Today Tim and Jamie are joined by coach, motivational speaker and good friend, Gerritt Bake and his wife Melissa.  Gerritt will be the first to admit that he made many mistakes in his marriage that nearly led him and Melissa to divorce, but ultimately he took ownership.  Today Gerritt and Melissa open up about their struggles, the breakdown, the new mindset they had to adapt and the conscious efforts they now choose to put in every day.   
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The Marriage Mindset

From teen mom to single mom to boss babe, Jamie Holloway is here to inspire other women with her straightforward and genuine approach. As women we shouldn’t be in competition with each other, we should be cheering each other on as we compete against ourselves. Jamie shares her personal stories and life lessons to encourage other women in the journey of improvement. Beyond becoming our best selves, Jamie’s husband Tim joins in for both perspectives on developing a stronger connection and purpose in your marriage as well. No topic will be off limits with your new favorite power couple!

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Bibles, A$$holes, and , B!tches

Creating Love Together is back!  Well rested and with new mics, Tim and Jamie are ready to dive into some serious topics.  If you’ve never seen anything starring Mariana van Zeller, Tim and Jamie say you’re missing out.  Van Zeller is a Portuguese journalist known for her hard hitting pieces about current world problems.  Last night, Tim and Jamie watched a documentary about human trafficking. The people doing the trafficking are smooth and know how to sell the lifestyle.  Even more surprising is that the same control and manipulation can be found in marriages with, sometimes, neither partner even realizing it.  Control and manipulation have no place in any type of relationship.  Learn to recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship and know when to walk away.

When to Walk Away?

Tim and Jamie spent hours in the bedroom, but it’s not what you think.  There was wrestling involved, but it was over differing ideas.  They set out to create a relationship mission statement, something that Jamie originally thought was a dumb idea.  The goal was to clarify what they were trying to achieve in their relationship and what success would look like.  They had different ideas on what this meant, but were ultimately able to mesh the two and create something beautiful.  In the end, they’re grateful they did this exercise and encourage other couples to give it a try.

Wrestling in the Bedroom

Today, we are talking about Tim’s communication issues and how it caused friction for us when I was just needing Tim to listen to me. ~ Jamie
Today we discuss how Jamie needs to work on her communication skills. I, myself, am fully in the right, and she knows that she was wrong. ~ Tim

Tim`s Communication Issues

One of the hardest aspects when it comes to communicating effectively is patience and thinking before you speak.  People won’t always meet our expectations, and we can’t get bent out of shape.  When we’re in an argument, our walls go up, and we go into self-defense mode.  Our initial response is often to attack the other person.  It’s so important to learn to pause and think before you speak.  Beyond not saying things you don’t mean, you’re taking a moment to truly understand what's being said.  People will interpret things on how it makes them feel, not on facts.  Be self-aware enough to ask the other person to clarify what they mean before you react. Don’t always feel like you need to fix the problem, sometimes we just need to be heard.  It’s so important to listen, not to reply, but to understand.

The Marriage Mindset

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