Why Saying "Yes" All the Time Isnโt Always Kindness
Hosted by: Mommy Loi โ VA Mentor, Trainer, and Fellow WFH Mom
Language: Taglish
Duration: Approx. 30 mins
๐ง Episode Summary:
Hi mga mommies! In this heart-to-heart solo episode, Mommy Loi opens up about one of the biggest lessons she had to learn (and re-learn) as a Virtual Assistant: being kind is NOT the same as being a people pleaser. ๐
Kung minsan, sa sobrang bait natinโlalo tayong mga empathic momsโnapapabayaan na natin ang sarili nating needs, time, at well-being. In this episode, Loi dives into:
โ๏ธ The difference between empowered kindness vs. people pleasing
ย โ๏ธ Signs that you might be getting exploited by your client
โ๏ธ Real-life stories and mistakes from Loiโs own VA journey
โ๏ธ Sample scripts you can use to set healthy, respectful boundaries
โ๏ธ Practical tips to protect your energy as a VA-mom
This oneโs para saโyo, Mami VA na sobrang bait, pero ubos na, ubos na. ๐ฎโ๐จ๐
๐ Episode Highlights:
00:00 Welcome to the Mommy Lounge Podcast
00:57 Understanding People-Pleasing
02:35 Signs of Client Exploitation
13:09 Setting Boundaries with Clients
17:04 Empowered Kindness and Final Thoughts
๐ก 5 Signs Na Na-eeexploits Ka Na Ni Client:
- Laging may dagdag na task na โdi napag-usapan
- Palaging late magbayad (or worse, may delay tactics)
- Minamasama kapag nagpapaalam ka for emergencies or rest
- Feeling mo ikaw na lahat โ designer, admin, video editor, etc.
- Lagi kang pagod, stressed, or umiiyak after work ๐
๐ People Pleasing vs. Kindness:
Being kind includes you. May boundaries. May respect.
Being a people pleaser? Sacrificing yourself para lang โdi masaktan ang iba.
๐ฃ๏ธ Boundary-Setting Scripts You Can Use:
โจ โIโd love to help, but that task is outside our agreed scopeโฆโ
โจ โCan we revisit this next week?โ
โจ โI want to deliver quality work, so let me finish this firstโฆโ
๐ฉโ๐ป Empowerment Tip:
Start shifting from people-pleasing to empowered kindness by:
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Creating a clear contract and scope of work
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Respecting your time (and energy!)
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Learning to say โNoโ โ with grace and professionalism
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Having a support group (join The Mommy Lounge FB Group!)
๐ Coming Up Next!
Donโt miss our next episode featuring two amazing VA moms:
โจ Mommy Ebba โ former RWC Academy trainee, now with 2 clients
โจ Mommy Cristalin โ ex-office worker, now training as a project coordinator
Get ready to be inspired by their transformation stories! ๐ช
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๐ต Music Disclaimer:
Intro/Outro music used in this episode: "Jupiter"
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