The Modern MILF Podcast

By Bethany Hale Pearson

Hosted by Sex & Relationship Coach, Bethany Hale, this podcast is to help women embrace their true sexual selves through feminine sexual empowerment, sexual health and wellness, and relationshi

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January 14, 2026Red Flags In Relationships and In Ourselves: Remove The Rose Colored Glasses And See The Warning Signs
Red flags in relationships aren’t always dramatic or obvious — many are subtle patterns that quietly erode emotional safety, trust, and intimacy. In this episode, we explore how to recognize red flags not only in romantic partners, but also within ourselves.
Grounded in research from licensed psychologists, relationship therapists, and attachment theory experts, this conversation helps you identify unhealthy dynamics, understand why we sometimes ignore warning signs, and build the self-awareness needed for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Whether you’re dating, partnered, or reflecting on past relationships, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for emotional growth.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
What therapists mean when they talk about “red flags”
Common emotional and behavioral warning signs in intimate relationships
Why people often ignore or rationalize red flags
How attachment styles influence what we tolerate
Red flags we may unknowingly carry ourselves
How self-awareness leads to healthier relational choices
When to communicate concerns — and when to walk away
Why noticing red flags is an act of self-respect, not judgment
Key Takeaway:
Recognizing red flags isn’t about being hyper-vigilant or critical — it’s about honoring your emotional safety, strengthening self-trust, and choosing relationships that align with your values.
Listener Reflection Questions:
What behaviors consistently leave me feeling anxious, small, or unseen?
Do I honor my boundaries — or abandon them to keep connection?
Am I reacting from old wounds or responding from emotional maturity?
What patterns show up across my relationships?
Disclaimer:
This episode is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or mental health treatment.
Professional References & Research
Kirsten Karl, LMFT
Cleveland Clinic
Self Drive Psychology
Forbes
Therapy Tips
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Credits: Writing, recording, and editing by me, Bethany
Theme music by MobyGratis
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13min
January 07, 2026Episode 13: When You're Tired of Dating Apps & How to Date With Intention
If you’re dating in midlife and feeling emotionally exhausted by dating apps, this episode is for you.
Swiping fatigue. Shallow conversations. Matches that go nowhere.
For many women dating after 40, online dating doesn’t feel hopeful anymore — it feels draining.
In this episode, we unpack why dating apps create burnout, what the research actually says about online dating satisfaction, and how to shift into dating with intention instead of exhaustion, urgency, or self-doubt.
This conversation is grounded in psychology, relationship research, and real-life midlife dating experiences — and it’s designed to help you protect your energy, regain clarity, and date in a way that feels aligned with who you are now.
Resources Mentioned:
Pew Research Center — Online Dating & Relationship Trends
Forbes Health — Dating App Fatigue Studies (https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-app-fatigue/)
Date Club (https://dateclub.org/dating/dating-app-fatigue-affects-67-of-users-three-proven-strategies-for-authentic-relationships/)
Psychological research on dopamine, attachment, and modern dating behaviors
Gottman Institute studies on relationship satisfaction
Dr. Stan Tatkin (PACT) — secure functioning in relationships
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December 31, 2025Episode 12: Love with Intention: Why Setting Relationship Goals Creates Deeper, Healthier Partnerships
In this episode, Elizabeth explores how intentional relationship goal-setting deepens emotional intimacy, improves communication, strengthens sexual connection, and creates long-term relational stability. Backed by research from the Gottman Institute, attachment theory experts, and long-term relationship studies, this episode guides couples on how to co-create a relationship with purpose and direction.
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share.
Referenced Research & Experts:
Dr. John Gottman – Relationship stability, shared meaning
Dr. Sue Johnson – Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Dr. Terri Orbuch – 30-year Michigan study on long-term couples
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (2018) – joint goals & satisfaction
Archives of Sexual Behavior (2020) – intentional intimacy & fulfillment
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13min
December 17, 2025Episode 11: The Hidden Load: How the Holiday Season Impacts Women
Many women describe the holiday season as “magical but exhausting.” In this episode, we break down the research behind why women carry so much mental, emotional, and physical pressure during the holidays—and how this stress impacts health, relationships, and wellbeing.
From invisible labor to cultural expectations, we explore what’s really happening beneath the festive surface. If you're feeling stretched thin, this episode gives you validation, language, and tools to protect your peace.
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman in your life who may be navigating this emotional season.
Writing, recording, and editing by me, Bethany
music by Mobygratis
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Highlighted Research Mentioned
American Heart Association (2023) – 79% overlook their own needs during the holidays
University of Melbourne / University of Bath study – women carry ~71% of the household mental load
Modern Health Workplace Survey – 40% of workers consider quitting from holiday burnout
Sanford Behavioral Health – women more likely to report increased anxiety during holidays
Oshi Health – “Holiday CEO” phenomenon and GI distress
Caron Treatment Centers – holidays trigger anxiety and depression for ~30% of adults
Resources
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): 1-800-950-NAMI
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
SAMHSA Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP
Psychology Today therapist finder (U.S.)
Open Path Collective (affordable counseling)
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18min
December 10, 2025Episode 10: Mistletoe & Motivation: Why Sexual Activity Rises During the Holidays
In this festive and science-backed episode, we explore why sexual interest often rises during the holiday season. From increased emotional warmth and time off work to alcohol consumption and cultural rhythms, the holidays create a unique environment that shapes intimacy. Drawing on psychological research, sexual-health studies, and global data trends, we unpack what really drives this seasonal spike — plus the risks, myths, and practical tips for joyful, consensual, safe intimacy.
