In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get into something that started as a laugh and turned into a real conversation about truth-telling. Calvalyn's TikTok confession, that she doesn't know how to do the Tamia line dance, went viral using the "Netflix documentary" trend, and the comments turned into an unexpected social experiment: hundreds of women disclosing things they don't normally say out loud, from experiencing colorism, as the darkest child in the family to restarting a fitness journey for the hundredth time.

Elizabeth and Calvalyn dig into why so many of us carry stories on loop in our heads without ever speaking them, the loss of communal spaces like the barbershop and beauty shop, the "what happens at home stays at home" rule so many grew up with, the shame of not having anyone in your circle who shares your experience, and the pressure on high-achieving Black women to look like they don't need anything. They talk through the Kirk Franklin moment that went viral, family roles and the myth that people are two-dimensional, the physical cost of carrying isolation and unspoken grief (tying back to the weathering of Black women's bodies), and how social media has created connection without real intimacy.

This episode speaks to anyone who has ever held a story in because they weren't sure it would be received well, whether that's about infertility, financial strain, childhood, or simply feeling like the only one in the room who doesn't get it. The core message: there's a real cost to carrying it alone, and speaking your truth, even in small, safe places like a therapist's office or a trusted support group, can be the very thing that reconnects you to community.

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Calvalyn, https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Key Takeaways

•       You are not the only one carrying a story you've never said out loud, and that silence has a cost.

•       The barbershop and beauty shop used to be built-in community; independence has quietly taken some of that away from you.

•       "What happens at home stays at home" may be protecting you from something you actually need to release.

•       Carrying a heavy thing alone is heavier than carrying it with someone who can share the weight.

•       High-achieving does not mean you're not allowed to be tired, struggling, or in need of support.

•       People you admire are still human, don't withhold space for someone else's humanity just because they perform well.

•       Not every space is safe for your story; some spaces deserve your story, and some deserve your caution.

•       A therapist or support group can be the safest first place to test the waters of a story you've never told.

•       The cost of hiding a story is often higher than the cost of telling it.

•       You get to decide what to share, how much, and with whom, there is no one-size-fits-all answer.

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get real about what happens when a woman runs on empty and doesn't even realize it.

Sparked by a twenty-four-hour stretch where every single device in Elizabeth's life died at the same time, this conversation turns a dead battery into a full-blown revelation about the state of her own soul, mind, and body. If you've ever felt yourself running low without knowing exactly when it started, this one is for you.

Liz and Cal walk through what it actually looks like to live in the yellow: decision fatigue, snapping at things that don't usually bother you, everything feeling like an urgent fire. Cal shares her own wake-up call, a medical diagnosis brought on by being stretched too thin, and the two dig into why capacity isn't fixed and changes season to season. They name busyness as a hidden energy drainer, especially heading into back-to-school season, and ask the pointed question: which battery drainer is the most socially rewarded? From caregiving careers to church house culture, they get honest about how overgiving gets praised right up until it breaks you. They also separate real recharge from the recharge myth, wine, weed, doom scrolling, retail therapy, and oversleeping, and lay out their own non-negotiables, including the three-minute buffer between transitions.

This episode speaks directly to the high achievers, the over-givers, and the come-through queens who have a hard time saying no. The core message: give yourself permission to plug in before you hit zero, and don't expect everyone around you to applaud the change. The people who truly love you will adjust.

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Calvalyn — https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Elizabeth — https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Key Takeaways

•       You don't have to hit zero before you're allowed to plug in. Catch the warning signs early: decision fatigue, snapping easily, everything feeling urgent.

•       Your capacity isn't fixed. Some seasons you'll only charge to eighty percent, and that's not failure, that's information.

•       Busyness is socially rewarded, but it is still an energy drainer. Protect white space on your calendar on purpose.

•       Ask yourself honestly whether your go-to recharge, wine, scrolling, shopping, sleep, actually recharges you or just numbs you.

•       Retail therapy is not therapy. Notice what you're really trying to soothe before you spend.

•       Build a robust list of things that genuinely refuel you, because you already have a robust list of things that drain you.

•       Once you find what recharges you, stop canceling it. Put it in ink, not pencil.

•       A three-minute buffer between transitions can reset your nervous system more than you think.

•       Give yourself permission to change your pace, even if the people around you don't applaud it. The right people will adjust.

•       Overgiving in caregiving careers, at church, and at home is often praised right up until it costs you your health.

