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The Personal Development Trap: Why Chasing Growth Might Be Holding You Back
When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth?
Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.”
In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution.
If you're someone who's been "doing the work," you probably have a high bar. But here's the truth: constantly chasing better without stopping to acknowledge the wins is a fast-track to burnout and self-judgment.
In this episode I talk about:
Why high achievers struggle to recognize their own healing
The cost of skipping acknowledgment
What real growth looks like in relationships and in the mirror
How to build in reflection without losing momentum
This isn’t about staying stuck in the past. It’s about using your progress as proof—you’re not who you used to be. And that matters.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
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FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
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When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth?
Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.”
In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution.
If you're someone who's been "doing the work," you probably have a high bar. But here's the truth: constantly chasing better without stopping to acknowledge the wins is a fast-track to burnout and self-judgment.
In this episode I talk about:
Why high achievers struggle to recognize their own healing
The cost of skipping acknowledgment
What real growth looks like in relationships and in the mirror
How to build in reflection without losing momentum
This isn’t about staying stuck in the past. It’s about using your progress as proof—you’re not who you used to be. And that matters.
STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?
Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg
iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659
FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/
WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint
CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS
Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan
LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684
CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG
https://www.matthewbivens.com/
GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW
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