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Sources:
Scientific Reports (2017): Global analysis of online sexual-interest peaks
Wellings et al., Sexual Health Review (1999)
Seasonal conception and fertility studies (2020+)
Psychological research on collective mood + cultural rituals
Public-health findings on holiday-risk behavior
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14min
December 03, 2025Episode 9: Is it True Love or a Trap? Healthy Relationships vs Trauma Bonding
Why do some relationships feel addictive, even when they’re painful? In this episode, I unpack the psychological science behind trauma bonds — intense attachments formed through cycles of harm and reconciliation — and contrast them with healthy, stable love based on mutual respect and emotional safety.
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Sources:
Dutton, D. G., & Painter, S. L. — Traumatic bonding: The development of emotional attachments in battered women and other relationships of intermittent abuse. (Foundational empirical and theoretical work). ResearchGate+1
Carnes, P. — clinical discussions on trauma bonding as a concept in abuse and addiction literature. Verywell Mind
Van der Kolk, B. — The Body Keeps the Score — trauma’s effects on brain, body, and relationships. Bessel van der Kolk, MD.
Gottman Institute — research on relationship stability, repair, and the importance of consistent kindness and responsiveness. Gottman Institute
Sue Johnson, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — attachment-focused couples therapy emphasizing secure bonding and emotional responsiveness. Dr. Sue Johnson - Creating Connection+1
If You Are in Danger or Need Immediate Support (U.S.)
National Domestic Violence Hotline — 1-800-799-7233
www.thehotline.org
24/7 confidential chat, text, and phone support.
National Sexual Assault Hotline — 1-800-656-4673
www.rainn.org
Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741
Free, 24/7 crisis counseling via text.
If outside the U.S.: Find international hotlines here:
[findahelpline.com], [befrienders.org], or search “domestic violence helpline [your country].”
Trauma-Informed Therapy & Healing Resources
Psychology Today Therapist Finder – www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Use filters like “trauma,” “EMDR,” “somatic,” or “attachment-focused.”
Trauma-Focused Organizations:
TherapyDen.com – filter by trauma or relationship expertise.
The Gottman Institute – tools for relationship health: www.gottman.com
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) directory: www.ptsd.va.gov
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22min
November 26, 2025Bonus Surprise Episode: Chemistry vs. Connection: Why Fireworks Don't Equal Compatibility
Today is an unexpected bonus episode, where we explore the difference between chemistry and connection—why they feel different in the body, how the brain processes attraction, and which one actually predicts a healthy long-term relationship. With insight from The Kinsey Institute, Dr. Helen Fisher, Esther Perel, the Gottman Institute, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Emily Nagoski.
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Sources:
Kinsey Institute Research on arousal and romantic attraction
Fisher, H. (biological anthropology research on love)
Perel, E. Mating in Captivity; The State of Affairs
Gottman, J. & J. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Nagoski, E. Come As You Are
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14min
November 19, 2025Episode 8: Is Sex Actually Healthy For You?
We're talking about the health benefits of sexual activity and how sex affects us biologically, psychologically, and physically. Leave a review, Like, and Follow The Modern MILF Podcast on
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Sources:
Dr. Michael F. Roizen, M.D. — Chief Wellness Officer, Cleveland Clinic.
Roizen, M. F., & Oz, M. C. (2007). YOU: The Owner’s Manual: An Insider’s Guide to the Body that Will Make You Healthier and Younger. HarperCollins.
Cleveland Clinic. (n.d.). Sexual Health: Benefits of Sex. Retrieved from my.clevelandclinic.org
American Journal of Cardiology
Hall, K. S., Shackman, A. J., & Johnson, A. K. (2015). Sexual activity and cardiovascular health: Evidence from observational studies. Am J Cardiol.
Dr. Sarah E. Hill, Ph.D. (Biologist, Texas Christian University)
Hill, S. E. (2019). How the Pill Changes Everything: Your Brain on Birth Control. Avery.
(Referenced for hormonal and immune function insights.)
Dr. Tiffany Field, Ph.D. (Director, Touch Research Institute, University of Miami)
Field, T. (2010). Touch. MIT Press.
(Cited for oxytocin, touch, and cortisol regulation research.)
Dr. Lori A. Brotto, Ph.D. (Clinical Psychologist, University of British Columbia)
Brotto, L. A. (2018). Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire. Greystone Books.
(Referenced for mindful sex, parasympathetic activation, and emotional regulation.)
Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D. (Research Fellow, Kinsey Institute)
Lehmiller, J. J. (2018). Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Da Capo Press.
(Referenced for sex, well-being, and satisfaction data.)
Dr. Sue Johnson, Ph.D. (Clinical Psychologist, Founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy)
Johnson, S. (2013). Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships. Little, Brown Spark.
(Referenced for emotional safety and attachment in sexual relationships.)
The Journal of Sexual Medicine
Brody, S., & Costa, R. M. (2009). Sexual behavior, stress, and well-being. J Sex Med, 6(11), 3243–3250.
(Referenced for masturbation, hormones, and well-being studies.)
Dr. Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. (Sex Educator, Health Psychologist)
Nagoski, E. (2015). Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. Simon & Schuster.
(Referenced for sexual wellness, shame healing, and pleasure psychology.)
Recommended Reading & References
Dr. Helen Fisher — Anatomy of Love (W. W. Norton, 2016)
Dr. Lori Brotto — Better Sex Through Mindfulness (Greystone, 2018)
Dr. Emily Nagoski — Come As You Are (Simon & Schuster, 2015)
Dr. Candace Pert — Molecules of Emotion (Scribner, 1999)
Dr. Sue Johnson — Love Sense (Little, Brown, 2013)
Dr. Sarah E. Hill — How the Pill Changes Everything (Avery, 2019)
Esther Perel — Mating in Captivity (HarperCollins, 2006)
The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Vol. 6–7
American Journal of Cardiology (2015)
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18min
November 12, 2025Episode 7: Letting Go of Sexual Shame
Today's episode is about sexual shame and letting go of it.
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Sources:
Emily Nagoski — Come As You Are (biology of desire). (Shortform)

