you are protecting the identity your business gave you, founder, boss, the woman who does it all, rather than protecting the business itself.
• Walk through the questions that separate a genuinely bad season from a business pattern you accidentally built, including when after this season stops being true and becomes the model.

We talk about:

00:00 Do you still want the business you built

00:01:39 Why listen to your gut fails you in burnout

00:03:40 The problem with the hell yes or hell no rule

00:06:03 Why you'll know when you know is a myth

00:08:11 Why a vacation cannot fix a broken business model

00:09:48 Burnout versus outgrowing your business defined

00:11:15 What are you really fantasizing about escaping

00:12:07 The business fairy test for rest and clarity

00:17:01 A different business or a different life

00:20:01 Are you burnt out or have you outgrown it

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
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Note: the audio quality in this episode is not as great as usual, but the message is still so important, please enjoy!

What does being authentic actually mean if you show up differently at work, at home, and on the dance floor? For a lot of women building businesses, the advice to have one polished, recognizable brand voice can feel like it is asking you to shrink into a single personality.

You start wondering if the version of you that laughs too loud is less real than the one giving advice on a podcast, or if switching between them makes you fake.

Sandra Bettina, host of The Life She Built, breaks down why authenticity was never about being one version of yourself in every room. Sandra names the many versions of her that show up depending on the moment, from microphone Sandra to wedding day Sandra to dance floor chaos Sandra, and explains why letting each one out does not make you inconsistent, it means your values are steady even when your delivery changes. You will walk away with a simple weekly practice for noticing which version of you has been waiting for permission to show up.

If you have ever felt like you have to pick one lane to be believable, this episode is your permission slip to stop.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why being called wise by a listener made Sandra uncomfortable, and what it revealed about the gap between her podcast voice and how her closest friends would actually describe her.
• Why "be yourself" and "have one brand voice" advice from marketing gurus can water entrepreneurs down into one flat personality instead of honoring how complex they actually are.
• What being authentic actually means when your values stay the same but how you show up changes across work, motherhood, friendships, and everything in between.
• How Sandra moves between different versions of herself, from business coach and mentor Sandra to wedding day Sandra to dance floor chaos Sandra, without any of them being fake.
• Why showing up loud behind closed doors and quiet in public does not make you inconsistent, as long as your core values follow you into every room.
• A simple weekly practice for noticing which version of you needs attention right now, whether that is rest, creation, connection, or permission to let loose.
• Why not every story or every episode needs a tidy life lesson at the end, and what that shift means for how Sandra plans to keep showing up here.

We talk about:

00:00 Why being called wise made Sandra uncomfortable

01:00 What Sandra's closest friends would actually say about her

02:29 Am I being fake or just multidimensional?

03:29 Why "be yourself" branding advice falls short

04:37 What does being authentic even actually mean

05:22 How Sandra shows up differently six times a day

07:04 Meet the many versions of Sandra, from mic to wedding day

08:36 Why none of these versions are fake

10:52 The real definition of authenticity Sandra lives by

12:00 Which version of you needs attention this week

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
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Lessons learned in your 30s tend to surface right before a milestone birthday, and turning 39 is exactly what pushed Sandra Bettina to look back on the decade that built her. In this solo episode of The Life She Built, she opens up about the friendships, the marriage, the businesses, and the hard seasons that shaped who she is now, and the realization that peace is not something you find, it is something you protect.