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day introduce The Broken Window Reset, a midyear check-in built on an unexpected source: broken windows theory, a criminology concept about how visible signs of neglect invite more disorder. Elizabeth and Calvalyn take that idea out of the streets and into real life, asking what “broken windows” you’ve been walking past in your own home, body, career, relationships, and mind.

They cover a lot of ground, in the way that only they can, including Calvalyn sharing her own broken rearview mirror story, and Elizabeth breaking down why every unresolved “window” is a daily energy spend. 

This episode speaks directly to high achievers, over-givers, and go-to girls who are quick to manage everyone else’s life while their own goes unattended, including the moment Calvalyn gently calls out using your kids as the excuse for not dealing with your own stuff. It’s not another new-year, new-you reset. It’s an invitation to get honest about the one or two windows that matter most, take a small step, and give yourself the grace that usually meets you on the other side of doing the work.

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Calvalyn, https://www.instagram.com/calvalyn/?hl=en

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Calvalyn, https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Calvalyn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

Elizabeth, https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Key Takeaways

•       A broken window in your life doesn’t have to be literal, it can be an avoided conversation, an unopened inbox, a postponed appointment, or a goal you’ve quietly given up on.

•       Every broken window you walk past communicates something to you, and that daily thought is quietly draining your energy.

•       Confidence and broken windows are connected, it’s hard to feel worthy of more when you’re privately tolerating disrepair.

•       You don’t have to fix every window at once. Identify the one or two “main windows” and take a small, specific step.

•       Sweeping overhauls rarely work because your brain needs continual, small steps, not a total reset.

•       Sometimes you didn’t break the window, you inherited it. That doesn’t make it your fault, but it does make it your responsibility now.

•       Get specific about what “fixed” actually looks like for you, especially if a window has been broken so long you’ve forgotten what whole looks like.

•       Limiting beliefs are broken windows too, and they deserve the same urgency you’d give any other repair.

•       Your kids are not your broken window. Managing their future doesn’t excuse avoiding your own.

•       Repairing a broken window usually brings grace, and if it doesn’t come from someone else, you’re allowed to give it to yourself.

Keywords

Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, broken windows theory, midyear reset, personal growth, energy management, limiting beliefs, self-improvement, mental load, confidence, high achievers, relationship boundaries, health checkups, women’s wellbeing, coaching, life coach, therapist podcast

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get real about weathering, a discussion that is perfect for Minority Mental Health Month.

They break down where the term comes from (public health researcher Dr. Arline Geronimus's 1990s research), what allostatic load actually means for your body, and why migraines, gut issues, autoimmune flare-ups, and the specific exhaustion of code-switching might be your body keeping score.

This episode speaks to the high-achieving woman who is tired in a way rest doesn't touch, the one everyone calls the strong one, and the one who's been told her whole life to push through. Elizabeth and Calvalyn's core message: you don't have to shrink your ambition to protect your body — you have to stop carrying it alone.

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Elizabeth — https://www.instagram.com/lovinglifewithliz

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Elizabeth — https://www.tiktok.com/@lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn — https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Calvalyn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

Elizabeth — https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Key Takeaways

•       You are not exempt from weathering just because you've made it — income and education don't protect your body from cumulative stress.

•       Migraines, gut issues, and autoimmune flare-ups can be your body's way of telling you it's weathering.

•       Code-switching fatigue is real. Being tired of performing is different from being tired of doing.

•       One hour of self-care can't undo 167 hours of structural stress — soothing and addressing are not the same thing.

•       Build a full care team: a doctor who truly sees you, a therapist, and a life coach.

•       If your doctor says they “don't see color,” that's a red flag, not a compliment.

•       You don't have to eliminate stress to protect your health — you get to choose which stress is worth carrying.

•       Being “the strong one” doesn't mean you're not weathering. It just means no one's asking how you're doing.

•       Advocacy, boundaries, and community are not optional extras — they're part of your actual health care.

•       You can still be ambitious. This is about building the infrastructure to sustain your dreams, not shrinking them.

