Book reading had been one of my hobbies and recently I am reading a thought-provoking book - “Would you teach a Fish to climb a Tree?”. I am a slow reader who intends to understand the topics as I read. The book turned out to be an eye-opener in many aspects. Each chapter makes me think and opens a new door of possibilities. Sharing recent experience below:
The pressure on today’s parents to do everything and be everything for their kids is a real problem for many families. From online mommy wars and judgmental looks from in-laws to the subtle one-upping between friends and shaming that goes on over social media, it’s no wonder that moms and dads feel the need to be the perfect parents.
But here’s the thing—being a perfectionist not only stresses you out to the max, but you might also be harming your child’s well-being. The perfectionists in the parenting realm may fear “messing their kids up for life,” or they may worry if they don’t help their child get into an Ivy League college they’ll have failed as a parent. Some of them expect perfection from themselves and others expect perfection from their kids. While they may think their standards will lead to excellence, their need for perfection ultimately backfires.
Signs - As a parent
-Criticizing yourself often
-Blaming yourself when your child doesn’t succeed
-Comparing yourself to other parents and feeling like you fall short
-Beating yourself up for not being able to do more for your kids
-Constantly second-guessing your parenting choices
-Losing your cool often because your expectations are too high
Signs - For a child
-Difficulty watching your child do something if it is NOT your way
-Micromanaging your child
-Putting pressure on your child to perform flawlessly
-Criticizing your child more than you praise
-Pushing your child to fulfill your dreams
-Treating a math test or a soccer game, like they’re life-altering events

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