There's a moment that most of us miss.

It happens in a split second, right before the outburst or the shutdown, before the spiral or the silence, before you say the thing you wish you hadn't or withdraw in the way you always do.

It's the space between what triggers you and how you respond. And learning to find that space, and to use it intentionally, is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.

In this episode, part nine of the Cognitive Freedom Method™ series, I'm teaching one of the most important skills inside this work: how to train your mind to pause between trigger and response, and how to use that pause to make intentional choices rather than automatic ones.

Because here's what I know after decades of working with people: the untrained mind doesn't pause. It reacts immediately and automatically, from old patterns and old wounds, and it will keep doing that until you train it to do something different. That training is possible, and this episode walks you through exactly how.

Inside this conversation, I walk you through:

• Why most reactions happen automatically and what's actually driving them

• The trigger response cycle and how it unfolds in a split second

• Why the pause between trigger and response is an active skill, not a passive one

• A three-step process to notice, name, and consciously choose your response

• How Dr. Shyamala personally works this process in her own relationships

• Why creating space between trigger and response is what puts you back in the driver's seat of your life

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Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.

Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate.

📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo

🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

Learn more at

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kirupsychotherapy.com

Real freedom begins when you understand your mind.

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