Sandra Bettina, wedding planner and business coach behind The Life She Built, walks through ten specific lessons from her 30s, from why marriage is built in ordinary moments to why the right people never make you beg for belonging, and why the Mel Robbins let them theory changed how she handles everyone from difficult clients to distant friends. She also shares six intentions for the year ahead, including her health, growing this podcast into live events, and reconnecting with her Bosnian Serbian roots. She calls the boundary she protects no matter what her peaceful parking spot. Press play, then tell her which lesson hits closest to home for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The people you choose become the life you live, and why Sandra Bettina says protecting who has access to your life is one of the biggest lessons of her 30s.
• Why marriage is built in the ordinary moments, like a morning coffee or a mid-day text, not the big gestures, after twelve years married and eighteen together.
• Why time does not wait, and how watching her daughters grow while she made plans became one of the hardest lessons Sandra has learned as a mom.
• Why peace is not found but protected, and how Sandra built what she calls her peaceful parking spot through boundaries and a guarded calendar.
• How the Mel Robbins let them theory changed the way Sandra handles unsupportive friends, difficult clients, and family members who will not change.
• Why losing two friends in their 40s reshaped Sandra's definition of health, shifting her focus from appearance to strength, energy, and longevity.
• Sandra's six intentions for the year ahead, from building The Life She Built into live events to reconnecting with her Bosnian Serbian roots.

We talk about:

00:00 Why turning 39 feels different this year

03:05 The people you choose become your life

04:26 Why marriage is built in ordinary moments

05:57 Your kids are growing while you plan

07:07 Why peace is protected not found

08:37 Where your attention goes your life follows

10:19 Why the right people never make you beg

12:38 Why health became freedom after losing friends young

14:19 Why your dreams are allowed to evolve

16:33 Sandra's intentions and goals for her 40s

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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How I want to age is the question host Sandra Bettina keeps coming back to as she counts down to her 39th birthday, and it has nothing to do with looking young. In this solo episode of The Life She Built, Sandra unpacks why she stopped chasing her old #Forever26 mindset and started asking who she actually wants to become instead of how she wants to look. If you have ever felt pressure to reverse, fight or hide your age, this conversation reframes aging as something you build on purpose, decade by decade.

Sandra Bettina, host of The Life She Built, walks through the specific traits she hopes age gives her, from patience and curiosity to being easier to be around, and why she believes wrinkles are far less scary than becoming bitter. She talks honestly about sunscreen, retinol and self-care without letting any of it become her identity, and shares the legacy question she asks herself: what she hopes people will say about her at 70. This episode is an invitation to stop mourning the woman you used to be and start appreciating the woman you are becoming.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why Sandra stopped chasing her old #Forever26 identity and started asking who she wants to become instead of how she wants to look as she ages.
• How reframing aging around character instead of appearance changes the goals you set for your 40s, 50s and 60s, decade by decade.
• Why Sandra wants her body to give her freedom rather than a certain shape, and how that shifted her relationship with fitness and strength training.
• The specific traits Sandra hopes age gives her, including patience, curiosity, security and being easier to be around as she gets older.
• Why Sandra separates real self-care from chasing youth, and how she still wears sunscreen and uses retinol without making it her identity.
• The legacy question Sandra asks herself: what she hopes people say about her at 70, and why it has nothing to do with looking young.
• Why staying curious and interested is what actually keeps women feeling young, according to Sandra, more than any skincare routine.

We talk about:

00:00 Why turning 39 got Sandra thinking about aging

00:49 The woman she's building for her daughters to see

02:07 Letting go of the #Forever26 mindset

04:16 Who do you hope to become as you age

05:24 Sandra's honest take on sunscreen, retinol and self-care

06:27 Why she's fine with wrinkles and gray hair

07:43 Redefining fitness and strength beyond aesthetics

09:53 Why being easy to be around matters more with age

12:03 The legacy Sandra wants instead of looking young

15:11 What would people say about you at 70

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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High standards vs control is the line most ambitious women never learn to see until it starts costing them a relationship.

If people leave time with you feeling smaller instead of lighter, if your spouse has quietly stopped initiating or your kids have stopped experimenting in front of you, the problem might not be your standards. It might be the control hiding underneath them.

In this episode, Sandra holds up two mirrors: the cost your need to control has on you, and the cost it has on everyone around you, and she has a feeling one of them is much harder to look into than the other.

Sandra Bettina, entrepreneur, designer, and host of The Life She Built, walks through what she calls the flaw detector, the pattern that forms when correction becomes constant and joy quietly disappears from vacations, hosting, parenting, and business.