Chapters

00:00  Welcome & Shenanigans

01:10  Why We're Talking About Weathering Now

02:26  Defining Weathering: The Research Behind the Word

05:36  Allostatic Load & the Cost Your Body Pays

08:34  Success Doesn't Make You Exempt

12:12  When Making It Still Isn't Protection

18:22  Signs You Might Be Weathering

21:30  The Exhaustion of Code-Switching

23:32  Why Bubble Baths Don't Fix Weathering

25:06  Soothing vs. Addressing

26:09  Advocacy, Boundaries & Your Care Team

26:54  Finding a Doctor Who Sees You

35:05  Sleep, High-Functioning Depression & Your Support Team

36:48  Redesigning Ambition Without the Cost

42:04  Your Weathering Action Plan

Keywords

Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, weathering, weathering hypothesis, Arline Geronimus, allostatic load, Black women's health, minority mental health month, high-achieving Black women, code-switching, self-care, mental load, chronic stress, medical advocacy, therapy, life coaching, Black maternal health, ambition and health

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day dig into one of the most deeply rooted patterns affecting high-achieving women, and Black women in particular: the identity that forms when you spend a lifetime being everything to everyone else and very little to yourself. Calvalyn calls it the 92%ers topic. Buckle in.

Sparked by two viral videos, one from an elderly woman, talking about women who never learn to receive care, and another featuring Wall Street powerhouse Carla Harris in conversation with Mel Robbins about fear and fatigue as the two forces that keep Black women from reaching their full potential, Elizabeth and Calvalyn go deep into the science and the soul of it all. They explore how caregiving identity forms in childhood, how repeated patterns beat neural pathways in the brain, how the fear of being called lazy is a trauma response rooted in generational history, and why emotional excavation is the only way out. 

This episode is for every woman who has held her pee so she could cross one more thing off her list, who always says 'I got it' when someone offers to help, or who has accomplished so much she's exhausted at the thought of going after the thing that she really wants. Elizabeth and Calvalyn close with a powerful challenge for every woman who is ready to love her life. 

Resources Mentioned

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, Dr. Joy DeGruy https://amzn.to/4xvneC1

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Elizabeth, https://www.instagram.com/lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn, https://www.instagram.com/calvalyn/?hl=en

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Elizabeth, https://www.tiktok.com/@lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn, https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Calvalyn, https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

Elizabeth, https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Chapters

00:00  Opening: The 92%ers Topic, Buckle In

00:52  Why This Episode Matters (and Why You Should Share It)

01:16  How an Episode Gets Born: TikTok Inboxes and Toe-Dipping

04:30  Video 1: Women Conditioned to Caregive from Birth

05:05  The Question: When Did You First Start Taking Care of Others?

06:55  Calvalyn's Story: Being an Auntie Before She Was Born

07:52  When Identity Forms Around What Others Need from You

08:25  If You've Ever Felt Like: Who Am I Without the People I Care For?

09:00  How Caregiving Patterns Show Up in Adult Relationships

10:22  Raising People Who Can Stand on Their Own

12:33  The Cultural Context: Adultifying Black Children

14:12  We Are Not Raising Children to Step Aside

15:26  Leila's School Project: A Lesson in Not Giving Up Your Seat

18:02  What We're Excavating Now Was Planted Then

19:00  Brain Science: How Repeated Patterns Become Your Operating System

21:54  When to Work with a Therapist or Coach

22:25  Video 2: Carla Harris on Fear and Fatigue for Black Women

24:25  Overqualified and Exhausted: The Cost of Getting Here

26:18  Fear Gets More Sophisticated as You Age, Elizabeth's Take

27:07  Where Do They Actually Want Us? A Real Conversation

28:46  Elizabeth's Childhood Memory: Swallowing Grief to Protect Her Dad

30:33  It Wasn't Wrong, But Look at the Meaning You Made from It

31:30  The L Word: How Fear of Being Called Lazy Is a Generational Wound

32:23  Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome and What We Passed Down

32:45  Elizabeth's Pee Story, and What It Actually Means

34:12  Saying 'I Got It' When Someone Offers to Help

35:25  What Would It Look Like to Actually Receive?

35:44  The Abundance Challenge: $21 and a Tag-In

37:46  The Pre-Work Question: Where Do You Feel Supported Right Now?

39:40  Train Your Brain to See More of What You Want

40:25  The Reticular Activating System and Why Gratitude Changes Everything

42:23  Gratitude and Desire Can Coexist, You Don't Have to Choose

43:47  You Don't Have to Be Old and Tired

44:14  Close: Love Your Life and the People in It

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get honest about the one conversation nobody wants to have...the cost of staying stuck.

Life feels hard right now: gas prices, layoffs, uncertainty, a season that won’t quit. But Elizabeth and Calvalyn make a powerful case that hard is on both sides of the equation. It is hard to stay exactly where you are. It is hard to change. The question is: which hard are you willing to live with?

