The Nathan Seaward Show

This week on the show, Lian Brook-Tyler joins me to talk about the sudden passing of her father and how it shifted her whole perspective on life, the role of the soul (and why you shouldn't overthink it!), and Lian's number one tip for leaving your career and starting a successful business.

Lian and I discuss:

• The sudden passing of Lian's father shifted her perspective on life
• How she started writing a blog to cope with the real life stuff going on
• Discovering the Three Principles and how her chronic facial pain suddenly disappeared
• Leaving her job and starting coaching
• Difference between teaching and coaching
• To being okay with just who you are
• A strong sense of helping to birth what's inside within each of us
• Mentoring, coaching and teaching
• Having the wisdom to know what somebody needs at the moment
• Empowering and living into your belief
• The role of soul
• On leaving your career and starting a successful business

More about Lian

Lian is a podcast host, Embodied Leadership Coach, and co-founder of the movement Primal Happiness, and despite the Chinese spelling of her name, she's as English as Mary Poppins.

After working for many years as a leader in the corporate world, Lian's journey truly began the day she unexpectedly recovered from 15 years of chronic pain and anxiety. That transformation led her to immerse herself in discovering what creates pain and struggle, and conversely, what paves the way to a life jam-packed with meaning and happiness.

Her work with Primal Happiness is dedicated to sharing how we can all reclaim our primal state of happiness: she guides women through Waking The Wild Feminine via her women's circles, and her Embodied Leadership and Partnership work is focused on guiding Kings and Queens on their own hero's or heroine's journey to discover their unique gifts and to embody and express their true nature.

Lian lives in a 400-year-old English country cottage with her husband, two self-described 'wild children', and an array of ginger rescue animals.

Lian's dream is a world of wild souls set free to work their magic here.

This week on the show, Tristan and Michael join me to talk about why we all have imposter syndrome and how to overcome it, the fundamental rules you must understand to becoming a master communicator, and how Tristan and Michael have successfully navigated their relationship as co-founders.

Tristan & Michael and I discuss:

• How Tristan developed the feeling of having an imposter syndrome as he went through every step of the competition
• Powering through and working even harder despite feeling uncomfortable
• How Michael got into the public speaking world and experienced the imposter syndrome
• You can really tell a person by how they express themselves
• Toastmasters taught 2 main skills:
  • Prepared speaking
  • Impromptu speaking
• Studying the skill of speaking on the spot transformed Michael's life
• How the world values communicators
• When you become more confident with your communication, you start feeling more confident about every aspect of yourself
• Presence versus performance
• Building the habit of trusting yourself more
• Having the mindset of trusting yourself and everything will go well is the mindset of all the top performers in the skill of speaking
• Surrendering and trusting that things are going to work out
• On navigating their business and figuring out how they can have an impact
• Helping people have a bigger impact with their speaking
• Pros and cons of their relationship as co-founders
  • The ability to receive feedback
• Building the habit of sharing negative withholds
• Who they are looking for and how their process works

More about Tristan & Michael

Tristan de Montebello and Michael Gendler are 2 of LA's leading public speaking coaches who specialize in helping people communicate in high-stress environments. (UltraSpeaking.com)

Their unlikely story started when Michael coached Tristan from zero public speaking experience to the World Championship of Public Speaking finals in just 7 months.

Since then, Michael and Tristan have coached some of the worlds top creatives, leaders, and entrepreneurs to speak more effectively in the moments that matter most.

This week on the show, Shelley Paxton joins me to talk about liberating the souls of leaders and organizations, writing her book - "Soulbbatical" and being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life.

I also shared my thoughts on staying longer, moving and settling down. I am also launching a 10 week group program that i'm calling The Fireside Wisdom Sessions.

Shelley and I discuss:

• Following someone else's path to success and losing her sense of self along the way
• Being in her masculine and putting her armour on while operating in the corporate world
• Being largely on her masculine means being on her protective warrior mode
• How being in your masculine is largely required in the corporate world
• Shifting into more courageous and wholehearted leadership and creating that culture
• Not being able to get into the vulnerable space, playful space is inhibiting our creativity and our innovation
• Tapping into your creativity and acknowledging your truth
• Understanding and knowing your soul
• Principles to Soulbbatical
• Authenticity as the truest form of rebellion
• Be careful of the compromises you make in your life
• The top leader should set the tone, expectations and what success and reward would look like
• Identifying the misalignment after getting know your self and soul better
• Soulbbatical is about a way of living
• Being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life means living by those 5 principles
• Following your soul's process

