The Phil Bohol Show

In this episode, Phil shares his experience of meeting and conversing with Walter O'Brien, one of the world's top IQ holders and the inspiration for the character in the TV show 'Scorpion'. Phil emphasizes the importance of asking high-level questions to extract valuable wisdom from individuals who are ahead in life or business. By analyzing the way Walter O'Brien thinks, Phil develops an understanding of algorithmic thinking, which he applies to his personal and professional life. Phil encourages listeners to avoid superficial questions and focus on understanding the thought processes of successful individuals to better solve problems and achieve their goals.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction to the Phil Bohol Show

(00:43) Meeting a Genius: Walter O'Brien

(02:14) Observations and Analysis

(05:45) The Importance of Asking High-Level Questions

(13:34) Understanding the Genius Algorithm

(18:07) Applying the Algorithm to Life and Business

(24:54) Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Transcription:

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If you only had one chance to talk to a fucking genius, please don't waste your time and their time.

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What's going on, you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol, and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have 

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real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

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Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

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Alright, what's going on everybody? 

So, we're gonna be talking about my experience, having the opportunity to talk with an actual genius. 

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Um…

4th highest IQ recorded in the world - actual genius, which is awesome. 

Before we jump into that though, 

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Do me a favor, like it, heart it, that helps me help more people.

So let's dive into it. 

So, I had the opportunity to talk to an actual

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genius and I'm going to be sharing with you today my biggest takeaway is what I was thinking about, what I noticed when I was 

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surrounded by others, the quality of the questions being asked to an actual genius, and where my headspace kind of went to where I felt I could

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extract the most, not only for personal answers, but also for business.

And I want you guys to understand when you're talking to somebody 

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that's high level, it's very important that you take the time to think about and consider the questions that you're asking.

What I mean by that is 

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if there's somebody in your life, whether they're a genius or somebody that's just higher level than you, that you can extract wisdom from, 

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please do yourself a favor and do that person a favor, because I'm sure they talk to a lot of normal people, 

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and what stimulates their mind is a higher level conversation.

So, here's what I noticed. 

I went to one of my Mentor's events. 

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And, um, he had a guest Walter O'Brien. 

Walter was actually the, 

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main character in this show, that apparently you can watch on Paramount, called Scorpion. 

It's an awesome show. 

I started watching it after meeting him, obviously, because I wanted to 

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get a better understanding of his mentality.

And, um, we had an opportunity to have a chat with him backstage. 

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And the first thing that I did, I didn't immediately approach him, I wanted to analyze a genius. 

What, what's the difference between a genius and some random dude that immigrated here from the 

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Philippines that apparently doesn't have that high of an IQ, according to a Google test.

Um, my wife's a lot smarter than me. 

Shout out to my wife. 

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And I wanted to analyze what makes this guy a genius. 

And before this, I already watched him on stage, how he spoke. 

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He'd already explained a little bit more about himself. 

But I wanted to see like the, the, the man behind the speaker on stage.

And so I just analyzed. 

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Okay, so he was like sitting like a table next to me or yeah, a table next to me. 

I was here and I was just analyzing and what I like to do whenever I'm like in a 

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public setting, I like to analyze, I like to understand my environment. 

I don't know if this was a Marine Corps and me kind of being hyper aware of my surroundings or if 

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I'm just that way, I'm just going to assume I'm a little bit of both. 

And so I'm noticing that he's looking away. 

He's looking like, 

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there's people asking him questions over here to his right. 

And, he would be looking away. 

And what that normally tells me is somebody is not interested.

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Somebody is disinterested, maybe disengaged. 

And I'm like, Hmm, I wonder what they're talking about to make this genius, not look at them in the eyes and be engaging.

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Is he bored? 

Is this just how he is? 

Is this what geniuses are like? 

I don't know. 

So I was watching, I was watching. 

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And I was talking to my team, and we were kind of debriefing on some of the things.

Damn, I wish I brought my, um, or maybe I did. 

Hold on.

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Check this out. 

I took notes when the genius was talking, okay? 

Shit. 

Oh, it's over there. 

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Hold on. 

Check this out. 

This, bam! 

This is what I gathered from a genius, okay? 

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This is also what I gathered from a genius. 

And this is an algorithm. 

Now, this is my algorithm, and I'll explain what that means in a bit. 

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But I was showing my team what I was able to extract from watching a genius teach a room of business owners and entrepreneurs.

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And I was actually dissecting his mind. 

And I was asking my team, I said, so when you guys were listening to this genius talk, what did you get from it? 

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And I was expecting for them to have a very similar drawing as I did. 

And we found that we all took away so many different things, 

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but only I was the one that took away a new algorithm, a new way of thinking.

And that's when I realized the question that I need to ask this guy, 

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when I walk up to him, has to be really, really, really good. 

If I was able to extract an algorithm on how to think about life, situations, scenarios, I need to 

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put a good amount of energy and effort into whatever question I'm going to ask this guy, because God knows when I'm ever going to be able to talk to the dude again, right?

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I kept looking back and I'm like, why do people, why does he seem like he's looking away? 

I'm like, why is he not engaged? 

And I'm like, damn, maybe, maybe he's having a bad day. 

Do geniuses have a bad day? 

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Um, maybe it's not the right time. 

Maybe he's just getting bombarded with people asking him questions and shit, because he's a fucking genius.

Maybe, I don't know. 

Maybe, is this the right time? 

Should I do it? 

Fuck it. 

Let's do it. 

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And I was like, I'm gonna walk up. 

So I walk up, hands behind my back, sign of respect, right? 

And, um, just waiting my turn. 

It's like, okay, they're having a conversation. 

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Be respectful. 

And then I understood why he was looking at me.

And this is what I really want you guys to take away. 

If you don't even take away the shit that I took away and you take away this next bit that I'm about to say, please take it. 

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It will help you a lot. 

Exponentially change your life. 

The questions that this dude was being asked was, Hey, did you, do you watch Netflix?

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Do you watch Netflix... 

What? 

You, if you only had one chance to talk to a fucking genius, that you're probably never going to talk to again, the one question you ask is if the dude watches a show on Netflix.

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Please guys, don't waste your time and their time. 

Don't waste people that have done something awesome in their life, and ask them if they watched a fucking Netflix show.

Please God, don't do that. 

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Dumbest - literal dumbest thing, no wonder the guy was like looking away. 

It's like this dude. 

After I watched Scorpion, his show, I understood the 

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extent of the shit that he's done and solved and the problems he solved.

The dude has solved terrorism problems. 

Dude has hacked into 

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NASA when he was like 13 or 14 years old or some shit like that. 

Maybe 11, maybe 12, who knows. 

Um, the dude has, I think, 

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has accounted for for trillions of dollars worth of solutions. 

Do you really think that somebody at that caliber is stimulated by a discussion 

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about Netflix?

Hmm.

And I was like, ah, I understand. 

Because, me too. 

I'm not even a genius. 

And if somebody wants to 

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waste time talking about Netflix, I am not your guy. 

If you want to have a low level conversation, not your guy. 

And I'm not even a genius. 

I just respect my time enough to talk about higher level shit.

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Like, what are we doing here?

So then I decided to politely interrupt. 

Hey sir, got some questions for you. 

Um, would love to pick your brain. 

And me being like 

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a little kid, in a candy shop, with a genius, I like, Hey, here's my drawing. 

Here's my other drawing. 

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Can I ask you a question? 

Um, the way that your mind works with a 197 IQ, does your brain have an algorithm 

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and can you teach it to me in a way that a non-genius can understand the algorithm?

So why did I ask this question 

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you guys?

Why did I ask this question? 

Why did I ask this particular question? 

Does your brain have an algorithm? 

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And can you explain how the algorithm works to somebody that's not a genius to understand it? 

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Why did I ask that question? 

Think about it.

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I could ask a very singular type of Question. 

Hey, can you solve this singular problem for me?

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Question related to how he thinks and talks. 

Good, yeah, 100%. 

I don't know so much about the talking part, but the thinking part. 

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Absolutely. 

Absolutely. 

Something he can process. 

Absolutely. 

But I wanted to understand his process because there's, there's, there's something that people don't 

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understand about, I mean, not even just coaching, but extracting information from people.

The goal of extracting information, and this is related to 

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business. 

This is related to sales. 

This is how you guys asked me, well, Phil, how are you closing deals? 

How do you close? 

5,000, 20,000, 50,000, a 100,000 multiple six figure deals. 

How do you do all of that? 

How do 

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you run these businesses?

Bah, bah, bah, bah, bah. 

People usually ask a tactical based question. 

And what that means is how do I do this thing? 

How do I solve this singular problem? 

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The reason why that's ineffective, and the reason why I did not ask that question in this scenario, and I never will when talking to a high level person is because if 

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you give me the answer to that one singular thing, I'm going to have other questions because I solved that problem, and now I need to solve another problem.

But now I don't have an 

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opportunity to talk to you. 

So instead, when I'm talking to somebody higher level, I don't ask how to do something, I ask them, how would 

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you think about something? 

The more I understand how you think and how you process information, And I can figure out your brain's algorithm,

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then if I think like you, then I will solve problems like you, maybe not as efficiently as you, but whether I have one singular problem or a multitude of problems 

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in front of me, I take all those problems through this algorithm, and I would probably come up with a similar solution to all of them versus just, Hey, how do you 

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solve this one thing?

Does that make sense to you guys? 

Got to think bigger. 

Instead of trying to get external surface level answers, go to the root. 

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Because if you understand the root, then you can understand how it grows. 

And so I asked your brain, does it, does it work 

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like an algorithm? 

What's the algorithm? 

Can you explain that to me?

Dumb it down is what I was saying. 

And he smiled. 

And he didn't smile the entire time 

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that I was waiting to talk to the guy. 

He looked away, disinterested. 

You can tell. 

And, um, it's interesting because even though he smiled, it was a 

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manufactured smile. 

So what he said during his presentation was that he doesn't actually feel human emotions the way that other people do.

And he has to logically 

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create a scenario in his mind where he can script out like an actor, when to show this emotion, because his IQ is so high, he can't be human with people. 

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So it comes off very awkward. 

So the fact that he smiled in this moment means he's already calculated this response and this engagement and blah, blah, blah, which was crazy to me.

So he smiled 

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and he looked down at my drawing and he looked back at me.

And I said, does your mind kind of 

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work like this drawing. 

And I was like, can you explain that to me? 

And I was so interested, hands behind my back, sign of respect, leaning in. 

I'm very interested. 

Please tell me how your genius mind 

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works, because this is going to be game changing for everything.

Then he says, yes, my mind works in algorithms 

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and the way that my mind works as an algorithm is a lot of people, when they try to solve problems is they try to 

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solve the very next problem.

Which then leads them to have to solve the next problem and then leads them to have to solve the next problem. 

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And now it can be days, weeks, months, years later, until they go through that entire process.

He said a genius's mind doesn't work that way. 

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A genius's mind works where you basically can see every leaf on a tree. 

You can imagine tree stump. 

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Branches, leaves. 

Imagine being able to see the whole thing unfold in your mind. 

And I'm like, that makes sense.

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Because a genius is able to see all various scenarios, but their mind is like such a supercomputer that it can calculate what those scenarios could be.

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And he said something very interesting to me. 

He says, All of those available options, when we're making a decision, 

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a genius can see all of those decisions happen in front of them all at once. 

And they just choose the 

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one decision out of all those thousands of different scenarios on which one would be the best, which one would be the most productive.

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And in my hand, I'm thinking, okay, okay, trying to track what you're saying. 

So in my brain, so this is all happening in real time 

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to you super quick. 

Cause I'm trying to be respectful of his time while still really trying to understand it in a way that I can interpret it because I'm not a genius.

Okay. 

Um, I'm like, okay, 

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so trees, branches, leaves…

But you're able to see all of them, where most people can only see one. 

Interesting. 

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And this is what I do next, you guys.

So again, this is part two to the thing that if you, there's anything you can take from this is ask high level questions. 

But the part two to that is 

[00:15:50] download it, download it where it's, I have this new information from this person.

This is the current thought process that I have. 

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And then compare notes. 

What I did in that moment, was then I said, in my own brain, and I'm trying to process this as quick as possible… 

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How's that different than how I think? 

And the craziest part for me was realizing, I think in the same direction he does,

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but not at the capacity he's able to.

Because again, I'm not a genius.

But, what this showed me was 

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the infantry, as an infantry squad leader, has allowed me to at least crack a semi code to how geniuses think.

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Which is in sequences. 

So as you guys, if you guys have been following me for years, I talk about sequences, I talk about levers. 

I say it in a, in a way that 

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a genius wouldn't say because it's dumbed down at my level.

But then it showed me, I'm like, okay, so basically I'm on the right path,

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but I just need to stretch my brain, my neural pathways more in the exact directions they're already growing to.

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Which allowed me to build an algorithm based on what he was saying. 

And I was pretty damn on target before I ever fucking meeting the guy. 

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And this, what this did was it re-instilled the confidence I had in my processing system. 

How I think about things, how I solve problems, how I solve business problems, 

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sales problems, life problems.

And do you see now how that question, understanding how this man thinks 

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has now served me and will serve me for the rest of my life?

Versus what, Do you watch this Netflix show? 

Do you watch Netflix? 

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I mean, you know, right? 

So then I'm like, interesting, interesting…

And now that I understand, 

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not maybe at all, even close to the depth that his brain can go, I'm 

Especially if you watch Scorpion, you'll know what I'm talking about.

Um, what it did is it 

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gave me clarity because for me, I think I've been in the personal development space for so long that, and this might be true for you guys, especially once you guys start 

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investing into yourselves, you might feel a little crazy, right? 

Because like who you surround yourself with are people that are not as invested into personal development, personal growth, their business, all that stuff.

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They don't invest into coaching courses, blah, blah, blah, like we do.

And sometimes we can feel crazy. 

Because as entrepreneurs, as business owners, we have like thousands

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of ideas and sometimes we can think we're going psycho. 

But when you talk to somebody like this, who thinks basically the way that we do, but at 

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like scale, what it does is it normalizes this, this like feeling of, oh, am I, am I weird?

Am I different? 

Am I blah blah blah blah blah? 

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And man, like I can't tell you guys the sense of relief that I felt. 

Like my team can tell you too, I probably had a big ass smile on my face after we debriefed, um, after the fact

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I had a big ass smile on my face because then I was like, damn, I'm not doing anything wrong.

I'm actually going the exact direction I need to be going. 

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And because I figured out the algorithm in which to process information, I also learned the algorithm in which to understand and process business. 

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And so I've been leveraging this entire new way of looking at life, business, and decisions. 

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Now using an algorithm versus how I feel, using the best educated guess, I can go even deeper into this topic  

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because of the unlocks that happened during this conversation. 

And that was only half of the conversation, by the way, but I'm running up on time because I have to go. 

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But here's what I want you guys to leave this with okay, leave today with. 

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It's very important that you understand that the success that you seek in life is not about how much you know, but more so how you think 

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about everything that you know a lot or a little.

If you can understand the sequences, the 

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algorithm behind a decision making process, in your personal life, in business, it's all the same. 

And you can find a 

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sequential system that you have personally created. 

Cause you all have it, just like I have my system, you have your system. 

If you can spend a day 

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literally figuring out your personal algorithm in which you make decisions on, all the 

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problems that you have.

Like for me, now all I have to do is plug in my problem in the center of this algorithm.

And then I start 

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mapping everything else out and then I solve the problem. 

And then I also solve the next problems and the next problems after that. 

Right? 

Remember, like I told you, like the tree with the branches and the leaves. 

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And it's a beautiful thing because then you realize that you already have all the answers that you seek.

You just have to spend time with yourself to figure it out. 

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And it's not more external information, right? 

This is why, especially in our industry, guys, the information industry, people can go through course 

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after course, after course.

Get information, after information, after information, but they don't know how that information applies to them.

They don't know how to make it apply for them. 

They don't know how to utilize that 

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information based on their sequence, based on their algorithm. 

And that's why they're never able to yield results. 

And this one singular conversation was 

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validation for me, that the reason why I was able to go from where I was, especially if you guys have been with me since 2020, to go from where I was in 2020 to where I'm at today.

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It was all a sequence. 

It was all an algorithm. 

And that algorithm was not business

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knowledge, sales knowledge, and I've said it for years and I'll say it always. 

There are so many people that are so much smarter than me that have so much more information than me, 

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but they haven't learned how to utilize this information to get towards their end goal and state.

And that's why you guys have seen a year over year over year quantum leap into the next level. 

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And so what I want you guys to leave this with, cause I only got a minute left, is when you guys have the opportunity to talk to people that are at a far different level than you are in life or 

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in business, don't waste time asking them about the singular problem.

Pick their brain and understand how they think. 

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The more you understand how they think about things, life, business, in general, their regular algorithm, the more you're going to be able to now 

[00:23:10] extract how to think about things from their perspective. 

Thus, having the ability to solve all problems, not just one, and that's how you maximize on the value 

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you're able to extract from somebody, okay? 

I geek out on this shit. 

I think that, um, it was probably, 

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I'll just say this year, cause I have to think and I don't have enough time to think right now.

Um, the most I don't 

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even know the word… substantial conversation? 

It was the most… it was the best fucking conversation. 

I'm not a genius, I'm not gonna try to talk like one.

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Best fucking conversation I've had, I haven't been lit up like that in so long. 

Because of like, how awesome it is to break down the signs of how somebody thinks.

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That thinks at that level. 

You know, I've met a lot of people and they built 10 million companies, 50 million, 100 million companies plus, and I love extracting the 

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room, but to do that with a genius, that was a blessing for me.

So, um, I may continue on part two to this, because again, that was only half the conversation and definitely not 

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my, all of my takeaways.

But I didn't realize I was going to talk so much about just one piece, but you can see what happens when they're able to extract so much in so little time. 

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And this entire conversation was probably 15, 20 minutes max.

But the extraction of the lessons and the teachings was so profound 

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that I still haven't stopped thinking about that conversation. 

And I literally, um, built out a whole business plan and business model leveraging the algorithm. 

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And it was so much easier than it ever has been in the past. 

Okay guys, so I really do have to go, um, but I hope that you were able to get some type of value from that reflection. 

I may do a part two, there may be a part three, depends on how long I ramble for. 

Um, but if you ever have an opportunity to meet Walter O'Brien, or if you ever get 

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an opportunity to watch his show, Scorpion - 10 out of 10 would recommend.

20 out of 10 would recommend.

I mean, you'll even learn from the show based on how he thinks and solves problems.

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It's a beautiful thing to see. 

And,  it was, it was a great experience for me, to be able to meet the guy in person and to really pick his brain the right way. 

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So with that being said, guys, much love as always. 

Peace.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just 

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fucking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

Is your current mindset holding you back from true success? Phil Bohol and Leah Kapral dive deep into the mindset shifts that transform your life and business to uncover the secrets to personal and professional growth. Elevate your potential by prioritizing self-care, envisioning a bigger future, and embracing the journey towards abundance. Ignite your passion and drive towards creating the life you've always dreamed of! 

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(05:55) - Define Your Dream Life to Achieve Success

(09:22) - Balanced Growth and Time Freedom

(12:51) - Clear Structure and Direction for Daily Activities

(17:49) - Allocate Money with Clear Purpose

(21:41) - Importance of Lifestyle and Financial Planning

(24:15) - Envision and Feel the Achievement

(28:07) - Striving for More or Settling for Mediocrity

(28:50) - Overcoming Fear and Aim for Success

(33:55) - Seek Knowledge, Embrace Flaws, Find Purpose

(36:05) - Integrate Personal and Business Structures

(39:54) - Avoid Wasting Time on Unproductive Ideas - REST

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[00:00:08] Phil Bohol

What's going on, you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol. 

And welcome to the Phil Bohol show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life and more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullshit you. 

I'm here to give you the truth. 

Leah, do everybody a favor. 

Just introduce yourself. 

Who you are, where you're from, what your offer is, and what it is that you want to leave this coaching call with today to help you break through whatever ceiling you're hitting inside of your business.

[00:00:48] Leah K

Thanks, Phil. 

So my name's Leah Kapral. 

I'm in Australia, near Byron Bay, beautiful place, and I am a blood sugar coach. 

And my offer is I help business owners or corporate employees who are over 40 that are ready to take responsibility, and they want to lose weight, reduce health risks such as diabetes, heart disease, and fatty liver, and feel good again.

That’s me!

[00:01:23] Phil Bohol

Love that… So let's dive in with what are you struggling with right now? 

What's the biggest thing that we need to unlock during our next 45 minutes together to take your business to the next level?

[00:01:38] Leah K

Yes. 

So I would say what I'm struggling with is that in the past, I've played not to lose rather than play to win. 

So, yeah. 

Commitment to myself. 

And when I do that, I'll be able to service. 

Yeah, service people in my business.

[00:02:07] Phil Bohol

So do you feel like you're basically transitioning from that survival mode into, like, abundance, and you're having trouble connecting the two?

[00:02:16] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:02:16] Phil Bohol

Bridging it, basically. 

Okay. 

How do you think it's holding you back right now? 

Like, in what ways? 

If you can identify that.

[00:02:26] Leah K

I'd say just a bit of scarcity, skilled (with the tech). 

So that overwhelm thinking too far into the future, structure, and I'm sure there's some I'm not good enough or impostor syndrome going on, for sure.

[00:03:02] Phil Bohol

Okay, so why was it easier to be in survival mode versus the mode that you're in right now?

[00:03:09] Leah K

Um… why was it easier? 

Um, it was easier because I was an employee, and the people I was surrounded with, they were all in survival. 

Now, I've got some assets, so I've got a bit of space to design this. 

So I'm not… I'm not in survival, but it's not really, it's not accelerating at the rate I would like it to. 

So, yeah, I'd say environment, it's the only way I knew culturally.

[00:03:55] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:03:57] Phil Bohol

So now that you've got some assets. 

Are you, like, just not moving at the speed in which you want? 

Are you getting in your way? 

What is that? 

Because what I'm doing right now is I'm analyzing kind of, like, your thought process, where you're taking yourself mentally, and I'm trying to pinpoint where you're getting in your way. 

So what's going on? 

Now that you're in a, a better place, you don't have to survive. 

You know, all of that good stuff. 

You're at this stage, think about, like, your day, think about your business. 

Think about this impact. 

Right.

[00:04:31] Phil Bohol

You want to impact the lives of 10,000 people, 100,000 people, right. 

Um, to become that, and I think I was talking to this, uh, with somebody else to survive, is “I just need to figure out how to put food on the table”. 

“I just need to figure out how I'm going to pay my mortgage next month or my rent next month or my bills next month or my car note next month”.

But when we transition from that survival place to now, we have to look forward to something. 

And it's kind of like being in open water. 

Sometimes we don't know how to operate in that place because we're so used to looking behind us, to run away from the very thing that we're afraid of. 

But now we have to look forward to something, and sometimes it's a very hard thing to look forward to something.

[00:05:09] Phil Bohol

So in what ways are you getting in your own way right now?

[00:05:17] 

Yeah, I'd say clarity of the future.

[00:05:21] Phil Bohol

Okay. Hmm.

