You can choose to be with someone, but that choice is not fully independent. Your choices are influenced by your biochemistry, social, and personal conditions. What you want to eat, to wear are not your free will. What are the many causes, processes that shape our desire? Explore.
Source : https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/sep/14/yuval-noah-harari-the-new-threat-to-liberal-democracy