She names the exact difference between the selectively high maintenance standard she introduced in episode six and the control that masquerades as leadership, then closes with a one week challenge to notice what deserves celebrating instead of what could have been better.

If you have ever wondered why the people around you have gotten quieter or more careful, this episode names it plainly and offers a way back to trust.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The real difference between high standards and control, and why one inspires people while the other intimidates them and quietly pushes them away.
• How constant correction rewires your brain into what Sandra calls a flaw detector, a scanning pattern that makes it nearly impossible to notice beauty, effort, or progress around you.
• What it means to be emotionally expensive to be around, including the small daily habits, like correcting grammar or refolding towels, that quietly wear people down over time.
• Why people stop initiating, stop taking ownership, and stop bringing their full selves to you once your standards start to feel impossible to meet.
• The distinction between the selectively high maintenance mindset from episode six and the need to control everything, and why one builds connection while the other quietly destroys it.
• A one week challenge for noticing what deserves celebrating instead of what could have been better, and how that single shift changes how people feel in your presence.
• Why the opposite of control is not carelessness, but trust, curiosity, and grace, and where to start practicing that today.

We talk about:

00:00 Are you actually enjoyable to be around

00:44 Confusing high standards with constant correction

01:09 The line between selectively high maintenance and control

01:30 Mirror one, who your need for control is turning you into

02:26 How control turns your brain into a flaw detector

03:26 Mirror two, how other people experience you

04:23 What makes someone emotionally expensive to be around

05:08 The hidden message behind constant correction

05:50 Why people stop trying around a controlling person

07:18 Is it high standards or is it control

07:45 A one week challenge to loosen your grip

08:35 How Sandra wants to be remembered instead

Connect with Sandra

• Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuiltpod/
• Follow Sandra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaco
• Follow Sandra Bettina Weddings https://www.instagram.com/sandrabettinaevents/
• Newsletter: https://sandra-bettina.myflodesk.com/crld98o9n1

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Business mistakes entrepreneurs make often start small, undercharging one project, saying yes out of fear, skipping a real schedule, and quietly compound into years of lost profit and burnout. If you have ever pushed harder instead of pricing higher, said yes when your gut said no, or hired someone in a panic, this episode names exactly why that happens and what actually breaks the pattern.

Sandra Bettina, business coach and host of The Life She Built, spent over a decade building her own business before she could name these patterns clearly. In this solo episode, she walks through eight mistakes, from undercharging to hiring while on fire, that cost her money, time, and peace before she learned to catch them sooner. You walk away with language for the moment you are tempted to overwork, overgive, or ignore your gut, and permission to trust your own judgment over everyone else's opinion.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why treating not caring about money as a badge of honor is one of the fastest ways to quietly sabotage your own pricing and profitability.
• How undercharging and overworking feed each other in a cycle where the answer always feels like working harder instead of charging more.
• Why decisions made from scarcity, saying yes out of fear instead of alignment, quietly close the door on the better opportunity waiting behind them.
• What it actually costs to hold onto business models, services, or people that are no longer the right fit for your life or your mental health.
• Why flexibility without any real structure creates chaos, and how building an actual schedule is what creates lasting freedom instead.
• Why hiring out of desperation instead of strategy almost always leads to costly, hard to reverse decisions you regret later.
• How blurring the line between leadership and friendship with employees creates confusion that makes accountability conversations even harder.

We talk about:

00:00 Welcome back to The Life She Built

01:14 Mistake #1, not paying attention to the numbers

03:51 Mistake #2, undercharging and overworking

05:00 Mistake #3, making decisions from scarcity

06:38 Mistake #4, holding on too long

08:11 Mistake #5, not having a real schedule

09:26 Mistake #6, hiring when I was on fire

10:54 Mistake #7, treating employees like friends

13:30 Mistake #8, listening to everyone else instead of myself

17:23 Why do good intentions not guarantee good decisions

18:11 What Sandra would tell her younger business self

19:03 How to share which mistake hit closest to home

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