Today on the show we’re doing things a little different. I share my interview with sex educator, Cassandra Corrado and we talk about the assumptions that people make about you when you’re a sex educator--like “you’re always down for sex” or have experienced every type of sex we teach about. We also answer the many questions I’ve received from listeners about sex after trauma and sexual assault. It’s a difficult topic and one that is important for us to discuss.

Resources from the Show 

Cassandra Corrado: www.cassandracorrado.com

Instagram: @feministsexed

Episode 8: Healthy Sex After Trauma Is Possible. Here’s How: https://cassandracorrado.com/you-deserve-good-sex/

National Sexual Violence Resource Centre (US): www.nsvrc.org

National Sexual Assault Hotline (US): www.rainn.org 

Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868

• Available to young Canadians between 5 to 29 years old who are seeking 24-hour confidential and anonymous care with professional counsellors.

Hope for Wellness 24/7 Help Line (Canada): 1-855-242-3310

• Available to all Indigenous peoples across Canada who are seeking immediate crisis intervention.

Help Starts Here: British Columbia Sexual Assault Resources: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/assets/gov/law-crime-and-justice/criminal-justice/bc-criminal-justice-system/if-victim/publications/hsh-english-sexual-assault.pdf

Peggy Orenstein Boys and Sex https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex

Good Morning America Interview with Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/video-new

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist

Today on the show, we're talking about what real sex looks like and how we can now see it on Netflix. I’m answering your questions about whether or not our own bodies can turn us on, and does that mean we’re autosexual? And how to keep that sexual spark alive in long distance relationships. I also share my interview with self-advocate, actor, and sexual health peer facilitator, Larissa Gunkel. Larissa and I talk about orgasms, relationships, and disability. We also discuss Sixpo, A Sexuality Conference happening next month in Vancouver, BC (online so anyone can attend!) that centres the experiences of people with disabilities.

Resources from the Show!

Romance, Relationships and Rights: Theatre for Social Change https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8l0tA3p0SA&ab_channel=RightsBasedSocialPolicy

Romance, Relationships and Rights Full Production https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkEAvMPig1g&t=1808s&ab_channel=RightsBasedSocialPolicy

Special on Netflix: https://www.entertainmentdaily.co.uk/tv/special-netflix-season-2-cast-about/

Ryan O’Connell is Passionate about Special’s Realistic Gay Sex Scenes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsOsZBoSACo&ab_channel=LateNightwithSethMeyers

LGBT and Disability: https://www.disabled-world.com/disability/sexuality/lgbt/

Academic Ableism: Disability and Higher Education: https://www.jstor.org/stable/j.ctvr33d50

Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies_sexuality/going_solo_the_basics_of_masturbation

Solo- and Autosexuality 101: https://glreview.org/article/solo-and-autosexuality-101/

6 Signs You Might Be Autosexual, aka Attracted to Yourself: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/autosexual-meaning-and-signs

Age of the Autosexual: The People Sexually Attracted to Themselves https://www.theguardian.com/society/shortcuts/2019/mar/04/age-of-the-autosexual-the-people-sexually-attracted-to-themselves

If You’re Your Own “Type” There’s a Word For That: https://www.elitedaily.com/p/can-you-be-attracted-to-yourself-autosexual-means-youre-your-own-type-19274890

Factors associated with sexual satisfaction in mixed-sex long-distance and geographically close relationships: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2020.1813884?journalCode=csmt20

Today on the show I'm getting into TikTok "hot girl" filters, answering your questions about what to do if your kid walks in on you masturbating and what to do about erectile dysfunction. I also share my interview with Chris Angel Murphy (they/them) of Gender Sexuality Info and honestly, it felt like I was having an intimate conversation with a dear friend. I am so honoured that Chris Angel shared their story of identity and how normalizing questioning as a lifelong orientation might open up some pretty amazing and pleasurable experiences.

Resources from the Show!

