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The Nice Guy vs The Kind Man, with April


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😇 The alternative to being a Nice Guy™ is often considered to be a Bad Boy 👨‍🎤 Because many people think that the problem is being a good person. And, sure, some people might be attracted to that... in the short term. But if you're looking to build a healthy and loving relationship, you may want to look into becoming a Kind Person, instead 😌

🖤 In this episode, April returns to share what made her fall for her husband Scott. It wasn't his wealth (he lived in an RV), or being a nerd (he watched Star Trek and played video games), or his physique (we'll just believe her with that). It was him being "the kindest man she'd ever known." 😍

🤔 What sometimes goes wrong with Nice Guys™ is giving with unspoken (and not agreed upon) expectations (a.k.a. manipulation) and a lack of boundaries. Some examples could be giving gifts or doing favors for someone you don't have a close relationship with, often at the expense of your own problems, expecting them to like you or do something for/with you 🎁

❌ If you feel like you've been rejected for being a Nice Guy™ and you have to turn into a Bad Boy, give this episode a listen. You'll find many ways to become more attractive as a kind, good, and generous person 💪

🎧 Listen now and trade the Nice Guy™ for the Kind Person!


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April's Nerd Love Story: https://www.rolltodate.com/podcast/nerd-wedding/

Boundaries Blog Post: https://www.rolltodate.com/skills/shields-boundaries/

Vulnerability Blog Post: https://www.rolltodate.com/skills/be-like-a-barbarian-be-vulnerable/


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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

  • 00:00:00 Intro
  • 00:00:41 Being a Nice Guy
  • 00:04:52 Kind Person Behaviors
  • 00:09:07 Working on Your Mental Health
  • 00:13:31 Weird Acts of Kindness
  • 00:17:18 Boundary Problems with Nice Guys

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Roll to DateBy Alex | Dating Anxiety Coach for Nerds