Drawing on brain science, faith, personal stories, and real talk, Elizabeth and Calvalyn break down why your brain is wired to keep you in familiar discomfort, what self-betrayal and self-abandonment actually look like when you keep deferring your own life, and how staying stuck is not the safe route, it is just the familiar one.

This episode is for every woman who has put her dreams on a vision board, scripted it, visualized it, and still has not taken a single step. Elizabeth and Calvalyn remind their Love-You-to-Lifers that confidence comes from movement, clarity comes from movement, and the right time is not coming to save you.

Resources Mentioned:

Mastering the Messy Middle Workshop

Check out The Well Counseling & Consulting Group

Stay Connected!

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Elizabeth — @lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn — @calvalyn

TikTok

Elizabeth — @lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn — @calvalynday

LinkedIn

Calvalyn Day

Elizabeth White, LMHC, LCAC

Chapters

01:00  Why Things Feel Hard Right Now

02:00  Choose Your Hard: It’s Hard to Stay AND Hard to Change

04:30  Do You Know Who You Are?

06:30  Laughter Is Medicine: Why We Clown in Love You To Life Land

07:30  Elizabeth’s Story: The Speech Class That Almost Cost Her a Degree

09:00  What You Avoid Is Often Where Your Purpose Lives

10:00  Going All In: 10 Toes Down on the Hard Decision

12:30  Doing Hard Things Creates Neural Pathways

13:00  Your Brain’s One Job: Keep You Alive, Not Happy

14:00  Self-Betrayal and Self-Abandonment Nobody Talks About

14:30  Comparison, Resentment & Who Is Really the Problem

15:30  Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, Your Voice & What Happens When You Stay Silent

16:00  Staying Stuck Makes Discomfort Familiar

17:00  David Goggins, Pain & Why Success Does Not Have to Hurt

18:00  Getting Unstuck Looks Nothing Like the Movies

18:30  Calvalyn’s Story: The Quiet Moment She Decided to Get Divorced

19:30  The Messy Middle: What Happens Between the Decision and the Destination

20:00  You Don’t Have to Connect All the Dots Right Now

21:30  Clarity and Confidence Come from Movement, Not Waiting

22:00  Faith, the Unknown Hard & Choosing to Move Anyway

23:00  Vision Boards Won’t Work Without Micro Steps

24:00  Walk Around the Living Room. Take the Skin Off the Chicken.

25:00  Therapy, Certified Life Coaching & Support Groups

26:00  How to Find the Right Therapist (and Why 3–5 Sessions Is Fair)

27:00  Girl, You Just Wait — Elizabeth’s Self-Talk Strategy

29:00  Faith, Patience & What the Book Says About the Other Side

30:00  Get Clear on What the Other Side Could Look Like

32:00  Every Day You Don’t Choose, You’re Still Choosing

33:00  Areas Where Stuckness Hides: Marriage, Parenting, Business

35:00  Church, Cities, Careers & Giving Yourself Permission to Change

37:00  Calvalyn’s Career Pivot (and Her Fresh-Cut Bangs)

38:00  Where Are You Not Satisfied? Go Investigate.

39:00  Community Challenge: Tell Us the Hard Thing You Did

Keywords

getting unstuck, choose your hard, doing hard things, fear of change, staying stuck, self-betrayal, self-abandonment, growth mindset, neural pathways, brain science and behavior, messy middle, comfort zone, moving forward, life transitions, Black women empowerment, high achievers, women and mental health, therapy for women, certified life coach, support community, vision board, micro steps, faith and action, fear of the unknown, love you to life podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, women doing hard things, stuck and scared, clarity comes from movement, right time is waiting on you

In this episode of the Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get real about the money conversations nobody wants to have, and why they are the ones you need most.

Rather than another budget tip or expense-cutting checklist, Elizabeth and Calvalyn go beneath the strategies to uncover the money stories, money wounds, and money mindsets that are quietly running your financial life.

Drawing on their combined expertise in emotional intelligence, coaching, and lived experience, the two explore how generational poverty cues (yes, including the grease can on the stove), childhood scarcity, and survival-mode thinking shape the way you earn, spend, save, and give money today, often without you even realizing it.

They break down the four core money personality types, share vulnerable personal stories about overspending to feel worthy and being the “bank and backbone” for family members, and explain why financial freedom is not tied to a budget, it’s tied to what you are willing to face.

