The Strong and Capable with Host Brigette Heller

Local fitness go-to Felicia went to Arizona State where she played softball. She also has

  📍 your thoughts can change and your opinions can change over time And you grow as a human and what you thought, at one time in your life changes because of a certain situation that you've been through or a new tool that you've learned and how to cope and deal- Felicia

- we just spend so much time questioning what we already know, if we would just allow ourselves to sit in the belief and peace of knowing. How much noise can we cut out? - Brigette

-  remembering is. The quickest portal to becoming  and the reason that's important is because, despite what you have gone through, what the world has thrown at you, or the world has told you what you should be, what society has, has deemed right or isn't right, or what social media and, you know, random people on the internet are telling you what's wrong, what isn't wrong.

It's actually, you already know, you just have to remember. And we only remember through, for me, the tools that have helped me is honestly getting back to childlike behavior, to fun, to dreaming, to slowing down, Remembering is the quickest portal to becoming exactly who you're meant to become, right? We, it's already within us. There's amazing tools out there. There's things that can help us, the things that can catalyst us or, or move things quicker. But like, honestly, it's everything you have is already inside of you.

You just have to believe and trust and have the faith that you can do it or it's there for you.- Felicia

- you lean into the curiosity that breeds creativity and creativity creates possibility.- Brigette

How to connect with Felicia:

https://www.instagram.com/feliciaromero/

How to Connect with Brigette:

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Brigette Heller, Host of The Strong and Capable Podcast, takes a moment to reflect and share authentically how the Journey is never easy, but that HOPE is always the anchor to peace.

Quotes:

📍 Fear is exhausting. Doubting yourself is exhausting. You need to do things that are life giving, life bringing. And fear, confusion, doubt, self loathing, no. These deplete you, they empty you, they shorten your life emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally.

And you need the strength and the life that comes from goodness, from love, from light, from hope.

  📍 Pay attention to the things that keep showing up. Sometimes they're divine messages, divine downloads, as we like to call them.

And sometimes they're unresolved things that need to be healed. They're ready for it. You're ready for the healing. Okay. So pay attention.

  📍 isn't it amazing. How powerful light is that there's all this darkness and yet the silver lining always exists

  📍 there are key moments in our life where we know we are different.

And what I'm offering to you today is that difference is what makes you beautiful

  📍 Hope Summit is about connecting those who spread and give hope with those seeking hope.

Hope summit is about creating an environment where we can spark that light of hope within the individual who is. With us in this moment, hope summit is about taking that light and fanning the beautiful flame so that it can expand and grow into a fire. It's about lighting the world with light.

  📍 This is a crossroads and this crossroads is filled with the light. And so as I remember that girl who was nine, who all she saw was light.

In the darkness, I'm realizing that in the world today, where there is so much darkness, we need those who seek light. We need those who embrace light. We need those who are light. And we need to band together to create more hope and light in this world. Because it exists. Love exists, hope exists, light exists, peace exists.

  📍 that's what the world needs to know. You can be falling apart in every way and still have hope and peace inside of yourself.

That you are meant for more than the chaos you exist in. You are meant for more than anxiety and depression and hurt and abuse. You deserve light, hope, love, forgiveness, kindness. And so this summit is about creating that and I felt the need to get on here for all of you who are like, I don't always know who I am.

I don't always know why I've been through these things. I don't always know why I've had to suffer. And I'm here to tell you. That your suffering has made you who you are. It probably wasn't fair. It probably wasn't right. I'm not in your life. I have no, authority to speak on your hurt and your pain and your suffering.

But I do know Pain, hurt and suffering. And I know that if you will give hope a chance that something Unique will come to you that only you can do in the way you can do it doesn't mean other people haven't done it It means you will do it in a way that's unique to you and that the world needs your specific kind of light

  📍 hope is coming. Light is coming. You are not alone. You are strong and capable. That spirit within you is a fighter. So fight the good fight. Know that you are loved, that you are light, and that you are needed in this world

To Connect with Brigette:

Email: [email protected]

IG: Brigette.heller

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www.thestrongandcapable.com

Once homeless, incarcerated and shackled by addictions that nearly took his life, Danny Deaton is now a husband, father of three, and 16 years clean and sober. Danny is the founder of Living Proof Recovery Services; a company whose mission is to save families who are losing the battle of addiction inside their home. Seeing the lack of resources and support for families affected by addiction, Danny determined to become the resource. He and his wife Emily have produced the world’s first comprehensive program to educate and support families and spouses of addicts. They also host the Your Living Proof Podcast where they discuss addiction, marriage, faith, and family life. Danny’s motto is “Our Secrets Keep Us Sick”, a phrase he attributes to saving his life and continues to bless him today. He passionately shares this message in schools, churches, rooms of recovery and communities around the country.

