The Miraculous Mindset with Dan O'Connor

It's better to lose a bet for the right reasons than to win a bet for the wrong ones. We tend to bet against other people and bet against ourselves. Today place a long-shot bet. It actually increases the odds of what you're betting on coming to pass!

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There is a line in A Course in Miracles that reads, "I do not perceive my own best interests."

Basically, we think and think about how to fix our lives, and unfortunately, the source upon which we're drawing, namely our mind, is flawed beyond belief. Our mortal mind is made up of all our past experiences here in the physical plane, where we are bombarded with illusions, and we have delusions that we somehow gained truth from our mortal experiences. This is insanity. What we should be drawing upon for inspiration is the universe, God, the Holy Spirit, Jesus, Buddha, or whatever your source is that provides enlightenment. It's as if we have a rice bowl in our brains, and we search it for answers, but it has the same rice in it today that it had in it yesterday.

Through meditation, you can empty our rice bowl a little so that your source can put something new in it that will truly provide enlightenment, truth, and answers to the questions you seek. This is impossible to do if your rice bowl is already full.

Today Dan talks about how to empty your rice bowl--just a little--to allow room for enlightenment.

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So many of us go through our lives throwing out words without realizing the power of those words. Our words change other people, the world, and most importantly, our words change us and who we are. It only takes a few words to tear people down and shatter them, and it only takes a few words to build people up and strengthen them. You can either resurrect people or murder people with your words. Today you have a choice which one you do.

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We have been talking about finding meaning from difficult people and difficult relationships. Today we talk about how these people are master teachers who are placed in front of us to show us our own greatness--if we allow them to do so. For more, visit danoconnortraining.com

Last week, our episode was about imagining the possiblity that things are OK even though they might not appear so at the moment. Today, Dan talks more about this. Remember when someone like your father held you, and you knew that things, if even for just that one moment in time, were OK? You knew it, because thigs were OK in that moment. Why? Because you were in your father's arms. You're still in those arms, you know. Don't you know that? If not, listen up.

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Have you been abandoned, or scarred by someone, and you're struggling to get over it? Do you have a sacred wound that won't seem to heal? Are you harboring anger and resentment, and having trouble letting go of something that you know you need to let go? Dan O'Connor, The Energy Vampire Slayer discusses abandonment, and how we can start healing any sacred wound we are carrying.

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When you're dealing with difficult people, communicating at work, or communicating with your loved ones, don't let facts get in the way of the truth. Remember that people say and do hateful, hurtful things. That's a fact. We're all doing the best we can with what we've got. That's the truth. Today, Dan gives you thoughts to help you prevent letting facts get in the way of that truth.For more, go to danoconnortraining.com and enjoy our other communication resources, or ask us a question.

I'm sure you've heard the line, "Happiness is a Choice." What a bunch of hogwash, right? As Victor Frankl said, "Life does not owe you happiness. It does, however, offer meaning." Today while you're communicating with difficult people, or struggling with any relationship, communication, or iife issue, remember that the point isn't to be happy; it's to find meaning.

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“But I’ve sacrificed so much!”How often do you say or think this? “I’ve sacrificed so much for you, I’ve sacrificed so much for this...I DESERVE...”What does that even mean? Sacrifice?I thought I’d look it up.In the Oxford dictionary, sacrifice has many definitions...the first one is “The act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else more important or worthy.” The second definition had to do with slaughtering an animal, and I hope you’re not doing that. The third had to with an act of prayer, the fourth was Christ being crucified (which might be how you feel, but it’s far from reality), and the fifth definition I found particularly interesting: “In games, a loss incurred deliberately to avoid a greater loss, or to obtain a compensating advantage.” I’m going to say that most of us, when we sacrifice, are defining sacrifice either the first or the fifth way. Basically, we’re either giving up something good in hopes of getting something better, or we’re playing a game, or both. None of these definitions states that we WILL be getting something in return, or deserve anything in return. None of them. “Sacrificing” is a gamble, and you don’t deserve anything in return.The only example I’m aware of-- where people selflessly sacrifice—just might be for their children. That’s about it. We go without, and give up things so that our children can have better lives. But even that is something we do because we want to be good parents. This type of sacrifice doesn’t give us heartburn, because we don’t feel we must get something in return.What most of us do, however, is give something up, whether it’s our time, or our money, or satisfying some need we have, and then we expect something in return. And boy do we get mad if we don’t get what we “sacrificed” for.  We get mad when we give up one thing, hoping to get something better—something we think of as more valuable—and then we don’t get it!  Our children don’t graduate from college, though we sacrificed all those trips to pay for school.  Our husband leaves us, after we sacrificed and paid for his law school education.  We took care of aging parents, who then left the bulk of their estate to the church.  OUR SACRIFICE WAS IN VAIN.  Yes, it was.  The bet didn’t pay off.  We didn’t get the “better thing” we were trying for.In our relationships, for example, we tend to give things up, such as other relationships, our time, our youth, or whatever else we think we give to people, and then we have...take a breath now...expectations. That’s where the trouble begins. We expect and even demand the payoff for our “sacrifice.”We tend to (what we refer to as) sacrifice out of self-interest, and when we don’t get our reward, boy do we get mad. That’s ridiculous.

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Have you declared what your purpose is, or are you waiting for something or someone to pick you up and bring you to your destination? Today, your mission is to declare that you are here about your Father's business. When you communicate with customers, when you are at the grocery store, when you are dealing with difficult people, remember that the spirit, or the force, or that universe, or whatever doesn't just pick you up. You hail it. Today you have to declare your purpose and get on the bus. Dan explains more in today's podcast. Tell us what you think! Participate! Visit danoconnortraining.com to leave your comments and suggestions, or email us at [email protected]