Elizabeth and Calvalyn also push back on shame-based financial advice and make the case that healing your money wounds must come before (or alongside) any money strategy. They speak directly to high-achieving Black and brown women who are overqualified, carrying the financial weight of their families, and still wondering why the app isn’t working. Spoiler: it’s a belief issue, a boundaries issue, and a worthiness issue long before it is a budgeting issue.

Resources Mentioned:

Heal Your Relationship with Money by Kara Stevens

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Elizabeth — @lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn — @calvalyn

TikTok

Elizabeth — @lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn — @calvalynday

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Calvalyn Day

Elizabeth White, LMHC, LCAC

Chapters

00:00  Introduction & Crowdsourcing a Theme Song

01:00  Why Money Conversations Are Nobody’s Favorite

02:30  Money Strategies Won’t Fix What You Won’t Face

04:00  Poverty Cues: Sermon, Grease Cans & Visual Abundance

09:00  Generational Poverty Starts in the Way You Live

11:00  Money Stories Are Planted by Age Four

12:30  The Four Money Personality Types

13:45  Elizabeth’s Story: Overspending to Feel Normal

14:30  Calvalyn’s Story: The Avoider Turned Overachiever

15:00  Opposites Attract: Money Trauma in Relationships

17:00  The Birthday Bag: Worthiness Without a New Purchase

17:45  Shame Is Always in the Room

19:00  Nobody Taught Us About Wealth & Abundance

21:00  Dave Ramsey, Shame-Based Advice & Why It Doesn’t Work for Us

23:30  Financial Freedom as Autonomy & Safety, Not Checkbox Compliance

25:00  Minimum Wage, the Economy & Systems Not Built for Us

26:30  Why Do I Believe What I Believe About Money?

27:15  Worthiness, Deserving, & the Cost of Self-Denial

29:00  Healing the Money Wound: It’s Biological, Emotional & Spiritual

30:00  Athletes, Bankruptcy & Unhealed Money Stories

31:30  Being the Bank & the Backbone for Your Family

33:30  High Achievers: Find Your Boundaries

35:30  Healing Must Happen Before (or With) the Strategy

37:00  Financial Freedom Is Tied to What You’re Willing to Face

37:45  Identify the Feeling You Want to Have About Your Money

39:00  Community Challenge: What Money Story Are You Ready to Let Go?

Keywords

money mindset, money story, money wounds, financial freedom, generational wealth, generational poverty, money trauma, emotional intelligence, financial healing, high achievers, Black women and money, abundance mindset, scarcity mindset, overspending, money personality types, budget alternatives, financial boundaries, bank and backbone, worthiness and money, money beliefs, healing your finances, financial stress, poverty cues, Love You To Life Podcast, Elizabeth White, Calvalyn Day, wealth building for women, financial shame, money behaviors, expansive money conversations, financial wellbeing

Motherhood is a gift, but nobody talks about how hard it is to actually enjoy it. In this Mother's Day episode of the Love Your Life Podcast, Elizabeth White and Calvalyn Day get real about the mental load of motherhood, unrealistic expectations, and what it actually takes to experience joy as a mom.

If you've ever felt like you don't always like your kids (even though you love them deeply), struggled with losing yourself in motherhood, or felt pressure to perform a version of motherhood that doesn't feel like you, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we cover:

·       What the mental load of motherhood really looks like, and why it doesn't get enough conversation

·       How social media (Instagram, Pinterest) has created unrealistic standards for moms

·       Why introverted moms, neurodivergent moms, and anxious moms face unique challenges

·       How personality and temperament differences between mothers and children impact the relationship

·       The danger of other people's beliefs about motherhood shaping your experience

·       What it means to be intentional about your motherhood story

·       How to let go of "mom guilt" and give yourself permission to enjoy motherhood your way

·       Navigating Mother's Day when your experience doesn't look traditional — including infertility, childlessness, fostering, and single motherhood

·       Why it's okay to want alone time on Mother's Day (and how to ask for it)

This episode is for you if you're:

·       A mom who loves her kids but sometimes doesn't love the experience of mothering

·       Struggling with unrealistic expectations of what motherhood "should" look like

·       A single mom, a married mom doing it alone, or a mom navigating infertility

·       Someone who wants to enjoy motherhood more intentionally

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Elizabeth https://www.instagram.com/lovinglifewithliz

Calvalyn https://www.instagram.com/calvalyn/?hl=en

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Elizabeth https://www.tiktok.com/@lovinglifewithliz?

