Finally! In Chapter 7 of Come AsYou Are, Emily Nagoski. Ph. D. gets to DESIRE: spontaneous desire and responsive desire and desire threshholds. Mind. Blown. Normalizing high threshold responsive desire is life changing and relationship saving. Also, the chasing dynamic. Wow. 

Amy comes up with her favorite metaphor to date: the pleasure pool. Fill it up, keep it full, sparkling, and clean, and dive right in!

Mentioned in This Episode:

"Crooked Autumn Sun", Rick Bain and The Genius Position

David Schilling "Backseat DJ"

"Tears" by Sabrina Carpenter

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

Ray Wiley Hubbard

Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz, Ph, D and A. Ménard, Ph. D.

John Gottman

Esther Perel

Original Music:

Song: MC Doomin

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: KTWE

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.