More about Shelley

Shelley Paxton is a Chicago-based author, speaker, and professional coach. She spent twenty-six years as a highly regarded marketing and advertising executive stewarding some of the world's most iconic brands, including Harley-Davidson, Visa, McDonald's, and AOL. In 2016 she left the corporate world to launch her own company, with the mission to liberate the souls of leaders and organizations by inspiring them to realize their greatest purpose and potential. As a certified professional coach, she works with executives at Fortune 100 companies like Lowe's and Mars, Inc, as well as private individuals and entrepreneurs. She holds a marketing degree from Boston College, and recently graduated from iPEC, one of the country's premier coaching certification programs. Paxton's a member of 4PC, Rich Litvin's exclusive community for extraordinary leaders and coaches, and has been selected to train with Brene Brown on her upcoming Dare to Lead project.

She christened herself Chief Soul Officer and called the journey her Soulbbatical. It did more than change her life, it became her calling.

This week on the show, Robert Kandell joins me to talk about getting honest with one's self, the effect of withholding your truth from your intimate partner, and his book - unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.

Robert and I discuss:

• Living the American dream (which was also his father's dream)

• How his intense experiences in Burning Man made him rediscover the world

• Key moment when he realized things weren't working

• How going to Burning Man impacted him

• Burning Man is radical free expression. It's an opportunity to see a new side of yourself and to explore different parts of yourself

• How he and his wife started to have an honest conversation about their sex life

• On starting to explore alternative sexuality by going to a swingers club and taking workshops that tackle forming non-monogamous relationships

• Telling yourself the truth first and foremost then telling your partner and intimate friends the truth about you and then inviting them to tell you the truth about them

• Process of getting honest with yourself:

  • Confronting your thoughts

  • Getting curious about those thoughts

  • Researching those curiosities

• Terminal uniqueness is when we think we are the only person in the entire world that has this particular thought which creates a lot of fear to come out

• Instead of spending our energies beating ourselves up, spend that energy creating the life you truly want

• Our greatest fear is that we will end up alone and that fear is what stops us from living

• How we are forced to wear the facade about who we are

• The communication you need to make in the proper form in order to actually be authentic

• Frameworks on teaching people to communicate

• If you want to have a masterful relationship, you have to build the foundation early on by authentically relating

• We are constantly looking externally from ourselves to perceive our value

• Compromise equates to acquiescence

• Extending the conversation until both people feel right about the decision

• Every time you lie, you are creating distance

• About his book "unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them"

More about Robert

Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communications expert, speaker, podcaster, and the author of the bestselling book, "unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them." Since 2002, Robert's mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He has helped thousands of students up-level their communication, leading them to live more balanced, energized, connected, and purposeful lives.

Robert is a veteran of many worlds, having moved seamlessly from corporate America and the startup world, to becoming an authority in the personal development sphere, to building an international 8-figure business and authoring a bestselling book.

He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insights to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. He has been described as "part football coach, part loving Dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant." His style is challenging, fraternal, highly rewarding, and definitely not for the faint-hearted.

This week on the show, Jonathan Aslay joins me to talk about establishing a framework for compassionate dating, when life gets in the way of love, and how to practice self-love.

I also shared how these past weeks had been tough for me and how self-love has been a great part of getting through this period.

Jonathon and I discuss:

• How Jonathon hit rock bottom in many aspects of his life and how he got addicted to the process of online dating

• His investment in personal development and spirituality helped him when he lost his son

• Self-love is like nurturing your soul

• Personal development practice is preparing you not just for the chaos but also how to live in inner peace

• How his humbling moments allowed him the opportunity to discover who he really is

• Grieving with love

• Letting go of the fear of death to enjoy the fruit of life

• Having a minimum of 15 mins a day doing some self-help personal development spiritual practice

• Why he wrote his book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"

• On developing the habit of thinking of the future or thinking about the past

• Getting into nature

• Speaking your truth and doing it with kindness

• What compassionate dating is

• Connecting with other people in a deeper level and focusing on being present

• Being crystal clear about who you are and what you want in compassionate dating

• How technology changed dating in this generation

• Getting to know who you are by not being in a relationship

• When life gets in the way of love/relationship

• Recognizing co-dependency

More about Jonathon

Known as America's leading midlife dating and relationship coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women's hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.

Jonathon studies male behavior. He listens to women and what they want when it comes to love. Most importantly, he is gifted at bridging the gap between the two. He started to see patterns in the things women complained about most and those that continually baffled men. Over time, he realized that processing information from both sides and combining them with his own dating experiences enabled him to filter out the interpersonal "noise" that often causes people to invest in someone who is wrong for them.