Calvalyn https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

LinkedIn 

Calvalyn https://www.linkedin.com/in/calvalynday/

Elizabeth https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Chapters

·      00:00 The Reality of Motherhood

·      02:51 The Mental Load of Motherhood

·      05:51 Cultural Expectations and Motherhood

·      08:37 Asking for Help in Motherhood

·      19:41 The Art of Making Ham: A Family Tradition

·      20:47 Mom Guilt: Redefining Expectations

·      22:14 Outsourcing Motherhood: Embracing Help

·      23:57 Redefining the Mental Load of Motherhood

·      27:00 The Necessity of Resources in Motherhood

·      29:36 Finding Balance: Outsourcing and Delegating

·      32:20 Questioning Beliefs About Motherhood

·      35:24 Embracing the Messiness of Motherhood

·      39:03 Joyful Motherhood: Defining Your Experience

·      44:40 Creating Your Own Motherhood Narrative

Keywords: mental load of motherhood, mom guilt, enjoying motherhood, motherhood and mental health, Black motherhood, honest conversations about parenting, introverted mom, neurodivergent parenting, single mom life, infertility and Mother's Day, motherhood expectations, childless on Mother's Day, motherhood identity, losing yourself in motherhood, parenting and personal growth, women's wellness podcast, life coaching for moms, Mother's Day podcast episode, love your life podcast

What's the difference between wanting something and actually deciding to have it? 

This week, Calvalyn and Elizabeth get into a concept that has their whole mogul group chat in a chokehold, and they're not keeping it to themselves. Inspired by a video from coach David Bayer, the sisters break down why so many of us think we're doing all the right things but still not seeing results: the real issue might be that we haven't truly decided. 

If it still feels like a risk, maybe you haven't decided. If you're still waffling, maybe you haven't decided. 

In this episode, they challenge you to close the gap between your vision and your reality — not with magic or manifesting vibes, but with a grounded, embodied practice of living like the version of you who already has the thing. From cleaning out your car to buying the baby onesie during the IVF two-week wait, this one is equal parts conviction and real talk. Drop a comment and tell them, what have you decided? And what haven't you decided yet?

Key  topics

·      The importance of making clear decisions

·      The difference between wishing and deciding

·      How decision affects behavior and manifestation

·      The role of faith and spiritual principles in decision-making

·      Practical ways to embody your future self

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Challenge of Decision-Making

02:56 The Power of True Decision

05:42 Aligning Actions with Decisions

08:32 The Language of Decision vs. Wishful Thinking

11:18 Incremental Steps Towards Manifestation

14:22 Negotiating with Yourself: The Inner Conflict

17:34 Overcoming Fear and Embracing Potential

19:22 Deciding Your Direction

22:19 The Power of Decision-Making

25:10 Embodiment of Future Self

28:56 Practicing Your Future Identity

35:30 Walking Out Your Decisions

decision-making, manifestation, personal development, mindset, self-empowerment, habits, spiritual principles, practical tips

After a moment on the basketball court that had us in our feelings, we had some things to say, and we said them. In this episode, Calvalyn Day and Elizabeth White, take the Dawn Staley situation and zoom all the way out to a conversation Black women know all too well: being overqualified, over-explained, and still overlooked. We're talking about the mind-body cost of staying in spaces that diminish you, why we stop explaining ourselves to people who've already decided, and how to reallocate your energy toward the rooms where you are genuinely held. Practical steps included. Prayers required. Fingers crossed so not guaranteed.

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Calvalyn https://www.tiktok.com/@calvalynday

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Elizabeth https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-white-lmhc-lcac-board-certified-life-coach-34ba8734/

Chapters

·      00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone

·      02:53 The Impact of Disrespect on Black Women

·      05:40 The Role of Emotional Intelligence in Competition

·      08:45 The Systemic Challenges Faced by Black Women

·      11:39 Navigating Public Perception and Personal Identity

·      14:33 Taking Ownership of Our Experiences

·      17:57 The Importance of Self-Respect and Environment

·      20:37 Mind-Body Connection and Emotional Health

·      24:04 Recognizing Toxic Environments

·      29:34 Valuing Yourself in Professional Spaces

·      35:17 Surrendering to Situations for Peace

·      38:59 Living Abundantly and Celebrating Yourself

Black women, respect, boundaries, societal challenges, self-worth, leadership, empowerment, workplace, sports, media