[00:05:25] Leah K

Yeah. 

[00:05:27] Phil Bohol

Clarity of the future. 

So that's… clarity of the future. 

Okay.

So a lot of the times when we're thinking about moving towards something, right. 

I literally, I think I just got off a call with somebody today about this, and we're talking about envisioning what it is that we're running towards, right. 

Because if we're not clear on our target, it's kind of like sighting in on a sniper rifle or a machine gun, but we don't really know what we're aiming at. 

And if we don't know, then we can't pull the trigger.

[00:05:58] Phil Bohol

We can't do the “thing”. 

We can't build the business. 

We can't grow our impact. 

We can't really operate day to day with any type of structure or discipline because we don't know why we're doing it. 

And a lot of the time, I think people, they… they forget that the simple things really do scale them. 

The simple things are really the things that we have to focus on to be able to get to the next level. 

So have you spent any time really asking yourself and putting like, literal pen to paper what it is that you're going towards? 

Like, when I say that, I mean, what is this dream life?

What is the house? 

What is the quality of life? 

How do you want to be spending your time? 

What time do you want to wake up every single day? 

When you wake up every single day and you open your eyes, what do you want to see? 

When you think about having nights, how do you want to spend your nights? 

How do you want to spend your weekends? 

What is that quality of life? 

Have you spent any time getting so clear as if you can literally feel like you're there already? 

Have you spent any time there?

[00:07:03] Leah K

It's a really interesting question because, like, it's a year since I left my relationship. 

 

And during that, like, as soon as, within weeks of grieving that I set up a vision board and everything… no, I'd say no.

90, 80% has, has been created. 

The dream of supporting others, like making a big impact and also not being location, not needing to be located somewhere to work. 

So that freedom, sense of freedom hasn't been created.

[00:08:02] Phil Bohol

Has to be, right? 

And you have to keep in mind, vision board, or getting clear on it doesn't mean, like, that's it forever. 

Like, you can literally create this today and in seven days and 30 days, the shit will change again because you as a human, you're changing over time. 

Every single day you have new inputs, which means you're going to have a new output and you have to be able to remember that it's just a starting point, right? 

Let's say, for example, you set a GPS, you're going from California to New York and you take the wrong turn. 

If you had your original vision board, you would never be able to get there because you didn't think that you were going to take this wrong turn. 

And now you're on a different path. 

But what does the GPS do? 

It recalculates. 

And so the same thing has to happen with your vision of the future.

[00:08:47] Phil Bohol

You know, there's going to be some things that you thought you wanted. 

Um, like, for me, for example, I remember a vision board that I did back in like 2019. 

And I was like, man, what is this life? 

What is this dream life that I want to create for myself? 

And I remember distinctly, I put this, like, BMW, it's like black BMW. 

And like, that was like the extent, you know.

Now I'm driving around in the car that I drive now, but the car that I drive now was never in my vision board, but over time it changed. 

But I needed to have a starting point. 

And I also had to give myself permission that every 30 days, every week, shit, every day. 

If I needed to change it, if I wanted to change it, if I wanted something different, that it was okay to want that. 

Because as I continued to execute in my life, executed my business, my vision, my potential continued to grow.

[00:09:35] Phil Bohol

But there's a difference between having time and location freedom and saying, I want to live in a million dollar home and I want to be able to spend at least 3 hours a day doing this thing. 

So for me, it's spending time with my kids, spending time with my family. 

I want to be able to spend one to 3 hours going to the gym, working on myself in my personal development. 

I want to spend time with clients, with clients I actually enjoy talking to. 

I don't want to have fucking nightmare clients where I hate seeing them or thinking about that. 

I have to see them today. 

It's important to be that clear.

Because when you say I want to have time and location freedom, so, you know, I can do anything from anywhere, that's still so broad. 

And what I want you to do, to be able to have a little pep in your step, right.

[00:10:20] Phil Bohol

To be able to be like, I'm going to fucking crush today because you know where you're running to. 

So let's mind map it a little bit. 

What the hell is time and location freedom? 

Like, are you, ist it…is it beachside? 

Is it in Spain? 

Is it in California? 

Where is that? 

Where's your, where's your, where's your headquarters at?

[00:10:39] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:10:40] Phil Bohol

And, like, where would you want to spend that? 

Freedom?

[00:10:43] Leah K

Yeah, Spain. 

Spain and Portugal. 

Yeah, love it.

[00:10:50] Phil Bohol

So Spain and Portugal. 

So now, I mean, I'm either like, really that good or you're just choosing Spain or Portugal. 

Why Spain and Portugal? 

What does it mean to you to be able to go there and have that as your headquarters?

[00:11:04] Leah K

Um, I just love the ocean. 

Like, the depth of the ocean there, the colors. 

Yeah. 

There's so much vibrance in culture and celebrating life, food and. 

 

Yeah.

The mountain next to the ocean, like, the topography. 

Yeah, it just feels, um. 

It feels like you're in the postcard or in that, in the picture on the wall.

[00:11:40] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:11:40] Phil Bohol

Yeah. So now your homework is the city and the home or the view. 

You got to get a visual. 

Like, literally go on google after this call and look up places in Spain. 

Look up the actual location. 

Look at the actual cliff that overlooks the ocean. 

Like, you have to be that clear. 

And then you gotta start from, from that point, that vision point.

[00:12:02] Phil Bohol

Then you have to start envisioning your day as if you're already living it. 

So what would that day look like for you? 

Where like, you're so full of energy that you can, you can impact the world by, by impacting yourself. 

So what does that daily schedule look like?

[00:12:20] Leah K

Yeah, I do like, I do like working. 

It's not like I want not to be with people. 

If I could work 3 hours a day, yeah, 3 hours a day, 4 times a week, I would be happy.

[00:12:56] Phil Bohol

Okay, so what time are those 3 hours? 

Is it 1 hour in the morning, one in the afternoon, one in the evening? 

Is it 3 hours straight? 

Is it from 08:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.? 

Is it from twelve to three? 

Is it from three to six? 

Like, we're talking about absolute clarity. 

And for those of you guys listening, you guys might think this is stupid.

But to have such a, a clarity on which direction, what the dream life is that you're trying to create when you wake up every single day knowing that that's what you're working towards, that's what makes you excited.

Because now you know that you're, you're literally in the process of building your dream life. 

When you're not as clear that the way that we're going through this exercise right now, you wake up today and you're just like, man, maybe I should just like, wait till tomorrow.

Or like, you know, I guess I can kind of do some things, but I don't really have that, that urgency to do it because we're just not clear. 

And so this, like, I mean, I'm being so anal with the details because it's so important. 

Okay, so like, leah, 3 hours. 

How are you structuring those 3 hours? 

What time is that?

[00:14:00] Leah K

Ten to twelve and two to 03:00 p.m.

[00:14:08] Phil Bohol

Okay, and how much money do you want to be making in your business to sustain that life?

[00:14:17] Leah K

So my salary, my highest salary was 120k. 

So the first goal would be to replace that, and then the second goal would be to double that, 250k.

[00:14:36] Phil Bohol

So what happens is we're building your dream life. 

Your dream life is the end destination. 

It's not a, let's, let's try to get to this point and then let's try to get to this point. 

Because let's say, for example, if you're like, my goal is to make $120,000 a year, but I run my own schedule, I do my own business. 

I coach and consult for a living. 

Ba ba ba ba ba. 

If you fall short of that by 50%, you're at 60,000 per year.

You're not going to feel happy about that. 

But if your goal is probably what you're going to say next, which is your real goal, you fall 50% short of that, you're still crushing your I just want to replace my income goal.

[00:15:15] Phil Bohol

Does that make sense? 

Like, go big. 

A lot of people are trained on, well, have fucking realistic goals. 

And I get it, you know, set proper expectations that if you've never made a million dollars in a year, you're probably not going to do that in a month. 

But at the same time, that doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for that. 

That doesn't mean that you shouldn't optimize to that. 

Because when you're thinking about $120,000 versus, like, what's your actual goal? 

What's the thing that's like, oh, shit, that's actually, fucking, that's a lot of money I'm gonna have to work towards. 

What's that number?

[00:15:44] Leah K

Yeah, a million dollars in a year.

[00:15:47] Phil Bohol

Okay.

Million per year versus $120,000, which is basically ten x. 

You're gonna have to make very different decisions to get to a million dollars per year and just getting to $100,000 per year.

[00:16:00] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:16:00] Phil Bohol

You're gonna have to think bigger. 

You're gonna have to let go of some things that don't serve you, including wasting time, let's say, for example. 

So let's do this. 

When, when people tell me they want to make like a million dollar business and they're like, “damn, you know, it'd be nice to, you know, start off with 100,000, then get to 250, then 500, then a million”. 

But their goal is a million, right? 

If they optimize to $100,000 per year, what's going to happen in their day to day? 

They're going to feel stressed out. 

They're going to be emotionally charged. 

They're going to feel like they're never going to be able to get there.

[00:16:33] Phil Bohol

That it's so fucking hard because the payoff is not enough for them. 

It's not enough to say, I'm willing to sacrifice all of this comfort to get to that because they've already experienced it. 

Does that make sense? 

And believe it or not, $100,000 is really not that far away from where you're already at. 

So you're kind of already there. 

But to say a million dollars now it's like well fuck, I'm way behind.

Every day it feels like you'll be behind. 

It's like well if I'm really trying to get to a million, I don't have to worry about this fucking video looking perfect. 

I just have to get the video done because I got to build something else.

[00:17:07] Phil Bohol

And even this thing doesn't have to be perfect or like the iOS, the latest iOS update. 

I just need iPhone version 1. 

I just need to get the shit done. 

And you start moving with a purpose, moving with an urgency because you have so much shit to do. 

I think they actually made a book about this. 

It's called like 10X is easier than 2X or 1X or whatever the fuck it is, right? 

To do more work towards a bigger payout is almost the same amount of effort that you're going to have to put into making $100,000, but at least the payout is bigger, is better. 

So always optimize to that. 

So why'd you choose a million bucks? 

Why not 1.2, why not 750? 

Why million?

[00:17:50] Leah K

Probably just came from my head.

[00:17:54] Phil Bohol

So now this is where other people go wrong with money-mindset. 

But you gotta make the money make sense for you, you got to make the money mean something to you. 

If you can't allocate the dollars, the $1 Million to something specific then it's just this number, it's just this wish. 

But if you start allocating some of those things to, well this is how much I need to afford the house or the view that I want to have in Spain. 

A million dollars per year is also going to allow me to work those 3 hours per day, which means that I have to create a business model that is scalable where I'm not going to have to be super involved.

Or to make a million dollar business where I only have to work two to 3 hours per day, I know I'm gonna need this, this and this operationally to sustain the business with or without me. 

Does that make sense? 

But do you see how you don't think about that shit at a hundred thousand? 

Yeah, at a million you have to think about how you're gonna lead a company or how you're gonna lead a business to be able to create you that lifestyle.

[00:19:02] Phil Bohol

Right? 

So let's, let's start allocating some of this money to something. 

So, how much does it cost to live at the place that you want to live at with the view that you want.

[00:19:17] Leah K

Euros? 

So let's say, let's say $100,000? 

I don't know.

[00:19:33] Phil Bohol

$100k per year for the home that you want in Spain.

[00:19:39] Leah K

Yep. 

Australian dollars.

[00:19:42] Phil Bohol

So Google is shit.

[00:19:43] Leah K

That would be half. 

Okay, money.

[00:19:49] Phil Bohol

Spain luxury home for sale.

[00:19:54] Leah K

Are you looking it up?

[00:19:55] Phil Bohol

Yeah, I'm looking it up “with a view”. 

So this is, this is what we have to do, right? 

We actually have to, like, research our shit, because then it's like, damn, now I really know. 

Maybe a million is not going to get me the lifestyle that I want, you know. 

And you think about this, this is where it's like, well, if this is my dream, I just want to get there in my life. 

It doesn't need to be in three months. 

It doesn't mean in six months, because your life will level up throughout the duration of time. 

Right.

[00:20:24] Phil Bohol

Like, where you get to in a year, two or three is going to be far more of a level up than where you're at right now. 

But that doesn't mean you've hit your dream state yet, which means you always have something to work towards.

And so I'm looking at Costa Desol. 

Okay.

It's look overviewing the ocean. 

I can't share my screen right now, I don't think. 

I'll put it inside of the chat just for you and for everybody, right? 

Boom. 

I think.. it's gonna send.

[00:20:54] Phil Bohol

We'll see. 

It's not gonna send. 

We're gonna have to deal with it.

I'll send it to you on the backside. 

Ideal climate. 

Number one quality of life index, emphasizing leisure, family and community. 

Spain is ranked number two overall of 2023. 

Right? 

This is super nice.

[00:21:08] Phil Bohol

I wish I could share my freaking screen. 

It's beautiful, right? 

It's vibrant. 

11% year over year property price growth. 

Right? 

So now you can have properties in there. 

Things are going for 1.6… 1.49… 1.5… and this is in euros, right? 

So now you start thinking to yourself, okay, now I'm getting a ballpark idea of what it's going to cost for me to live this life, to have this view, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 

And then you're going to have to find out, because I'm going to have you crunch the numbers after today's call. 

And see.

[00:21:39] Phil Bohol

Is a million enough, or do you need a dream a little bit bigger? 

See what I'm saying?

[00:21:45] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:21:45] Phil Bohol

And so that's why it's super important to get this crystal clear. 

And now it's like, well, if you have the home, if you have the view, is it important for you to have a car? 

Is there a car that you want in Spain? 

Or are you like, no, a bike is good enough. 

I don't need a car. 

You know, maybe that's, that's good enough. 

And so a million bucks, you're going to allocate those? 

So this is some homework. 

You're going to allocate how much it's actually going to cost for you to live this lifestyle. 

I want you to literally think about the clothes you want to wear. 

Like, like, is it all Louis Vuitton? 

I don't know.

[00:22:19] Phil Bohol

I'm just throwing stuff out there.

Right? 

Is it Shein? 

You know, there's this place called Shein. 

Is it, I don't know, Macy's, JCPenney? 

What type of clothes do you want to wear? 

How much is it going to cost? 

This house that you want to have? 

It's going to have the view. 

How much is that going to cost? 

How much is your home office going to be? 

Assuming that you want a home office, get so clear that you basically know all the prices as if you're going to go shopping for it, like tomorrow. 

That makes sense.

[00:22:44] Leah K

Yep.

[00:22:45] Phil Bohol

Now what this is going to do is, as you get clear on that, that's monetary, that's all external. 

The next thing that you have to do to take things to the next level is you have to start asking yourself, well, how do I want to feel in that space? 

So if you can expand, if you were to close your eyes right now and you were to think about waking up in this beautiful, beautiful resort like home that overlooks the ocean, and it has the blues and it has the greens and it has everything that you want to see. 

And again, I wish I could show you the visual that I'm looking at. It has all of that. 

When you wake up and you open your eyes and that's the first thing that you see, how does it feel?

[00:23:26] Leah K

It feels surreal. 

Yeah. 

Feels like I'm in a postcard. 

Just free, connected. 

Yeah. 

It feels like a dream.

[00:23:43] Phil Bohol

Okay, so it feels like a dream. 

And how do you feel about yourself that you got there.

From all the pain, all of the heartache, all the times we were like, man, I didn't even think that I could ever get to a place like this. 

Actually waking up there. 

How do you feel about yourself knowing that you were able to accomplish all of that?

[00:24:03] Leah K

Yeah, really proud. 

Really proud. 

You know, I can see my mom, I can see my friends, my future partner. 

Yeah. 

Yeah. 

To have that experience and to share it with all those people would be beautiful.

[00:24:18] Phil Bohol

Dig deeper, right? 

Like, as you're saying that you'll be proud. 

It'll be beautiful. 

It still doesn't sound like you feel what it's like to actually wake up there. 

And it's very important that when, if you ever hear, like, mind to muscle connection right at the gym, the same thing applies with us envisioning what we want in the future. 

We have to be able to actually feel as if we've already accomplished those things. 

Because what that does is it starts programming our subconscious to, like, long for that feeling.

[00:24:46] Phil Bohol

So every day that you're not in Spain, you're not in Portugal, you're not in this place that you can feel so proud that you've actually accomplished it. 

The more that you're not there, the more now you're going to be driven to wake up today, the more now you're going to be driven to do your post, to do your outreach, to grow the business, because you're like, I'm not longing for the things. 

I'm longing for the feelings that I'm going to have about myself knowing that I got to the level I said I was going to get to.

That I did the thing that I said I was going to do.

That everybody that never believed in me and me not believing in me, I actually did everything, and I'm so proud. 

And to actually feel that that's going to be the very thing that you, you chase on a daily basis. 

Does that make sense?

[00:25:28] Leah K

Yeah, yeah, got it. 

Yeah. 

That integrity, the joy, yeah. 

And sharing that.

[00:25:40] Phil Bohol

Okay, so this is what I call, and this is what I teach to people, right? 

Your driving force. 

This is how we go from survival “Oh, shit. I don't know how I'm gonna pay my mortgage. 

I don't know, I'm paying my rent. 

I don't know how I'm gonna pay my car note”.

[00:25:53] Phil Bohol

“I don't know. I'm paying, like, all this. I don't know how I'm gonna do that stuff”. 

And I'm trying to get away from more pain, I'm running, and I'm running, I'm running. 

This is expanding your mind to be excited about something in the future that you're in the process of creating. 

This is the thing that now, like, fools you. 

And again, it's not the things.

[00:26:12] Phil Bohol

And I'm telling you right now, it's not the things, but it's who you become in that process. 

It's you looking at yourself like, damn, I really came from, like, the struggle. 

I really almost lost everything at some point in my life, I was really in a bad place. 

I gave up on myself. 

I remember this one time when my mindset was so fucked up that I almost stopped. 

I almost stopped dreaming. 

I got through that, and now I'm here.

[00:26:34] Phil Bohol

And now you can look forward to something and say, I cannot wait to meet that version of me. 

I can't wait to keep doing all of these things, doing the hard work, putting my head down and getting this shit done so I can create everything I said I wanted. 

And now on a daily, at a micro level, right? 

So that's a macro. 

On a micro level. 

Now you have purpose to show up today. 

Now you move with a purpose. 

Now you move with urgency. 

Now everything kind of makes sense again.

[00:27:02] Phil Bohol

Now you don't get in your way because you're like, “I, I gotta get to Spain. I gotta get to the view. I don't got time for this shit”. 

“Oh, you just want to have a chit chat. You want to waste time? I don't got time. I got to get to Spain”.

[00:27:13] Phil Bohol

“I got to move”. 

And this is where that urgency comes from, because there's a wanting, right? 

You, you're moving from survival to just being good, which leads to complacency, to what do I want in life - because I'm done surviving. 

I'm done with all of that. 

I don't want to do that anymore. 

That's not the life I got past.

[00:27:33] Phil Bohol

That life now I'm going to sustain. 

 

But before I get complacent, I want to start dreaming big again, start reinventing myself, see myself in a different light. 

 

And then you see that on a daily basis.

[00:27:45] Leah K

Yeah. 

What I'm experiencing from what you've shared and created, is that my life is good enough. 

But does it light me up every day that I think I'm living a dream? 

Yeah, that's probably something that's not there, so, yeah.

[00:28:12] Phil Bohol

Yeah, and then we got to ask ourselves, like, “well, shit, man. Like, if I can envision a greater future of myself, am I good with just good enough?”

Am I good with just, like, getting here where I'm just like, “okay, well, that was cool. 

I guess I'll just, like, be mediocre for the rest of my life”. 

Or is that greater thing calling to you and saying, “hey, Leia, wake up”? 

Like, yeah, you're not surviving anymore, which is great, but you still have more in you. 

There's still more gas in the tank. 

There's still so much more potential. 

And when you start hearing that calling, you either answer it or you lose out on really meeting who you were supposed to be in this life.

[00:28:53] Phil Bohol

And I think for me, you know, when I think about it, I use that kind of, like, dark energy, negative energy and be like, ”damn, why am I taking a break today?

Damn, I have been hustling a lot…

Why am I believing my excuses that I don't need to go to the gym today?”

And that's the thing that makes me go to the gym. 

That's the thing that makes me do the work because I'm like, “I don't want to get to the end of my life and regret that I didn't try”. 

And most people are afraid of risk. 

Most people are afraid to fail, especially after they got beat down after beat down after beat down. 

They're like, “damn, I don't want to get beat down again”. 

But then you got to ask yourself, like, “am I good with just good enough? 

Am I going to be good enough just being good enough, Leia?” 

Or am I like, well, fuck, I know at least if I shoot for the stars and I fail, I know that at least I can get back to here.

[00:29:40] Phil Bohol

Not survival, more abundance than survival, but at least I know I tried.

And you got to know that and you got to think about, like, as you go through that process, right? 

How this aligns with your overall mission to want to impact other people. 

When you dream this big and you allow yourself to master how you, you think, how you feel, how you can spiritually fill your cup up when you go through those processes to master yourself, isn't that what you want to help other people do?

[00:30:10] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:30:11] Phil Bohol

And so when we think about real coaches and real mentors in the world, real people, not just in this fucking game for money, but actually want to be like, “damn, I figured this out for myself”. 

I really think that the world needs to hear this message.

Now you can impact the world because you've looked inward and you've started to solve all the problems that have been holding you back. 

And you also know, because we are all human that we all have some way that we're getting in our own way. 

You stopped getting in your own way. 

You cracked the code to this level. 

And now it's like, everybody, I need to share with you guys this message because this is something that really worked for me and I'm so happy now. 

I went from survival mode to this, and now I'm, like, going to the next level - come with me.

[00:30:53] Phil Bohol

And so what people need to understand, just like you're starting to understand now, there's already a movement happening, but who's going to be the voice?

Who's going to be the person that continues to suffer, to self actualize, to be the leader of the movement. 

And that's the process you're in right now. 

So as you gain more clarity, as you. 

As you learn to master this whole process even more, now, you're going to be able to guide so many other people.

[00:31:20] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:31:21] Phil Bohol

Because you've guided yourself. 

And the law of leadership is in order to lead others, you must first lead yourself. 

And so the beautiful part about this industry, which is why I'm also very vocal about wanting to change it, is the more we change ourselves, the better we are to serve our people. 

Then we actually show people what coaching and what mentorship actually is. And so the beautiful part is, Leah. 

The more that you work on yourself, the more your business grows, because the more people are like, Leah is doing something right. 

She's happier. It seems.

[00:31:52] Phil Bohol

I've been following her for a year, two or three, and for some reason, every month, every week, every year, she seems like she's getting happier. 

It seems like she has more purpose. 

It seems like she's figured something out. 

And I want to know what the fuck that is. 

Leah… woah, what do you do? 

What are you doing? 

I want that. 

I want a piece of that happiness.

[00:32:11] Phil Bohol

I want my happiness because I'm also in survival mode, but I don't know how to get to where you're at. 

Or maybe I've passed survival mode, but I don't know how to unlock that next level. 

How did you do it? 

And that's when they plug in with you. 

You see how it all kind of, like, goes all the way back to the source, which is self. 

