The words we say to ourselves impact us in a big way.

On the freedom journey, there can be some intense moments. Maybe you've made a decision, and you're committed to being done with porn, to move on to something better and brighter. But though you've made the commitment, you still feel that familiar temptation, that craving. And it is still intense.

Just because you've made a decision to pursue freedom and be done with porn, this doesn't magically make the urge stop appearing. You're now having to face the crux and the front line of your journey: how to experience that intense urge, AND not give in to it. And not just one time, but many times.

In addition to having a clear, effective, actionable plan in place, something else greatly impacts those intense moments of temptation: What you're thinking.

How you THINK about that intense feeling, and what you're believing in that moment, can either aid you and give you that extra boost you need, or it can hamstring you, and make the experience of that urge even more difficult than it already is.

In the next two episodes of this podcast, I'm going to share two thoughts/beliefs that I regularly remind myself about when I'm feeling tempted to watch porn. And it helps me tremendously to get through that feeling, to go through it and to process it.

The first thought or belief that we're going to dive into in this episode is that maybe, just maybe, it makes sense that you feel tempted. Maybe, it makes sense that you feel intense cravings to go back to porn. We're going to explore this thought together, and I'm confident that it will help you the next time you feel that strong urge!

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Pain is often a powerful catalyst for change. Few things motivate us more than pain that we're experiencing, or the fear of future pain.

When it comes to pursuing real freedom from porn, what are YOUR catalysts? What pain have you experienced because of porn? What pain are you currently still experiencing? What future pain do you desperately want to avoid?

It's been said before that to create change, we need REASONS. Do you want to feel motivated to create change in your life, and go pedal to the metal and pursue the real Freedom that is possible for you? If so, know your reasons. Know the reasons WHY you desperately want to be free, and remind yourself of them often. 

What are your reasons? That's what we're going to discuss and what you're going to uncover for yourself in this episode. And at the end, we're going to talk about how it's true that pain is one of the greatest catalysts and sparks to create change in your life, but there is also a powerful and more healthy fuel that you will absolutely want to tap into to keep the momentum going and sustainable!

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In the previous episode of this podcast, we talked about the third step of the P.A.T.H. Plan: the timer, setting a timer for ten minutes when you're just going to allow that urge to be there. Because this is the hardest step, and where the rubber meets the road, I gave you two things that I think about during the "T" step that will help you get through those ten minutes, so you can high-five yourself and celebrate a step towards freedom.

With that foundation set, in this episode we're going to get very practical as always, and talk about what you can DO during those ten minutes of the "T" step. I'm going to give you two options of what you can do while that timer is counting down. I'm going to tell you exactly what I did when I first started implementing this plan, and what I still do to this day.

The third step of the P.A.T.H. Plan, the "T" step, is where the rubber meets the road. It's the most challenging step of the plan. But it's ultimately where the skill of freedom is learned.

Hint: it's actually a friend, and it's a workout!

No matter what stage you're at in your freedom journey, there is one essential key that you must have if you want to experience real freedom.

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You may or may not fully realize this, but you have patterns.

So much of what we do on a day to day is in autopilot mode. In fact, studies estimate that 95% of the thoughts we have are the same as the previous day!

We're creatures of habit. And this is absolutely the case with the porn habit.

When it comes to your habit of watching porn, there are predictable patterns that you fall into. But the good news is that you can easily start to become aware of these patterns.

And the GREAT news is: awareness of your patterns supercharges the power of your plan. If you can be fully aware of your pattern, you can enhance your potential for freedom in a massive way...real, lasting, exhilarating freedom.

That's what you're going to walk away with in this episode. You're going to quickly and easily start to see what your patterns are. AND, I'm going to give you a tool so you can USE the knowledge of your patterns to your advantage. This tool I'm going to give you was one of the biggest game changers that accelerated my path to freedom, and it's a tool I still use virtually every day.

So let's go!

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Back a couple episodes ago, we looked at three "mistakes" that I was making for many years in my pursuit to be free from porn. And I believe that these are very common mistakes that so many guys are making right now, possibly including yourself.

In the previous episode we drove a bit deeper into the first mistake that I was making, which was tracking my streaks rather than my wins. And in this episode we're going to dive a bit deeper and get a little more practical around the second mistake that I was making.

This second mistake that we're going to dive into today is viewing the urge to watch porn as an enemy, rather than as a friend simply trying to help.

Now, you may not even be fully aware of how you SEE that urge. You may not even be THINKING about how you THINK about your struggle! I never did. It never dawned on me to explore how I VIEWED that desire within me.

But this is absolutely huge to explore for yourself, because how you view your desire for porn will directly determine how you HANDLE and RESPOND to that desire when it hits you. The way you see your desire for porn is your internal roadmap, your automatic response, to how you will handle that urge when it hits you, and whether that response is an effective strategy, or an ineffective strategy.

This is why our perspective on our struggle is not only essential, it will significantly (if not absolutely) determine whether or not you will achieve freedom, and how QUICKLY you will start experiencing it. This is why it's so important to examine and discuss your PERSPECTIVE, and how you view your desire for porn.

In this episode we're going to discuss why viewing this struggle as an enemy, rather than as a friend, hindered my progress rather than helped it. I'm going to give you one specific exercise you can do immediately that will help you make this shift, and put you in a better position to effectively handle and process the next urge that you feel, and build that skill that will lead you to the exhilarating freedom that I know you desperately want for yourself.

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In the last episode of this podcast, we looked at three mistakes that I made in my pursuit of freedom, and which I believe most guys are making as well. Most importantly, we discussed what to do INSTEAD.

When I made these pivotal changes, that's when I finally started experiencing the freedom that had been alluding me for over 20 years.

In the next three episodes, I'm going to dive a bit deeper into each of these mistakes, because they were absolutely game changers in my journey. And I believe it will be for you as well.

In this episode we're going to discuss Mistake #1 that I was making: tracking my "streaks." You're going to discover why this approach just doesn't line up with reality. And as always, you're going to walk away knowing exactly what you can do INSTEAD, that will fuel your journey and accelerate the exhilarating freedom that is absolutely possible for you!

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When trying to stop watching porn, there are a few default habits that we tend to fall into, ways of going about trying to pursue freedom. We usually don't question the approach we're taking. We just start doing what seems to make the most sense.

And if we're not seeing results, we figure we just have to try harder.

Back in episode 41, we discovered that when it comes to HOW to pursue freedom from porn, what appears "obvious" is often not the case. We sort of default our way into the HOW, not realizing that the default, common sense way of doing it may actually not be the most effective.

And actually, the common sense way can actually hinder our progress.

This is what I gradually discovered when I finally started experiencing the exhilarating freedom that I didn't know was possible.

When I shifted my approach, freedom came not be trying harder, but by doing things differently.

As I discovered a different way to take steps towards freedom, there were three specific things that I had gotten in the habit of doing previously. They seemed to make perfect sense, but I started to see that they were not helping me. They may have actually been part of the reason WHY I had been experiencing freedom in the first place.

In this episode, we're going to look at each of these three "mistakes" that I made, and that I think most guys are currently making as well. And most importantly, we'll discuss what you can start doing INSTEAD, that will help you finally start to gain some serious traction. And if you make these changes, you'll begin to experience massive progress towards real freedom!

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