In addition to his dating expertise and helping women navigate the dating world, Jonathon Aslay is also a leading figure in the self-love department with his book "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?" which is rated 5 stars and has reached the best-selling ranks on Amazon.

In this book you will learn: simple real-life techniques to understand and create true self-love, exactly what it means to really love yourself, and how powerfully life-changing self-love can be, and how to experience it NOW!

This week on the show, John Henderson joins me to talk about the impact of positive comment in somebody's life, his story about being in jail, and his book, SWAY.

I also shared about committing to get up at 4 a.m. everyday for all of September.

John and I discuss:

• Did poorly in school because he didn't fit and think in the structured manner the school wanted

• Turning his life around and realising that he is the result of the choices he has made

• How everybody in jail thinks they are innocent while successful people he knows think they are guilty

• How kids are taught to be generalists when the world rewards specialists

• The problem is with the way you are measuring what is and isn't intelligence

• How one positive comment can change somebody's whole life

• Finding who to be loyal to and who not to be loyal to is important

• Difference made by caring and empathy versus strict humiliation and discipline

• John's story of being in jail under "Americas toughest sheriff"

• Success doesn't happen without the work

• Influence is anytime somebody considers another person or an activity prior to making decision

• About his new book SWAY: The Link Between Autism and Influence

More about John

John Henderson is a speaker, top 10 Amazon bestselling author, and occasional blogger. He went from homeless, high school dropout to author and owner of a multi million dollar business.

He is probably the only guy you know who rode to work every day on a rope, attached to the bottom of a helicopter for six months, in Hawaii. He has spoken all across the country, but you can connect with John at the following places.

This week on the show, Adam Quiney joins me to talk about overcoming resistance and consistently doing the work, taking creative pursuit and starting their own business.

I also shared my thoughts and feelings on making the show. We also shared some experiences we had in Peru.

Adam and I discuss:

• How to overcome resistance and consistently do the work (whether you feel like it or not)
• Discipline without surrender versus surrender without discipline
• Experiencing breakdown and feeling inadequate
• Living life through your head versus heart
• The money beliefs that underly what we do and what we do to overcome them
• Thinking that having a business and the ability to travel mean being successful
• How the sense of self-worth is tied to how well you do in business
• How Adam built his coaching business from scratch to charging $50,000/year

More about Adam

Adam is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. A former software developer and attorney, Adam's learned the hard way about the costs that come from keeping your heart safe and chasing after external rewards to feel whole and complete.

From love, Adam is connection, passion, presence, wit and brilliance. From fear, he is awkward, robotic, apathetic, irrelevant and arrogant. He's learned to embrace all these parts of himself, and works with others to do the same in their own lives. Living with his beautiful wife and their two dogs (one of which is a cat) in Victoria, B.C., He is a man on a mission to bring the world to a more inspired and fully-expressed place.

This week on the show, Bay LeBlanc Quiney joins me to talk about her family history, why she became a police officer and why she didn't continue, building relationship and suspending disbelief.

I also shared how tough these couple of days but have felt the support from people around me. I also talked about how we can have an extraordinary life but can still feel not being good enough.

Bay and I discuss:

• Finding out her family history and how it impacts her
• Fascination and understanding of where you co me from
• How her experience with moving when she was young had an impact on her playing safe and looking for stability
• The reasons why she became a police officer
• How events during her childhood influenced her to become a police officer
• Reasons why she did not stay as a police officer
• How her experience being a police officer in a short period of time changed her perspectives
• Realising that as a coach, she is doing the same work as a police officer but difference is that the clients she serve as a coach do want change and help
• How children relate to police officers
• Bay's relationship with her family
• Sometimes, the best way to be in family is to be away or have some space away from family.
• Creating a relationship with her father who she did not grow up with
• Value of creating space, finding yourself and finding your own truth and then rebuilding relationships slowly and intentionally
• Having that belief that it is her job to make people happy
• What's her company called Wonderland
• To dream bigger and start creating
• Magic is when somebody step into owning their leadership

More about Bay

Bay's brand of executive leadership coaching combines radical honesty and leadership acumen with a hefty dash of magic and possibility. Her company, Wonderland & Company, supports high-achieving driven leaders to create the impossible, and enjoy the ride, all at the same time.

