How do you choose to focus your energy? On what you like and support, or on what you don't care for? In this episode we'll explore the importance of creating a mindset of support rather than a focus on things your don't like, or against people or groups that dislike your interests.

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#6 — Why We Chase Happiness Instead of Being Happy

#7 — When Sadness Looks Like Anger

#9 — Let Go of Envy

#16 — The "Card" You Hide Behind Is Holding You Back

#17 — The Scar Experiment — How Our Insecurities Shape Our World

#27 — The Science of Generational Trauma

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you heard yourself say "I'm a people pleaser" or know people who are? It's time to stop. Relationships are about creating harmony and collaboration. People pleasers allow their own values and beliefs to get overlooked while attempting to make others happy. Likewise, if people pleasing comes from the desire to be liked, then people are not getting to know the real you anyway.

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#8 — Say What You Need

#10 — Stop Saying "I'm Sorry" So Much

#14 — Effective Team Communication

#15 — You Need a Mentor or Mentee

#22 — 4 Steps of Boundary Setting 

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

When you say "I'm sorry" too much it robs you of your self-esteem and gives your unconscious mind the belief that you are often at fault.

"I'm sorry" implies some form of transgression. So, why are you sorry because someone made an observation about you or because someone had a loss?

Do you keep apologizing for the same behavior but don't make effort to correct it? If so, it is empty anyway.

In this episode learn how overusing that phrase affects your personal perception and those of others, and what you can do to change your language, and better connect with people, too.

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Check out more episodes:

#8 — Say What You Need

#11 — It's Time to Stop People Pleasing

#14 — Effective Team Communication

#15 — You Need a Mentor or Mentee

#22 — 4 Steps of Boundary Setting 

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

The ability to have joy for someone who has what you might desire is a transformative mindset. In this episode I talk about shifting your mindset from a place of envy to one of appreciation and possibility.

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Check out more episodes:

#6 — Why We Chase Happiness Instead of Being Happy

#7 — When Sadness Looks Like Anger

#12 — Focus On What You Support

#16 — The "Card" You Hide Behind Is Holding You Back

#17 — The Scar Experiment — How Our Insecurities Shape Our World

#27 — The Science of Generational Trauma

Connect with Nicole:

Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Learning to say what you need rather than being bitter you didn't is so much better. Pro-you is not anti-them, so it is important to learn that and how to communicate it. Living in a state of "I feel bad" helps no one.

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Check out more episodes:

#10 — Stop Saying "I'm Sorry" So Much

#11 — It's Time to Stop People Pleasing

#14 — Effective Team Communication

#15 — You Need a Mentor or Mentee

#22 — 4 Steps of Boundary Setting 

Connect with Nicole:

Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever known someone who lashes out a lot, pushes buttons, is overly critical, and sometimes downright mean? If you do, there is a good change that those behaviors are a form of protection, rather than an indicator that they are not a good person at heart.

It does mean you need to condone the behaviors, however.

Unfortunately, the behaviors generally hurt the person who lashes out and the people closest to them, plus, it severs connection, leaving the person in the place they unconsciously fear most - alone.

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Check out more episodes:

#6 — Why We Chase Happiness Instead of Being Happy

#9 — Let Go of Envy

#12 — Focus On What You Support

#16 — The "Card" You Hide Behind Is Holding You Back

#17 — The Scar Experiment — How Our Insecurities Shape Our World

#27 — The Science of Generational Trauma

Connect with Nicole:

Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever had a good retail therapy day? It's so common it has a name. There is nothing wrong with having a moment of purchased joy. We do it with food, too.

But do you find yourself chasing happiness? Like nothing you do or buy fills that space for very long.

I've seen this conflict with couples where one person wants to have a bunch of things to feel happy while the other doesn't care about the stuff, they just want to be happy. It often causes disagreements because HOW they feel joy is misaligned.

In this episode I will explain how to find inner peace and joy from the inside rather than trying to create it with things. It is called the Path of Mastery.

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Check out more episodes:

#7 — When Sadness Looks Like Anger

#9 — Let Go of Envy

#12 — Focus On What You Support

#16 — The "Card" You Hide Behind Is Holding You Back

#17 — The Scar Experiment — How Our Insecurities Shape Our World

#27 — The Science of Generational Trauma

Connect with Nicole:

Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

While making stew for my dogs I was inspired to remind everyone of how important it is to get all of your food facts in order.

Stop reading headlines, diet highlights and listening to the often misinformed information from your bestie. I'm giving you free access to my Nutrition Essentials Course, too, listen in. I even made it easy to find on my Podcast page.

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#23 — Wellness Tips & Tricks

#25 — How the Gut Controls the Brain

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you even been so focused on what you thought you wanted, but realized you were off?

Maybe it is because you were looking for the wrong thing.

In this episode, I will explain how to make sure you are crystal clear about what you are really searching for rather than how you think it may look.

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#1 — When New is Scary

#18 — 8 Principles of Success

#19 — The Good in the Shitty

#20 — Out of Control? Get Yourself Aligned

#21 — This Is What Confidence Looks Like

#24 — Find Your Purpose

#30 — You Are More Capable Than You Realize

#32 — 30 Days to a Happier You!

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Feeling mobile makes us feel young, capable, physically motivated, and less vulnerable to injury.

In this episode of OWN IT you will learn how muscle and joint pain don't always mean tight, sometimes it means weak.

I will explain the basics of what I call "a bar fight" among muscles and give you suggestions about how to become more mobile, flexible and have less pain.

Click to learn → Exercises for better mobility from my blog

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#26 — 5 Tips for DOMS Recovery

#28 — Sitting Is Hurting You

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Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.