And the more you heal yourself, the more the world that needs the healing sees you, and they're like, you figured something out, and I need to learn that from you because that's the currency inside of the world today. 

Yeah, making money's great and all that stuff, but everybody's starting to realize that money means shit if you're unhappy.

[00:32:47] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:32:49] Phil Bohol

Okay. 

So, like, this process that you're on right now, I think you're on the right path. 

I think the fact that, you know, I was like, hey, who wants to fucking get coached? 

Live and, you know, share this shit in public or whatever, you're like, me. 

The thing that causes you to say me is because you know that you just need a few more unlocks and you'll be on the right path to get to the level that you want to get to. 

And most people so, you know, are in a position where it's like, I don't want to skyline myself. 

I don't put my shit out there. 

I don't want to talk publicly. 

And then they get in their way.

[00:33:19] Phil Bohol

So just by simply showing up today, you've proven to yourself and you've proven to others and all of your followers that you don't get in your way. 

That no matter what, just like me, no matter what level I get to, I always seek the answer. 

I'm always a student to the game of life. 

So now you take all of this knowledge, this wisdom, you do your homework, you implement it, and now that becomes part of your process, your philosophy, and what you teach people. 

Yeah, 100%. 

And that's what I think this whole world has forgotten. 

And when we think about, this is something that I learned in the Marine Corps. 

It's just passing the torch of knowledge.

[00:33:50] Phil Bohol

Like, that's what humans are supposed to do. 

We're supposed to live life in a way that we survive, right? 

We don't die from the saber tooth tiger. 

We learn how to fucking live in a cave. 

We learn how to cook food, how to create a fire, and then we share it with other people, and that becomes the currency. 

Knowledge becomes the currency. 

And so it's how deep is Leia willing to go and at what speed will determine how fast she gets to this end destination in her mind and how big her impact and her business grows. 

As long as you're wanting to look at the dark side, look at all the things that most people don't want to look at about themselves. 

Because they are too busy judging themselves.

[00:34:27] Phil Bohol

If you continue to seek the answer and just be like, I know I have flaws. 

I know I have shit wrong with me, and that's why I'm, like, seeking these things to better myself and to also crack the code. 

Because if I crack the code for myself, then I crack the code for the world.

And then the days become easy. 

And then waking up tomorrow early in the morning or working late, well into midnight, it doesn't feel like work, because now you have a purpose. 

Okay.

[00:34:53] Leah K

Love it.

[00:34:54] Phil Bohol

Good shit. 

Good shit. 

That helped.

[00:34:59] Leah K

It did. 

It went from good enough to bigger and a dream life. 

So, yeah, thank you.

[00:35:09] Phil Bohol

It's just always remembering, like, it's the most unselfish thing that you can do to dream bigger. 

Most people forgot how to dream. 

Most people in this life have gotten so beaten down over the years, especially after, you know, 2020 and shit like that, and they're just trying to survive. 

And it requires leaders in this world to say, hey, guys, you know, like it's okay to survive, but just remember, there's more to life than that. 

And now you're becoming a leader of that. 

So it's good shit. 

All right. 

So that being said, is there anything else I can help you with before we jump off today?

[00:35:40] Leah K

Um, so in parallel to the big dream, you kind of touched on it at the start, is the operating system. 

If you're going to scale and then having a structure to kind of build your business around to create that, is that something got time for.

[00:36:10] Phil Bohol

So what I'll do is I'll have you actually look at everything that I just told you. 

I'm going to sequence it together so you can see how what we just talked about personally is directly going to fix all of that, right? 

When we think about business structure, business structure can only happen when you have a personal structure. 

Personal structure can only happen when you take the time to battle plan just like we did. 

So that homework must be done personally in order to then business battle plan that makes sense. 

And what happens is, as you build your personal dream state, dream life, dream day, you merge your business to do that right, to fit into these holes inside of your day as a coach, as a consultant. 

Because the more full you are with energy, with this purpose, the more you'll purposefully pour into your business. 

What a lot of people do, that's a mistake is especially again, guys, this is primarily coaching, consulting is they try to work so much and spend little time with themselves.

[00:37:09] Phil Bohol

And then they wonder why their quality of posting is shit, why their DM's are shit, why their sales calls are shit. 

It's because they're giving shit to their business. 

And so what I teach is build your fucking life the way that you're going to be full at 100% of the time. 

And everything that overflows is what you give to your business. 

And that's worth more. 

Those 1, 2, 3 hours of like, you being full and overflowing to your business will mean more to you than 8 to 12 hours of being fucking depleted trying to give that to your fucking business.

[00:37:38] Leah K

Yeah, yeah.

[00:37:39] Phil Bohol

So start with yourself and then build your business around self.

[00:37:43] Leah K

Yeah, I've taken one of your key learnings around discipline and put it into mine, but around pleasure discipline. 

So that's the structure. 

So yeah, what lights you up? 

Enjoying the journey, all those things. 

Finding momentum. 

So yeah, I love it.

[00:38:07] Phil Bohol

Just think about it like this. 

Like when you're unhappy, when you're sad, when you're anxious, when you're all this negative shit, can you actually do anything in your business? 

Can you focus on your business? 

Can you scale your business? 

Can you operate your business? 

Can you lead your business? 

Can you do any of the business shit?

[00:38:21] Leah K

Nice talk.

[00:38:22] Phil Bohol

No, because you can't think. 

You got nothing left to give. 

And then, and then people are like, but no, I just need the tactical strategy or just need to thing. 

And I'm like, but you got nothing to give. 

I can give you the shovel and I can give you the map, but you got no energy to get to the fucking x. 

And when you get to the x, you're gonna have no energy to dig. 

So why the fuck does this even matter? 

How about we rejuvenate you? 

Get some fucking water in you get some food, get some rest, feel good. 

And that way you can make the journey to the x.

[00:38:54] Phil Bohol

And then when you get there, you have enough energy to digest to get to the jackpot, to get to the treasure. 

 

It's the 80/20 rule. 

It's just 80% is us, 20% are those strategies. 

So what I want you to do is I really want you to practice that and just see how when you do that, when you're taking a walk, when you're in nature, when, when you're working out, when you're eating good, when you're practicing all these things that make you happy, those are when all of your business issues start getting unlocks. 

You're like, oh, this is the path. 

It's actually easier. 

And it's not in the work where you get those unlocks. 

It's when you actually separate yourself from the work so that we can look at the actual business, look at all the problems from an outside perspective.

[00:39:37] Phil Bohol

You're not in the shit. 

You're looking at it. 

You're displaced. 

That's way to grow business and solve problems. 

But again, some people will listen to me. 

A lot won't. 

And then look at what happens in a year, two or three.

[00:39:51] Leah K

Yeah. 

Being in the zone of creativity and possibility. 

Yeah. 

You have to be fulfilled, right? 

Yeah, I got it.

[00:39:59] Phil Bohol

Then you're coming up with, like, the worst ideas.

[00:40:03] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:40:04] Phil Bohol

And then, and then what happens? 

You waste a week, a month, a year with those shitty ass ideas and you're like, oh, my gosh, my business is not moving forward. 

And it's like, yeah, you did the worst possible thing. 

You spent so much time on, like, a solution that actually deterred you from getting the result that you want. 

Most people, like, don't have the emotional discipline to say, I'm going to rest today, and I'm not going to focus on work. 

I'm going to fill up my cup and whatever the fuck happens, I'm not going to open slack, I'm not going to open social media, I'm not going to do this stuff. 

 

Most people have trouble with that because of fear of scarcity, of all these negative things. 

And then what happens? 

They never rest. 

So they never get the million dollar idea.

[00:40:47] Leah K

Yeah.

[00:40:48] Phil Bohol

Love it.

[00:40:49] Leah K

That consolidated everything that I needed. 

So thank you, thank you.

[00:40:56] Phil Bohol

Absolutely, absolutely.

And so with that being said, guys, I got a jump. 

But I hope that was, you know, obviously not only valuable to Leah, but everybody listening. 

Do me a favor. 

Do people who need to hear this message a favor, like this post or whatever, boost it up in the algorithm, help other people. 

That's the biggest thing. 

All right, much love as always. 

Peace, guys.

[00:41:15] Phil Bohol

Thanks, Leah.

[00:41:16] Leah K

Thank you so much. 

That's perfect. 

Perfect where I need to get to. I've just done a bunch of landmark and so I know what that is. 

He shared, so it just reminded me to get out of strategy and get into my soul and spirit. 

That's where the answers will come, right?

[00:41:38] Phil Bohol

So thank you.

[00:41:39] Leah K

All right, see ya.

[00:41:44] Phil Bohol

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just fucking said and do nothing with it.

 Take everything you learned, go out and execute.

Send it.

In this podcast episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of being brutally honest with oneself throughout life's journey. Using personal experiences, he highlights the dangers of neglecting self-care and the toll it can take on mental and physical well-being, despite outward success. Drawing analogies such as driving from California to New York and the metaphor of eagles shedding their talons, he delves into the necessity of breaking old patterns and identities to reach higher levels of self-mastery. Phil encourages listeners to listen to their inner voice, embrace discomfort, and pursue greatness with unwavering honesty and dedication.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(00:42) - Importance of Honesty About Desires and Ego

(01:58) - Balanced Life to Avoid Burnout

(03:19) - The Key Purpose of Life 

(05:40) - The Power of Self-Care

(10:59) - Process of Self-Mastery and Shedding Old Identities.

(15:48) - The Layers Towards Your Next Level

(18:33) - Experience Discomfort like an Eagle

(21:30) - Surrendering to Greatness 

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Transcription:

[00:00:00] And then what happens is.

Now you have this army of people.

That is literally like, forging on to this next evolution, together.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show. Where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance. And everything 

[00:00:30] that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

Guys, it's so important that as you go through your life, go through your journey, you're brutally honest with yourself. 

And what I mean by brutally honest with yourself is knowing what's really you, knowing what's the ego, knowing what's the pride, knowing what it is that's actually calling to you or whispering in your ear right now.

See, when we're not honest with ourselves.

[00:00:30] it's very easy to be unhappy. 

When we're not honest with ourselves, and we wear this false armor of motivation, what happens is, on the outside, things can look really good, but on the inside, things can be breaking. 

So I'm going to share with you a live example of this.

So as most of you guys know, I'm a pretty driven individual. 

I'm all about high performance, I'm all about getting sh*t done.

I'm all about Holding our words to ourselves and our commitments 100 percent.

[00:01:00] Kryptonite to that is sometimes we're so driven by mission and purpose that sometimes we start breaking down the vehicle the vessel to accomplish that mission in that purpose and it's very important that as we learn and go through this process at higher and higher levels were able to stop and slow down and think about.

Where are we dropping the ball because it's 100 percent.

[00:01:30] Okay to live from a place of mission and purpose. 

But what I'm finding the longer I go about this because I've had a very good streak for years now. 

But what I'm finding is my body is starting to break down. 

What I'm finding is my mentality, not my determination, not my motivation, not my commitment.

None of that when it comes to the mind, but just the mental wear and tear. Uh, just being on and driven and motivated. And I think it's healthy to talk about this stuff. 

[00:02:00] So when you're somebody like me, you run, you go, you operate, you do what needs to be done. 

Because if you don't do it, nobody else is going to do it.

There's no, there's nobody going to save you in this life. 

You have to save you. 

And whether you meditate, whether you pray, whether you do anything, you're going to be given guidance, but nobody's going to do the work for you. 

That's what you got to understand. 

So when you're somebody like me. 

That operates from this higher level of consciousness when you operate from a place of surrendering to the voice inside

[00:02:30] Whether that's the voice of God, the universe, whatever calls to you.

It's very important that you remember you have to be around for the long term. 

So the best way I was thinking about this was to imagine that achieving your purpose in life is like going from California to New York. 

In order to get to New York and you're driving, what happens is if you are driving and you go from, you know, let's say the path takes you from California to Arizona.

What if in Arizona, because the roads are different.

[00:03:00] You pop a tire. 

What happens if you keep trying to drive with a popped tire, and you're just like, I need to get to New York. 

My mission is to get to New York. 

But your tire's popped. 

How long will that vehicle last for? 

You may be as hungry and as driven as you want to be, but what's going to happen is, if you keep driving and operating with that thing that's broken, other parts of this vehicle you're supposed to take to New York will continue to malfunction.

The other tires will pop because now it's not balanced. 

[00:03:30] And the more that you go, the more damage occurs. 

This is what happens for us in high performance. 

We're just like, sh*t it. We'll just get to New York. 

Like it is what it is. 

The truth is there is a better way. 

And I'm mastering this more and more and more because it's different at different levels, but it's also the same at different levels.

The fundamentals are the same. 

And so what I found for myself is because I've just been so mission oriented for years now, ever since the shutdown, it's been like an overdrive. 

[00:04:00] I've really forgotten. 

To just do my standard oil check. 

I've really forgotten to take a look at the entire thing, like entirely this vehicle, this vessel that I'm using to get to this, to this end goal, this end state, don't get me wrong.

I spend a lot of time with my family. I, um, I'm going through physical therapy. 

I do that weekly, bi weekly, whatever's needed.

I go to the gym.

 [00:04:30] I read. 

I do all the, all the things right. 

So it's not that I'm neglecting myself, but spiritually, my tank has been empty. 

And it's interesting because I pray every day.

I meditate every day. 

So what's happening is, something's calling me to stop, to slow down for a minute and say, Hey, you might be doing all the things right, but you're not doing a lot of things to make you happy. 

And your happiness is also a key element to getting from where you are to New York.

[00:05:00] And so what I found lately was for some reason, my, I have arthritis in my body because of the military and because of a major car accident I was in.

The arthritis in my shoulders have been. 

So much that opening some milk hurts me doing this motion right here hurts me like just anything that has to do with lifting and I was I was talking to my therapist and he was like there's a part of me that doesn't believe that the physical things that you're experiencing right now are all physical.

[00:05:30] So what he was alluding to was potentially maybe mental. 

So, for example, if these are the arms and the hands that I used to operate all the time. 

And now the very thing that's causing me pain is continuing to raise these hands to do more with these hands. 

But when's the last time I took care of these hands?

When's the last time I gave, I looked at these hands and actually were grateful for all the things that these hands do. 

They carry weights, they work. 

[00:06:00] They carry the children, they carry the family, they do everything. When's the last time I've actually spent some time looking at my hands and appreciated what these hands have done?

When's the last time I actually gave my feet a break, got them a massage, for giving me the opportunity to walk to where I want to in life? 

What I found because I had this massive sh*ting massage the other day, is I've been neglecting the very vehicle, the vessel that's supposed to help me get to this, this, this point of self actualization and transcendence.

[00:06:30] I've been neglecting the very thing that I need to spend more time on, which is why there's ailments happening in my body saying, well, if you don't want to listen. to this, this voice that's telling you to slow the sh*t down and you have too much ego and pride to stop, then what I'll do is I'll make it so it hurts you.

I'll make it so it hurts for you to lift up your hand so you can type. 

I'm gonna make it hard for you to hold your children. I'm gonna make it hard for you to drive so that way you can experience pain. 

Because what I'm trying to.

[00:07:00] Indicate to you is that I need you to stop trying to do more right now. 

I need you to stop right now.

I need you to like, go check yourself out, go do things to, to, to fix those tires, go get the oil change, go figure out what's wrong with your brake pads, go figure out what's wrong with the engine, go spend some time, whether it's a day, a week or a month, spend time there. 

Because if this journey to, to the end state is a lifelong mission, we got to make it to the end of our lives.

[00:07:30] 

But what God is calling me to understand now is, well, Phil, if you want to continue on this path, you're not even going to make it to the end of your life because you're just going to wear yourself down, you're going to break your body, your mind down so much that you're going to sacrifice yourself like a sh*ting martyr for literally no reason.

And it's very important that you guys understand you could be crushing it in every area of your life, but if that thing is calling to you that you're not happy, it's very important that you spend some time there because, man, God knows that. 

[00:08:00] I needed this. 

I needed this like slap in the face to say, Hey, like sh*ting chill for a second when you guys move at high speeds.

I mean, especially if you think about what I've been able to accomplish in just a few years, I haven't even given myself credit for that. 

I don't even see that as a major accomplishment. 

But to most people, they're like, Jesus, bro. 

Like you went from that guy back in 2019 to who you are today. 

Damn, that's really awesome.

That's inspiring. 

And then when I hear that, I'm like, yeah.

[00:08:30] I mean, we had to do it. 

I don't know why anybody's surprised at that. 

Like, you gotta do what you gotta do. 

But to the world, that's a lot. 

To the world, that's impressive. 

But again, it's because of this worthiness thing that I'm continuing to work on.

I'm gonna bring you guys along for the ride because I think it's a never ending thing. 

It's a never ending journey and experience that you have to go through, which also has to do with why I've probably been neglecting my body. 

And so what I've been really focused on the past week is journaling more.

[00:09:00] Praying more, talking with God more.

I've spent more time with my girls, like really just unplugging from the businesses and I've gotten a massage, massive massage that I definitely needed. 

I could tell that I've neglected my body because of how much pain it was. 

It was a two hour long deep tissue massage, and I can tell that all of those things that I was feeling were not normal.

And especially when it came to massaging my hands and feet, man, I like I almost cried, you know, while I was on the table, because I was like, man.

[00:09:30] I've really been neglecting myself, man. 

I've really been like, just just sacrificing myself for the greater good this entire time. 

And I have not been taking care of myself.

I was like, Oh, this is probably what happens to people once they are elevated to a point where they're like, they've made it in life. 

They're like, Behind the scenes depressed, and I'm like, Oh, I think I can understand how this happens. 

Right? 

So you have your business, you have all the things that you could possibly want in life.

[00:10:00] And then you find those people off themselves. 

And you're just like, Oh, I can see how this can turn into that at one point. 

And remember, guys, like, I've wanted to take my life before. 

So I understand the feeling, the feeling of emptiness, like the void. 

And what I'm realizing now in even the best of times, in the best places you've ever been in your life, That void can still be present, and it's very important to be aware of that because I thought that once you get to a certain level in your life, once you have the business, once you have everything that you could want, I mean, I thought that like it's like nothing could hurt you.

[00:10:30] But the truth is, it's probably harder at this level than it was previously. 

I'll explain why. 

When you know that you have the car, you have the house, you have the things, like you have like the physical things in life, it kind of, um, it kind of feels weird because you're like, Oh, well, I thought that like this whole game was getting the stuff, achieving these things, achieving these, these thresholds in life.

[00:11:00] So when you accomplish them and you still kind of can go back to feeling internally empty, it's like, Oh, sh*t, like now what now there's nothing to work toward because you're just like, It's just a matter of time. 

Like, there's a sense of confidence that you have about yourself where it's like, well, um, I know that I'm going to get there.

It's obvious now that I can achieve literally whatever I say I want. It's just literally a matter of time until my reality catches up to my vision. 

So if that's the case, then what the sh*t's the point? 

And then you have to like to get back to your driving force and then your purpose expands, right? 

[00:11:30] So for example when I first started it was like, oh, I just want to be happy.

Oh, I just want to make sure my family's good. 

I want to be able to buy diapers. 

I want to be able to do these. 

And then now it's like changing the trajectory of my bloodline and it's like Jesus. 

So that's a massive thing to say and like to actually mean it and then to live every day to figure out who you need to become to be that person for your bloodline.

You know, some people say it, but are people doing it? 

Are people like just literally surrendering to this entire process and like breaking down in all ways and sacrificing their comfort to become who they need to be?

[00:12:00] And I've been going through this process of rebirth the past week. 

I don't know if it's because it's my birthday month or what the sh*t's going on.

Um, but there's a lot, there's a lot surfacing right now. 

And I'm like, Oh. I see.

I see why I haven't quantum leaped to the level that I'm projecting, right? 

So I've taken massive quantum leaps every year, but it's like, there's a part of me that wants to quantum leap 10 X and that 10 X quantum leap requires me to be so sound.

[00:12:30] It's kind of like if you're, uh, let's say that you're going to go to space, right? 

Not the astronaut, but the actual, like, spaceship. 

If that spaceship cannot handle the pressure of going into space, it will break. 

As it tries to, like, number one, leave Earth. 

Start shaking like Sh*ting madness and crazy.

Imagine if it starts, like, dropping all of the pieces of metal to it. 

It would, it'll explode. 

Imagine when it's trying to, like, pass the atmosphere. 

[00:13:00] I don't know how it works, but I'm sure there's a lot of pressure involved with that. 

Imagine if it couldn't sustain that and it just exploded right there.

It's not a matter of saying, Hey, I'm a spaceship and I'm designed to go to outer space. 

You have to be fortified, you have to be really strong. 

And so what I'm finding is, as I go through this process of continuing to understand my value and my worth, and like, it's taking the time to take care of the vessel, take care of the body.

It's, Oh. 

There's areas of myself that are not strong enough.

[00:13:30] Which is why I cannot possibly take that 10 X quantum leap that's calling to me because it's just like saying, I'm not prepared. 

I don't have the fortitude to sustain lift off, but I want to lift off. 

So it's like I'm trying to rush lift off when it's like, no, make the ship so strong and so sound that there's no way that it could break or malfunction on the way to doing what it's supposed to do.

And so I'm understanding this process because it's What got me to this level? It's not going to get me to the next level.

[00:14:00] I have to completely change my operating system. 

And so, like, hustling and grinding can get you from where you're at to where you want to be 100%. 

But to achieve greatness, it requires such a different level.

And that's the level I'm playing at right now. 

I'm like, what would get Phil from good to great? 

like truly greatness, like where I can truly leave an imprint on this world, and it requires me to really master myself at a whole different level. 

And to most people, I've achieved self mastery to to such an extent that 

[00:14:30] I can now teach people self mastery.

But the next phase requires so much more requires so much more of the shedding of the self shedding of the things that no longer serve me and shedding the mentalities, shedding the belief systems. 

Even shedding the identities, which is crazy because it's like, man, you've already achieved a level.

Your identity has served you like a lot, but now you have to get rid of that identity that got you here for you to create space for the next identity to be born.

 [00:15:00] So it's like this whole game, right? 

But again, it's it's you have to be brutally honest with yourself with well the reason why I haven't moved forward and again It's like it's like the same lessons that surface at each level It's sh*ting crazy because you're just like I thought I mastered this and then you're just you're just like oh I mastered layer one of that level.

But there's like a million layers to that one thing so even if I've achieved the self mastery.

That was like, I've achieved level one self mastery, level two, level 10, but for me to get to level from level 10 self mastery to level 100 self mastery is going to require an entirely different way of thinking, an entirely different way of living.

[00:15:30] And that's why I want to bring you guys along for the ride. 

Because at least with all the lessons that I'm learning, I'm literally taking you from where you're at and like supercharging you to get to where I'm at. 

And once you start thinking about things the way that I think about things, all your problems at your level are going to be like, Oh, it's nothing because I'm designed for something greater and then you start.

[00:16:00] Achieving things faster and faster and faster. 

And then at some point, everybody's going to be all at the same place. 

And we're just like, All right, guys, what the sh*t's next? 

We got to get to the next level. 

And then what happens is. 