Chris Angel Murphy 

Instagram: @gendersexualityinfo

https://campsite.bio/gendersexualityinfo

Sex Positive Talks to Have With Your Kids by Melissa Pintor Carnagey

Instagram: @sexpositive_families

Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein

The Complicated Truth About Social Media and Body Image

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190311-how-social-media-affects-body-image

Lizzo And More Are Sharing Before And After Videos Of Themselves With Filters To Promote Body Positivity: https://www.buzzfeed.com/alexalisitza/body-positivity-kendrick-lamar-tiktok-trend

Get Roman https://www.getroman.com/

Is Erectile Dysfunction Psychological? https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/psychological

Psychological Determinants of Erectile Dysfunction Among Middle-Aged Men: https://www.nature.com/articles/ijir201434

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about bi-erasure and what to do if you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire. I also share my interview with Dr. Lori Brotto all about low desire particularly in women, what the media tells us about sex, and how mindfulness just might be the answer to a lot of our sexual issues.

Resources from the Show!

Dr. Lori Brotto 

Debunking Desire: https://www.debunkingdesire.com/

Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/37768048-better-sex-through-mindfulness

What Basson's Sexual Response Cycle Teaches Us About Sexuality:

https://www.lifeworkspsychotherapy.com/bassons-sexual-response-cycle-teaches-us-sexuality/

Gwyneth Paltrow’s Advice for Better Sex Involves Eggs (It’s all BS): https://www.elle.com.au/health-fitness/gwyneth-paltrow-jade-eggs-tip-for-better-sex-life-7441

John Oliver’s Venus Veil Sexual Wellness Blanket: https://venusinventions.com/

1 in 6 Gen Z Adults are LGBT. And This Number Could Continue To Grow:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2021/02/24/gen-z-lgbt/

How To Deal With Bi Erasure? https://swell.damewellness.co/what-is-bi-erasure/

Scarleteen www.scarleteen.com 

Sensible Sexpert Dr. Wendasha Jenkins Hall @thesensiblesexpert on Instagram

SIECCAN Workbooks: https://sieccan.org/sexual-health-education

The specific importance of communicating about sex to couples’ sexual and overall relationship satisfaction: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0265407510386833

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about oral sex and how to navigate differing religious views on sexuality, and how bi wife energy might make you even sexier. I also share my interview with YouTuber, Joe Lee. Joe and I talk about bisexuality, sharing your life online, and what it’s like to be bi guys in the gay community.

Resources from the Show 

Joe Lee 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/justjoelee/videos

Instagram: @justjoelee

Reflecting on Masculinity: Gym Culture, Gender Roles, Men's Makeup (with part of our interview!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Nn8XX640I4

Our Experience as a Bi Couple in the Gay Community: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LcsfaydsI2U&t=621s

Coming Out On Your Own Terms: It's Okay to Take Your Time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cp7c6Oyvc8

Marsha P. Johnson Biography: https://www.biography.com/activist/marsha-p-johnson

How LGBTQ Pride Month Became a Branded Holiday (Vox): https://www.vox.com/2018/6/25/17476850/pride-month-lgbtq-corporate-explained

Lego Unveils “Everyone Is Awesome!” Pride Set: https://www.starobserver.com.au/news/lego-unveils-everyone-is-awesome-pride-set/203626

Pela Pride Collection: https://pelacase.ca/collections/iphone-12-pro-max-case

Bud Light Pride: https://www.budlight.ca/ca_en/Pride

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Checklist https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist

After Another Attack Targeting Muslims, Critics Demand Promised Online Hate Legislation: https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/anti-hate-legislation-online-london-attack-1.6059915

Is Oral Sex Permitted in Islam? https://hadithoftheday.com/is-oral-sex-permitted-in-islam/

Is Oral Sex Between a Husband and Wife Permitted in Islam? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9GfgwlZyeY&ab_channel=HudaTV

Muslim Twitter Asks: Is Oral Sex Permitted in Islam? https://www.amaliah.com/post/45079/is-oral-sex-permissable-dj-khaled-talks-about-sex

Seminal Questions: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2006/jan/17/worlddispatch.egypt

Season 1: Episodes 8 & 9 with Percy and Episodes 10 & 11 with Clary!

