Judy Wilkins-Smith is a highly regarded, international organizational, individual and family patterns expert. A systemic executive coach, trainer, facilitator, thought partner, and leadership conference and motivational speaker, Judy has 18 years of expertise in assisting high-performance individuals, Fortune 500 executives, and legacy families to end limiting cycles and reframe challenges into lasting breakthroughs and peak performance. She is the author of Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint: A Powerful Guide to Transformation Through Disentangling Multigenerational Patterns.
In this episode, I talk with Judy about the "emotional DNA" we inherit from our family system - the thoughts, feelings, and behavioral patterns passed down in the family (sometimes dating back multiple generations). Judy helps people recognize these systemic patterns through "constellations" work: an interactive, three-dimensional, and incredibly powerful method of discovering where the system is stuck and how to change it. Judy's work fundamentally focuses on helping systems, big and small, evolve and grow so they can reach their full potential. She is a deeply empowering and inspiring individual, and so honored to have her on the podcast!
-What "systems," "constellations," and "emotional DNA" are.
-How our issues stem from multiple generations, and why it's not our fault but our responsibility to change them (and why this is a gift to both ourselves and the family!).
-Reprogramming our emotional DNA and re-wiring our brain.
-The story of how Judy came to this work accidentally.
-The three-dimensional process of exploring family constellations.
-Patterns around money, including guilt and fear of "abandoning" the family system by becoming wealthy.
-Why the biggest and best version of ourselves is also the most humbling.
-"Wanting to want" to change versus actually wanting to change.
-Why symptoms are gifts, or opportunities to transform
-Why it's crucial to shift from a victim mindset to an empowered one to create transformation.
-The importance of your gut and heart believing what your brain is telling you.
-Judy's take on our the story of our collective humanity and where we're stuck.
"Our deepest wounds turn out to be our greatest strengths."
"A problem is an invitation to something new."
"We need to stop saying 'the world is in trouble' - it's not. It's at the beginning of a brand new chapter that we get to shape."
Judy's website (including constellation meditations): https://judywilkins-smith.com/
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ev1rtmAiOEo
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