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This week on The Parent Playbook, Nyah finally gets the guest she has been trying to book for five years. And she was worth every single minute of the wait.
Nikki Beatnik is a DJ, producer, songwriter, music director, entrepreneur and mother — and she has been to 70 countries across six continents doing what she loves. She has toured the world pregnant, slept in coffin bunk beds eight months gone, DJed her last residency days before giving birth, survived an emergency C-section she nearly did not walk away from, and was back behind the decks six weeks later in C-section pants because the bills do not stop coming just because you nearly died. If that does not tell you everything you need to know about this woman, nothing will.
But this conversation is not just about how tough Nikki Beatnik is. It is about the music industry's silence around mothers. The fact that women producers are still just 4% of the industry. The fact that touring DJs who become mums are essentially invisible to any kind of support structure. The pressure that the industry places on women to simply not have children — and why Nikki waited as long as she did before becoming a mum.
They get into Mums at Rave — the all-women day party that Nikki has been running for seven years, that has now clocked over 100 million views on social media and 80,000 organic followers, where women come from all over the UK on a Saturday afternoon and rave harder than anyone has any right to rave at 2pm. Artists have been moved to tears performing there. Women have found the confidence to cut their hair, leave relationships, go for the job and just be themselves for a few hours without the weight of everything else.
They also talk about the invisible load, the self-employment maternity pay trap that nobody warns you about, why you should absolutely set up a limited company, why Nikki gentle parented before it had a name, dressing intentionally as a daily act of self-preservation, and why the Thai spa in Penge is better than any five-star hotel in the world.
There are still gems to come. They need a part two. But this one alone is more than enough to keep you going.
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I'm Nyah. This is The Parent Playbook by Trybe. And I'll see you next Wednesday.
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