I believe that Satan, the opposition is very opportunistic- Danny Deaton

The thing about addictions is they're progressive.- Danny Deaton

 we're here to help. But if you're not ready, I've told God that he can have you.- Danny Deaton

 really that every step of that process was just learning how to like, to sit in discomfort and to see myself for who I was.- Danny Deaton

  📍 the program of recovery, regardless of what you, where you go, what facility it is, what the approach is. It's really about reconnecting. They use the term. I'm a higher power, right? Cause a lot of people it's so intimidating to even put a name on it, but it's reconnecting and being able to latch on to a power greater than yourself that can restore you to sanity.- Danny Deaton

And then,  of course, once you've become something new within that container, then you have to go out and Do something. Now you have purpose- Brigette Heller

  📍 right now, the number one leading cause of death individuals, 18 to 45. And I'm talking by a mile. The number one is overdose to fentanyl. And we're talking of everything. It actually overdose to fentanyl is. Has more deaths right now, people 18 to 45, then car accidents and heart disease combined.- Danny Deaton

 📍 What I say is the greatest threat to the world in it of addiction is a family who effectively learns to intervene and how to support a person in a full program recovery. So we created the playbook for families.- Danny Deaton

   📍 can't help everybody. What am I going to do? I'm going to go and help people like my family. When I was stuck, teach them what my family learned because my addiction of many years came to a halt in a matter of months. Once my family learned how to effectively intervene, how to stand united.

And to stand up against the bully of addiction- Danny Deaton

  📍 I don't know a single person who has addiction, whether it's cocaine or it's sugar, that isn't seeking relief.

Addiction is usually someone who is seeking relief.- Brigette Heller

To Connect with Danny Deaton: 

IG: @yourlivingproof 

www.yourlivingproof.com

To Connect with Brigette Heller

IG: @brigette.heller   

www.thestrongandcapable.com

Email: [email protected]

Brigette Disscusses 3 toxic ideas in the world right now that are keeping people from healing and the help they need to heal. She Also shares a few thoughts on what is happening in Israel right now and also how we can find hope when hope feels gone. 

Quotes from the show:

 we are meant to love, not to hate. And so when hate is prevalent, when hate is winning, when hate is so vicious and in our face, it's heartbreaking because we're meant to love, we're meant to be liked, we're meant to serve and encourage and lift and create.

We're meant to explore. And when hate rules, none of these things happen.

And yet, we are feeling these intense emotions. And so living this Duality of feelings versus doing can be very hard and very tiring. So I guess the first thing I want to say before I share this message is give yourself a chance to rest. Understand that anything you're feeling right now is real and if it's adding to your already struggles.

You are not alone. Please don't be alone. Please seek out a divine source. Please seek out community. Please do not do it alone. Humans are not meant to do this journey alone and If you're like, I don't need that, I just need space, then give yourself the space to feel, maybe journal, go into a place and let your feelings be felt and seen and heard and acknowledged.

  I think it's probably strong emotions for a lot of us. And so we have learned that separation is safety. If I don't say my opinion and if I don't share my thoughts, then I am safe from ridicule, from hurt, I am safe from opinions, and I will be able to keep my tribe because we are so deeply ingrained with it.

 there's truth everywhere. So the truth actually lies in the middle, usually of our extreme opinion versus someone else's.

Exploration and curiosity allow us to see that more clearly, and have empathy, for others

2.  this next lie that we are being sold that is so unhealthy, so toxic for our generation.

And that's that. Actions can be justified if there's enough hate, enough hurt, enough trauma, that actions are justified.

 the rise of the anti hero has become such a celebrated figure. This is not what we should be glorifying. It's not healthy for us. And it adds to that, I call it the middle finger to the world, it adds to that thought of, Well, I'm, I'm traumatized, so I did this, so if you don't get me, middle finger to you.

No, no! If you can understand you're traumatized, go get that stinking help! We need more healers! Not more haters. So there is no justification to harm spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally, someone who is abusive in those areas. There is no justification of their struggle that makes them allowed to hurt other people.

