Verbal & Emotional abuse healing bible study

Over the last fifteen years of ministry I have encountered hundreds of Christians that struggle to hear the voice of God and on top of that struggle to receive His love, compassion and long suffering towards them. In this study we will equip, edify, heal and mature the body of Sure Foundation Community Fellowship Church. This will enable us as a congregation to hear and receive from God more effectively and allow us to be more effective servants of Christ. 

#1 The Love of God

#2 Radical Commitment 

#3 Sacredness

#4 Faithfulness 

#5 Forgiveness

#6 Friendship

#7 Emotional safety

#8 Affection, attraction and attention

#9 A growing understanding of your spouse 

#10 A Commitment to godly conduct

What is Spiritually minded?

4152 pneumatikós (an adjective, derived from 4151 /pneúma, "spirit") – spiritual; relating to the realm of spirit, i.e. the invisible sphere in which the Holy Spirit imparts faith, reveals Christ, etc.

Ask and Answer the question: Are the actions of our life dedicated to God and approved by Him, due to the influence of the Holy Spirit?

Ask and Answer the question: Am I moved to action by the influence of the Holy Spirit, which results in the fruit of the spirit? 

The Fruit of the Spirit is: 2590 karpós – properly, fruit; (figuratively) everything done in true partnership with Christ, i.e. a believer (a branch) lives in union with Christ (the Vine). By definition, fruit (2590 /karpós) results from two life-streams – the Lord living His life through ours – to yield what is eternal (cf. 1 Jn 4:17). Metaphorically, that which originates or comes from something; an effect, result; equivalent to, work, act, deed:

Galatians 5:22-23

The nine attributes are:

What is Carnally minded?

4561 sárks properly, flesh ("carnal"), merely of human origin or empowerment. 4561 (sarks) is generally negative, referring to making decisions (actions) according to self – i.e. done apart from faith (independent from God's inworking). Romans 14:23 

"But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin"

 Thus what is "of the flesh (carnal)" is by definition displeasing to the Lord – even things that seem "respectable!" In short, flesh generally relates to unaided human effort, i.e. decisions (actions) that originate from self or are empowered by self. Paul taught that leaders must not be self-will 

" For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money"

This is carnal ("of the flesh") and proceeds out of the untouched (unchanged) part of us – i.e. what is not transformed by God.

 note that 'flesh' signifies the entire nature of man, sense and reason, without the Holy Spirit"

For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. 8 So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God..

Book- Understanding Emotional and Verbal abuse by June Hunt

Defining Verbal Abuse

Name: _____________________________________

Scriptures: Psalm 52:2-3, 1 Peter 2:23, Proverbs 12:18, Galatians 4:17, Psalm 34:18, Psalm 147:3

Scripture Focus Topic- 2 Samuel 13:1-30

What is Verbal Abuse?

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Why do you think the seriousness of verbal and emotional abuse are often minimized?

What effect can words have on people?

 Understanding Emotional and Verbal abuse by June Hunt

Defining Emotional Abuse

Name: _____________________________________

Scriptures: Psalm 27:11-12, Luke 12:6-7, Proverbs 17:22, Proverbs 18:14, Proverbs 13:12, Ecclesiastes 7:9, John 6:37, Philippians 2:3-4, Ephesians 4:29-32

Scripture Focus Topic- 2 Samuel 13:1-30

What is Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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The Story of Tamar: Overt and Covert Rejection 2 Samuel 13:1-30

Person

Response

Tamar

Absalom, her brother

David, her father

Ammon

Jonadab

Abuse in the bible ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

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For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. 6 For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. 8 So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.

Mindset 5426 phronéō(from 5424 /phrḗn, "the midriff or diaphragm; the parts around the heart," J. Thayer) –  It plays a major role in breathing, as its contraction increases the volume of the thorax and so inflates the lungs. properly, regulate (moderate) from within, as inner-perspective (insight) shows itself in corresponding, outward behavior. 

“The way you perceive the world from within, will dictate how you live outwardly”

“Mindset goes beyond just what you perceive; it is manifested in what you pursue.”

Mindset directs one's mind to a thing, to seek or strive for; to seek one's interests or advantage Meaning what I perceive as best for me; to be of one's party, side with him. being personified), to pursue those things which gratify the flesh, ... the Holy Spirit.

Ask and answer the question: what am I seeking or striving for? Pleasing God or gratifying my fleshy desire.

Ask and answer the question: what do I perceive as best for me in a given situation, circumstance or decision? The answer show a desire to gratify the flesh,.....the Holy Spirit 

Ask and answer the question: who am I siding with God’s word and the Holy Spirit or myself and my feelings, desires and thoughts?

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.

5427 phrónēma (a neuter noun) – properly visceral opinion (the innermost, personal level of opinion); inner perspective as it determines (regulating) outward behavior, especially as it bears on the outward results (i.e. of exercising personal insight). Note the suffix, -ma, pointing to the result of the verbal idea. See 5429 (phronimos). ‘

Ask and answer the question: Does my innermost personal level opinion agree with God’s will for my situation?

Does my inner-perspective bear out in godliness and obedience towards God’s word and Holy Spirit?

“Your inner-perspective is manifested in your outward behavior, and your inner-opinion is manifested by your verbal ideas”

 Mindset influences “What you do and what you say”

“Mindset is the process that determining your inclination or  purpose”

5427 /phrónēma ("the results of gut-insight") connects how the individual processes opinion-making to how they act. (mental) inclination or purpose -- (be, + be carnally, + be spiritually) mind(-ed).

What is my gut-insight concerning the events,circumstances and decisions facing me? Does this inclination produce obedience to God’s word and a knowledge of God's will?

Psalm 51:6 truth in the inward parts 

2910. tuchah: of seat of faithfulness  Psalm 51:6 faithfulness thou desirest in the inward parts, the heart of man.