Being in a healthy relationship is not the responsibility of one person, but both people involved. It's important that the vanity metrics aren't what's going to keep you together during hard times, it's the established groundwork & desire to work as a team that will continue to create a healthy relationship.

I have been married for over 15 years now. And my relationship with my husband is really great, but it isn’t perfect. I don’t believe anyone’s relationships are perfect. It might feel perfect because it flows pretty easily, but there are still disagreements & miscommunications to deal with, which can cause hurt feelings.  We had to take the time to learn how to communicate with each other better to get through issues we were experiencing because it would end in each of us being really upset or me (being my people-pleaser self) just agreeing with whatever he said & wanted to get the argument to end as soon as possible. There were many years when some things weren’t healthy or as strong as it could of been. But we made the decision to get couple’s counseling to strengthen our communication skills, which we knew would strengthen our marriage

Relationships are a ton of work. It feels easy in the beginning, which is great. Those experiences provide hope that it could be that way a good portion of the time you’re together. But there will come times when you need to agree to disagree, compromise or do something else to move past any conflict, problems & misunderstandings. And no one is perfect, so mistakes will be made, which can sometimes compromise a ton of feelings at once & cause even more trouble.

But even beyond communication issues, we might not consider how important other aspects of a relationship can be to us if we don’t know the makings of a healthy relationship. 

Falling for someone because they contribute to your happiness, have the same interests, treat you nice, is all well & good, but not really the framework needed to decide if the relationship is going to survive any issues, known or unknown. I think we can be so insecure about ourselves that we latch onto the first person that shows tons of interest when we need to take the time to consider so much more.

Today I want to share with you 7 makings of a healthy relationship:

1. Communication (be honest & open, having the ability to express emotions, being assertive in your needs)
2. Trust (accepting each other at their word)
3. Appreciation (expressing gratitude for one another, share what they mean to you)
4. Individuality (being supportive in your partners growth, it’s ok to be your own person, continue respect for not being the same)
5. Accountability (accept responsibility, keep your word, minimize making excuses)
6. Support (be empathetic, practice good listening skills, have an open mind to their perspective)
7. Respect (willing to compromise, create solutions by working together, no unknown expectations, no demands, limiting judgment of the other)

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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