Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 5:9-6:10? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. How has God used friends in your marriage? (5:9)
4. What "word pictures" could you use to describe your spouse? (Think metaphors, similes, analogies – be creative!) How does seeing your spouse through the eyes of love change your perspective on everyday life? (5:10-16)
5. How does the phrase "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine" reflect God's design for marriage? How does this mutual possession differ from unhealthy possessiveness? (6:1-3)
6. How does your spouse "overcome" you – in a positive sense? How do they inspire, challenge, and encourage you? (6:4-7)
7. How do you guard your marriage against distractions and competing priorities that could threaten this exclusivity? (6:8-9)
8. In light of the quote in 6:10... Husbands: How can this mindset be applied to daily marriage? Wives: How does it make you feel to be held in high esteem?

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 5:2-8? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. How does this passage illustrate the potential for miscommunication or missed signals in a marriage? What can we learn from this about the importance of clear and consistent communication?
4. How does the woman's active pursuit of her beloved in this passage challenge us to think about the importance of pursuing one another in marriage, even after years of being together or even after conflict?
5. If miscommunication or missed opportunities have caused hurt in your marriage, how can you practice forgiveness and seek reconciliation?
6. How does the man's persistent knocking (v. 2) remind us of Christ's persistent pursuit of us, even when we are hesitant or resistant?
7. How does the woman's initial reluctance to open the door parallel our own sometimes-delayed response to Christ's call in our lives?

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 4:1-5:1? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. What can we learn from this passage (vs 1-16) about the importance of verbal affirmation and expressing appreciation for our spouse?
4. While this passage celebrates physical intimacy, what other aspects of intimacy (emotional, spiritual) are also essential for a healthy marriage?
5. How can you practically apply the imagery of the 'garden enclosed' (vs 15) to protect their relationship from outside influences and temptations?
6. What steps can you take to cultivate a sense of delight and enjoyment in their relationship, even amidst the challenges of life? (4:16-5:1)
7. What is one specific thing you can do this week to express your love and appreciation for your spouse in a way that reflects the spirit of this passage?

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 3? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. In verses 1-2, Shalummite is searching for her beloved. What are some 'nights' or periods of searching that couples might experience in their marriage? (e.g., feeling disconnected, facing challenges, etc.)? How can couples ensure that they do not drift apart and that they are continually 'seeking' one another?
4. When Shalummite finds her beloved (verses 3-4), she holds him and does not let him go. What does this image convey about the importance of security and commitment in marriage? What are practical ways couples can 'hold onto' their relationship and protect it from outside threats?
5. Verses 4-5 portray a passionate and intimate love. How can couples cultivate and maintain this kind of intimacy in their marriage? How does this passage show us that it is good and holy to have a deep desire for your spouse?
6. Verses 6-10 describe a grand procession. The 'sixty mighty men' surrounding the carriage emphasize protection and security. How important is a sense of security in a marriage? How can spouses provide this for each other? How does the idea of protection translate into modern-day marriages?
7. Read through John 20, Luke 19, Jeremiah 29:13-14, and Rev 19. How does Song of Solomon 3 help to visualize those passages?

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 2:8-17? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. How can you tell if someone is being transparent in their actions and words? Why is this important in a relationship? (vs 8-9)
4. What are some practical ways to improve communication in a marriage, especially when it comes to difficult topics? (vs 10-14)
5. What are some "little foxes" that can creep into a marriage today? How can couples work together to "catch" these foxes? (vs 15)
6. What does it mean to truly belong to someone in marriage? How does this affect intimacy and trust? (vs 16)
7. How can couples keep the flame of desire alive in their marriage, even after many years? (vs 17)

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 1:9-2:7? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. Based on 1:9-11, what does this tell us about the importance of verbal affirmation and appreciation in marriage? How can we practically express admiration for our spouse's character and appearance?
4. In verses 12-14, the Shulammite describes Solomon as "a sachet of myrrh" and "a cluster of henna blossoms." What do these images suggest about the impact of her beloved on her? How does this relate to the idea of emotional and spiritual intimacy in marriage?
5. "Behold, You Are Beautiful" in verse 15: This phrase is repeated by both Solomon and the Shulammite. Why is mutual affirmation so powerful in a relationship? How does this contrast with relationships where praise is one-sided or absent?
6. What does it mean to be a "lily among thorns" (verses 2:1-2) in the context of marriage and the world around us? How can Christian marriages stand out in a culture that often devalues commitment and intimacy?
7. "His Banner Over Me Is Love": This is a powerful image in verses 3-7. What does it mean to be "covered" by love? How does this relate to the idea of God's love for us, and how should that inform our love for each other?

Reflection Questions

1. What resonated with you the most from Song of Solomon 1:1-8? Why?
2. How do we see Jesus in this passage? (Aka: What is the connection to the gospel?)

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3. Which aspect of verses 2-4 stuck out to you the most? Kissing, taste, smell, reputation, friends, or the thrill of marriage?
4. Why is learning about each other a critical part of marriage? (vs 8)
5a. Ladies, have you noticed yourself being particularly sensitive to your physical appearance (Vvs 5-6)? How does verse 8 help to provide guidance to that impulse?
5b. Fellas, how should a man respond when his wife feels insecure?