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about compulsive heterosexuality and why we’re seeing it come up more and more on TikTok. I also share my interview with sexual health educator and viral TikTok sensation, Yes Tess. Tess and I talk about the trials and tribulations of trying to create sexual health content online and what questions we get asked all. The. time. As sexual health educators. For example, can you get pregnant from anal? 

Resources from the Show!

Yes Tess! www.yestess.ca 

Instagram @yestess_she

TikTok @yes.tess 

Start Up on Netflix (it’s amazing!)

Shan Boodram @shanboody 

Bi-Erasure: What it is, Why It’s a Threat to Health, and How to Put An End To It https://www.health.com/mind-body/lgbtq-health/bi-erasure

Compulsory Heterosexuality Definition:  https://www.academia.edu/37538706/Compulsory_Heterosexuality

Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence by Adrienne Rich: https://www.jstor.org/stable/3173834?seq=1

Compulsory Heterosexuality by Hannah Witton : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq5S8O0FpS8&ab_channel=HannahWitton

Am I a Lesbian? Masterdoc: https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1AA6RtNIJIYkXAb8pxguUZAUuA-zKv_y8kpE7WTaRDH4/mobilebasic#h.l9z9zzze83ui

Scarleteen www.scareleteen.com

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about figuring out if you’re bisexual and discuss why being married to a man doesn’t make me “formerly bisexual.” I also talk about birth control options and share a listener’s story about their experience with an IUD. I am also so excited to share my interview with Tabu CEO and founder, Mia Davis. Mia and I talk about creating the sexual health content we wish was available when we were younger and unpacking sexual shame.

Resources from the Show!

Mia Davis CEO and Founder of Tabu

Talk Tabu: https://www.talktabu.com/

Instagram: @talk.tabu and @tabuwellness

Mia’s New Podcast! Asking For Myself @asking4myself 

Erika Smith Purity Culture Drop Out: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program

Carpenter, L. M., & DeLamater, J. D. (2012). Sex for life: From virginity to Viagra, how sexuality changes throughout our lives. New York: New York University Press.

Show or Tell? Does Verbal and/or Nonverbal Sexual communication Matter for Sexual Satisfaction: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2018.1501446?scroll=top&needAccess=true&journalCode=usmt20

A New Study Finds that Doing This One Thing Makes Sex More Satisfying: https://www.glam.com/wellness/study-finds-communication-leads-to-sexual-satisfaction/

What Is Compassion Fatigue? https://www.tendacademy.ca/what-is-compassion-fatigue/

Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22693240-taking-charge-of-your-fertility

Effectiveness of Contraception Methods: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/birth-control/

Reproductive Justice Resources: https://www.fertilityawarenessprofessionals.com/reproductive-justice-resources/

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about bisexuality, and what to do if you find your kid masturbating. But I’m doing it a little differently cause I get some help answering your questions with the one and only Levi Hildebrand. I also interview Levi about his thoughts on the whole “bi wife energy” trend, what assumptions people have made about being in a relationship with a bisexual person and how he would really feel if we were to introduce another man into our relationship.

Resources from the Show!

HUMP Film Festival https://filmfreeway.com/HUMPFilmFest

Impurity Culture: Masturbation is Self Care: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics_sexual_identity_sexuality/impurity_culture_masturbation_is_selfcare

Bi Wife Energy is Subverting Straight Relationships: https://i-d.vice.com/en_uk/article/n7bjyk/what-is-bi-wife-energy-tiktok

What is Attachment Theory and How Does it Impact Sex and Relationships?: https://mashable.com/article/attachment-theory-explained/

Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/come-as-you-are-the/9781476762098-item.html

Scarleteen Website: www.scarleteen.com

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about sex and consent in long term relationships, the difference between sexual and emotional intimacy, and why gender diverse is not an umbrella term for LGBTQ2S+ folks.  I also share my interview with Dr. Charlotte Loppie, my mentor and the creator of the Healthy Sexuality course I taught at the University of Victoria. Both of us were interviewed with the University of Victoria’s Consent Advocates and Relationship Educators (CARE) program about consent and sex positivity.

