The New Man

Do you feel like you keep getting stuck in the same old arguments?

What drains our aliveness more than work?

And what if the thing killing your sex life had nothing to do with sex?

Today Alyson and I reveal one of — if not the — biggest killers of aliveness, intimacy, and trust. It’s the drama triangle. We explore what it truly is, how it keeps us from finding solutions, and what you can do to pull yourself from its trap.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/drama-triangle

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever feel stuck about what to do with your life, relationship, or career?

What’s really going on when we say, “I don’t know what to do”?

And how do we move forward without a clear vision or plan?

Today, Alyson and I discuss feeling stuck and uncertain about what to do next. We explore what fuel anxiety, why comfort is different than peace, as well as some ways we can move from uncertainty into clarity.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/stuck-and-uncertain

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you talk to AI like it’s your therapist?

Is it wrong to prefer interactions with a machine over a human?

And how is our pursuit of comfort killing our sense of confidence and meaning?

Today, Alyson and I discuss the rise of AI as a substitute for friendships and emotional support. We explore why people are forming real bonds with artificial companions, how these tools can actually help, and what we risk when we forget the value of real connection.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/ai-therapy-connection

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them?

Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun?

And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work?

Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, how that shapes attraction, and what to do if feel like you have to choose between chemistry and connection.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/attraction-vs-connection

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you get drained by small talk?

Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love?

And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye?

Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a few key ideas that’ll help you get out of the shallow end of the pool.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/deeper-conversations

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Should you settle in your relationship?

Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit?

And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever?

Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facing our own fears.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/settle-in-relationship

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever fantasize about escaping your current life?

Is fear the one setting your goals and expectations?

And do you have any idea what would truly bring you peace of mind?

Today, Alyson and I try to help a listener who is tired of the grind and wants to hit the eject button. We discuss how to know if you’re on the right track, why we pile on the pressure to succeed, and accessing our deeper selves to find peace of mind.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/on-the-wrong-path

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions?

If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag?

And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame?

Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/dealing-with-blame-and-emotions

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What does it mean to 10X your life?

Why are we so afraid to go “backwards” financially?

And what’s really driving our desire for more, more, more?

Today, Alyson and I talk about developing a healthy high achiever mindset. We explore scarcity, motivation, and what really drives us to be “set for life.”

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/set-for-life

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired?

Is it your fault if your partner cheats?

And how do men respond differently to being cheated on?

Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it’s such a blow to our self esteem, and what not to do if you find out your partner has betrayed you.

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/cheating-guide-to-betrayal-nisenson

COACHING

- To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

- To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

BOOK

- We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

- Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book