Kristin Neff — self-compassion exercises & research. (Self-Compassion)

Esther Perel — podcast & essays on desire, shame, and erotic life. (Esther Perel)

Justin Lehmiller — research on sexual fantasy and desire. (Amazon)

American Sexual Health Association — sexual health resources and stigma discussion. (Asha Sexual Health)
https://www.mdpi.com/2411-5118/5/4/47

https://www.psypost.org/sexual-shame-a-hidden-barrier-to-womens-intimacy-and-fulfillment/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/underneath-the-sheets/201908/no-one-is-immune-sexual-shame

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexual-intelligence/202412/shame-is-a-bigger-problem-than-any-apparent-sexual-dysfunction
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November 05, 2025 Episode 6: Rejection, a Different Perspective
Today's episode is about rejection. But we are going to shed a different light on rejection. A different perspective. Instead, think of it as redirection. It takes practice to shift your mindset around anything as painful as rejection, and as you begin to, you will look at so many life experiences differently.
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Sources:
https://www.rutgers.edu/news/study-finds-romantic-rejection-stimulates-areas-brain-involved-motivation-reward-and-addiction?utm_source=chatgpt.com

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9731324/Downey G, Freitas AL, Michaelis B, Khouri H. The self-fulfilling prophecy in close relationships: rejection sensitivity and rejection by romantic partners. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1998 Aug;75(2):545-60. doi: 10.1037//0022-3514.75.2.545. PMID: 9731324.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34414546/Dobson K, Kim J, Impett EA. Perceptual Accuracy for Sexual Rejection in Romantic Relationships. Arch Sex Behav. 2022 Jan;51(1):491-503. doi: 10.1007/s10508-021-02126-1. Epub 2021 Aug 19. PMID: 34414546.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/being-your-best-self/202401/8-ways-to-manage-rejection

https://roamerstherapy.substack.com/p/what-changes-when-you-look-at-rejection
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18min

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