Now you have this army of people that are literally, like, forging on to this next evolution together.

And that's what makes life beautiful. 

Because the more that I share with you guys what's worked for me, the more you're going to implement a lot of that sh*t, the faster you're going to get to the level, the faster you get to the level, then it's like, alright guys, Now it's like we as a team.

[00:16:30] As an army, as a front, as like a unit, we're going to like to break into this next level of just greatness together.

And I think that's the whole purpose of this, right? 

Passing the torch of knowledge, things that worked for us and passing it on to the next person and just continuing to live life every day to master these, these ways of life and ways of thinking. And the more that we pass the torch of knowledge and experience to other people, the more that everybody wins.

And the more that I talk about this stuff, the more clear it gets to me and understanding.

[00:17:00] Where the roadblocks are. 

And again, guys, the middle part is the hardest part. 

When you start your journey, you're just like, I'm very excited to become this person. 

I'm very excited to accomplish these things.

Then the end state is like, damn, I feel proud that I've accomplished all these things. 

The middle is a huge part where like, most people break off. 

Most people experience all of the hardship of becoming who they need to be. 

A lot of people experience the process of shedding.

[00:17:30] And it hurts them so much that they stop because it just hurts.

And they stop digging, they stop peeling back the layers. 

I mean, it's crazy. 

There was this, um, this thing that I heard about eagles. 

When the eagle lives, uh, don't quote me on this. 

I might be completely wrong on the age here, but I believe it's 30 years old. I think it's 30 years old or it's 50 years old.

One of the two. 

But anyway, halfway through its life and eagles beaks. 

[00:18:00] And claws are so damaged from life, right? 

Just like the natural wear and tear of life, okay, that what they have to do is because it's so painful to have it, they have to go through excruciating amounts of pain. 

And the next evolution for them to, to, to self actualize at the next level is ripping out their claws and breaking off their beak.

Can you imagine that? 

Can you imagine in order for you to become the next level version of yourself, you have to, you have to rip out your sh*ting talons, 

[00:18:30] And you have to break your beak off? 

You know how much pain would go into just clawing at yourself, and then just ripping off your talons? 

I don't even know how they do that.

But, in order for them to live the next part of their life, they have to kill the version of themselves that they've been up until this point. 

And then they'll grow even stronger talons and then they'll grow an even stronger beak and that's how they live the next phase of their life. 

[00:19:00] But if they don't do that, if they're not willing to go through the pain, then they will die in pain because all of these things are broken, just like we've been talking about this entire time.

It's like. It's like fixing up the car. 

If California to New York will take our entire life, that car needs to be able to get there. 

So just like this, this eagle that's supposed to live for another 50 years, in order for it to live 50 more years, it has to destroy what it's always known, what it's always been.

[00:19:30] And it's the most painful process, and I think that that's where most people break off, because it's like, Jesus, bro, like, you take off one talon, you're like, damn, that hurts so much, I don't know if I can do the rest. But it's the ones that are like, I know that on the other side of all of this pain is the version of me that, that's great, the eagle, that that will fly the highest, that will soar, that will win.

But you have to go through massive amounts of pain. 

[00:20:00] You have to become somebody that you've never been and like you have to dig deep to, to endure the pain, the brutality of life. 

And I think that's what the process is. 

And I think that that's the phase I'm entering right now. It's like, well if, if I know.

That on the other side of the level that I've achieved right now is literally just the rest of my life. 

In order to get to that next level, I have to continue to break down all of these things. 

I have to break off my beak. 

I have to break off these talons that have gotten me to this level in life. 

[00:20:30] So that way I can create space and room for much stronger things to grow for me to be stronger than I've ever been.

And it's a painful process because to get to this place in my life where I've really achieved everything I could want, like, if I never got any higher than this level, I would genuinely be happy. 

My family would genuinely have everything they could possibly need. Like, we're good. 

But there's something about purpose that doesn't matter about you.

It doesn't matter how comfortable you are. 

There's something about understanding that your purpose is bigger than you. 

Where you're just like, you can't settle.

[00:21:00] Because then you're failing people, then you're basically showing people that that's the lid. 

And the whole purpose is to keep showing people what's possible and you have to sacrifice all of your comfort to achieve the most that you possibly can to show the world and everybody else who doesn't believe yet in themselves that they can do it too.

That if somebody likes you can, so can they. And I think that's the purpose. 

I think that if we as humans just spend more time pushing ourselves past our perceived limits.

[00:21:30] I think that naturally, like the world, society, humans would hold themselves to such a different standard. 

I think that if everybody practiced that, 100 percent of people just were constantly, every single day, pushing themselves to find what they're capable of, what they're made of.

I think that the whole world will be better off. 

I think that we'd have people that are more fit. I think that we'd have more entrepreneurs. 

I think that we would have better families. 

I think we would have lower divorce rates. 

[00:22:00] I think that everything, I think everything would be better because everybody's just wanting to be better everywhere.

You look like everybody's trying to better themselves, better their families, better their businesses, better everything. 

But that's not how the world works. 

It's a lot easier to just be complacent. 

So when you have that calling and you're just like, man, I don't know what it is. 

And maybe, you know, you haven't been able to break through it your entire life until now.

Maybe there's something that still calls you and you're just like, I don't know what the sh*t it is, Phil. 

[00:22:30] There's just something that's calling me to be great, but I haven't been able to figure it out. 

And I've been trying for years and I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. 

But I have that itch, I have that thing, there's like whispers in the mind every time I pray, every time I meditate, there's like something calling to me.

I just don't know how to uncover it, I don't know how to become one. 

When you have that whisper, when you, when you have that voice, just realize it, it's, it's, it's, it's a voice, like it's a real one. 

It's not you. 

It's the voice of God. 

It's, it's, it's infinite intelligence. 

[00:23:00] It's the universe. 

Whatever you want to call it, it's calling to you.

So the question is, are you going to listen to it and finally surrender and submit to who you need to become? 

Put pride, ego, shame, guilt, all of the sh*t that, that just are holding you back, are you going to put all of that aside? 

Get on your hands and knees and just surrender to what it is that's calling to you.

And then as soon as you understand, as soon as you hear everything that needs to be done to then take action on it. 

[00:23:30] No matter how much it hurts to break off all of your talons and break off your beak and just all of these things. 

Are you willing to do that? 

At least for me, I can't not do that. 

I can't go back to a normal life.

I can't go back to a life where it's just going to a nine to five job and just sh*ting doing nothing significant with my life. 

Like, I think that's why it's called life's purpose. 

I can't stop. 

I don't know about you, but when I'm not going after my purpose.

[00:24:00] When I'm not living from that place, no matter how scary it is, no matter how much it hurts to keep breaking this sh*t off and breaking off the beaks and just continue to evolve and level up, it's And ask myself, well, why am I choosing to do this?

Why am I, why am I choosing to continue to do this when I could just settle? 

The truth is it's because I'm not choosing it. 

It chose me just like it's choosing you. 

We don't choose these things. 

It chooses us. 

And it's up to us to say, I'm going to listen to the voice.

[00:24:30] I'm gonna, I'm gonna, if I'm getting called to do something great, I'm going to lean into it and be great no matter the price I have to pay.

And that price is everything that's comfortable to you. 

And again. 

If you know you're gonna pay that price, you have to make sure that vehicle is good. 

You gotta make sure you're good. 

And again, it's just brutal honesty. 

For us to be great, we always have to be honest with ourselves. 

We always have to make sure that if we need a day, we take a day.

If we need a weekend, we take a weekend. 

[00:25:00] If we need a week, we take a week. 

If we need to cool off a little bit instead of pushing, and like, instead, we're just being, and we just need that for the season, then B. Don't push, don't do, just be. 

And when it's time to push again, again, getting back into the rotation of things, and pushing, and driving, and um, learning how to hear these voices, hear these, um, it's like the GPS, right?

It's telling, it's like, as you're maneuvering through life and in business, something will call to you again. 

[00:25:30] Take that left. 

Take that pivot. 

Go do that thing. 

And you just have to trust that voice of God. 

You gotta trust that voice. 

You gotta trust that it's guiding you in the right place. And, um, again, you might not see the fruits of your labor for a while.

And it's just continuing to have faith. It's continuing to just move. And if you're just, I believe, more honest with yourself, just like I'm learning to be even more honest, because I'm a pretty honest guy, you know? 

So I'm just like, damn, I can be even more honest that, like, these little things don't make me happy.

[00:26:00] Oh, I need to spend more time with self care. 

Okay. 

I didn't, I thought that was not a thing right now. 

I think, I thought I just had to keep pushing. 

But again, I've never been at this level. 

I don't have people to really tell me what I'm supposed to do or not do next. 

So it's like you have to learn through trial and error what works and what doesn't work.

And that's how you attain wisdom, just going through the process, but as being hyper aware and not just going down a Sh*ting rabbit hole of darkness.

That's what self mastery is. It's actually mastering self through trials and through failures, which is, again, why I'm sharing these stories with you now.

[00:26:30] So that way you can see in real time what that looks like. 

So anyway, guys, be brutally honest with yourself. 

Where are you at? 

Are you good? 

Are you happy? 

Are you not?

Are you, and I'll play devil's advocate, are you just being a bitch? 

Like, what's the thing? 

Because there's truth to that, and I can say that because I've been that.

Where it's like, oh, I just need rest. But if I was being brutally honest, I also didn't put out. For me, when I'm like.

[00:27:00] I need rest,  it's because I'm being brutally honest. 

All I do is put out, and I never take a break. 

So don't just say, I need a break, and then not play devil's advocate with yourself and say, but do you really?

Or, do you actually need to push more, and that's how you'd be brutally honest with yourself, that you could've given more.

You're only gonna know that. 

Nobody else is gonna know that. 

The truth is inside of you, and that truth will set you free, once you're honest with yourself. Alright? 

So, that's what I got.

I really hope that whoever needs to hear this message, hears it.

[00:27:30] Downloads it, and applies it. 

Because it's um, it's a very interesting path that we're all on, at whatever stage you're at, whatever level you're at in your journey, it's a very interesting path that we're on, achieving purpose. 

And again, it's a lifelong mission, so don't feel in a rush to get there.

You gotta get there first. Peace guys.

In this episode, Phil dives deep into tapping into the powerful being lying dormant within us all – the Sage version of ourselves. Sharing personal experiences and insights gained during a transformative trip to Tahoe, Phil explores the concept of divinity within, urging listeners to unlock their potential and live a life of purpose and meaning. Drawing on meditation, spiritual awakening, and the realization of life's deeper purpose, Phil challenges listeners to embrace the journey of self-discovery and channel the infinite power within to overcome life's challenges. Join Phil as he invites listeners to awaken to their true calling and become vessels for positive change in the world. Don't just listen – take action. 

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.

Timestamps:

(00:47) - Exploring the Sage Version of Oneself

(03:40) - Spiritual Awakenings and the Commonality of Divinity

(04:08) - The Reflective Trip to Tahoe

(05:19) - What’s Inside of You

(11:25) - Life Occurrences Beyond Coincidence

(15:20) - The Divinity that Guides us to our purpose

(18:09) - You are a Vessel for a Divine Purpose

(20:27) - Take action

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Transcription:

[00:00:00] When we think about our problems, it's like the size of an atom, so tiny. 

In comparison to this all powerful being inside of us.

What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show. Where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance. And everything 

[00:00:30] that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

What's going on, you guys? 

We are going to be changing it up a little bit today. 

I kind of want to see who can track with me. 

I want to see the things that I teach outside of my clients.

[00:01:00] To just on YouTube or any platform, Instagram, Facebook, uh, podcasting. 

I wonder how people actually think about stuff like this.

So, let's talk about the Sage version of you. 

Let's talk about the all powerful, all knowing version of you that's lying dormant inside of you right now. 

Okay, very different topic than I usually talk about. but I'm interested to see.

[00:01:30] Who can actually Not only understand this from a logical, external perspective, but internally has done some of the spiritual work that's needed to tap into this version of self.

So, whether you believe this or not, or whether you're in the process of uncovering it for yourself, inside of all of us, 

There's divinity inside all of us. 

There is a more powerful version of us that we have access to, whether that's us.

[00:02:00] Whether that's universal power, whether that's God, whatever it is, we all have access to it.

Now, who's aware that they have access to it and who's unaware? 

That's a whole different story. 

Most people. 

In the world right now. 

Do not understand that they have access to this power. 

Most people in the world do not understand that they have access to it at all, and they live their life thinking that there are these humans that just have to live a life.

Get through the 60, 80 years that they're going to 

[00:02:30] live and then get buried. 

That's it. 

Unfortunately, that is actually what people believe that their life is meant for. 

When you start tapping into purpose, when you start tapping into this other version of you, that you were meant for something, that you were born for a purpose, that there's something that you have to get done in this one life you have to live, this is where you start leaving the physical body and entering more of the spiritual realm.

This is where you start really understanding that there's people that have figured this out. 

[00:03:00] And you'll see how they talk about it. 

You'll see that they'll bring it up here and there. 

And for most people, they'll hear it and it'll go over their head. 

They're going to think that it's just like this, you know, woo woo thing.

But when you actually start getting with the times, and you start understanding that there's something bigger at play here, this is where things start to change. 

This is where, like, life changes for you, because now you understand you're playing a different game. 

You're no longer playing the game of just going to work.

[00:03:30] Going home, doing it tomorrow.

You're no longer just living this surface level life. 

And now what you see is the spiritual calling that you have. 

So, back in 2018, when I was in Tahoe, I was feeling extremely lost. Extremely lost in life. I was feeling extremely lost. 

You know, after getting out of the Marine Corps, that was my identity.

I was like, who am I now? 

I started going through some weird thing of depression again.

[00:04:00] And I was like just drinking all the time, smoking weed all the time, just doing all this stupid sh*t all the time. 

So I went to Tahoe and I was like, look, I need to spend time in nature. 

I need to figure my sh*t out.

There's something wrong with me. 

And during this trip to Tahoe, all I did was read this book, it's called To Shake the Sleeping Self. 

And all I would do when I would wake up is I'd literally sit by the window, looking at the snow, looking at the world, and I'd just start reading. 

[00:04:30] And I became very intentional with reading every word inside of that book for every chapter I went through.

And then I started realizing that I was living my life asleep. 

I realized that the way I was living my life was so caught in the rat race of life. 

That I forgot how to live with purpose. 

I forgot how to live with meaning. 

That got stripped from me because the only way that I've ever known that is through the military.

[00:05:00] The only way that I've ever learned how to live with mission and purpose was in the military. 

So to have that no longer part of my life.

It was big.

How the f*ck do I get through this thing? 

How does a civilian actually have a mission and purpose in life? 

And that's when I started going deeper into now, at this point, that's when I went through very deep meditation.

Okay? 

Very, very deep meditation. 

If you guys have done breathing exercises, just understand meditation can get extremely deep. 

It can go far deeper than what you even realize right now. 

[00:05:30] What you can tap into is far deeper and far more powerful than you can even realize. 

So by going into that space, what I found in myself was divinity, and it's very difficult to explain what happens when you can envision it in the mind.

Just imagine, inside of you, there's infinite space. Inside of you, there's, you're not as big as your body.

[00:06:00] Inside of you, spiritually, it's forever that way, forever that way, forever that way, forever that way. 

It's infinite. 

It's infinite. 

When they talk about infinite intelligence, infinite everything, it's everything.

It's infinite. 

There's no stopping it. 

So, what I found in Tahoe was, there was like this, this divine presence. 

This massive, massive, I can't even explain what it looks like, it just, this massive being, all powerful.

[00:06:30] Had no fears, no doubts, there was calmness, there was chaos, there was something that you would fear, and there was something that you'd trust.

And I just remember looking at it in the eyes and I was like.

What is this? 

And why is it in me? 

And as I started talking to it.

[00:07:00] It didn't even say a word. 

It's like I was thinking, speaking to it, and it was speaking back to me through understanding. 

It's like wisdom. And it was a crazy thought conversation we were having.

And then I realized that this same being is inside of all of us. 

That we are all the same. 

We're, we're basically all living the same way with this thing inside of us now who has access to it and who's aware of it, that's a different story.

[00:07:30] If you guys want to have a deeper understanding of this, go look up The Egg Theory on YouTube.

The Egg Theory. 

It gives a very good visual representation of this. 

And The biggest thing for me is through this, I realized that all of the things that I worried about in life were all of these human problems. 

All of these weird things that we stress about in our day.

[00:08:00] Today, people cutting us off on the freeway, people looking at us dirty at the bar, or how we feel about our day, how sh*tty it feels, that we can just have a backache and it ruins our day, sh*t like that.

That it's just so, such a waste of a gift. 

To waste any emotional time and space in those negative places, when we can, in fact, tap into this infinite source and live a life truly of purpose and meaning. 

[00:08:30] And by spending more time spiritually connecting to this source, the life that you live changes. 

All the problems that you have in life and business, in self, with marriage, all of it.

Tiny. 

In comparison to what this being considers. 

When we think about our problems. It's like 

[00:09:00] the size of an atom, so tiny in comparison to this all powerful being inside of us that has problems of the universe, has problems of infinity, never ending, much, much larger scale, much larger scale. It's kind of like the earth versus, um, the universe earth versus the galaxy.

Even earth versus the galaxy is not big enough in comparison. 

[00:09:30] So you can imagine what happens when you start understanding that life is deeper. 

That you have access to a lot more power than you give yourself permission to even see or the openness to even consider that there's something different there, you live a very mediocre life.

So when people start going through spiritual awakenings, this is where they really start tapping into the source. 

This is where they really start tapping into something much bigger than them. 

[00:10:00] And when you really go down this rabbit hole of what life is supposed to be, How you're supposed to respond to things now, having this new sense of awareness.

For me, I started becoming more peaceful.

So, just like you guys see here, this is wrath. 

My deadliest sin, wrath. When I started going through this spiritual awakening.

[00:10:30] I don't really get angry too much anymore. 

It's as if I can feel that emotion, but seeing it from an outside perspective. 

I can see it from an out of body perspective.

When I feel a lot of negative emotions, it's as if I know when to close my eyes and stop, and simply just listen. 

Simply just feel. Simply just surrender. 

[00:11:00] Simply stop trying to control the things I cannot control.

And the crazy part is, when you live and live and operate from that space, you can do anything. 

Because you're not in a rush, you're not attached to an outcome. 

You're just in a state of being. 

You're in a state of connection. 

And you're learning how to trust something much bigger than you. 

Because if you think about it.

[00:11:30] All of the things that happen in our lives, let's call it coincidence, all of those random ass things that happen in our lives where it's like maybe we showed up.

We went to a random store, okay, or random gym, and we bumped into somebody that, out of nowhere else, we would be like, well, why are, why are we bumping into each other here, and why like, right now?

We can call that coincidence, but think about how many times this has happened in your life. 

[00:12:00] Think about all the times in your life where like, you were falling from the f*cking sky, and you were about to crash and burn into the earth. 

And right at the very last second, something just swoops in, And saves the day, where you don't crash and burn.

You think that's a coincidence? 

You don't think that there's something that has caused these events to occur in a sequence, and all you have to do is open your eyes.

[00:12:30] And become aware that everything's happening on purpose? 

That this is not an accident?

Can you imagine what happens if you start looking at life as if it's not just this thing that's happening to you, and that life itself has been written? 

Your purpose and who you're supposed to become is already written. 

[00:13:00] The question is, are you going to find that version of you in this lifetime? 

In another lifetime?

When the f*ck are you going to experience it? 

Are you going to have to reset this whole damn thing and try it again? 

Again, if you don't know what I'm talking about, go look up the egg theory. 

It's a very interesting thing. I'm not saying I'm the master of all this. 

I'm just saying what I've uncovered for myself and what's helped me.

[00:13:30] All I can say Is if this is even at all resonating with you. 

Then you're probably more open and you're probably more awake than you realize if you're like what the f*ck dude You just went a totally different direction. 

It's not your time yet. 

Don't worry about it. 

It gets deeper and You'll probably come back to this or you're gonna come back to some other episode from somewhere else and then something's gonna click one day for you.

[00:14:00] I think that for us, once we start tapping into this, once we start tapping into the thing that's bigger than us, when we start tapping into divinity, when we start tapping into whatever it is that's inside all of us.==

It's very important to remember that the human mind will take you away from it. 

It's very important to remember to bring yourself back. 

Because in that space, nothing stops you. 

[00:14:30] In that space, you fear nothing. 

In that space, you are everything, all things, the good and the bad. 

And you just accept it, and you see it as an experience.

And you just see it roll out and play in your mind. 

You just see life totally different. 

That now you're out of this, this spiritual being that's floating outside of you. 

And you're just watching you. 

Be that version of you, and you can make adjustments.

[00:15:00] You can make tweaks, you can get back on purpose, you can get back on the horse, you can get back on the path that you're meant to walk.

This is how you start guiding yourself. 

But the question is, is that guiding you? 

Or is that something else guiding you? 

Is that God? 

Is that the universe? 

What is this divinity that guides all of us? 

I guess that's what we have to figure out. 

I guess that's the whole purpose of this game. 

[00:15:30] Because if we're meant for something, if we know that the fingerprints we have, nobody of the past has ever had them.

If we know that the fingerprints we have, nobody in the future will ever have them, and that they're specifically unique to us, then that means there's only an imprint that we can leave in this world. 

So what is it? 

What is it? 

[00:16:00] What gift did God, the universe, this higher power, give us? 

What gift did it give us?

So we can be who we need to be and leave that mark that only we can leave. 

Who is that? 

What is that version of us? 

What is it going to take to uncover that person? 

Who are we going to have to unbecome to create space for that person to evolve? 

[00:16:30] What do we have to burn down in ourselves to create the ashes where the phoenix can rise?

What is it? 

When we think about that question, What is my purpose? 

Why am I here? 

And you truly believe you're here for a purpose. 

All your other problems don't really seem that big anymore, do they? 

Because now you're trying to solve a problem that most people cannot solve. 

[00:17:00] And then what you do is you make it your life's work to figure that out.

You make it your life's work to understand what is your purpose. 

What is God calling you to do? 

What is the universe calling you to do? 

What is this divinity that's lying dormant inside of you, calling for you to do, and calling you to become? 

The question is, are you going to choose to become one? 

[00:17:30] Or, are you going to choose to override and say, That's f*cking crazy, bro.

There's no way. 

There's no way. 

If that's your belief, that's your belief. 

You just have to consider, Are you good with settling for that? 

If you choose to believe that. 

Or, will you find a way? to let all the armor down so you can receive whatever gift has been waiting for you.

[00:18:00] The gift has probably been right under your nose this entire time.

So we'll see. 

We will see. 

The moment I started tapping into this, everything changed. 

Life changed. 

Because I changed. 

I stopped seeing myself limited as this version of me that was a f*ck up, that did nothing good with his life, that almost ended his life.  

[00:18:30] To be a vessel. 

And being a vessel allows me to serve with purpose.

Now, as a vessel, what is my calling? 

What is my calling for the day? 

What am I supposed to do? 

See, that's not me making that decision. 

It's not me thinking about it. 

It's me sitting here waiting for the answer. 