A firm believer in "why not", Bay's own background includes professional dance and theatre training, an MBA in service management, and working as an RCMP officer, to name just a few of her adventures. She's writing a book about being driven, because she knows firsthand what life is like for people who feel like life is never enough to meet their unquenchable desire.

Bay lives in beautiful Victoria, with her brilliant husband and business partner, Adam, and their matching cat and dog, Hermes and Grimby.

This week on the show, Ruby Fremon joins me to talk conscious vs unconscious leadership, leadership as an inner-game, and visibility vs. being seen.

I also shared my experiences during our Machu Picchu, Peru adventure. The highlights of this adventure are always being away from technology, getting out of your normal life, and just being with people in a beautiful location enjoying nature and spending time with each other.

Ruby and I discuss:

• Ruby's No Bullshit approach of just cutting right to the chase and diving into what the actual issue and how this approach helped her into her transformation
• Distraction of clarity is one of the common issues people tend to sway away from the root problem
• Being more devoted to your inner work than to your service because the more we can serve ourselves, the greater we can serve others
• Seeing leaders plateauing and how they start to feel stagnant and how she is there to support these conscious leaders
• The higher you rise in your leadership, the louder your fears become and new limitations, edges, patterns start to come out
• You need to confront your limitations, edges, patterns in order for you to continue rising
• Being vulnerable/ being real creates the connection
• What separates conscious leaders from the rest
• Everything we experienced helps to refine us and bring us closer to who we are and to our truth.
• On her journey on finding her own voice and sharing her story
• Having the courage to show yourself of who you are
• It's not about trying to create your voice but it's actually uncovering your voice.
• The more focused Ruby on her work, the better her relationship with her family has gotten.
• Focus on controlling what's controllable.
• To create a healthy boundaries, you need to get clear with your needs and create the boundary around that need
• Your greatest contribution to humanity is working on yourself.
• Expressing yourself in alignment of who you are
• On creating her own business
• Conscious leaders understand that connection and collaboration are what's going to break down division and competition.

More about Ruby

Ruby Fremon is and activation expert, coach and a mentor for purpose-driven leaders.

Ruby's mission is to give the world a voice. As a Top Breakthrough Coach and Activation Expert for purpose-driven leaders who are ready to bring their big missions into the spotlight, her no-bullshit approach ignites true transformation, while flipping fear into actualised ambition and doubt into absolute confidence.

Ruby works with leaders, from artists to entrepreneurs, who are ready to activate their voice, unleash their missions, and gain the conviction to lead their purpose. Having worked with hundreds of clients, she is a catalyst for change and hugely successful at helping her clients embody radical resiliency and an unstoppable mentality.

Named "An Inspirational Woman" by The Huffington Post and an "Icon of Influence" at the 2018 New Media Summit, Ruby was the visionary behind the annual three-day transformative leadership event, Amplified Soul Live®. She is the host of "Today's Thought Leader" podcast and uses her bold, no-nonsense approach to help leaders rise up, fulfill their missions and make their voices heard.

This week on the show, Scott Young joins me to talk about his book "Ultralearning." He also talked about what ultralearning is and also shared his thoughts on learning languages and career development.

I also shared our preparation for our Peru trip.

Scott and I discuss:

• Scott's obsession for the last 10 years and how learning French inspired him to write his book "Ultralearning"
• How his encounter with Benny Lewis introduced him to Ultralearning - an aggressive strategy for learning hard things and learning it on your own
• Different philosophy when it comes to learning
• Learning in a non-speaking environment vs learning in another country
• Breaking down learning into principles
• The difference in learning languages in European and Asian countries
• Ultralearning is a strategy for self-directed learning that is also aggressive
• To learn something is to be bad at it (at least in the beginning)
• Their year-long project of not speaking their native language
• How one can maximize time spent reading as opposed to the number of books finished
• One reason you don't learn some skills is because there's a kind of will power you need to get over
• On having emotional reaction to things like learning
• If you want to learning anything, you can learn it if you approach it the right way
• Things that would qualify as ultralearning are things that people do all the time
• Debugging your own learning process and studying your successes and failures can help you improve how you can get better at things
• The capacity to think in terms of abstract visual spaces is related to visual working memory
• How his experience at MIT was transformative for him
• How Ultralearning can help someone going into business
• One of the strategies in the book is the idea of directness

More about Scott

Scott H. Young is a writer who undertakes interesting self-education projects, such as attempting to learn MIT's four-year computer science curriculum in twelve months and learning four languages in one year. Scott's most recent book, Ultralearning, explores the art of mastering hard skills to accelerate your career and life. He lives in Vancouver, Canada.