Torry McAlvain is the third-generation president of McAlvain Construction, one of the largest commercial contractors in the Northwest, with nearly 400 employees and projects ranging from a $200M city infrastructure build to $140M in work at Micron. But this episode isn't really about the company... It's about what it costs to lead one.Torry lost his father in November 2024. At 39, that loss forced him to confront the real question every founder eventually has to answer: What are you actually building, and who are you building it for?Nick and Torry go deep on what it means to carry a family legacy without losing yourself in it, how Torry rebuilt his identity after seven years of sobriety, and why radical self-ownership is the only real antidote to a culture addicted to victimhood.This one hits differently.In this episode:• How Torry went from academic probation (twice) to Dean's honors and what changed• Working alongside his father as a business partner, not just a son• The mindset shift that sobriety forced on him• Why legacy isn't about money and what it actually is• Building a culture where people want to show upThis episode is about what grief forces you to see. It's about carrying a legacy you didn't ask for, rebuilding yourself when nobody's watching, and showing up anyway.If you've lost someone, started over, or ever asked yourself what you're really building and why, this one is for you.🔔 Subscribe for more conversations on leadership, loss, entrepreneurship, and what it actually costs to build something that lasts.📲 Share this with someone who's been through it and kept going.__Topics Covered:grief, loss, suicide loss, losing a parent, father suicide, coping with grief, grief and leadership, legacy, family legacy, third generation business, family business, generational wealth, construction company, commercial construction, Idaho business, Boise Idaho, sobriety, seven years sober, marijuana sobriety, addiction recovery, identity after addiction, radical self ownership, victim mentality, personal responsibility, resilience, overcoming adversity, mental health and leadership, founder mindset, entrepreneurship, building a business, scaling a company, company culture, leadership lessons, working with family, father son business, Boise State football, walk on athlete, academic probation, second chances, reinvention, self validation, internal validation, mindset shift, optimism, purpose driven leadership, what is legacy, what matters most, construction industry, Pacific Northwest business, business owner podcast, founder podcast, leadership podcast, entrepreneur interview, personal development, self ownership, grief and purpose, losing a parent to suicide, suicide awareness, mental health awareness, building something that lasts#grief #loss #suicideloss #losingaparent #fatherandson #familylegacy #legacy #generationalbusiness #familybusiness #thirdgeneration #construction #commercialconstruction #constructionindustry #idahobusiness #boiseidaho #boisestate #sobriety #sevenyearssober #addictionrecovery #soberlife #identityshift #radicalownership #selfownership #victimmentality #personalresponsibility #resilience #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #leadership #leadershiplessons #founderlife #entrepreneurship #founder #businessowner #companyculture #scalingabusiness #workingwithfamily #fathersonbusiness #walkon #athlete #secondchances #reinvention #mindset #mindsetshift #purposedrivenleadership #whatislegacy #personaldevelopment #selfvalidation #internalvalidation #optimism #buildingsomethingthatmatters #podcastinterview #founderpodcast #leadershippodcast #entrepreneurpodcast #thefounderexperience #nickschlekeway #TorryMcAlvain #McAlvainconstruction #amherstmadison