The Oya Project

Can spirituality become a way to avoid accountability?

In this episode of The Oya Project, Deva gets real about the ways we sometimes use spirituality, religion, God, gods, goddesses, ancestors, or the universe as an escape from taking responsibility for our own behavior.

"Only God can judge me."

"God knows my heart."

"The universe will handle it."

"My ancestors got me."

But what happens when those statements become excuses instead of spiritual guidance?

We talk about spiritual bypassing, forgiveness, personal responsibility, and the difference between being judged and being held accountable. Deva challenges us to ask whether we're actually using spirituality to transform—or using it to justify behavior we don't want to confront.

Because sometimes the spiritual work isn't asking, "What is Spirit going to do for me?"

Sometimes it's asking:

"What is Spirit trying to show me about myself?

Part two of Sandy's letter.

Sex is one of the most talked-about subjects—and one of the least honestly discussed. In Episode 6 bonus clip of The Oya Project, we’re opening up a real conversation about sex, desire, intimacy, expectations, boundaries, and the emotional connection that can come with being sexually involved with someone. When does sex bring us closer, and when can it leave us confused, attached, or questioning what the relationship really means? This bonus episod invites you to look beyond the physical and have an honest conversation about what you want, what you need, and what you’re willing to accept.

Sex is one of the most talked-about subjects—and one of the least honestly discussed. In Episode 6 of The Oya Project, we’re opening up a real conversation about sex, desire, intimacy, expectations, boundaries, and the emotional connection that can come with being sexually involved with someone. When does sex bring us closer, and when can it leave us confused, attached, or questioning what the relationship really means? This episode invites you to look beyond the physical and have an honest conversation about what you want, what you need, and what you’re willing to accept.

How often do we sacrifice our own peace, needs, and happiness to keep other people comfortable? In this episode of The Oya Project, we talk about self-abandonment—ignoring your intuition, accepting less than you deserve, overgiving, and staying in situations that no longer serve you. It’s time to recognize where you may be choosing everyone else while leaving yourself behind. Transformation begins when you decide that you matter

When was the last time you intentionally did something that added value to your life?

In Episode 4 of The Oya Project, we turn the focus inward and ask a question that can be uncomfortable but necessary: What are you actually doing to make your life better?

It is easy to pour into everyone else—our children, partners, families, jobs, friendships, and responsibilities—while leaving ourselves running on empty. But personal growth requires participation. You cannot keep waiting for your life to change while continuing to make the same choices.

This episode is about investing in yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually, professionally, and personally. It is about learning, healing, setting goals, changing your environment, protecting your energy, and becoming intentional about the person you are becoming.

Are you pouring into your own cup—or constantly giving from an empty one?

Because sometimes the next chapter of your life begins when you finally decide that you are worth the investment.

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In Episode 3 of The Oya Project, we explore the complicated reality of setting boundaries with people we love, especially when those relationships have caused us pain. Through a powerful listener letter about an adult child who chose to walk away from an abusive and unhealthy relationship with their mother, we examine what happens when guilt, family expectations, forgiveness, and self-protection collide.

What do you do when someone who hurt you needs you? Are you obligated to reopen a door simply because someone is sick? Can you love someone and still choose distance?

This episode is about understanding that “no” can be a complete sentence, boundaries are not punishment, and protecting your peace does not make you a bad person.

Sometimes transformation begins with the courage to say no—and mean it.

The Oya Project: Real conversations about life, relationships, healing, boundaries, self-worth, and the courage to transform.

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How many times have you said yes when everything inside of you was screaming no?

In Episode 2 of The Oya Project, we’re talking about the power of saying no—and what happens when you stop explaining, overextending, people-pleasing, and sacrificing your own peace just to make other people comfortable.

Saying no isn't always rejection. Sometimes it's self-respect. Sometimes it's a boundary. Sometimes it's the first step toward healing and creating a life that actually reflects who you are becoming.

We'll talk about relationships, family, friendships, personal growth, boundaries, self-worth, and the uncomfortable reality that choosing yourself may disappoint people who benefited from you always saying yes.

This episode is your reminder that “no” is a complete sentence—and you don't have to feel guilty for protecting your peace.

Welcome to The Oya Project, where real conversations become opportunities for transformation, healing, growth, and change.

What are you ready to say NO to?

Welcome to the very first episode of The Oya Project, where we talk about life, love, relationships, boundaries, healing, and the moments that force us to choose ourselves.

In this episode, I open my first listener letter—a woman trying to make sense of a relationship after discovering that her boyfriend has been unfaithful. What do you do when the person you love breaks your trust? Do you stay and try to rebuild, or do you recognize that sometimes walking away is the beginning of your healing?

I read her letter, unpack the situation, and offer honest, real-life advice about cheating, trust, self-worth, relationship boundaries, emotional healing, and knowing when enough is enough.

This isn't about judging someone else's relationship. It's about asking the questions we sometimes avoid when our hearts are involved:

Are you staying because you love them—or because you're afraid to start over?

Welcome to The Oya Project—a space for conversations about transformation, growth, healing, and becoming the person you were meant to be.

Send me your questions, stories, and situations. Your letter could be the next one we discuss. [email protected] for listener advice

The Oya Project is a transformational podcast about healing, growth, self-worth, relationships, boundaries, and becoming the person you were meant to be. Hosted by D'eva Fields, The Oya Project creates honest conversations about life’s turning points—from heartbreak, divorce, grief, difficult family relationships, and career changes to starting over, finding your voice, and creating a new chapter at any age.

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