Welcome to The Nonlinear Library, where we use Text-to-Speech software to convert the best writing from the Rationalist and EA communities into audio. This is: A summary of every Replacing Guilt post, published by Akash on June 30, 2022 on The Effective Altruism Forum.
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I recently finished the Replacing Guilt series (by Nate Soares).
I don't struggle much with guilt. I consider myself a happy and energetic person. I also spent several years studying psychology, and I'm familiar with many techniques from cognitive-behavioral therapy.
So I was surprised by how impressed I was with Replacing Guilt. Elegant writing, memorable stories, useful advice, and dark humor.
There are few things I would put in the category of "pretty much everyone I know should spend 5 minutes reading this to see if it might be helpful, and at least 20% of them should read the whole thing." I feel this way about Replacing Guilt.
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As I read, I wrote a few sentences summarizing each post. I mostly did this to improve my own comprehension/memory.
You should treat the summaries as "here's what Akash took away from this post" as opposed to "here's an actual summary of what Nate said."
Note that the summaries are not meant to replace the posts-- in fact, they're intended to get you to read the posts (especially the ones that seem interesting, though I recommend starting from the beginning).
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Here are my notes on each post, in order. Tomorrow, I'll post a tier-list.
Half-assing it with everything you’ve got
You can try really hard to produce a low-quality or medium-quality outcome. You can put in your all to reach a B-, or to be in 17th place at the end of the race.
Failing with abandon
If you wanted to go to sleep at 12AM, and it’s 12:15AM, don’t be like “ah well, I failed.” You can try to get as close to your goal as possible, even if you don’t fully achieve it.
The Stamp Collector
We do not have full access to the external world, but we also do not have full access to our internal worlds. We can, in fact, care about the real world, other people, and things that happen outside of our minds.
You’re allowed to fight for something
We can convert listless guilt (which is vague and general) into specific guilt (which is about a particular thing). One way to do this is by looking out at the world and seeing things that are bad and being like “I want the world to be different”
Caring about something larger than yourself
Sometimes, our feelings are are in conflict with our quiet aesthetics (values, virtues, deeper beliefs). It can be useful to notice this and then figure out how we want to resolve these conflicts. For some people, this means embracing the aesthetics and recognizing that there are some feelings that are evolutionary artifacts that we don’t actually care about.
You don’t get to know what you’re fighting for
It is really really hard to really know what we care about. But sometimes the world is in such a bad place that we don’t need to (because there are some obvious atrocities that we would like to mitigate or prevent).
Should considered harmful
When we use the word “should”, we make one choice seem like the option that makes us a good person and one option seem like negative infinity. Instead of saying “I should read more”, I will feel less guilty and be better at making trade-offs if I say “If I read more, I will know more about the world and be more able to contribute to AIS discussions. (Did you notice the meta move there? hehe.)
Not because you should
The best way to make decisions is to evaluate your options and figure out what is best. “Should” is a label that can only be applied retrospectively, after you have decided what is best. Additionally, some charity will be lost when some people give up their “shoulds”. But most people will actually do more good by rejecting their “shoulds”— most people actually want to help others, and tapping into this motivation is stronger and more sustainable.
Your shoulds are not a duty
When people think about ...