Resources from the Show!

Dr. Charlotte Loppie at UVic: https://www.uvic.ca/hsd/publichealthsocialpolicy/faculty-staff/home/faculty/profiles/loppiecharlotte.php

Most Canadian Parents Comfortable with Sex Ed, Research Finds: https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/parenting/article-most-canadians-comfortable-with-sex-ed-two-studies-report/

Attitudes Towards Sexual Health Education in Schools: National Survey of Parents in Canada: https://utpjournals.press/doi/pdf/10.3138/cjhs.2020-0049

What Basson's Sexual Response Cycle Teaches Us About Sexuality: https://www.lifeworkspsychotherapy.com/bassons-sexual-response-cycle-teaches-us-sexuality/

Emotional Versus Sexual Intimacy: Why You Need to Know the Difference https://drkristieoverstreet.com/blog/emotional-versus-sexual-intimacy-why-you-need-to-know-the-difference/#:~:text=Think%20of%20emotional%20intimacy%20as,to%20help%20us%20feel%20whole.

Action Canada Gender Galaxy Resource: https://www.actioncanadashr.org/beyond-basics-sneak-peek-gender-galaxy

UVic CARE Program: https://www.uvic.ca/services/studentlife/initiatives/student-leadership/index.php 

Let’s Get Consensual! https://uvss.ca/consent/

Consent is Like a Cup of Tea video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDhKM8qWWBM&ab_channel=AyyLmao

Island Sexual Health Society: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org/ 

Options for Sexual Health: www.optionsforsexualhealth.org 

Scarleteen Website: https://www.scarleteen.com/

Getting Consent for Sex is Too Low a Bar (Enthusiastic Agreement article): https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/well/getting-consent-for-sex-is-too-low-a-bar.html

Today on the show I’m answering your questions about celebrities, sex work and how to be an ally to sex workers. I also share my interview with Allie Oops, head of production and intimacy director at AfterGlow, a new porn company focused on women’s pleasure. We talk about porn addiction, what makes ethical porn “ethical,” and why we should all be paying for our porn! If you want to check them out and all of the other amazing resources I share on the show, then check out www.leahtidey.com and click on Podcast.

Resources from the show!

Allie Oops: https://www.allie-oops.com/

Instagram: @cummanifesto 

Twitter: @cummanifesto

New Website! www.leahtidey.com

After Glow: http://xoafterglow.com/

Lil Nas X Call Me By Your Name Music Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6swmTBVI83k&ab_channel=LilNasXVEVO

The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Children of the Street: https://www.childrenofthestreet.com/

Opinion Piece: The Children of Pornhub https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/04/opinion/sunday/pornhub-rape-trafficking.html

Nick Kristof and the Holy War on Pornhub: https://newrepublic.com/article/160488/nick-kristof-holy-war-pornhub

Sensual Solutions: http://www.sensualsolutions.ca/

PEERS: Victoria Resource Society: https://www.safersexwork.ca/

Pivot Legal: Sex Workers Rights:  https://www.pivotlegal.org/sex_workers_rights

Scarlet Road: A Sex Worker’s Journey

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMXjc_Ow4mg&ab_channel=Thalles

Sexual Healing: Inside the World of Medically Assisted Sex

https://decriminalizesex.work/slutever2019/

Is That Legal? What the Law Says about Online Harassment and Abuse: 

https://pubsdb.lss.bc.ca/pdfs/pubs/Is-That-Legal-eng.pdf