Just like something called me to make this video, here we are.

[00:19:00] The thing that calls me next, I will do.

The word I need to pass, I will pass.

And for some reason, again, when you live in that space, your life just completely changes. 

How fast you achieve what you want in life completely changes because you stop wanting it so you start attracting it because you are it. 

[00:19:30] It's an entirely different way of living and it requires you to be open, body, mind, and spirit to all of it.

Because when you're closed off, you're just like, no, no way. 

Your mind will follow and your spirit will be shut down. 

You won't receive. 

But when you become open to life and you just start receiving, you start being, you stop judging self and you surrender to whatever it is that's trying to flow through you as the vessel.

[00:20:00] See what happens. 

See how your life changes. 

See how everything washes away that used to bother you. 

See how much more clarity you have on why you're showing up. 

See how much more you attract into your life in all areas when you operate from that place.

If something's calling to you.

[00:20:30] I'll leave you with this. 

The worst thing that you can do for the world is to silence that calling. 

When something's calling you to be that vessel, that means it's time now.

It's time for you to rise into the next level.

There's something bigger for you now.

But if you logically shut that down, you are taking a gift from the world.

[00:21:00] That is trying to be passed on through you.

When you think about all the hurt and all the pain you've ever experienced in your life, a gift was being forged there.

Don't ever mistake it for anything else.

So I'm interested to see who received this.

[00:21:30] Who understands it, who downloads it. 

Where are you on your journey? 

Because I'll tell you this, there's also people that don't get this, but they speak it. 

Those are the people that make it look bad. 

Those are the people that sound woo woo. It's too much. It's too much of a front.

It's too much of trying to act the part when they actually don't have access at that level. 

[00:22:00] And it's still logical, and you can tell. 

You can tell when somebody speaks about it that it isn't coming from the source. 

You can tell. 

And it's always the ones that are too f*cking book smart about the whole situation.

It's like, you studied too many fancy words. 

I can tell it's not being channeled from the source. 

You can tell. But you can also tell when it is from the source.

[00:22:30] Because it doesn't come from here. 

You'll know where it comes from. 

So I'm curious to know, who's with me? 

Since this is a little bit different than what I normally would talk about.

Again, something called to me to talk about it today. So here we are. Let me know.

[00:23:00] 

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:23:30] 

In this episode, Phil emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and being present over achieving material success. He guides us through breathing exercises and meditation to help us connect with ourselves and find peace in the present moment. Drawing inspiration from monks' simple yet content lives, Phil encourages us to embrace solitude, mindfulness, and self-care, to discover true happiness within. He ends with urging us to prioritize our well-being and encourages us to apply these lessons in our daily lives for a more fulfilling life.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(00:54) - The Lost Art of Being Present

(03:40) - Mastering Mindfulness

(15:04) - The Ultimate Path to Inner Peace and Presence

(19:02) - Prioritizing Your Well-being in a Busy World


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Transcription:

[00:00:00] Remember that you're cultivating the most powerful version of you that can accomplish anything that they want in life.

But that accomplishment is nothing in comparison to the connection with self. 

Nothing.

[00:00:30] What's going on you guys?

It's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth. 

You guys have to start learning how to breathe. 

[00:01:00] It's something that we're born with. 

It's a gift that we're born with. 

And what it does is it allows us to feel present in the moments, in the now.

I think we get too caught up in what we're trying to create, what we're trying to build, where we're trying to go. 

We're always wanting something in life. 

[00:01:30] But when you think about the best times in your life, weren't those times the times where all you were, was in that moment, in that second? 

You weren't thinking about the past, you weren't thinking about the future, you weren't thinking about what you're going to do after this thing, you were just in the now.

[00:02:00] There's moments where I really do think about these times in my life where I was completely that way. 

Because nowadays it feels like it gets harder to be present. 

And don't get me wrong, I'm present, but I'm not present. 

You know what that means.

[00:02:30] And when you really think about it, it is very sad. 

Because your family remembers you being present. 

They know that dad was there.

But you know that your mind was like drifting somewhere else. 

And that's, I guess that's what makes it sad. 

[00:03:00] Because the question is like, why don't you deserve to live life in the moment? 

Why is it that out of everybody in the world, you are the one that has to suffer living in the future, living in the past, when all we have is right now, this moment?

There's so many things that you have to work through to break through. 

[00:03:30] There's so many thoughts and there's so many emotions. 

Sometimes what happens is they get stuck. 

You can feel it. 

If you guys ever do a breathing exercise where you just breathe, you put your hand on your chest, you feel it for your heart, and you breathe in, you breathe out.

You just do that multiple times over. 

[00:04:00] Breathe in, breathe out.

And this time I want you to be more aware of how fast you breathe in because I want you to slow it down. 

[00:04:30] So breathe in slowly, exhale slowly.

And I want you to practice slowing down time.

I want you to practice as you inhale, breathing and focusing on all of the air entering your lungs. 

[00:05:00] And as you exhale, I want you to focus on all the air leaving your lungs, passing through your lips. 

And I want you to be present for those moments. 

So inhale slowly, exhale slowly.

[00:05:30] As you go through that, I just want you to start feeling around yourself inside. 

Should look for the emotions. 

I want you to feel it where you're feeling stuck. 

I want you to feel it. 

If there's something in your mind that that's distracting you, that's pulling you from being present. 

[00:06:00] And if you were to just sit there with yourself, you sit in the quiet. 

Sit in the peace, and you search, and you look. 

Don't be afraid of judgment. 

Don't judge yourself.

Just feel. 

Just look.

And you just sit there with yourself.

[00:06:30] And as you sit there with yourself, I want you to, without opening your eyes, look around.

Where is your mind taking you?

It's okay to follow it now.

Where does the mind go? 

[00:07:00] If the mind is supposed to be here in the now, just like a balloon, where does it fly off to?

Just follow it.

And as you find where that balloon is going,

I want you to just ask yourself, why? 

Why is my mind going there?

[00:07:30] Out of all the places in the world and in life, why is my mind going there?

What'll happen is, you'll either see words, you'll hear words, or you'll hear a voice.

[00:08:00] It might be so faint, the words might be so small so you have to focus, you have to concentrate on why. 

Why does the mind take you there?

What's coming up for you as the mind takes you there?

[00:08:30] Focus on zooming in on those words, focus on turning up the volume of that voice, without filtering, remember what that WHY is. 

It might not make sense to you right now. 

But it will. 

Just don't forget what the words say or what the voice says. 

[00:09:00] It's important.

Now I want you to come all the way back to the body. 

Eyes still closed.

And I want you to just start scanning your body. 

We found a good starting point for your mind, but now let's start scanning your body. 

[00:09:30] 

In your heart space, in your torso, in your legs, in your abdomen. 

Your feet. 

Just scan your body to see if there's something that feels stuck.

[00:10:00] And as you scan your body and you feel this resistance, you feel this weight, you feel something is there, I want you to just go to it.

Is it your heart?

Is it your lungs? 

Is it your rib cage? 

Is it your abdomen?

Where is this feeling of. 

[00:10:30] Stuckness?

And I just want you to be aware of the feeling.

Because then I want you to go inside of the feeling. 

If it's your heart, I want you to go into your heart. 

[00:11:00] If it's your lungs, I want you to go into your lungs. 

If it's your entire torso, I want you to go inside of your torso.

While you're in there, I just want you to look around. 

I just want you to be aware of the color.

[00:11:30] I want you to be aware of the intensity. 

Is it calm? 

Is it chaotic? 

Be aware of the energy that's there.

The color. 

Is it blackness? 

Is it gray? 

Is it green? 

Is it red? 

Is it yellow?

Is it thick? 

Or is it thin?

[00:12:00] Just be aware of every detail.

Now as you complete this scan, I want you to think about all those details. 

And now I want to ask, I want you to ask yourself…

[00:12:30] Well how do you feel being in this space now?

What emotions are coming up for you in this space now?

Does the mind start going somewhere else again? 

Or does it stay here?

What feelings come up for you in this space?

[00:13:00] And all I want you to do is to just become aware of all of these things.

Without opening your eyes yet, we're almost done. 

I want you to slowly come back into the body. 

[00:13:30] Slowly inhale and slowly exhale.

Inhale and breathe yourself back into your body.

Exhale.

[00:14:00] 

Breathe one more time. 

Inhale.

And as you exhale slowly just come back into the room.

[00:14:30] I just want you to be present. 

I just want you to sit there.

I just want you to feel. 

Everything you just felt.

I just want you to allow the mind to take you where it takes you. 

I want you to allow your body to be where it needs to be. 

I need you to allow your emotions to be and feel whatever they need to feel.

[00:15:00] See, I think that we're born with the gift of breathing, the gift of life, and sometimes it's so easy to think that life is out there. 

Everything that we want is out there. 

The thing that's going to give us this feeling is out there.

[00:15:30] The truth is, life is right now.

Life and the feeling that we seek was just given to us by the things we've already been born with.

The gift of life we've already been blessed with.

[00:16:00] So there's nothing more outside of us that can make us feel any more alive. 

Accept the experience of life as we go through our own experience, just like we just did. 

But it's so easy to get caught in the world. 

So easy to get lost in the day to day. 

So easy to get lost in the hustle and the grind. 

[00:16:30] But what's important is to make sure that we learn most days, if not every day, to just breathe.

To just be, to just absorb, to understand that every breath that we take is a breath we can be grateful for.

[00:17:00] When you practice this, it's important that you practice it intentionally.

It's very important that you don't rush the process.

No matter how chaotic your life is. 

[00:17:30] No matter how crazy your circumstances are.

It's important.

You are important. 

And you have to remember that.

[00:18:00] So as you take the time to breathe and to get back to self.

Just remember that you're cultivating the most powerful version of you that can accomplish anything that they want in life.

But that accomplishment is nothing in comparison to the connection with self. 

Nothing.

[00:18:30] I think this is why monks are some of the most peaceful people who have the simplest life, but always seem to be happy. 

They seem to have figured out the thing that the world has not been able to figure out with all the busyness and the craziness. 

[00:19:00] But through solitude and just time with self and meditation, somehow these monks have figured it out.

So what I want you to do is run through that exercise as many times as you need to and get to know yourself. 

[00:19:30] You will be able to find what you need and you'll also be able to find how you can give that to yourself.

For me, it's as simple as getting a massage, getting a pedicure, something that I learned at the School of Infantry. 

(Gotta take care of your feet. They'll take you everywhere that you go.)

[00:20:00] Disconnecting from the busyness of work, life, and being present to be present.

[00:20:30] Going fishing, going to the gun range, barbecuing. 

It's the simple stuff for me.

In those spaces, that's where I'm the most me.

[00:21:00] I want you to find what spaces will help you take the mind and bring it back to the present so it's no longer a balloon that just tries to fly away.

And in that space that you found in the body where emotions are stuck, I want you to find out for you what you need to start healing.

And then make you a priority to get it done.

[00:21:30] 

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

In this episode, Phil addresses how to navigate hate and negativity on the path to personal improvement. He talks about the necessity of resilience, setting boundaries for personal and family well-being, and ignoring the 'crab mentality' that aims to pull individuals down. Phil advises us to focus on our goals, dismiss the haters, and embrace the challenges as part of our growth process. He emphasizes self-belief, hard work, and the importance of not letting others' negativity hinder our progress when pursuing our goals in the areas of family, fitness, and finance.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(01:00) - The Journey Out of the Crab Bucket

(03:30) - Why The Truly Successful Don't Tear Others Down

(05:06) - Navigating Hate From Those Closest to You

(07:09) - Mastering the Trifecta of Success

(11:57) - The Tough Choices on the Path to Success

(15:16) - The Unexpected Arrival of New Crabs

(16:28) - Understanding Life's Comings and Goings

(18:13) - Learning to Say No for the Sake of Family

(19:29) - Navigating the Waters of Self-Reflection and Control

(21:24) - Letting Go and Moving Forward


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Transcription:

[00:00:00] You're playing this game of life for you and your family. 

And if other people don't want to contribute to that and, you know, be part of the growth of that. 

And instead, like they want to veer you off track with like drama, you got to get used to just protecting yourself, creating those boundaries, because at the end of the day, it's you and your family's life on the line.

And the only people in this world that you owe is you and your family.

[00:00:30] What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

[00:01:00] Let's talk today about dealing with hate. 

Now, hate you can get from a lot of people in a lot of different ways, different forms. 

It can be direct, it can be indirect, it can be from people you love, people you trust, to people that you don't even know, strangers in the world.

Most people don't know how to respond to hate. 

[00:01:30] Most people don't know how to respond to somebody being negative towards them when all they're trying to do is change their life, to be a positive force, or to help other people. 

You're going to have to learn how to really build your resilience toward these things, because in order for you to change your life and get you to the next level, you have to be used to people that are beneath you. 

Literally, beneath you, talking to you because they have what's called a crab mentality. 

[00:02:00] A crab mentality happens when a person or a group of people see a limit in their life, they see themselves inside of the bucket of life and they make a decision internally and they say, “I'm never going to get out of this bucket. And I'm going to live here. I'm going to settle here.” 

And unfortunately, they also come in different forms. 

There's different types of crabs, okay?

There's the crabs that look successful on the outside. 

But internally, they still haven't personally developed where they still show hate to people.

[00:02:30] There's a lot of crabs that are unsuccessful, have nothing to show for it and still feel like they can judge and hate on people. 

And then there's a huge portion in between that, right? 

Where they're successful in some areas, but again, they lack in personal development, which is why they choose to project hate.

[00:03:00] The reason why that is is because when they see somebody trying to level up in life, trying to move up in life, trying to better their lives, it triggers in them an internal fear that they do not have the courage to do what needs to be done to change their life. 

So what they will do is they'll project onto you the same things and the same fears and the same doubts they feel about themselves in whatever capacity.

And most people don't know this. Most people don't understand that that's how these crabs work, that these people that bring you down, tear you down, that's how they work, that's how they function. 

And that's why they're always going to lose in the world and in life. 

And again, they may achieve success in the areas, but they're, they don't live the life that you want to live.

[00:03:30] Just always remember that nobody, nobody, nobody, I'll say nobody that is more successful than you will take time out of their day to just go to you, text you, call you, talk to you, go to your social media and spend time being hateful toward you. 

I want you to really think about that. 

[00:04:00] If somebody really values their time, and they're really able to make a lot of money, and they're able to live their dream life, you don't think that they'd rather spend that five minutes hating, creating negative energy in themselves, to hanging out with their family?

To playing golf, to driving their car, to reading a book, to talking to somebody higher, you don't think that somebody would actually take the time to do that. 

[00:04:30] The only time I've actually seen actual successful people hate, and they're like good, successful people is when somebody does something terrible, and they have to speak on it. 

They have to, they have to say things because they're called to say things because it's not right what they see. 

So they called it out. 

That's the only time I've ever seen that, but it's never, “Look at that person trying. I'm going to call them out and talk down to them because they're trying.”

Now, if they're trying in the wrong ways, again, people will have their opinion that, you know, they're doing things in the wrong ways and blah, blah, blah. 

[00:05:00] But the reality is, it usually doesn't happen that way. 

Usually the only people that hate on you are losing an area of their life, which is why they project onto you.

The worst part about this, guys, is that you have to be prepared for is you think that you're going to get this type of feedback, this hate, this engagement from like strangers, and you will all along the way, you're going to experience it in your careers, you're going to experience that in your businesses, you're going to experience that everywhere, all the time, forever, it's just a thing, right?

[00:05:30] And the worst part is when it happens from people that you love, people that you care about, people that you thought would just support you forever. 

They're the ones that would show hate and it happens indirectly, right? 

They just make weird comments. 

They don't support. 

They say they do, but you never really feel the actions.

[00:06:00] Sometimes they'll make little jabs at you and they'll act like they're joking, but there's an underlying tone that they're serious. 

Those are the ones that probably hurt the most. 

The strangers, you'll brush them off. 

You'll be able to, for sure. 

But when it's people you love, it kind of sucks. 

And you have to remember, as you go from where you're at in life, to get to the next level, the biggest critique that you're going to get is from yourself.

You're already going to be judging yourself harshly. 

You're already going to be looking at all your deficiencies. 

[00:06:30] You're already going to look at all the things that are broken with why you don't deserve success. 

You're already going to do that to yourself. 

Why stack on all of these other people, whose opinion doesn't even matter?

And it's sad to see because it really does break people. 

I can imagine why, you know, it sucks. 

It sucks wanting to change your life and not having anybody to support you. 

It sucks wanting to do the right thing. 

And like, everybody wants to bring you down or like, they're not supportive. 

[00:07:00] They don't give you back the same energy you're trying to put into the world when you're trying to just find your voice and sh*t, you know? 

And that sucks.

But again, that's part of the price you're going to have to pay for the success you seek in life. 

Most people never level up in all areas of life where they have the business, they have the career, they have the fitness, they have the health. 

Not a lot of people have all three. 

[00:07:30] Me having all three now, I'm telling you, it was a f*cking fight to become who I needed to be.

A lot of sacrifice, a lot of discipline, a lot of hard work, a lot of late nights. 

It's possible, but the reason why most people never get there… 

Maybe they'll achieve like, success in career, and then they'll achieve success in business. 

But their health diminishes, right? 

They put on a lot of fat. 

They get the dad bod, the bad dad bod, okay? 

(We're redefining dad bod. We're going to be the six pack dad bods.) 

They let their health diminish, right? 

[00:08:00] And then their marriage is suffering, but they prioritize the business, so they're really rich, but they're really unhappy. 

You see that a lot. 

You'll see some people that don't win career and in business and they're super, super healthy, no relationship, right?

So they're winning in health and fitness. 

They look really good. 

Career? 

Not so much. 

They're doing like regular sh*t and they're not really moving forward and progressing inside of their marriage. 

[00:08:30] And sometimes you have health and you have relationships. 

So you're doing really good in your relationship.

You're doing good in your health and fitness, but you're lacking in career and business. 

And then there's some people that are just doing really good in their marriage, low in their health and fitness, low in their career or business. 

So really happy humans, but they're not living the best life they could live, but they're grateful for the ones that they have because they have each other.

[00:09:00] And then you have them married and good career or business, but lacking in physical fitness or married and in good physical fitness, lacking in career and business or financials. 

So I'm saying, so there's, there's always something missing in the world. 

And I think that at every stage too, you have different haters at every stage, you have different people's opinions and it's always going to happen guys like you just have to be prepared that it's always going to happen.

And the sad truth is there's going to be a lot of people that take it to heart like so deeply that they give up on it, you know? 

[00:09:30] There's people in in career and in business who get hated on for trying to like level up. 

They download all the hate and then they really start self sabotage and they really start holding themselves back from taking things to the next level.

It's unfortunate. 

There's people that want to get right, want to get fit and their spouses don't support them and their eating habits or their training routines. 

They will go to the gym or whatever. 

[00:10:00] They'll post up a progress picture and then somebody is going to hate on them, you know? 

And then they're going to be like, “Ah, I'm not going to go to the gym because now there's like judgment.”

And then they're gonna stop forever and it happens, you know? 

There's some people - okay, let me put it this way…

There's new-year-new-me people. 

Those are the people I just I don't f*cking agree with. 

Unfortunately, I just - no - I just don't agree with that. 

[00:10:30] And then there's people that do it around that time because that's where they find the motivation and they're actually genuinely trying to change their life.

They're not doing it because it's a fad or it's because everybody's f*cking doing it. 

They're like, “Oh, I'm gonna change.” 

Then they get looped in with all the new year new me f*cks. 

Yeah, and then, they feel all the hate, and they're just like, “God damn, I'm not gonna go in.” 

Those are the people I'm talking about.

I'm not talking about the people that do it for fat. 

There's really people out there that do that sh*t. 

I don't like it. 

You just waste everybody's space at the gym for a month, and it's a f*cking sh*t show. 

And then you pop smoke anyway, so just don't go. 

And so you're ready to actually commit and make a change because you're literally wasting time and space.

[00:11:00] And there's people in relationships and business or relationships and marriage, you know? 

Like they're trying to maybe find the love of their life. 

They're trying to do good in relationships. 

Maybe they're trying to level up in their marriage and they get nothing but hate and hate and hate.

They get no support. 

They get no love. 

And maybe the single person trying to find love and they can't find love and it hurts their confidence so much that they just decide that love and relationships and marriage isn't for them, you know? 

And it happens. 

[00:11:30] But can you see how like in life, in every area of your life, sh*t's gonna happen that way, so you have to be prepared that when you're trying to level up in every area of your life? 

If those three things make a diamond, in order for you to accomplish all of those things and reach the top, you're going to have to sacrifice what you've always known.

You're gonna have to learn how to feel like you're a lone wolf for a little bit. 

[00:12:00] Because not a lot of people understand the purpose of tribe and community, you know?

It's always good to be surrounded by people.

It's always good to have culture. 

It's always good to be part of something bigger than you.

It's always good, but sometimes people aren't ready for that sh*t. 

Is it? 

Can you do both? 

Absolutely. 

What would I recommend tribe and community? 

Because no matter what, at least you're going to have people that that can pick you up, that can help you feel like you're not alone in the world. 

[00:12:30] And I think that that's where people fall off because they only know their current ecosystem, their current sphere of influence. 

And when you start breaking away from that, those people become the crabs of your life. 

So, you kind of feel alone, you know? 

And that's what's scary. 

That's why people are like, “Ah, pack mentality. I'm not being supported out here. I'm going to die on my own. I'm gonna go back to the old tribe.” 

You have to remember that there's a new tribe. 

There's a new tribe of people. 

You just have to take the action to jump into the new tribe. 

So you have something to replace the old one. 

And again, you can do it on your own. 

It's just a harder path.

[00:13:00] I've done both. 

So it just is what it is. 

But that's why people give up. 

And you can't. 

For you to live the life that you want, you cannot give up. 

For you to live the life that you want, you have to sacrifice everything you've always known. 

And people don't realize that what you've always known is everything.

Everything that you think you are and everything that you know right now. 

[00:13:30] So when I say you have to be able to sacrifice all of that to become who you want to be and you have to get used to all the hate, all the negativity, all the sh*t that you're going to experience along the way, and that's the price you pay for the success that you seek?

I mean it. 

Like, you're going to have to drop family. 

You're going to have to drop friends that you thought were friends. 

But here's the thing,, are they really your friends if they stop talking to you because you're on this personal development journey? 

I wouldn't think so. 

I think they're selfish.

I think that that's a crab mentality. 

You want to better yourself. 

[00:14:00] So they get butt hurt because you're no longer feeling a void by giving them attention. 

I think that's a crab mentality. 

You're going to have to take risks in your career, into business that you've never ventured into before. 

You're going to have to bet on you so many times before you actually see a return on those bets.

It's going to happen. 

[00:14:30] You're going to have to learn how to put yourself out there into the world and just get sh*tted on all day, every day from, from coworkers, from people that you're prospecting from, you know, business, even other business owners and other entrepreneurs are going to sh*t on you. 

It's like a weird game.

But you have to remember that at some point people don't support you over time when you just keep proving to yourself, not to them, but to yourself that you're going to put in the work and you are who you think you are and you start achieving the results in life. 

