In this episode, we get real about one of the most avoided yet most important parts of any intimate relationship: talking about sex. 

We look at why open, grounded communication is the gateway to deeper pleasure, trust, and connection. You’ll learn how to bring up the topic without blame or awkwardness, how to create emotional and physical safety for both partners, and how to turn an uncomfortable conversation into a collaborative one. 

We also explore practical scripts, timing, and easy questions you can ask.

If you’ve ever felt tongue-tied or scared to talk about what you really want in bed, this episode will give you a calm, practical roadmap for starting that conversation so you can have the kind of sex you have been wishing to have.

In this episode, I explore how the modern world’s constant glow and invisible hum might be dimming your desire. 

From blue light and late-night screens to the Wi-Fi signals surrounding us, I share how these everyday exposures can keep our bodies in alert mode, awake, but not aroused. 

I also share what I noticed in my own body after moving into a brightly lit, signal-filled apartment, and what I did to help my desire return.

In this first part of our Desire series, we unpack how the nervous system’s two settings, stress and safety, act like a seesaw that shapes libido, arousal, and pleasure. 

You’ll learn why cortisol and adrenaline turn down oxytocin, estrogen, and testosterone, making desire harder to access, and how safety cues lift the feel-good chemistry that supports connection and responsiveness. 

We translate the science into simple practices you can use now, and I share my own story about how ongoing stress turned me off, and what I did about it to find my desire again. 

Welcome to The Pleasure Files and to our very first investigation together.
 

In this episode, I dive straight into a question so many of us carry: why does my vulva hurt?

Before we even start unpacking the whys, I invite you to pause and consider what “hurt” actually means. Because for so many of us, we’ve been taught to live with discomfort, to assume that burning, itching, soreness, or pain are just part of being a woman. But they’re not. It’s possible to have a vulva that feels good: soft, alive, comfortable, delicious.

This episode isn’t just about solving pain. It’s about remembering that your body is not a problem to be managed. She’s a sacred part of you that deserves care, curiosity, and affection.

In this episode, I explore:

• What “hurt” really means when it comes to the vulva
• Some of the causes of pain and discomfort that might be impacting you
• Why our relationship with our own bodies is the real root of healing

If you would like to get in touch, reach out. 

www.thepleasurenaturopath.com

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Ashley’s story is common for a lot of us.

She never really found physical pleasure in sex and never orgasmed.

Sure, there was the closeness and connection and building love and trust that came from sex with her husband, but orgasm wasn’t part of her experience.

She’s on the podcast for episode 18, vulnerably sharing about what that has meant for her enjoyment of her body, what has recently changed, and why it changed.

If you have always wanted more pleasure in your sexual experiences, this episode will give you hope!

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: http://www.thepleasurenaturopath.com/
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Ashley

Ashley Carlotta resides in Mckinney, Texas with her husband and 3 kids. She believes that it is absolutely possible to lose weight without being on a diet. As a Certified Health Coach, Ashley has held hundreds of women accountable to eat well and exercise while living in moderation and practicing mindfulness. She is the founder of Better Health by Accountability, coaches women all over the world, and believes that daily accountability support is key to reaching your health and wellness goals. Her accountability coaching provides daily communication, check-ins, guidance and continuous reminders. Ashley’s clients are successful with her direct, no excuses, fun loving coaching style. One of her greatest passions is helping others succeed in finding confidence in their bodies because for so long, she hated her own.  She knows all too well how awful it feels to be stuck in a vicious cycle of yo-yo dieting and how freeing it feels to be on the other side of that. Ashley will rarely turn down a girl’s night, loves to dance, and thoroughly likes a good reality show like Married At First Sight.

Website: https://www.betterhealthbyaccountability.com/
Freebie: 5 tips to living your life like a normal person (while still losing weight)
Instagram: @betterhealthbyaccountability
Facebook: @betterhealthbyaccountability

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Have you heard that as a woman you are too much in your masculine, and need to be more in your feminine?

Or that if you just 'embrace your feminine' you will be able to effortlessly tick off your massively long to-do list, and feel sexy and relaxed at the end of the day?

What do these words even mean?

If you embrace your feminine, do you have to go and dance naked in the moonlight and paint yourself with your own menstrual blood?

And what does that have to do with the realities of modern life, and just getting through our incredibly busy days?

