Part 2 of a conversation on perfectionism with Professor Thomas Curran from the London School of Economics.
Rather than expecting perfection from your child try modelling making mistakes - embrace failure and setbacks when they arise. This (not perfectionism) is what leads to success!
Topics in this episode:

Feeling that you are not enough
The rise of perfectionism – and the harm it’s doing us all | Mental health | The Guardian
Link between perfectionism and psychological distress
Parental/societal expectations
Increased competition and excessive pressure
"Doing your best" - is this helpful?
Self-sabotage, procrastination and avoidance of failure 
What is success?
The Perfection Trap Thomas Curran's new book

 
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#963 The Perfection Trap with Thomas Curran (Part 2)

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“If you had to be in the forest with a man or a bear, which would you choose?”. How do we get to the point where we can answer without hesitation “a man!”?
In this episode:

Violence against women
Parents stepping up
Teaching morality
The 'No More' rallies
Influence of explicit pornography on young men

Links:

Quote by Saint Augustine: “Right is right even if no one is doing it...”
The five demands of the No More national rallies (womensagenda.com.au)
Helping Our Boys Grow Into Men – Happy Families
How to Prevent your Child Becoming A #metoo (and Prevent your Child from Creating One) – Happy Families

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#983 Man or Bear?

Judgement & criticism, punishing, provoking, and trying to “fix” a child—none of these are a parent’s job. They only serve to drive a wedge in relationships. Our job is to love our children. To set limits and have expectations—yes!—but to do so kindly. 
 
In this episode:

Shifting the paradigm
Compassion and empathy
Emotions go up, intelligence goes down
The problem with judgement
Why kindness is the answer

Links:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R Covey
I don’t need Fixing! I need Guiding and Loving – Happy Families
Why Our Kids Need Us to Set Limits – Happy Families

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#982 Judgement & Criticism Are Out!

If you are struggling to "keep the spark alive" with your loved one, you're not alone. Exhaustion, screen addiction, lack of time, resentment - all these issues (and more!) can lead to zero interest in nurturing intimacy. Today we share some surprising secrets to sustaining a strong sexual connection!
In this episode:

Reasons for having zero interest in intimacy 
Connection and friendship
Prioritising sex
Slowing things down
Female pleasure
Book recommendations 

Links:

Nurturing Intimacy: Secrets to Sustaining Strong Sexual Connection – Happy Families
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski | The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
She Comes First by Ian Kerner | The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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#981 Am I The Only One Not Interested in Intimacy?

Justin shares four big ideas based on Jonathan Haidt's new book in the hope that it generates some constructive conversations with your kids at home: the key to building a resilient child, getting comfy with our children experiencing a healthy level of discomfort in life, the impact of social media on the brain development of teens, and looking at problematic use of or addiction to social media.
In this episode:

Healthy/unhealthy childhood stressors
Supportive parenting vs "tough love" or over-protective parenting
Resilience
Anxiety
The cycle of incompetence
Anti-fragility
Impact of social media on teenage brain development
Social media addiction / problematic use

Links:

After Babel | Jon Haidt | Substack
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt
Honestly with Bari Weiss: Smartphones Rewired Childhood. Here's How to Fix It

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#980 The Anxious Generation With Jonathan Haidt

A listener wants to know how to help her friend, a single mum to an increasingly difficult 10-year-old boy. Plus, three things you can do to survive your child’s big and embarrassing public meltdown!
In this episode:

Single parenting
Supporting other parents
Aggressive child
Emotional regulation
Psychological help
It takes a village!
2-parent privilege
Travelling with kids
HALTS
How to say no with compassion and kindness

Helpful Links:

Developmental Milestones [Part 4: Middle Childhood]
Can We Please Talk About Boys?
#649 Bringing Up Boys With Dr Arne Rubinstein
The Secret to Regulating Emotions
What is the Best Way to Say ‘No!’ To Your Kids?

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#963 The Perfection Trap with Thomas Curran (Part 2)

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