Those same haters somehow start believing in you.

[00:15:00] But at that point, you just don't give a f*ck and you're just like, “Well, you're dumb because I've been doing this sh*t and you've been hating on me and now you're my biggest f*cking supporter. So you can pop smoke. Like, no worries.” 

You know, it's like you become a different person where that's how you live and you just don't know that you never experienced that yet.

And there's going to be times where you achieve a level of success and you network with those people. 

And those new people become the new crabs. 

It's f*cking weird. 

You would think that everybody at a high level stays at a high level, but people are human. 

[00:15:30] I've been inside groups and ecosystems with like seven and eight figure entrepreneurs.

I don't know if it is because I'm f*cking Brown, if I'm f*cking Filipino, if I'm f*cking 30 years old or what the f*ck's going on. 

But people that were cheering me on as I was coming up, the moment I got to their level, they stopped talking to me. 

They stopped showing me that same love. 

They stopped showing me this and that, and I don't know why.

[00:16:00] Sometimes, my wife thinks that it's because people are like, “Whoa, f*ck. Like, it took me ten years longer than this f*cking dude to do this. How the f*ck did he get here?” 

And jealousy's a real thing. 

And for me, I'm just like, bro, like I'm not even that way. 

Like I'm not even flexing. 

I'm not even trying to do anything. 

I'm still the sponge. 

I'm still a student to the game. 

I just show up and I'm like, “Okay, I'm here to learn. I'm not here to be the top person. I'm here to learn. I'm here to better myself.” 

And people really do take that offensively. 

[00:16:30] You know, like I've gotten hated on for how I live my life.

And I'm just like, “Well, f*ck.” 

Like, I live my life happily. 

I live my life in peace. 

I've created the exact life that I want. 

And people still hate on me for that.

When I try to change people's lives through, through content, through social media, and sharing the things that have worked for me in my life and have completely changed my life, from being this guy from a third world country, to being extremely depressed, to not being depressed, sharing with people how I did that.

I get haters, bro. 

It sucks. 

It sucks, but it doesn't suck because it just shows you that like at every level, you're just going to experience the sh*t. 

And it's going to be from low level people and high level people over time. 

You're going to know who can be around throughout time, those are, those are the, probably the people.

And even then you have to remember that sometimes not everybody's designed to be in your life for a lifetime. 

[00:17:30] Sometimes they're just designed to be there for a season. 

Sometimes just there for a month, sometimes for a week, sometimes for a day, sometimes for a moment. 

And again, it's such a interesting feeling because you have to get used to like having people in your life and then not having people in your life and like not being so emotionally and personally attached to like the ins and outs of that because man, I've had some really great people that I really thought were going to be around for life.

[00:18:00] And then these people turn out to hate on me and I'm just like, “What the f*ck just happened here? Like literally what just happened?”

And they don't want to talk about it. 

They won't fess up to it and you're just like, “Well, I'm not, you know, just I can’t deal with this sh*t. So I'm out. Peace.” 

Because at some point you're going to start valuing yourself.

You're going to value your time more. 

And you're just going to realize that like, you're playing this game of life for you and your family. 

[00:18:30] And if other people don't want to contribute to that and, you know, be part of the growth of that, and instead, like they want to veer you off track with drama.

You got to get used to just protecting yourself, creating those boundaries, because at the end of the day, it's you and your family's life on the line. 

And the only people in this world that you owe. 

Is you and your family, like your immediate family, like your wife and kids, like they're the only ones.

[00:19:00] Like not cousin Joe, not cousin Deborah, I don't know, cousin Jill, I don't f*cking know, not mom or dad, not none of those people, it's your kids, it's your wife.

That's who you owe. 

That's it. 

And you owe it to them to give yourself the best possible shot. 

And that's learning how to create boundaries for yourself. 

And for all of these things that just, they don't serve you in the world. 

And you just gotta know that. 

And again, it's the price that you have to pay for success.

So over time you get used to it. 

[00:19:30] You know, it's gonna be one battle at a time. 

And you just gotta learn how to roll with the punches and learn more about yourself. 

Learn about what really triggers you. 

What really holds you back. 

What are all the causes to all of these feelings and these emotions that are coming up for you?

Learn to work through them. 

Learn to feel through them. 

Learn to think through them. 

Breakthroughs are designed for you to break through them and through to them. 

[00:20:00] Breakthroughs don't happen when you reach resistance and then you're just like, “This is hard, I'm gonna go a different direction.” 

A breakthrough happens when you break through.

So just make sure you actually take the time when you're experiencing hate to like pause for a second, breathe and ground yourself, pray, meditate, do what you got to do and learn to move through it. 

You're going to find a greater version of yourself there. 

You're going to learn emotional control more there.

And that's where the next level version of you is waiting for you. 

[00:20:30] Okay? 

So just remember, this is an ongoing thing. 

This is why you have to be in an environment where you can go through the highs but also can experience the lows. 

Because you're not going to deal with it once and get through it once.

You're gonna go through it thousands of times and what happens is it just bothers you less and less and less over time. 

The hate can increase and your ability to emotionally detach from it just becomes more lethal.

[00:21:00] You're able to switch it on, switch it off, switch it on, switch it off, let it in, let it out.

And the only time you let it in is to use it as inspiration to source, but you burn it, use it as fuel.

You don't use it and it clouds your body and your mind and your spirit. 

So that's what I have to say about dealing with hate, how to deal with hate, how to move through with hate, how to use hate to your advantage. 

[00:21:30] Because you're already going to hate yourself through this journey of self mastery and becoming the best version of you.

You're already going to judge yourself. 

That's already a lot. 

Your plate is already full. 

Please do yourself a favor and not choose to stack on anybody else's hate. 

It's irrelevant. 

And the worst part is in a day, in a week, in a month, they're probably not going to remember you or the hate that they shared on to you, but you will if you hold on to it.

And then at that point, you're the only person holding on to the pain. 

[00:22:00] Everybody else has left the building. 

So just understand that that's how hate, anger, negative emotions, that's how they work, that it's projected onto you. 

But the only reason why it stays in your life is if you hold onto it. 

So I would say, just let it go, learn to let it go, learn to choose happiness versus all the negative sh*t.

And at some point over time, the hate just won't bother you. 

It won't even feel like hate. 

It'd just be like, “Oh, it's just a loser.” 

That's how I look at it. 

[00:22:30] “It's just a loser losing. And that's why they're being a crab. Oh, that's it. Okay. I'm going to go about my day.” 

That's how I want you to be. 

And you just have to start shifting the, the, the mentality in which you perceive the situation.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:23:00]

In this episode, Phil shares his philosophy of choosing the hard path in life to ultimately live an easier, more fulfilling life. Drawing from his personal experiences in the military and overcoming challenges, Phil emphasizes the importance of discipline, sacrifice, and pushing through discomfort. He teaches that people have a tendency to settle for mediocrity, whether in jobs, relationships, or personal health, and how this leads to a harder life. Phil advocates for embracing challenges and discomfort, like waking up early, pushing through physical limits, and being open and vulnerable in relationships. Because this all helps us achieve success, happiness, and an easier life in the long run. We should all confront the difficult decisions and tasks we avoid, if we want to live a life of purpose, fulfillment, and ease.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(01:06) - How a Hard Life Leads to an Easy One

(08:40) - Seeking Discomfort

(12:15) - Learning Resilience in the Military

(15:10) - Surrendering to Purpose


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[00:00:00] I remember in the military, I used to see some of my seniors and they'd be like doing some crazy sh*t and I'm like, “Jesus Christ, bro. We haven't slept in days. We barely eat. We haven't drank a lot of f*cking water. You know, how the f*ck are you doing that? How are you still screaming at the top of your lungs? How are you still f*cking motivated? How are you still pushing?”

[00:00:30] And when I saw that as a private, as a private first class, as a Lance Corporal, and I saw my seniors and I was like, “Jesus, these guys are f*cking - I need to be that. I need to adopt that. I need to learn that operating system.”

What's going on, you guys?

It's Phil Bohol, and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

[00:01:00] I'm here to give you the truth.

If you want to live an easy life, you have to live a hard life. 

I literally just said this and for some reason I was like, I need to make a video about this. 

I need to expand on this. 

Because it doesn't make any sense. 

When you live a hard life, you live an easy life. 

If you want an easy life, you have to live a hard life.

What the f*ck does that mean? 

Here's what it means. 

[00:01:30] Most people think that life is hard. 

The reality is, life is hard because they take the easy path. 

They go to a mediocre job that they drag their feet to. 

They work for a sh*tty boss that they know they don't like, but they smile and pretend and they text back and they act like they're BFFs, even though in their heart of hearts, they know they don't like that person.

[00:02:00] They literally would prefer not to talk to that person ever all the time, but they do because they settle and it's mediocre because it's easy because you don't have to do anything.

So you settle for a mediocre job, you commute and you drive to that job every single day, and you know, you hate it. 

For me, I used to commute once, four hours per day, back and forth. 

And I was settling because all I did was complain that I was having to commute to a job that I hated, but I did nothing about it. 

[00:02:30] It was easier for me to play victim, it was easier for me to complain, thus, I had a hard life. 

When we have family members who don't believe in us, when we're just like, I'm gonna change my life, and then we start telling family members, and everybody just does the opposite of support us, which is, “Hey, just slow down, you don't wanna dream too big. You might get disappointed.” 

[00:03:00] Isn't it easier to just believe them and say, “Oh yeah, I mean, that's so true. It's so true not to believe in myself. It's so true that if my parents or my family tell me that I should not dream so big, I probably shouldn't.” 

Isn't it easier just to believe the lies of the world?

Isn't that easier? 

Thus having a hard life, isn't it easier when things get hard? 

When you're going to the gym and you're like first weekend and this happens to everybody. 

Every new year, it happens to all of these fakies. 

[00:03:30] Isn't it easier once you start getting sore to then start lifting weights different, thus creating an injury that should have never existed, thus now have an excuse not to go to the gym so you can rest and recover and recharge, and then that catapults into a whole year passing by that you don't go to the gym? 

Isn't it easier to just say I injured myself so I can't go to the gym? 

[00:04:00] Or isn't it easier to say hey my kids are going crazy, hey work's got me caught up, hey Everything else is the reason why I can't make it to the gym?

Isn't it easier? 

To say that and use that excuse, thus living a hard life? 

Isn't it easier to not communicate with your spouse and that you just completely like argue with your wife all the damn time, because you don't know how to like open up and express yourself as a man? 

Isn't it easier to say I'm unhappy in my marriage versus like learning how to be vulnerable and open up to the wife that you wanted to marry that you propose to?

[00:04:30] Isn't it easier to say I'm just unhappy in my marriage, thus having a hard life? 

Now when we think about that, it's not so crazy to now say when we live a hard life, we live an easy life.

You see the smile on my f*cking face? 

I feel like somebody said this before obviously, but I feel like this is the first time I've ever uncovered it. 

First time I've dug it up for myself where I'm just like, “Oh sh*t, the f*ck does that mean?” 

[00:05:00] And it's exciting because, well, think about it.

When we go to the gym on the days where we don't want to, and we live a hard life, don't we get the body that we want? 

Isn't it easy to now have the body that we can be proud of? 

We eat right. 

And instead of eating sh*t food, we eat good food. 

We track our macros. 

We do the right things. 

Thus, we lose all the fat and get the body that we want.

[00:05:30] And now it's easy because we live the hard life. 

When we start going after our dreams and we tell our family, “Hey, this is what I'm going to do with my life.” 

And they say, “Ah, you know, you shouldn't dream too big.” 

And we're just like, “Well, f*ck it, I'm gonna dream big. Cause I want big things in my life. I want, I want the biggest and the baddest house. I want everything that I know I deserve. I'm gonna go after it, no matter what anybody says.” 

Isn't that the harder path? 

Because nobody believes in you, but you gotta believe in you. 

And then when you achieve success, isn't it an easy life now? 

[00:06:00] Because you lived a hard life? 

Isn't that crazy to think about?

Isn't it crazy to think that all it takes for you to win is to wake up early, 3am in the morning, 4am in the morning, 5am in the morning, before anybody else is awake. 

And when you want to snooze and you don't, when you want to go back to sleep and you don't, and you take the hard path, isn't the rest of the day easier?

Don't you notice that on the days where you wake up the earliest, you have more control? 

[00:06:30] Life is easier, because you have more time to breathe, to think, to understand. 

When we go the hard path, and we're fighting with our significant other, and we're trying these things. 

We want to change. 

And for some reason, like we keep getting in these arguments and straining our energy.

Isn't it harder to like, not emotionally react to our spouse, to our wife? 

[00:07:00] Isn't it harder to be patient, to be present and to learn how to just be the bigger person in moments and just be like, “Hey, you're right. I'm wrong.” 

Where nobody has to be right, but I'm willing to also say that, “I'm wrong in this moment.”

Isn't it harder to do that because of ego and pride? 

Isn't it harder to, to open yourself up and say, “Hey, babe, this is why I feel this way. Back when I was a kid, back with my parents, back in other relationships, this is how I was treated. So I always lash out on sh*t like this, but I know this is not you. This is more me.” 

Isn't it harder to do that? 

[00:07:30] But when you do that, what happens? 

The marriage strengthens communication inside of the marriage. 

It's easier because you took the hard path. 

So when we think about this concept of we live a hard life to have an easy life. It's such a beautiful thing, it's a beautiful way of looking at it.

And I've been up since 3am today. 

I built content for the entire week. 

[00:08:00] I spent time with my daughter 'cause she woke up early and she decided to be up at 5:00 AM in the morning. 

But I already got my work done. 

I got to create content with her. 

I got to spend time with her. 

I got to snuggle up, I got to do my meetings, do my coaching calls, did everything that I needed to do to attack the day.

I worked on my business, not in my business. 

[00:08:30] I went to the gym, dominated, focused on my nutrition was on lock by 5:00 PM I outperformed most people in a month, in a quarter, in half a year, in a year, literally. 

Because I chose the hard path, which is why my life is easy. 

When I wake up early, and most days, I don't want to stay awake, most days I want to sleep in. 

It's not actually a thing where like you wake up and you're just like, “Oh yeah!” 

Motivated all the time. 

It's not how it works. 

You're just like, “Oh, Jesus Christ again. I got to do this again.” 

[00:09:00] I've taken the hard path for so long that my days are easy to win. 

It's easy to have time.

It's easy to make time because I've made the time through sacrifice and through discipline.

When I said I was going to get my body back after military disability, after the major car accident in 2019, where me and my wife spent over six months in physical therapy. 

[00:09:30] Where my left side of my body was like this because the muscles were so tightened from the collision that one of my feet were actually higher than the other.

Which is crazy because it was pulling on the bones.

That's where I came from and I told myself I'm gonna get my body back. 

I'm gonna get back. 

I'm gonna get right. 

[00:10:00] And then I did and it only took six months for me to go from where I was to seeing my six pack again to having my muscles popping again, feeling good again, feeling lean. 

And I look back on some of my old videos.

I'm like, “Jesus Christ I didn't realize how round my face looked!” 

But I chose the hard path when I couldn't even do a push up I won for the day. 

I said I did half a push up. 

I'm f*cking winning. 

That half a push up turned into a full push up. 

That full push up turned into ten. 

That ten turned into a hundred.

That little weak ass trying a pull up that I couldn't even do on day one turned into one solid pull up. 

Turned into two. 

Turned into three. 

Turned into five. 

[00:10:30] Turned into ten. 

Turned into fifteen. 

Turned into twenty. 

Haven't done that sh*t in a while. 

But it was showing up every single day on the days where I didn't want to, especially when sh*t just hurt the most, living that difficult life.

Now it's easy to do all those things that were hard once.

It's crazy when you think about life this way. 

I do the hard things in life so I can live an easy life. 

I sacrifice, so I can enjoy. 

Isn't it crazy? 

[00:11:00] To just realize that if all we do on a daily basis is seek discomfort, do the hard things, and learn to enjoy doing the hard things, enjoy waking up when we don't want to, enjoy meditating in the freezing f*cking cold, enjoying journaling in the quiet of 3 to 4 am, just time with yourself. 

[00:11:30] Having something like just completely rock your day because you've got kids and they just decide to randomly wake up and just to learn how to be present and appreciate the now and appreciate the moments. 

Isn't it crazy that you go to the gym even after you just worked a whole ass day and you're just like, “I'm gonna get it in because I told myself I would.”

When we start seeking that discomfort, we start enjoying the hard things. 

So life is easy now. 

And I think most people don't understand this. 

And most people, unfortunately, never will. 

That's why most people are unhappy by the end of their life. 

[00:12:00] That's why most people end up in divorces. 

What is it, 50%?

Jesus Christ! 

Just don't get married at that point. 

Or, level the f*ck up in your life. 

So that way you don't burden all of the stress and overwhelm onto your partners, which causes, what? 

Divorce.

When we think about living the difficult life, the thing is, if you're not used to that life, if you're surrounded by weakness of the world who just, they shy away from that life. 

[00:12:30] It's very hard for you to realize what's normal. 

But when you surround yourself with people who live this sh*t on a daily basis, that just take the hard path.

I remember in the military, I used to see some of my seniors and they'd be like doing some crazy sh*t. 

And I'm like, “Jesus Christ, bro. We haven't slept in days. We barely eat. We haven't drank a lot of f*ckin water, you know? How the f*ck are you doing that? How are you still screaming at the top of your lungs? How are you still f*ckin motivated? How are you still pushing?” 

[00:13:00] And when I saw that, as a private, as a private first class, as a Lance Corporal, and I saw my seniors and I was like, “Jesus, these guys are f*ckin I need to be that. I need to adopt that. I need to learn that operating system.” 

And it was through proximity.

That allowed me to become that disgruntled Marine. 

The one that can do whatever the f*ck, whenever the f*ck. 

Because it was required of me. 

And to take that into life, it's the most valuable lesson. 

To be able to continue to choose the hard path. 

[00:13:30] Even when you don't want to. 

And the thing is, I learned that way before the military.

I just didn't know it yet. 

Ten years old, everything got stripped from me. 

I've had the hard path since ten. 

Even before that. 

Going from a third world country to the United States. 

And being the outcast. 

I've lived a hard life. 

It just wasn't a choice before, now it's a choice. 

I choose the hard path, because I want a peaceful and easy life.

[00:14:00] And people will hear that and they're like, “Oh, you're not supposed to want an easy life. Life is not supposed to be easy.” 

Yeah, motherf*cker. 

It's not easy for you, because you don't do what I do.

I want you to understand, like, why this is so exciting. 

It's like a revelation. 

[00:14:30] If the secret to life, if all we have to do to win at this game, for the rest of our lives, is to slow down for the moment and to ask ourselves, what are all the hard decisions I'm not making right now? 

And all we have to do is make decisions on every single one of those things.

And we automatically level up. 

We automatically achieve the next level because we finally done the things that we didn't want to. 

And those very things are the things that were preventing us from our breakthrough. 

[00:15:00] Do you understand how freeing is it to know that the rest of your life? 

Is literally just waiting for you to choose the hard path now.

It's the scariest thing too. 

Because when you choose that hard path, then you just have to have faith. 

That the decisions you make are the right decisions, they're the right calls.

[00:15:30] And you have to choose that. 

Your purpose is bigger than you. 

Whether you believe in God, whether the universe, whether it's a life, you have to surrender to the thing that's calling you. 

[00:16:00] If the thing that calls to you, it's deep within you, tells you to take the hard path and you're just like, “Bro, f*ck man, I don't know right now. Right now is not a good time. If I do that, I might be putting my family in danger. If I do that, I don't know what's going to happen on the other side. If I do that, like what, what, how much time is it going to take until like I get something out of it though? Like I can't just. Sacrifice, I can't just do that.” 

But can't you? 

Isn't that the whole point? 

[00:16:30] Isn't the whole point to push yourself all the way to that limit and just be like, F*ck, I don't know. I don't know what the f*ck this is gonna do.

I don't know where this is gonna end up. 

Something's calling me over there. 

And it's the hardest path to just submit to the process. 

It's the hardest path to just truly have faith and surrender. 

It is the hardest path to just be and to live in the moment. 

[00:17:00] And to choose the hard path, it is the hardest f*cking path.

[00:17:30] And when you go through all of that and you finally see that light at the end of the tunnel for some reason everything changes and everything just gets easy just flows and you just become so confident and calm because you know now to trust yourself to trust the voice to trust and life becomes easy.

And if you become aware throughout this entire process throughout this journey, you'll see that. 

There's signs. 

You'll see that something calls to you. 

[00:18:00] The question is, are you gonna have faith in yourself and are you gonna have faith in your purpose and take that hard path, even if time doesn't permit, even if the money doesn't permit, even if things don't make any f*cking sense? 

Why you would do this right now when you're barely making it? A

[00:18:30] Ad you just f*cking move and you decide, “I chose the hard path, the difficult path, because I want an easy life. And I'm willing to sacrifice and do whatever it takes for as however long it takes to go above and beyond to go further than anybody's ever gone before. And I have faith that walking this path will bring me to the light.”

The question is, are you going to surrender to that calling? 

Or are you going to override and say, not me, not now, maybe later. 

Remember that later never comes. 

Your purpose is calling to you. 

Your [00:19:00] purpose is waiting. 

On the other side of that decision, that you don't want to make right now, the hard call.

Make it. 

Commit to it. 

Decide. 

And stay the path. 

See what happens when you live a hard life. 

Over time, when you learn how to embrace that process, you'll look up one day. 

Life will be easy. 

[00:19:30] Because you did the hard things that nobody else was willing to do.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:20:00]

In this episode, Phil criticizes the crisis going on in modern society about lost men. He expresses disappointment over men who fail to live up to what a respectable man should be. Phil points out how so many men lack commitment, discipline, and the ability to fulfill their responsibilities, leading to negative impacts on their families and society. He urges men to embrace discomfort, take responsibility, and strive to be better husbands, fathers, and individuals. The episode challenges men to level up and reject weakness, with Phil promising to relentlessly hold men accountable and call out behavior he views as damaging to society.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(00:57) - A Blunt Take on Today's Men

(04:27) - Confronting the Epidemic of Inadequate Male Role Models

(08:02) - Rejecting the Culture of Softness 

(11:10) - The Misguided Majority

(13:55) - A Challenge to Rise Up


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[00:00:00] Do you know how many sh*tbag husbands there are in the world? 

You know how many sh*tbag parents there are in the world that don't provide? 

Because they're too f*cking pussy to do anything about it? 

And they talk, talk, talk, but they never do, do, do? 

Jesus Christ. 

This is why so many people in this world are being hurt.

This is why so many people in this world are struggling. 

Because these are the f*cking examples.

[00:00:30] 

What's going on you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

Soft men are what's wrong with this world. 

[00:01:00] Straight up. 

I don't know what it is about men calling themselves men. 

Straight boys. 

I don't know what's wrong with people nowadays. 

Is it really so hard to just man the f*ck up and do what you gotta do? 

Like, does your word mean nothing to you anymore? 

Is it so easy for you to take a step forward and immediately take two steps back because you're too f*cking pussy to commit to your life?

[00:01:30] Jesus Christ. 

