Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them?

Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun?

And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work?

Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, how that shapes attraction, and what to do if feel like you have to choose between chemistry and connection.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/attraction-vs-connection

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you get drained by small talk?

Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love?

And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye?

Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a few key ideas that’ll help you get out of the shallow end of the pool.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/deeper-conversations

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Should you settle in your relationship?

Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit?

And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever?

Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facing our own fears.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/settle-in-relationship

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever fantasize about escaping your current life?

Is fear the one setting your goals and expectations?

And do you have any idea what would truly bring you peace of mind?

Today, Alyson and I try to help a listener who is tired of the grind and wants to hit the eject button. We discuss how to know if you’re on the right track, why we pile on the pressure to succeed, and accessing our deeper selves to find peace of mind.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/on-the-wrong-path

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions?

If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag?

And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame?

Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/dealing-with-blame-and-emotions

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What does it mean to 10X your life?

Why are we so afraid to go “backwards” financially?

And what’s really driving our desire for more, more, more?

Today, Alyson and I talk about developing a healthy high achiever mindset. We explore scarcity, motivation, and what really drives us to be “set for life.”

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/set-for-life

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired?

Is it your fault if your partner cheats?

And how do men respond differently to being cheated on?

Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it’s such a blow to our self esteem, and what not to do if you find out your partner has betrayed you.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/cheating-guide-to-betrayal-nisenson

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is sex a source of frustration with your partner?

Do you feel sexually rejected by them?

And if you don’t push for sex, will your partner ever initiate it?

Many folks — too many folks — are unsatisfied with their sex lives. This can be a huge source of frustration and resentment between partners, which can ultimately lead to affairs or divorce.

But does it have to be this way?

Ruth Ramsay is a sex educator, coach, and creator of a TED talk that has garnered millions of views. She’s seen inside the sex lives of many people, and today she’s going to help us understand why sex is so challenging as well as what we can do to make it less frustrating and more fulfilling.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/sexual-rejection

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you struggle with spirituality?

If you stay off the naughty list, does the Universe give you what you want like Santa Claus?

And why can spirituality feel so threatening to some folks?

Today Alyson and I discuss some of the ways folks relate to the unseen, mysterious world of spirituality. We explore how this relates to our fear of uncertainty, our need for control, and why some people — including me — struggle with spirituality.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/struggling-with-spirituality

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you believe you need alcohol or some other crutch to function at your best?

Do fears like imposter syndrome or stage fright ever completely go away?

And is it still worthwhile to be generous and kind?

Randy Blythe is best known as the vocalist for the metal band, lamb of god. He’s spent decades making records and playing to massive audiences all around the world. He’s also just another guy you might see surfing. That’s how we’ve become friends.

Today we dive into his new book of essays, Just Beyond the Light and his difficult path of sobriety. We also discuss how, after a fan lost his life at a show in the Czech Republic back in 2010, Randy chose to face trial when he could have found a way out. If you enjoy gritty stories, stick around and consider picking up his new book.

 

https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/randy-blythe-just-beyond-the-light

 

COACHING

 

→ To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com

→ To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com

 

BOOK

 

→ We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life.

→ Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book