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In this episode of Wedded Wednesday, Pastor Don and Lisa Smith tackle a quiet marriage killer: the little things that get overlooked. Not the big sins or major crises—but the small, daily moments of connection that slip away in the busyness of life.
📖 Scripture Focus – Psalm 118:24
"The Lord has done it this very day. Let us rejoice today and be glad."Don points out that the psalmist isn't talking about yesterday or tomorrow—he's talking about today. The joy God has for you is available right now. But so often, married couples miss it because they're overwhelmed by responsibilities, schedules, and the weight of "other things."
⏳ The 5-7 Year Fade
Don and Lisa introduce a phrase they use often: the five to seven year fade. This is the season when the "contract" of marriage takes over:
- Paying bills
- Raising kids
- Running to sports and school
- Work and chores
Suddenly, the time you have for each other gets squeezed, squeezed, squeezed—until connection becomes an afterthought. And here's the truth: it doesn't change, no matter how long you've been married. Even at 35 years, Don and Lisa still wrestle with it.
💡 The Little Things That Build Up
We often say the little things can cause damage. But the little things can also build up if you're intentional about them:
- A pop-in lunch at work
- A quick text that says, "I'm thinking about you"
- A spontaneous "get in the truck, we're going" adventure
- Sitting on the back porch together, no phones, just talking
Lisa shares how she used to think going to Don's softball games was pointless—until she realized it meant something to him for her to be there. She wasn't "doing" anything, but her presence was a gift.
🛠️ This Week's Challenge
For the next seven days, find one thing every day that was a blessing—and share it with your spouse. It can be small. Just say, "This was a blessing today. I really appreciated this."This simple practice helps fight the negative weight of responsibility and trains your heart to notice the good.
🗓️ Date Days Don't Have to Be Extravagant
Don and Lisa encourage couples to put "date days" in the budget as a line item. But don't get it twisted—a date day doesn't have to be expensive or complicated. It could be:
- Sitting on the porch watching the birds
- Holding hands and talking
- Watching a game together on the back patio (even if the mosquitoes come out!)
There's nothing unromantic about planning. In fact, it's more thoughtful because of the intentionbehind it.
💬 The Bottom Line
The crowd is never going away. Responsibilities are never going to stop. But don't overlook the little things that can be such a great blessing every day. As Lisa puts it: "Time is irreplaceable. We have to be intentional with our time."
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In this episode of Wedded Wednesday, Pastor Don and Lisa Smith tackle a quiet marriage killer: the little things that get overlooked. Not the big sins or major crises—but the small, daily moments of connection that slip away in the busyness of life.
📖 Scripture Focus – Psalm 118:24
"The Lord has done it this very day. Let us rejoice today and be glad."Don points out that the psalmist isn't talking about yesterday or tomorrow—he's talking about today. The joy God has for you is available right now. But so often, married couples miss it because they're overwhelmed by responsibilities, schedules, and the weight of "other things."
⏳ The 5-7 Year Fade
Don and Lisa introduce a phrase they use often: the five to seven year fade. This is the season when the "contract" of marriage takes over:
- Paying bills
- Raising kids
- Running to sports and school
- Work and chores
Suddenly, the time you have for each other gets squeezed, squeezed, squeezed—until connection becomes an afterthought. And here's the truth: it doesn't change, no matter how long you've been married. Even at 35 years, Don and Lisa still wrestle with it.
💡 The Little Things That Build Up
We often say the little things can cause damage. But the little things can also build up if you're intentional about them:
- A pop-in lunch at work
- A quick text that says, "I'm thinking about you"
- A spontaneous "get in the truck, we're going" adventure
- Sitting on the back porch together, no phones, just talking
Lisa shares how she used to think going to Don's softball games was pointless—until she realized it meant something to him for her to be there. She wasn't "doing" anything, but her presence was a gift.
🛠️ This Week's Challenge
For the next seven days, find one thing every day that was a blessing—and share it with your spouse. It can be small. Just say, "This was a blessing today. I really appreciated this."This simple practice helps fight the negative weight of responsibility and trains your heart to notice the good.
🗓️ Date Days Don't Have to Be Extravagant
Don and Lisa encourage couples to put "date days" in the budget as a line item. But don't get it twisted—a date day doesn't have to be expensive or complicated. It could be:
- Sitting on the porch watching the birds
- Holding hands and talking
- Watching a game together on the back patio (even if the mosquitoes come out!)
There's nothing unromantic about planning. In fact, it's more thoughtful because of the intentionbehind it.
💬 The Bottom Line
The crowd is never going away. Responsibilities are never going to stop. But don't overlook the little things that can be such a great blessing every day. As Lisa puts it: "Time is irreplaceable. We have to be intentional with our time."
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