It's so sad to me to see grown ass men calling themselves men when we all know that you're a goddamn boy. 

Jesus Christ. 

When's the last time somebody's actually looked at you in the f*cking face and said, “You're not a f*cking man, you're a boy, you little bitch.”

So many people need to hear this.

So many people are just so f*cking lost right now. 

[00:02:00] They don't even realize that they have nothing of substance to give to the world. 

There's so much that's missing from all of these f*cking men and it's sad because now everybody else has to suffer being surrounded by a bulk of men who don't do sh*t with their life and all they do is talk.

The dumbest part about this whole situation. 

It's so f*cking disappointing. 

[00:02:30] It's so disappointing to, like, see somebody want to change their life, change their situation, and then immediately go to victim mode, immediately go to bitch mode. 

Like, f*ck. 

What do you see when you look in the mirror? 

Like, literally, when you look in the mirror, and you know that little bitch is inside of you, what do you? 

How does it feel?

How does it feel to know that you're a bitch? 

Why does life have to be that way? 

[00:03:00] What was so f*cked up about your upbringing? 

That your word means nothing to you, your commitments mean nothing to you, that you have to be the softest motherf*cker you could possibly be? 

Jesus Christ, thank God you were never in the military.

Jesus Christ, I can't imagine having to deal with your ass. 

I don't think even men know what the f*ck it means to be a man anymore. 

I really, I'm just at a loss for f*cking words to see all the weakness in the world. 

[00:03:30] Fat, broke, f*cks, in this world, think that they're, what they say holds any truth, holds any value.

When their actions literally show the complete opposite, but these are the same people that think that they're winning in life. 

These are the same people that believe that life owes them something. 

Do you not realize how much of a f*cking bitch that you are like? 

I I don't even know how to articulate this into words.

[00:04:00] Do you guys realize how sh*tty it must feel to live your entire life not realizing that you operate from a place of being a bitch. 

Have you never had a man in your life, a cartoon character, to encapsulate what it even means or what it looks like to be a f*cking man? 

It's so apparent why there's so many people losing in this world.

[00:04:30] And the reason why I get pissed off, guys, just so you understand, it's not just them that it's affecting.

It's not just you that it's affecting.

If this is you, motherf*cker, it's affecting your family. 

Other people have to settle for you being that way. 

Do you know how many sh*tbag husbands there are in the world?

You know how many sh*tbag parents there are in the world that don't provide? 

Because they're too f*cking pussy to do anything about it. 

And they talk, talk, talk, but they never do, do, do. 

Jesus Christ. 

[00:05:00] This is why so many people in this world are being hurt. 

This is why so many people in this world are struggling.

Because these are the f*cking examples that surround people. 

You got kids watching these f*cking pussies, like, operate this way, and then now those kids are like, “Oh, I guess that's what it should look like. I should basically say that I'm gonna do things and then just f*cking never do it. Because that's what that guy's doing. That's what dad's doing. That's what uncle's doing.” 

You guys realize this is a plague? 

[00:05:30] Is it because like everybody's too afraid that they're gonna get f*cking cancelled? 

Are they afraid that if they actually like man the f*ck up and actually operate, that they're gonna have less opportunity for themselves?

Like can somebody fill me in here on like why the f*ck this is normal? 

When did men become snowflakes? 

[00:06:00] When did it become normal not to do the hard things so that way you can earn the life that most people can only f*cking dream of?

What is happening that - can somebody put in the comments and tell me what's happening?

Can somebody like tell me? 

Why the world? 

Is it the shutdown? 

Because I went through the shutdown. 

I lost my job, too. 

Oh, it's because you come from humble beginnings? 

Me too, motherf*cker. 

I came from the Philippines. 

[00:06:30] I was poor in the United States for a very long time, my entire f*cking life.

So what is it? 

What has happened to man that you can be such a bitch and still feel like it's okay to be a bitch? 

Where's all the real men at? 

Where's all the savages? 

Like, if you're a savage, come on. 

Like, f*cking, roger up, because, Jesus, it feels like it's harder and harder and harder to see real ones.

Where are my real people at? 

Where are the real savages at? 

[00:07:00] Where are the real men at? 

F*ck, man. 

Like, is it just good now to just be fat, unhappy, drinking all the time, drinking all the time, drinking and drinking and drinking all the damn time? 

Smoke something. 

Do some drugs. 

Break your word. 

Is it just good to be a sh*tbag nowadays?

Is that what it is to be a man? 

F*ck. 

How about we like, stop all of that. 

[00:07:30] How about we go back to what it is to actually be a man. 

To practice disciplines. 

To take the hard path, to find different ways to level up in every area of your life so that way you can provide. 

To be the best husband, to be the best father, to be the best human you could possibly be.

And the only way you find that is through discomfort. 

To like actually give a f*ck about how you carry yourself, how you feel, how you operate in the world as an example. 

[00:08:00] Is that like so much to ask? 

I think that, like, the world has gotten to this place where, like, soft men are invited. 

Soft men are these people that people are like, “Oh yeah, thanks, finally, Jesus Christ, a soft man, oh. Now, we can predict what the soft man will do and not do, because he's a bitch, so he'll never actually do anything.” 

Controlled. 

[00:08:30] But what happens when a real man steps up, that actually has a f*cking opinion, that says what the f*ck's on his mind, and doesn't give a f*ck if any of the other pussies in the world are like, “No, no, no, that's wrong!”

It's because you can't control that motherf*cker. 

You can't silence that motherf*cker. 

Because he's always gonna speak the truth. 

It just is what it is. 

Too many men call themselves men when they're simply just boys. 

[00:09:00] Too many men try to defend this f*cking position, these f*cking snowflakes, and act like it's okay. 

You're part of the problem too, motherf*ckers.

Straight up. 

There is a time, even in the military, there was a very specific way that we bred each other, and then Mothers of America f*cked it all up. 

And then everybody became soft. 

What happened to this world? 

This is why it's so f*cking easy to win nowadays. 

[00:09:30] It's easy because of the competition. 

There is none.

You got the top 1 percent and you got the 99. 

And the 99 are just gonna bitch, moan, and cry. 

So it's not really like competition. 

So the top 1 percent are kinda just like, “Hey, I guess we're just taking our spot here. Thanks for being a sh*tbag. The world needs losers too. Sweet. I'm glad that's you. Cause I'm just gonna keep doing my thing. I'm gonna keep winning.” 

It's so f*cking disappointing. 

[00:10:00] So disappointing that you can listen to this and be like, “Hmm, yeah that guy, I think he's onto something.” 

But it's you. 

You're the bitch. 

You're the person that's not doing what he says he's gonna do. 

You're the person that doesn't plug in.

You're the person that doesn't commit to the path. 

But you watch, and you watch, and you watch, but you don't do anything about it. 

Jesus Christ, how many people need to be failed? 

[00:10:30] And the worst part about it is that there's so many of these people in the world that are gonna be like, “Phil, you're so wrong. So wrong to say that you have no idea what people are going through.” 

Blah, blah. 

You're the f*cking advocates of this weakness. 

And what happens is those same sh*tbags, you go back to their family and their family suffers and you have no f*cking idea the suffering they have to deal with because of that sh*t bag.

Yet you defend them because it's the right thing to do. 

[00:11:00] It's just a f*cking just, “Don't be mean, Phil!” 

Ah, Jesus Christ. 

What has happened to our world? 

I am just, I'm at a loss for words because, at least for me, I thought that there was something to be proud of to be the best version of you. 

[00:11:30] I thought that people genuinely understood that by seeking the best versions of you, by taking the hard path that nobody else is willing to take because they're just not strong enough to handle the path, I thought men genuinely sought that out on a daily basis. 

How stupid of me to have believed that. 

That it's actually far fewer men than I even realized. 

[00:12:00] Because most men are the biggest f*cking fraud, pussies, bitches in the f*cking world. 

And all of them are going to show up in the comments and defend each other's position.

Do it. 

Prove my point. 

Prove to the world that bitches will continue to protect the other bitches and snowflakes of the world. 

Prove the point. 

[00:12:30] And if you're a real one, and if you're really a man, you don't have to defend yourself. 

You don't have to say anything. 

Just go f*cking do your job, do your duty, and level the f*ck up.

Stop with the excuses. 

Stop with the victim sh*t. 

Stop with the snowflake, the bitch-assery, all of the sh*t. 

Where you look yourself in the f*cking mirror and you're not happy with what you see back. 

Enough with it. 

[00:13:00] On a daily basis all you gotta do is prove to yourself who the f*ck you think you are.

Because we all f*cking know it's just thoughts. 

You haven't even been proven yet. 

You haven't even done anything to deserve that. 

You don't rate that sh*t. 

You haven't proven sh*t. 

Go f*cking prove it. 

Then we'll talk. 

But the next time one of you motherf*ckers actually allow another f*cking man to be weak, you're part of the f*cking problem.

You're breeding weakness. 

Just understand that. 

[00:13:30] It's a f*cking shame to see that in the world. 

It's a shame to see that people think that that's f*cking normal. 

That's not normal. 

That's the stupidest sh*t I've ever seen in my life. 

And I'm going to make sure here's my commitment to all of you and the world.

I'm going to call that sh*t out on a daily basis forever moving forward because that's the stupidest sh*t I've ever seen in my f*cking life. 

Level the f*ck up, because it's not about you. 

[00:14:00] There's so many f*cking people that depend on you to rise the f*ck up and become a better man. 

And every single time you act like the b*tch that you are, you're failing somebody else.

And all of you other snowflakes who want to defend that motherf*cker just realize, they're not the ones that have to suffer. 

That wife, those kids, those people that they're responsible for are gonna suffer because you f*cking snowflakes protect all these other snowflakes.

[00:14:30] 

Dumbest sh*t of my life. 

Square your sh*t away. 

If you think it's normal to operate that way, oh my god, I cannot wait until your wife f*cking leaves you. 

I cannot wait until that family is f*cking grown enough to understand what kind of a sh*tbag dad you are. 

What kind of dumbass you are. 

I can't wait for your family to see who the f*ck you're not.

Then maybe one day, when it's too f*cking late, you'll realize how stupid you were for listening to all the f*cking snowflakes that are losers in life. 

[00:15:00] And now you just wasted the one f*cking shot you had.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you've learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:15:30]

In this episode, Phil talks about how important it is to always try to be the best version of yourself. He says that people shouldn't just accept things as they are, especially if they're not happy. Phil encourages everyone to work hard to improve their lives, whether it's by getting fit, doing better in business, or just being more positive. He believes that by pushing ourselves and not being afraid of hard work and challenges, we can inspire others and make a big difference in the world. This episode is all about not giving up, aiming high, and not being okay with settling for mediocrity.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(00:59) - A Call to Action Against Complacency

(04:03) - How Your Unlived Potential Affects Those Around You

(08:16) - How Suffering Shapes the Strongest Leaders

(09:47) - The High Cost of Settling

(12:48) - Why Not All Advice is Equal

(14:47) - The Daily Commitment to Growth


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Transcription:

[00:00:00] Imagine if you hear the calling and instead of leaning into it, stepping forward to find that version of you, you're just like, “It's going to be somebody else. If it's not me, it'll be somebody else. Somebody else will take that spot.” 

The thing that you don't realize is the person that might take that spot might not come for another generation or two.

[00:00:30] What's going on you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

[00:01:00] I will never understand why people are okay with settling for where they're at in their life. 

If you're not happy in your life, you have to know that you don't have to just say, “This is my life.”

You don't have to just say, “This is where I'm at. This is where I'm going to be. This is it.” 

If you don't have the body that you want, you don't have to settle for that body.

If you're like, “Damn, I don't look good.” 

[00:01:30] You can actually get after it, go to the gym and get right. 

If you don't like your mentality, because you're always in a negative state, you can actually drop all of the vices, the drinking, the smoking, the drugs, all of the things that you're doing that keeps your mentality in such a dark place.

You can drop all of that and start like filling yourself up with time and nature, going to the gym, reading, learning, experiencing life. 

You can choose to do that. 

If you're not happy with your financials, you can go after getting a promotion. 

[00:02:00] You can build your business even more. 

You can literally do anything right now to change your life.

But there's like this weird feeling in the world that I get. 

I sense that in the world, everybody's just complacent. 

I don't know if it's inflation, I don't know if it's excuses because of a global shutdown and the aftermath of it. 

I don't know if people are just now conditioned to just settle for the life that they have or the life that they feel like they've been given.

[00:02:30] What happened to the times where people were like, “Hmm, I want more from life. I want to see what I'm capable of. I want to see how high I can go. I want to see where I can really take this life and actually get after it.”

There's so many people that look the part, you know? 

They really do look the part they post themselves on social media.

Like they got it going on, but you can just hear it in them. 

[00:03:00] You can sense it in them that there's like this, this longing to want to be something more. 

There's like a passiveness to how they speak and you're just like, “Damn, like. You look the part, but I can tell like inside of you there's a weakness.”

Why? 

I don't know why people live with that weakness. 

I don't know why people are like waking up every single day and they're like, “You know what? I stay in decent shape. I have an okay job. My business is doing all right. I can't complain. I think this is it.” 

[00:03:30] If you're at a position where you're just living life, where you're just like, “Meh, you know, it could be worse. I can't complain, I'm doing better now.” 

But you know, deep down, you deserve more, you deserve to have more, and you don't get after it.

You're what's wrong with the world. 

[00:04:00] What happened to the times where people were really pushing themselves to be the best in the game for themselves, so that way it can show everybody else what's possible. 

I think that people are too selfish nowadays. 

I think people are too afraid to put themselves out there because it's actually really easy right now to separate yourself from the pack. 

What I mean by that is it's very easy for somebody to like to step outside of the crowd and all eyes are now on you.

And I think a lot of people are just afraid of the spotlight. 

[00:04:30] I think a lot of people are just afraid of being seen because there's a sense of judgment that will come. 

And that judgment might come from self, might come from family, might come from loved ones. 

It might come from your spouse and it definitely will be coming from all of these random strangers online and in the world.

But what happens to the people when they don't have examples that they can follow? 

When they can't see somebody level up in every area of their life throughout time to serve as inspiration? 

Think about your life. 

[00:05:00] Have you ever had somebody in your life whether it was like a movie, whether it was like a cartoon character? 

I don't know, like back in the day, I used to look up to people in Dragon Ball Z.

I'd be like, “Damn! Imagine if we could go Super Saiyan! Imagine if we could do all that stuff! Imagine if we could just be jacked all the time, and like, just look at that aesthetic!” 

Something to look up to. 

Maybe they were like, eventually you're like, “Oh look, people in the military! Those guys look awesome. They're so badass, like carrying their systems and just looking strong as f*ck. I want to be like them one day.” 

[00:05:30] Or being an entrepreneur and looking up to entrepreneurs and being like, “Damn, they changed the game. They have a beautiful life. They're giving an awesome life to their family. Like, look at what they're doing. They're speaking on stage. They're doing all this stuff. I want to do that.” 

Can you imagine what would have happened if you didn't have any of those examples? 

If like, nothing existed that inspired you to know what was possible. 

You see what I'm saying? 

And do you see how selfish it is for you to know that you have something inside of you that is great.

It has the potential to be great, but you have to cultivate it.

You have to nurture it. 

[00:06:00] And you're choosing not to, because you're just like, I'm going to settle. 

I'm going to be good. 

I kind of looked the part right now. 

I can't complain. 

I don't want to risk any more because I'm like, “I got here.” 

Ah, man, just think about how much you're really lying to yourself.

It's a shame. 

It's a shame that you don't believe that you can do more. 

You can have more than that. 

You can be more. 

[00:06:30] It's a shame because there's somebody that's probably looking up to you right now that you don't even realize that's like, “Damn, I wonder if they're going to go after it. I wonder if they're going to take the big leap. I wonder if they're going to do the thing that every one of us from where we're from, we're afraid of, but this person, they have the potential.”

Imagining like, you have people, cause there are people right now, that are looking up to you and they're like, they're waiting for you, they're just like, alright, are you gonna make the move?

You gonna do the thing? 

 

Because you know that we're not gonna do it. 

But if we see you do it might help us break through in our belief. 

[00:07:00] And then imagine if you don't deliver that. 

Imagine if you hear the calling and instead of leaning into it, stepping forward to find that version of you, you're just like, “It's going to be somebody else. If it's not me, it will be somebody else. Somebody else will take that spot.” 

The thing that you don't realize is the person that might take that spot might not come for another generation or two. 

[00:07:30] That the person that's going to replace you is not going to be around potentially for another couple of generations.

You don't know. 

So there's going to be a gap, a massive gap and my whole thing. 

In my bloodline is to be that person that just shows everybody what's possible. 

Because if I show everybody what's possible, the next generation they're gonna know that at least they need to get to grandpa's level. 

At least they need to get to dad's level. 

[00:08:00] And then just outperform the f*ck out of me like I'm looking at every generation that comes after me and I'm excited for them. 

I'm like, “The more that I push in this life, the more I get to show my people we're winning. We can win. We can just continue to sacrifice, suffer, and become the best versions of us.” 

Because some people, I think they associate sacrifice and suffering with a negative connotation. 

But the truth is I love to sacrifice. 

I love to suffer. 

Like that's where I grow the most. 

[00:08:30] Like I seek that and you have to get to the level where like, you know, it's like survival, then you're starting to thrive. 

And then at some point you like seek discomfort. 

At some point you seek all of the things that, you know, were turning you into a diamond. 

Not everybody gets to that level. 

It is what it is because you have to really know that everything that challenges you in your life, it's happening for you. 

It's not happening to you. 

[00:09:00] So if you know it's happening for you, then you start seeking and you're just like, “More, more, give me more. Give me more trials. Give me more adversity. Show me more strength. Because the more adversity I face, the stronger I become.” 

And everything now becomes proof.

Everything that you go through, every lesson, every trial, every experience is like me becoming stronger. 

And that's how I look at it. 

But a lot of people are like, “Damn, I don't want to sacrifice. That's not a good way to live. Damn, I don't want to do that. I don't want to suffer.” 

[00:09:30] But it's like, damn, when you guys look at the military, and you see those hard motherf*ckers, you do realize that the reason why they look like that, the reason why when I carry a machine gun on my back, it looks badass, is because of suffering that you have to go through to earn being able to look like that, to look so f*cking disgruntled because you know who you are, and you know who everybody's not. 

I want you to remember that if you settle for this life, there will be that presence about you. 

People will be able to smell that on you. 

[00:10:00] You will know when you look in the mirror, or when you don't because you don't want to see you, that you f*cking settled.

Do not waste this one life you got, and settle. 

Because, I don't know how old you are. 

I don't know if you got a family, if you got a lot of babies, if you got one baby, if you got one on the way, I don't know. 

But the earlier you start, the more time you got to fix it even if you do f*ck it up. 

[00:10:30] The later in the game you start, the more that you're risking.

Because you don't got that much time left. 

And like, you have to remember that like, it's just a blip of time, it's just a blip of discomfort. 

[00:11:00] If you can sacrifice in the earlier years of your life, starting now, especially if you're settling, and you're just like, “Alright, cool. I'm starting a little late, but late is better than never.

Day 1. What am I gonna do to push? What am I gonna do to prove to myself and let this be my story even this late in the game?”

What, I mean, by late in the game, for you might be 20, might be 25, might be 30, might be 40, might be 50. 

Whatever late in the game is for you and you choose that. 

“I'm going to show everybody that even at this level, I can start right now and I can still dominate. I can still win.” 

Let that be your story. 

Prove to yourself that that means something that you can actually deliver on something. 

[00:11:30] Because I'm telling you guys right now, when you live day to day, and you're actually proud of the work that you're putting into each day. 

That you're not just like, settling and letting the day pass you by, you're not letting life just pass you by, and you're actually like, putting out on a daily basis to find yourself.

Life is worth living again. 

A life of purpose means everything. 

 

[00:12:00] And you start holding yourself to such a standard where you're just like, “Damn, I don't think I could ever go back to a normal life where all I do is like, work a job, drink, get fat as f*ck, and then do nothing with my life. I could never go back to that.”

Cause for me, work, hit the bar, double jacking coats, long Island iced teas, get two double western bacon cheeseburgers and a large fries at Carl's Jr., call it a night, rinse and repeat the next day. 

Maybe go to the gym, I don't know. 

So easy to live that life. 

[00:12:30] It's so easy to be miserable. 

It's a lot harder to actually love your life.

Because you actually have to work towards it. 

Because you have to prove to yourself through the work that you're worth that. 

You're worth living a great life. 

You're worth living and experiencing a beautiful life. 

But you guys can't settle. 

Don't ever feel or let anybody make you feel. 

That all you have to do in this life is settle and that you have to play it small.

You have to play it safe. 

[00:13:00] Those are not the people that you should be listening to. 

The only people you should be listening to are people that you would replace or change places with, or that have walked the path that you want to walk. 

They've accomplished the thing that you want to accomplish in that one field or in all fields.

But if you wouldn't change places with them, if you wouldn't live their life and like you'd be good with that for the rest of your life, that's not really people you should listen to. 

And unfortunately, a lot of the time that's like mom and dad. 

That's like brother, sister. 

[00:13:30] Those are like the people that you love the most and you're just like, “Damn, if I'm being real with myself, I wouldn't really live their life, you know?”

And if you're real like that, then you should start understanding that those are probably not the people you should be listening to, that you should be seeking guidance and counsel from. 

I'm not saying that they don't have anything important to pass on to you. 

What I am saying is if you listen to them for guidance, they're probably going to lead you to the path that led them to where they're at in their life.

[00:14:00] And if you don't want to replace your life for their life, if you don't want to exchange places with them, I would recommend, from a guy living the best life I could have ever dreamed of, to not listen, or to be more selective of where you're seeking guidance from. 

Take the meat, leave the bones. 

Take that they love you, take that, that they want the best for you, leave everything else.

[00:14:30] Because again, if they haven't accomplished what you want in all years of your life, health, wealth, relationships, then it probably makes sense to only listen to them if you're like, “Maybe they're really terrible in business or money and health, but they have a beautiful marriage, you know?” 

Listen to them about that stuff, but you don't need to take it all because if you take it all from the wrong person, you're going to settle for a life that you're not going to be happy with.

And if you just commit to yourself for the next 365 days. 

To do something uncomfortable every single day, just watch how your life changes in just one year. 

[00:15:00] Don't mistake these little things that you change on a daily basis because they're not like rapid, crazy changes that are happening that it's not doing something.

Every uncomfortable thing that you do on a daily basis is getting you closer to a version of you that you can be proud of. 

Just remember that. 

Start today. 

It's day one. 

[00:15:30] No matter how old you are, no matter where you're at in your journey, no matter if you have to reset because some sh*t happened, I don't know, start today.

Do not settle for this life, know that you can have more, know that you're the person that can give more to you and your family, but you gotta sacrifice. 

