This is a bonus/emergency episode of The Evolved Caveman.

Dr. John was fortunate to have Dr. Thomas DiBlasi, an anger management expert and psychologist, on the show. And here is why that's a big f*cking deal...

 

There is a coming tsunami of fear-fueled anger and domestic violence (DV) due to a worldwide pandemic and the ensuing lockdown/shelter in place orders.

The pattern goes something like this...

First week of isolation - It’s a vacation. This is new and exciting.

Second week - It starts to wear on us. This is surreal.

Third week - Our irritation and resentment build. This is a pain in the ass.

Fourth week - The unity and resiliency once shown begins to give way to anger, panic and increased domestic violence. This is irritating. And so on.

 

For perspective, some parts of Italy are now in their SIXTH week of isolation and emotions are fraying. Domestic violence reports are on the rise in most parts of the world (ranging from 0% to 70% increases). Anger is increasing. “Pressure cooker” cases (those who've never been violent before but the anger is building) are growing exponentially due to an unprecedented stacking of huge stressors - financial, relational, job loss, parenting and teaching children at home, etc. So…how do we get ahead of this anger tsunami and begin practicing tools NOW to minimize the psychological impact later? Listen in on a brilliant conversation between two internationally renowned anger management experts as they share the best ways to ... a) increase your awareness in the moment when you are getting angry and b) tools to manage that anger immediately. It does not get any more important than this. Listen and learn. Below is a list of free resources for further practice in this area…

Free Resources: Link to PDF Article - 20 Things Mentally Tough People Do Link to PDF Article - Top Ways To Mindfully Manage Anger

Progressive Muscle Relaxation Exercise Video (MP4) Progressive Muscle Relaxation Audio Only (MP3) 

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Dr. Thomas DiBlasi Bio and Links:

Thomas DiBlasi is an Assistant Professor at St. Joseph’s College where he teaches undergraduate students, and researches anger, aggression, domestic violence, and revenge.  Dr. DiBlasi has given over 30 presentations locally, nationally, and internationally. In addition, he has nearly ten publications, predominantly focusing on anger and aggression. He is a member of APA (specifically Divisions 1, 2, 12, and 19), National Anger Management Association (NAMA), New York City- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (NYC-CBT), Association of Domestic Violence Intervention Providers, EPA, and ABCT, where is he also on the leadership committee for the special interest group of Forensic and Externalizing Behaviors. He is currently working on research related to motivational interviewing, anger, revenge, and intimate partner violence. In addition, Dr. DiBlasi loves working with clients at My OCD Care.   The url to his school page is below, as well as his work at MyOCDCare… St. Joseph’s College Faculty Page for Dr. Tom https://www.sjcny.edu/directory/faculty/thomas-diblasi-ma-abd   MyOCDCare https://myocdcare.com/dr-thomas-diblasi/

Topics Discussed By Time:

0:46  Anger and domestic violence statistics from the last two months all over the world

3:24    “Pressure cooker” metaphor violence cases with no previous abuse with no tools to manage it

4:54    Dr. Tomas DiBlasi introduced

5:47     Humans aren’t meant to hibernate

6:30    We still have a choice in what we do while in quarantine

7:13.  When the choice of being with someone is taken away, the irritability adds up easier

7:50 &(continued)