Jenni Anne is a Purpose Coach and Breathwork Guide who helps overwhelmed women get more done while doing less, in ways that leave them relaxed, resourced and real.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Jenni Anne

Jenni is a Purpose Coach and Breathwork Guide who helps overwhelmed women discover and align to their Higher Purpose and remember their magnificence so together we can raise the vibration of the planet.
Her unique approach empowers women to unapologetically reclaim a life of meaning, and reconnect to flow so they can embody their deepest form of joy.  All in a way that feels safe.

Website: https://iamjanne.com/
Instagram and Twitter: @iamjennianne

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Have you decided that your sexual life will just be finished after menopause?

Are you allowed to be turned on, sexy and desirable after 50 plus, or do you just have to shut down and turn off like society tells you you should?

Karen Levine has passed through menopause, and is still juicy and sexy, desiring and desirable, so what is different about her?

And is it possible for all of us?

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Karen Levine

Reiki master, body & sexual de-armouring practitioner, and life coach, Karen assists clients to discover and give voice to their heartfelt desires and identify ways to lead self-empowered and fully expressed lives based on their specific goals. By facilitating the release of blockages (physical and emotional) and guiding clients to identify and transform limiting beliefs and behavior patterns into beneficial ones, her work helps clients to live life with greater joy, vitality, and confidence.

Reach out at: [email protected]

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Are you curious about kink?

Maybe you've seen the 50 Shades movies or you've heard that some people like having things done to them that to you seem degrading or painful. And where is the pleasure in that?

Jessica is a kink and sex personality coach, helping women find their unique sensual side and then embrace and embody that to have a life full of pleasure.

Episode 15 explores all things kink, including trauma, consent, pleasure, and why you would want to, anyway.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Jessica Aycock:

Jessica is a kink and sex personality coach, helping women find their unique sensual side and then embrace and embody that to have a life full of pleasure. She also provides support to sex workers and focuses on a health work/life balance as well as fighting the stigma of sex work. She has spent 7 years working as a licensed therapist in the state of NC (USA) and brings many skills from her clinical work to her coaching.

Free kinks checklist: https://thejessaycock.ck.page/kinks
Website: https://www.thejessaycock.com/
Socials (IG/Tiktok/FB): @thejessaycock 

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Ok, sure, pleasure isn't just sex, but what if we want to have more pleasure when we have sex?

Aaron Michael is on the pod today, and as an author, sex coach, bodyworker and course creator, he has created a new model for sex that brings the power of our pleasure back to each of us.

We talked about the potential for pleasure in every body, what it takes to have truly fulfilling sex, and what to do when we are in bodies that have pain or numbness and sex isn't feeling great, or we just don't want to have sex at all.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Aaron:

Aaron Michael is an author, sex coach, and bodyworker who has worked hands- on with several thousand men, women, and couples, supporting them with physical and psychological numbness, pain, and the optimisization of pleasure where doctors and other therapists had given up.

He has created a new model for sex that doesn’t rely on friction and the embodiment of avoidant attachment behaviors promulgated by the greatest sex educator...porn, and is working towards a world where sex, relations, and clear communication create healthy, happy, and powerful individuals, couples, and communities for healthier nations and global wellbeing.

Websites:
For men: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/bethebestsheeverhad
For women: https://www.bedroommasterclass.com/blowhismind
Instagram: @aaronmichael_method

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Sarah Michelle grew up in purity culture, and after a painful and unexpected divorce, found herself in hookup culture.

We talked about what the impact of her purity education was on her sense of herself and her sexuality, and how that flowed over into world view and mindset.

If you are curious about the impacts of religious upbringings on your sense of self, and sexuality, especially when you find yourself living in a completely different sexual world, Sarah takes us on this journey through her life.

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More about me:

I support women who experience painful sex and genital/pelvic pain to heal so that they can experience epic sex and pleasure.

If you want to dip your toe into pleasure and healing in a safe place, come and check out my private Facebook Group, ‘Let’s Talk About Painful Sex’.

Website: www.thepleasurenaturopath.com
Instagram @naomiharrisnd

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About Sarah Michelle:

Sarah is a real and raw brand identity strategist and personal identity evangelist. She is the CEO and creator of HoneyMAP, a personalized roadmap that connects the core values of mission-minded business leaders with their audience through clear brand messaging and creative marketing strategies. She is also the creator and host of the Successful(ish) podcast and lifestyle brand and is dedicated to sweetening the world by ending identity crisis and redefining success. When she’s not elbow deep in brand strategy and wordsmithing, you can find her hiking with her two fur babies, or drinking copious amounts of coffee in independent bookstores.

Website: https://justsarahmichelle.com
Instagram/ Facebook/ Linked In: @justsarahmichelle

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