You gotta get after it, and you gotta suffer, to be deserving of that life.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said, and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

[00:16:00]

In this episode, Phil talks about the importance of perseverance and self-belief in achieving personal and professional goals. He shares his experiences of overcoming challenges and highlights the need for resilience in the face of adversity. Emphasizing the importance of small, consistent steps and a positive mindset, Phil provides insights on how to transform our lives and realize our dreams through dedication and hard work. This episode is a powerful reminder to embrace failures as part of our journey towards success.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(01:31) - Always Embracing Perseverance

(05:38) - Reinventing Yourself

(09:44) - The Importance of Defining Your Dreams in Detail

(11:52) - Reverse Engineering Success

(12:58) - Embracing Messy Action

(14:29) - Enjoying the Process Leads to Faster Success

(18:37) - Focusing On The Immediate Next Step

(21:39) - The Power of Doing Your Best Daily

(22:44) - The Continuous Journey of Self-Improvement


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Transcription:

[00:00:00] You're going to get kicked in the face. 

It's going to try and test you on a daily basis. 

There's going to be some days where you're like, “No, I'm gonna crush this. I'm ready to fail. I'm in it to win it.” 

And the very next f*cking hour, you're like, “Jesus Christ. Ah, was this the right decision? Should I keep doing this? Damn it.” 

And then again, you wake up the next day. 

You're like, “I'm going to crush this.” 

Get kicked in the teeth again. 

[00:00:30] And you're just like, “Jesus, man, I don't even - ah, it's only been two days. And every day it's like that cycle.” 

And for some reason, you just focus on, “OK, I'm going to get hit in the face again. I'm going to get hit in the face again.” 

And then one day you look up and you're just like, “Oh, sh*t. My whole life has changed. I'm still getting kicked in the teeth, but like, my whole life has changed. I don't even know how I'm doing it, but I'm just doing my best every day.” 

[00:01:00] When you can just do your best every day, you win.

What's going on you guys? 

It's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

[00:01:30] Guys, today we're going to talk about how to keep going when you don't see results. 

I think this is everybody's f*cking problem. 

Look, you're going to go through a lot in your life. 

You're going to go through so many trials in your life. 

Doesn't matter what season you're in, doesn't matter if it's, if it's personal related, if it's relationship related, if it's career or business related, doesn't matter.

[00:02:00] You're going to go through so much sh*t in your life to get to where you're wanting to go. 

And the biggest thing that you have to remember that that causes anybody to be unsuccessful or successful is their ability to continue to persevere even if they don't see those results. 

You're gonna get broken off, or life, God, the universe will try every single thing to see how long can you stay in the fight for.

And you gotta remember that most people don't stay in the fight for that long. 

[00:02:30] Most people in this world, they talk and they talk and they talk, and they say, they say, they say. 

They say they're gonna do these things that are amazing in life. 

And they don't follow through because in the mind, the mind says that we want these big bad goals.

We want to have the lifestyle. 

We want to have the money. 

We want to have the house. 

We want to have the cars. 

We want to have the family. 

We want to have all of that stuff in our mind. 

It feels so good to like, to think about that, to dream about it, to, to see ourselves in those situations in those environments.

[00:03:00] We're just like, damn, that's going to be so amazing. 

Once I'm there, it's going to feel so amazing. 

Once I've achieved all of those things. 

And then they like try for like a second, and then like it hurts, it sucks, it hurts. 

The things that you have to do in a relationship, you want to have the perfect relationship, you want to get married one day, you want to have kids, and then you still have ego, you still have pride, you still like talk down to people, you still treat people like sh*t, you still take things personal.

[00:03:30] How the f*ck are you going to attract the perfect partner for yourself if you still act that way?

Or maybe you're not good with your money, or maybe you're not responsible. 

Maybe you're just drinking all the time. 

Maybe you're always high. 

Maybe you're not doing anything to attract somebody who actually wants to get married to that.

Like, if you're not somebody that somebody good wants to get married to, is that their fault? 

Is that the world's fault? 

Or is that your fault for not becoming who you need to be? 

[00:04:00] You can want the marriage, you can want the relationships, you can want the best person you could possibly f*cking attract. 

But are you that person that they would be attracted to?

See, the thing about relationships is, you don't seek a relationship. 

You become the best version of you. 

And that best version of you attracts the people that would be attracted to that version of you. 

[00:04:30] But what it takes for you to go from the sh*t bag to the perfect version of you for now, that's good enough to find that relationship.

It's going to take a lot of work in the middle. 

A lot of personal, you're going to have to drop the drinking, you're going to have to drop the smoking. 

You're going to have to get into the gym. 

You're going to have to like take your career or your business seriously. 

So that way you're not struggling just to get by.

And then once you have a little bit of stability, that perfect partner will like notice you. 

Or maybe because you're going to be in different scenarios, instead of being at the bar or going out to drinks with friends, you're at the gym, maybe you bump into her there. 

[00:05:00] Or maybe, like, you go to a networking event, because, like, you're taking your business and your career seriously.

Instead of getting high, you're at a networking event, and maybe you bump into her over there. 

But do you see how the different actions that you take result in different things? 

But if you're always doing the same bullsh*t, that's gotten you to where you're at right now in life, you're never going to have different variables.

You're never going to have different outputs because the input will be the same. 

[00:05:30] When we think about your business, when we think about life, when we think about leveling up in every single area, the work in the middle of where you're at to where you want to get to, the work in the middle is where everybody breaks off.

You have to remember that you're going to get here when you get here. 

There's really no way to accelerate this part of your personal development. 

Now, how fast somebody can personally develop, that's the only thing that that changes, right? 

So instead of taking 10 years, maybe it takes five, maybe it takes one, maybe it takes a week.

It's probably not going to take a week. 

Let's just, let's just be real. 

[00:06:00] Your ability to completely change and reinvent yourself. 

At a rapid rate, will allow you to condense that time. 

When you learn from mentors, when you learn from people that have already walked the path you want to walk, you condense that time.

But it's different for different people. 

People, like me, can drop who the f*ck we've seen ourselves as. 

Like, for our entire life, if I've seen myself one way, I can completely drop that version of me today. 

And then I can start becoming the newest version of me. 

Most people can't do that because what happens?

[00:06:30] Most people are like, “Oh, well, sh*t. If I start changing how I've been this entire time, like what happens if my family starts judging me and they start hating on me, because they've known me to be like this drinker, this smoker, this like loser in life? And then I just flip a switch and decide like, I'm this happy, successful person that's driven and motivated to crush life. Like, what if they don't believe in me? Like, what if my coworkers don't believe in me? What if like all these people that have always known me to be this way, don't believe in me? 

[00:07:00] It's like, bro, duh. 

Why would they believe in you?

Like, listen to what you're saying right now. 

You don't even sound like you believe in you.

Why would anybody else believe in you? 

You have to believe in yourself for far longer than anybody. 

We'll ever start like you have to do that for years. 

[00:07:30] You have to believe in yourself for years while everybody's hating on you, while everybody's doubting you, while nobody is like cheering you on, even though you think they are.

They're just like, “Ah, no, no, no, f*cking you got it.” 

But then in the back of their mind, they're like, “No, you don't. You've been drinking this whole time. You've been smoking this whole time. You've been doing stupid sh*t this whole time. You're not doing it.”

That's what's happening in their mind. 

And if you absorb that, and you choose to believe all of these other people versus believing in yourself, of course nobody's gonna believe in you. 

You have to believe in you far longer than anybody else will start to, and you just gotta accept that for what it is.

And that's where most people just stop. 

[00:08:00] Like, you're so worried about what mom and dad think, what brother and sister think, what cousin, auntie, uncle, uh, friend, best friend, acquaintance, co worker, people, strangers, random people on the internet. 

You're so concerned about them that it's like, but why can't you just do it for you?

Why can't you just drop this identity that no longer serves you for you and just be like, “No, I'm this person now.” 

I'm not saying, like, be somebody that you're not. 

[00:08:30] What I am saying is if you're like, “Hey, I'm gonna go get a haircut so that way I look more sharp. If I'm gonna dress up a little bit, maybe just wear a regular t shirt versus pajamas every single day.” 

I don't know.

“Maybe I'm gonna clean up my face a little bit so that way, you know, it doesn't look like my f*cking facial hair is all over the place. Maybe I'm gonna take a bath every day versus -” 

I don't know. 

(People, please. I hope you don't do th*s sh*t every couple days, you know, like just little things.)

[00:09:00] “Oh, I'm gonna actually clean my car, so that way it doesn't smell like Carl's Jr. in there all the damn time.” 

“Maybe I'm gonna clean the outside of my car so it doesn't look like I haven't washed it in years and I'm actually gonna take care of my sh*t.” 

“Maybe I'm gonna clean my office so that way it's actually fun to work in my office.”

If you don't have an office, maybe you're going to clean your house because you actually like hold yourself to a standard, level up, do those things, believe in yourself. 

Doesn't matter. 

Like people are so worried about the results that they're not putting in the work in themselves and in a daily basis to earn that result one day.

[00:09:30] People are like, “Oh, I don't have it yet. I don't have it yet. I don't have it yet. I don't have it.” 

But it's like, you never will. 

You never will if you don't start the work here. 

Right now. 

Today. 

Right after this. 

Okay? 

After you listen to this, right after this, get to work. 

Because how do you keep going? 

You have to like, really think about why you're doing this.

Why are you in this game of life? 

[00:10:00] Because what you can do, and I tell this to my clients all the time, what you can do is go look into the corner. 

There's a door. 

That door leads to mediocrity. 

The door is always available for you. 

There's no lock. 

Nobody's going to lock you out of that. 

You can literally walk through that right now.

You can choose to, but the point is you haven't, you haven't just walked through that door, which means that there's a part of you that believes that you can break through, but you have to break through. 

You can't like bounce off the wall. 

You actually have to push and break through. 

[00:10:30] So the biggest thing that you have to remember is like you can set a target, you can set your GPS of like, “Okay, in my life, I want to have our dream home. And this is what it looks like, this is the state that I want to live in, this is the country I want to live in, this is like how many bedrooms it's gonna have, how many bathrooms, because we're gonna have this many kids.”

Like, get so clear on where you're setting the destination. 

And then the next thing is like, “Okay, well this is the car that I want, I just want a nice family BMW. Maybe I want a - I don't know -  a Tesla.” 

Maybe you want the Lambo. 

[00:11:00] I don't know whatever it is for you. 

You what color is it? 

What year is it? 

What do the rims look like?

What does the interior look like? 

How does it smell in there? 

Like all of it get clear set the GPS. 

Okay, this is this is where I want my business to be.

This is where I want my career to be. 

If you're not like a business owner person, you know, this is this is where I want my income to be. 

Get so clear. 

And then don't just like write like a million dollars like, “Oh, I want to make a million dollars.” 

But why?

[00:11:30] Because what you might find is like a million dollars is actually far more than the life that you want or that you're budgeting for here. 

I could get so clear and understand, like, why did you choose that? 

Maybe it's 2 million, maybe it's five, maybe it's 10, maybe it's infinity.

(But you can't set a GPS to infinity, so just start with a number, okay?) 

Now that you're clear about that, you set the GPS.
 

And what you do is you start reverse engineering how you're going to get there. 

[00:12:00] Hey, because every step that you take illuminates the path you won't know because you won't know what your holdups are going to be. 

You won't know that.

Okay, cool. 

“I'm gonna start this new business. And when I do that, I'm gonna crush it.” 

Right? 

“I'm gonna build a seven figure business.” 

But maybe In order to build that seven figure business, because you can only see the next couple steps in front of you. 

[00:12:30] Then you're just like, “Oh sh*t, I have to actually dial other businesses to try to get business? Oh sh*t. I don't know how to dial people. I don't know sales. I don't have the confidence to talk to people like that.” 

Then what do you have to do? 

You have to work on your confidence. 

You have to work on your sales. 

You have to work on your marketing. 

You have to work on what you do after they pick up.

You have to like to build it all out. 

And then you have to like, you have to be like, “Oh sh*t, like, this is actually going to be some work. It's not just a matter of like this vision of a business. I actually have to like to do work.” 

And again, people are going to break off because then you'll be like, “Well, that's a lot of work.”

[00:13:00] But the thing is, if you're willing to be like, “All right, cool. So I guess first thing that I can do is if I just want to take messy action, I guess I can go on Google because I can find the phone numbers for all of these local businesses or whatever that I can potentially serve. And obviously they're going to have a phone number there. I'll make a spreadsheet of all of those different companies with all of their different phone numbers, with all their social medias, with all of their emails, and I'm going to start outbounding. I don't know what the f*ck I'm going to say, but I'm just going to start.And then with every rejection that I face, I get to dial in my process a little bit more.”

I get to see like, “Ah, that sucked.”

And then maybe somebody like ripped me a new asshole. 

And I'm just like, “Oh man, that was terrible. They ruined my whole day.” 

I let it ruin my whole day. 

Then I know I have some personal development rejection stuff I got to work through. 

You see what I'm saying? 

And so by doing that, now we attack the weak points.

We work on our personal development. 

We get more confident. 

We start becoming more resilient to rejection. 

[00:14:00] We start learning the sales process that we need to take. 

And then boom, then we actually initiate a conversation where we feel more confident. 

We take them through a process. 

We qualify them. 

We figure out what we need to do to take this into a deeper conversation, to see how we can help their business.

Boom. 

Next thing. 

And then eventually that leads to a client. 

And once you get that first client, then it's like, “Oh my gosh, all I had to do is put my head down, do the work.” 

And that's the thing. 

It's so simple.

But it's not easy, because of all of the different things. 

[00:14:30] And as you enter this journey of like trying to change your life, different things will become road bumps, speed bumps, a brick wall, a f*cking mountain that you have to climb.

Like there's going to be something in front of you that you're going to have to overcome. 

And that's why it feels like sometimes like, “Damn, like I just want to get the result.” 

But the result is on the other side of the work. 

The result is on the other side of you becoming the version of you you're not yet.

[00:15:00] And it's being able to be very intentional and knowing it's going to take work for you to become that person, to master that thing. 

And when you can just bite the bullet and just be like, “I'm going to have to sacrifice my comfort. I'm going to have to sacrifice whatever the hell I think I know. I'm going to have to look dumb. I'm going to have to fail for - I'm just going to have to do whatever I need to do to win.” 

And when you become relentless, for some reason, the unlock happens. 

For some reason, like you finally break through and you start seeing some results. 

[00:15:30] It's not all of the results. 

It's just some results. 

And you're just like, “Okay, something - I don't know what's happening - something's happening.”

And what's happening in that moment is you're starting to have fun with the work. 

This is how you move through those times where you learn how to detach from that end result that you want so bad. 

Like all you do is hold onto it, right? 

It's like a GPS, okay? 

It's like you're driving in your car and you're looking at the GPS and all you're looking at is the end address.

[00:16:00] Imagine if you're just looking at the GPS and you're like, “I just can't wait to arrive.”

And then you miss every single turn that will help you get to that end address. 

Will you ever get there? 

Does that make sense? 

Or are you like, “Okay, in 800 feet, I'm going to turn left. Okay. In 300 feet, I'm going to turn right. Okay. In like four miles, I'm going to go straight. Okay. I'm going to look out for that.” 

And then once you eventually get to the end destination.

That's what people got to understand. 

Yes.

[00:16:30] Can't be too worried about the end goal. 

It doesn't matter about the results that you get throughout that. 

It's about the incremental gains.

It's getting closer and closer to the result because the thing is if you're too attached to that end result, if you're too attached to what you want, you're going to be distracted from the work that's required. 

[00:17:00] And if you don't learn to have fun with the work, if you don't learn to have fun with the failures, with the rejection, with getting kicked in the f*cking teeth that it's going to take for you to create the life that you want, that you can be proud of, the door to mediocrity is right there.

You can just settle for a boring, mediocre life. 

You can settle for the relationship that doesn't even make you happy. 

You can settle for a job that you get paid for, have security for, you don't really make a lot. 

You work with people that hate their lives and you're just surrounded by them all the time.

You settle for a little sh*tty apartment because you can't afford the house that you want. 

[00:17:30] Or you settle for a house that just makes you miserable, that doesn't even inspire you or motivate you. 

The door is right there.

Guys, to have the life that you want. 

You have to know that it's going to take work. 

You have to be able to like stop for a second and just like really ask yourself like, “Damn, am I giving myself the proper expectations for this?”

[00:18:00] If I really do want that life, if I really want to be that person that says like, “Oh my gosh, I worked my ass off for this. I earned this sh*t.” 

Like what price did that person have to pay to be able to say that? 

Are you willing to be that person? 

Because if you are, then it doesn't matter about getting that end result right now.

If you achieve that in your life, it's your life's work. 

[00:18:30] When you think about it being your life's work and just getting there, and then realizing that all you have to do is be more present and start enjoying the process of living this life versus worrying so much about that end result, you'll actually get there faster.

Okay, I'm gonna put one more visual in your mind. 

We have two drivers, okay? 

Driver number one, all he does. 

He stares at that GPS, but he's zoomed in at the end result. 

[00:19:00] Driver number two, okay, he's not zoomed in at the end result, he's already plugged in the GPS, he's looking at the turns. 

In one day, let's say this is California to New York.

In one day, they're both driving, one is looking at the end result, one is looking at the turns, only the very next turn that they can possibly take. 

In one day, who's going to be closer to that end destination? 

The person that's getting lost because they're not paying attention to the signs?

[00:19:30] Or the person that's just like, ‘Okay, left turn, right turn, straight, go onto this freeway, exit, do this other thing.’

Who's actually getting closer to the end destination? 

This person. 

Are they focused on the same end result? 

Yes. 

Are they focused on the right things? 

No. 

Yes. 

End result turns. 

[00:20:00] The only way for you to get closer to that end result that you want is by not focusing on it. 

Get clear, understand the target, understand what you're aiming for, but don't waste your days.

Focus on something you can't control. 

Focus on right now. 

Focus on today. 

Focus on what you can control and understand that if you're comfortable, then you're not doing what you need to do because It's a very scary thing to start going in a different direction and creating the life that you want, that you can be proud of.

It's a scary thing. 

[00:20:30] And, and the thing is like in life, like people are so like, “Oh, it's so amazing. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.” 

“It's f*cking motivational.” 

“It's so easy. Just do the work.” 

Blah, blah, blah. 

But like, no, no, no, it's, it's hard. 

You're going to get kicked in the face. 

It's going to try and test you on a daily basis.

There's going to be some days where you're like, “No, I'm gonna crush this. I'm ready to fail. I'm in it to win it.” 

[00:21:00] And the very next f*cking hour, you're like, “Jesus Christ. Ah, was this the right decision? Should I keep doing this? Damn it.” 

And then again, you wake up the next day and you're like, “I'm gonna crush this.”

Get kicked in the teeth again. 

And you're just like, “Jesus, man, I don't even - ah, it's only been two days. And every day it's like that cycle.” 

And for some reason you just focus on the, “Okay, I'm gonna get hit in the face again. I'm gonna get hit in the face again.” 

[00:21:30] And then one day you look up and you're just like, “Oh sh*t, my whole life has changed. I'm still getting kicked in the teeth, but like my whole life has changed. I don't even know how I'm doing it, but I'm just doing my best, every day.”

When you can just do your best every day, you win. 

When you can just be very intentional with just doing your best, it's very hard to receive this when you don't have faith in yourself, or you don't have faith in the path.

But when you just believe in yourself, there's a beautiful thing that happens. 

[00:22:00] Where it's like you kind of just like let go and let God.

And you're just like, “Well sh*t, I pray, I meditate, I do whatever I gotta do, something's telling me and leading me on this path, I'm just gonna get after it, I'm just gonna follow the breadcrumbs, I'm not gonna focus on the end result, cause that's never served me, I'm just gonna focus on the next step, the next step, the next step, and I'm just gonna follow these breadcrumbs, and I'm gonna trust that every single day, as long as I follow my battle plan, that I'm gonna be good to go. Because my track record states that I've gotten myself to this point in life. I can get myself to the next point and the next destination after that. And I just keep pushing. I don't know how I'm going to do it, but I'm going to do it.”

 

[00:22:30] And I want you to understand that the most successful people in the world, understand that when we set targets most of the time, if not all of the time, we don't know how the f*ck we're getting there. 

But we do understand and have confidence that we will.

[00:23:00] It doesn't matter how long it takes. 

Once we've decided that we're going to get there, we're going to get there. 

And we can work with people to help us get there a little bit faster by bridging some of the gaps in our operating system, or we can choose to be a lone wolf and do it on our own and just take the next decade, two or three.

But as long as we choose to get there, we will get there. 

Just make sure that - and I'll leave you with this. 

Just make sure that as you enter this journey of changing your life. 

[00:23:30] And you learn how to detach yourself from the end result and learn delayed gratification. 

That you supplement how you experience this journey by not doing sh*t that doesn't serve you.

Getting drunk all the time, smoking weed all the time. 

Just not working out, getting fat, getting a dad bod like I did, don't do that sh*t. 

Cause then it makes you sluggish. 

The weed makes you anxious. 

The drinking makes you just like a terrible human. 

[00:24:00] And if you do that, what happens is it elongates the time that it takes for you to make these big realizations.

But when you're like clear in the mind, and you know that you don't have these vices that are taking from you, you can actually have so much more clarity faster. 

So that way you can make the turns because again, disoriented, you're not making those turns. 

You're seeing the signs late. 

And when you do that opportunity passes by.

So you want to make sure you're clear of all of those things, okay? 

[00:24:30] Stay active. 

Be straight edge. 

Do what you gotta do. 

You don't need to drink. 

You don't need to smoke. 

You don't need to do none of that. 

You don't need the Carl's Jr. Double Western Bacon Cheeseburger. 

You don't need any of that stuff. 

Eat right.

Track your macros. 

Be who you need to be to win at this game. 

And when you do that, you will start feeling connected to life at a deeper level. 

Meditate. 

 

Pray. 

Do whatever you gotta do. 

Whatever you believe in. 

Learn how to be more present in your life. 

And this is how you keep going. 

[00:25:00] This is the truth.

Whether you wanna hear it or not. 

This is how you keep going. 

There's no other secret sauce. 

There's no other strategy, another map that I'm hiding from you. 

The only way I've been able to get to this point in my life from where I was, and you can do your research and find out where I came from, is just not stopping.

 

It's just to take it a day at a time, take it a step at a time, and to just keep going. 

[00:25:30] If you can just make that happen for yourself, and just keep going, especially on the days where you don't want to show up, wake up early on the days you don't want to wake up, don't hit that snooze button, go to the gym when you don't want to, especially when it's raining and cold.

Eat right, even though you just see the donuts your wife just bought again and you want to just get a burger and just eat your feelings away because of all the stress. 

Don't do it. 

Choose the path that will serve you. 

[00:26:00] And every day you're gonna feel like you're stripping away this old self and that you're actually inviting in the new self, the higher self, the version of you that actually serves you.

Alright, just remember, you got this. 

And if you ever need more support, you just watch and listen to all of my other content because there's a different things that maybe you're even unaware of that's preventing you from becoming who you need to be. 

And the whole purpose of everything that I do here is to show you all of the things that I've had to change within myself to become who I am today.

[00:26:30] And I'm going to continue to document all the things that I changed throughout time. 

So that way you can see how high somebody can go when they just don't break those promises to themselves.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just f*cking said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out and execute. 

Send it.

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