In this episode of The Pastoral Associates, we continue our series “Things We Believe That Are Not in the Bible” by tackling the popular advice: “Follow your heart.”

Is your heart really a trustworthy guide? We look at what Scripture says about our desires, why our hearts can deceive us, and why the answer isn’t simply trying harder to change them. The good news is that God doesn’t tell us to follow our hearts—He promises to give us new ones.

We’ve all heard it: “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” It sounds encouraging—but is it actually biblical?

In this episode of The Pastoral Associates, we continue our series “Things We Believe That Are Not in the Bible” by examining this popular phrase. We discuss how 1 Corinthians 10:13 is often taken out of context, look at biblical examples of people who were completely overwhelmed, and consider why God sometimes allows us to face circumstances far beyond our own strength.

The Bible’s message isn’t “You’re stronger than you think.” It’s “God is stronger than you could ever be.” From Israel at the Red Sea to Paul’s thorn in the flesh, Scripture repeatedly shows us that our weakness is often the place where God teaches us to stop trusting ourselves and depend completely on Him.

Sometimes God does give us more than we can handle—so that we discover that His grace is sufficient, His power is perfected in weakness, and He is more than enough.

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“God Helps Those Who Help Themselves” — Is That Actually Biblical?

It sounds wise. It sounds responsible. It even sounds biblical—but is it?

In this episode of The Pastoral Associates, we tackle the popular phrase, “God helps those who help themselves.” We discuss how our culture of independence, fear of appearing needy, and transactional view of God can convince us that we simply need God to supplement what we can already do ourselves.

But Scripture paints a very different picture. We aren't people who just need a little assistance—we are helpless apart from God's grace. From Psalm 121 to Ephesians 2 and Jesus' words, “Apart from me you can do nothing” (John 15:5), the Bible continually calls us away from self-reliance and toward dependence on God.

We also discuss why acknowledging weakness isn't defeat. It's actually where we learn the sufficiency of Christ: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

The question isn't, “Have I done enough for God to help me?” but, “Am I depending upon the God who is my help?”

Many Christians have unknowingly embraced the idea that if they're truly following God's will, life should become easier, smoother, and more comfortable. But is that actually what Scripture teaches?

In this episode of the Pastoral Associates Podcast, we examine one of the most common misconceptions in the church. We discuss how verses like Romans 8:28 are often misunderstood, why many testimonies unintentionally create unrealistic expectations of the Christian life, and how the prosperity mindset can subtly shape even faithful churches.

More importantly, we look at what Jesus and the New Testament actually teach about following Christ. God's will is not a promise of an easier life—it is a call to joyful obedience, daily surrender, faithful endurance, and eternal hope.

Whether you're walking through suffering, questioning God's plan, or simply wanting a more biblical understanding of discipleship, this conversation will encourage you to fix your eyes on Christ rather than your circumstances.

In this episode we discuss:

• Why many Christians assume God's will means an easier life
• Common misunderstandings of Romans 8:28
• The danger of measuring faith by feelings instead of faithfulness
• Why repentance remains a daily part of the Christian life
• Jesus' teaching on self-denial and taking up our cross
• Why persecution and suffering should not surprise believers
• Finding hope in the eternal glory that outweighs present suffering

Key Scriptures:
Romans 8:28 • 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 • Luke 22:42 • John 12:24–26 • Mark 10:28–30 • Luke 9:23 • 2 Timothy 3:12 • 2 Corinthians 2:14 • Romans 8:18

Matt and Kyle tackle the question from the Baptist Faith and Message 2000 Catechism: To whom is God fatherly in attitude?Then discuss the answer: God is fatherly in His attitude toward all humans.

Matt and Kyle tackle the question from the Baptist Faith and Message 2000 Catechism: To whom is God the Father? Then discuss the answer: God is Father in truth to those who become children of God through faith in Jesus Christ.

Matt and Kyle tackle the question from the Baptist Faith and Message 2000 Catechism: How wise is God the Father? Then discuss the answer: God the Father is all wise.

Matt and Kyle discuss the question from the Baptism Faith and Message 2000 Catechism on How loving is God the Father? They explore the answer that God the Father is all loving.

Matt and Kyle discuss the question from the Baptism Faith and Message 2000 Catechism on How knowing is God the Father? They explore the answer that God the Father is all knowing.