An accidental resilience researcher and cheerleader to all, Amber Robbins has a passion for strengthening families and teens.  After her own family began to face intense bullying and aggression, she went back to graduate school to earn a M.Ed. in School Counseling in an effort to help other children and teens who face these challenges.  Little did she realize when she began her educational pursuits that her family would continue to face bullying in all its dark forms: verbal, physical, emotional, cyber, stalking and copious amounts of relational aggression, for over 5 years!  These impactful experiences gave Amber the insight that we can and should do so much more to assist targets of bullying, so she created Stand and Cheer Co. and S.T.A.N.D. Academy to accomplish just that.  Amber is a member of the Utah Suicide Prevention Coalition, certified in Teen Mental Health First Aid, QPR and MBSR. She also serves on several parent and professional boards that focus on supporting children, teens and families.  Amber is passionate about educating adults in authority about the deep impact that bullying can have on those who are targeted, and reminding them to take a STAND and address these incidents. She loves to remind students that their words and actions have power, and is determined to empower upstanders everywhere to take action and assist, by challenging them to S.T.A.N.D. with her.

In this episode Brigette and Amber discuss what bullying looks like and how its destroying lives of children AND adults. Amber shares practical tips for how to overcome and work through situations and how to become self aware enough to realize when the bully might actually be yourself.

Stand Tall And Never Defeated- S.T.A.N.D- Amber

Become an up stander " When bystanders intervene and take action, they are then coined up standers " - Amber

" I don't believe hurt people should be allowed to continue to hurt people" - Brigette

We need to S.T.A.N.D tall as a society we are not willing to do this anymore, ,not allow it anymore- Brigette

"to transform a community, a home, you have to transform yourself"- Brigette

" We tend to bully ourselves..." Amber

"Ask yourself- do you bully yourself?"- Amber

1. Listen 2. validate 3. Act- 3 ways to work though bullying yourself- Amber

" it's easy for us to take on what others think of us... and then we start to bully ourself"- Amber

"take the time to listen to what your telling yourself"- Amber

"acknowledge or try to understand where those voices are going from- is it from your childhood or a employer? A spouse?" Amber

Understand the current conversation your having with yourself- Amber

when you start to listen to yourself, your going to be like "WOW, it's messy up there!!.. but your taking the first step"- Amber

"Its important to validate what your feeling and that what your feeling is real... validate and then we are moving on"- Amber

Affirmations are what I like to call power statements- Amber

When you feel that panic or doubt rising, go back to those basics of mazlows hierchy of needs " I'm safe, I am in control of my destiny,"- Brigette

"anxiety is a sign that you COULD be in danger, its a good thing, in this case your Not in danger- so what are we going to do?- Brigette

"Women have the ability to be helpers, healers and hope spreaders"- Amber

" you can be an influencer NOW...lets go an cheer other people along"- Amber

"if we are struggling..ask for help...after your transformed- be a helper!- Amber

the strong and capable philosophy is " know who you are, where your going and how to get there.. once you reach the top of the mountain its our responsibility to turn around and help others get there too.- Brigette

Find Amber at: www.standandcheer.com, IG: standandcheerco

Brigette: www.thestrongandcapable.com