Work From Bed Friday

Amy and Tommy reconvene with Jeanine Klotzkin, IFS therapist, listener, and friend to revisit some of their favorite Work From Bed Friday books and shows tnrough the lens of Internal Family Systems, or to use the generic term, "parts work."

As usual the conversation gets juicy, deep, and lengthy! So this is Part 1—tune in next week for Part II!

Mentioned in this Episode:

Jeanine Klotzkin

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph. D.

Internal Family Systems

All Fours by Miranda July

Hakomi Therapy

So You Married a Human by Jackie Kelley

Original Music:

Song: Leave the Gold (Or I'll Never Forgot Ol' Sea Legs)

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: It Don't Rewind

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy & Tommy finally watched Miranda July's first studio film "Me and You and Everyone We Know" and launch into a full discussion of its themes, quirks, and delights. The film won several awards and Roger Ebert considered it the 5th best film of the 2000s! Also, attraction as a concept and who is on your Dream Team?

Dire Straights Podcast

All Fours by Miranda July

Me and You and Everyone We Know, 2005

The Goldfish Scene

The Walk to Tyrone Street

William Butler Yeats on Sex and Death

Who said "All poetry is about sex and death and the changing of the seasons?'

So You Married a Human by Jackie Kelley

Original Music:

Song: The Valley of the Bellhops from Pretty Door

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: UCWHATUWANT2C from Pretty Door EP

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy and Tommy discuss the final chapter of You Are the One You've Been Waiting For by Dick Schwartz, Ph.D., weaving in their own DIY method of couples therapy: discussing their parts on a podcast! They invite you to try it too! There are Venn diagrams and very important commas. Don't miss it!

Wicker

Wicked

Jonathan Bailey as the Sexiest Man Alive

Wickr

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

Muistardeaux Collective

Dead White by Wendy S. Walters

The Size of Thoughts by Nicholsen Baker

The Mezzanine by Nicholsen Baker

All About Love by bell hooks

The Lazy Genius

So You Married a Human by Jackie Kelley

Me and You and Everyone We Know

Original Music:

Song: UCWHATUWANT2C from Pretty Door

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: UCWHATUWANT2C from Pretty Door EP

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy and Tommy explore Chapter 5 of You are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, Ph. D. Not entirely the snoozefest that Amy initially expected, the two plunge into a super deep dive that illuminates new facets of their breakthrough story. Also, reason gets put in its place!

EFFT: Emotion Focused Family Therapy

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

The Backstory and the Breakthrough

Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke

Big Swiss by Jen Beagin

The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley 

The Rest of Our Lives by Ben Markovits

The Sopranos

Original Music:

Song: Spirit Quest

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Spirit Awards

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy and Tommy dive into Chapter 4 of You are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D. after discussing their shout out by the Dire Straights podcasting duo! The Dire Straights pod research on AI boyfriends was the inspiration for the AI threesome, and their latest episode again enters the AI conversation. Amy & Tommy aren't afraid to talk aimlessly about AI and even try to relate AI to parts work. Is AI a part? Maybe not yet...

Dire Straights Podcast

Orchid ad commentary

Jeanine Klotzkin

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph. D.

Internal Family Systems

Brain quote

Beth Kempton's states of writing

Flow States

Dr. Becky

The Twelve Steps

Original Music:

Song: The Act of Mowing

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: USA #1

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy and Tommy continue their conversation with their dear friend, listener, and seasoned therapist Jeanine Klotzkin. Jeanine introduced the duo to the work of Richard Schwartz through his books, No Bad Parts and You Are The One You've Been Waiting For, the "bookclub" topic of Season 4. What a treat to be in conversation with an IFS-trained therapist who uses the work on a daily basis! 

Mentioned in this Episode:

Jeanine Klotzkin

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph. D.

Internal Family Systems

Elizabeth Gilbert's Letter to Fear

Fletcher Pilates 

Tom McCook 

Franklin Training 

"Inside an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Session with Glennon & Richard C. Schwartz" We Can Do Hard Things

IFS Institute and Training

Dr. Becky Kennedy

Original Music:

Song: Rocky Seas

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy and Tommy welcome dear friend, listener, and seasoned therapist Jeanine Klotzkin to the bed/pod! Jeanine turned the duo on to the work of Richard Schwartz through his books, No Bad Parts and You Are The One You've Been Waiting For, the "bookclub" topic of Season 4. What a treat to be in conversation with an IFS-trained therapist who uses the work on a daily basis! Enjoy this first part of their juicy conversation and tune in next week for Part 2!

Mentioned in this Episode:

Jeanine Klotzkin

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph. D.

Internal Family Systems

Stanislov Grof

Holitropic Breathwork

"Inside an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Session with Glennon & Richard C. Schwartz" We Can Do Hard Things

IFS Institute and Training

Original Music:

Song: Baby Elephant

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: It Don't Rewind

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Amy & Tommy lament the loss of our icons of humanism: Dolly Parton, Gloria Steinem, and Tim Curry before going down a rabbit hole inspired by a quote by Steinem about turning 60. They then jump into Chapter 3 of You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For  by Richard Schwartz, PhD. Neo-exiles figure prominently in their discussion as they try to imagine what theirs might be or might have been. They go WAY back to examine their early relationship insecurities. They push back on the idea of DOOMED relationships. Come on, people!

Mentioned in this Episode

Doing Sixty and Seventy by Gloria Steinem

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

Jeanine Klotzkin, LPC, LCAT

"Why I'm No Longer a Fan of Esther Perel," by Not a Good Girl on Substack

Poppy's Crab Shack

Wickr

Markegard Family Grass-Fed

The Silver Saddle Motel

All About Love  by bell hooks

John Gottman

Kim Addonizio

"Sonnenizio on a Line from Drayton" by Kim Addonizio

Original Music:

Song: Knees

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: It Don't Rewind

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Quiet Divorcing, Quiet Quitting, and how to parent teenagers. So much comes up for Amy and Tommy as they discuss Chapter 2 of You are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD. Also, Amy borrows some ideas and rebuilds them as a new scaffolding for interacting with humans: Attention, Affirm, Ask, Affection. You heard it first on Work From Bed Friday!

Mentioned in this Episode:

"Gen Z is Quiet Quitting: Are You Listening?" 

"The Marriage is Long Over. Nobody Told Your Husband." by Hilary Silver

" The Women Quietly Quitting Their Husbands" by Monica Corcoran Harel in The Cut

You Are The One You Have Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz, PhD.

Elizabeth Gilbert

The Lazy Genius Podcast with Kendra Adachi

How to Parent Teenagers LOL

Original Music:

Song: Cho Cho

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Abstractio's Prestige

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Mentioned in this Episode: 

Stacey & Paul Martino

The Missing Piece by Stacey and Paul Martino

The Miracle Morning for Transforming Your Relationship by Stacey and Paul Martino

You are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph. D.

Ted Lasso

Original Music:

Song: Off My Stack

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Spirit Awards

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.