There is no justification. I'm sorry. We have to stop that. Do they need help? Yes. Can we help them get help? Yes. But we are creating more victims when we justify. That the hurt people hurt people and it's just part of life 

 To Connect with Brigette: 

IG: @brigette.heller

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After having her first two kids, Jody Moore struggled with work/life balance, embracing motherhood, and liking herself. As an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints she felt guilty for not loving the role of mother and wife, and turned to life coaching for help. The transformation she experienced not only helped her at work and at home, it strengthened her testimony of Christ leading her to dive into learning the tools of coaching and to leave her position as a corporate leadership coach to launch her own coaching practice. Jody is certified through The Life Coach School and completed Master Coach Certification in 2018. Today, as an LDS Life Coach, Jody has helped tens of thousands of people through her top-rated podcast Better Than Happy as well as her coaching membership program Be Bold. She has 4 children ages 7 – 17 and resides in Spokane, Washington with them, her husband, and their French bulldog Finn, mini cavapoo Milo, and cat Oscar.

 📍 when we're ready to hear the truth, the truth can can be a gift.- Jody Moore

  📍 when we get our identity,  from whether it be a job or, being a mom, whatever it is,  if our, all of our fulfillment and our validation and our identity comes from that thing, we do.

That thing is likely going to change at some point, right? Either like you and I, we got laid off or, , the kids are going to leave the house at one point. And then you realize, wait a second that I can't build my foundation on the thing I do. That is never was my identity or your identity. We just thought it was, and that's good to know so that you can build it.- Jody Moore

Like you said, on something more solid. Yes. So the visual I like for identity, like world identity versus divine identity is a Picasso painting because it's just out. You look at it. You're like, what's funky about this. I don't know what to do with that. And, you know, because I was like a funny nose over here, that's purple.

And then a green eye or just everything's wacky. And then when you are. world identity, your jobs, your identity as a parent or not parent or dog mom or whatever you are. When it shifts, then it feels even more awkward than the original Picasso painting. But your divine identity is not like that at all.

It's this layer underneath that is just solid and always. The same and I have this picture of it's really beautiful painting of an angel and she's all this light and colors around her and it's so you can see the colors of the Picasso painting to this angel with the colors around her and those are pieces of her but they are not her -Brigette Heller

  📍 I don't even have to figure out the thoughts in the beginning, at least.

And in many cases, I just need to stay empowered. Like look at me, frustrating myself with whatever I'm believing right now about this situation that has been. Not only like in my family and  my daily life, but even in growing my business, just knowing that I'm creating all my feelings. And then those feelings are determining who I become, what I do next and what I then create in my life. -Jody Moore

   📍 if you can understand something, yeah, so complicated and simplify it, that means you actually understand it. And I think that's really when it comes to thoughts and feelings and all of this, it sounds simple, but until it becomes simple, you don't understand it. You don't understand it. We try and deep dive all the time and we got to stay surface first, be aware and then move on it. -Brigette Heller

  To Connect with Jody Moore:

www.jodymoore.com

To get her Free E-book: Better Than Happy:  

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IG: Brigette.heller

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Email: [email protected]

We flipped the script for this Episode Friend and Connected in Christ Co-host Jazzael Taylor comes on the show to interview Brigette Heller in this 100th episode celebration!

How did the podcast start? Whats been hard about it? Why do you keep podcasting? What are you goals for The Strong and Capable? And what legacy do you want to leave for your kids? Just a few of the questions Jazzael throws down and Brigette answers with her always authentic self showing up and being real.

Quotes:

" it was God and Google"- Brigette on how she learned to podcast and kept going.

People want to share their story. They want to share their message wether they are writing books or not, we all want to be seen and heard ad valued for our experience.- Brigette

My goal with The Strong and Capable is to always help people love themselves.

Being strong is not the same as being perfect. Being Perfect comes from a place of fear, but strength comes from a place of courage, bravery and peace.

No day is promised, so if something happened to me today, my most important thoughts, or most of them. are recorded in a hundred episodes. The thoughts on whoe we are as humans, how to be wildly brave, how to work through your mindset, hot to remember who you are when you feel lost. They are all recorded in these episodes.

To get connect with Brigette:

Instagram: Brigette.heller

Website:www.thestrongandcapable.com

FB: The Strong and Capable

For more than 18 years, mental health professional, Dr. Andrew L. Blackwood, affectionately known as “Coach Drew”, has been connecting deeply with individuals, parents, and teens to support their growth and healing through coaching, speaking, workshops on his book The Art of a Genuine Apology and his parenting programs, Help Them Be Brave and The Confidence-Cultivating Parent Program. Andrew’s personal healing journey through anxiety and childhood divorce helps him appreciate the painful challenges of those he works with as well as God’s grace and power to overcome. Earning a Master of Divinity in Counseling (Tyndale Seminary) and a Doctor of Ministry to Marriage and Family (Eastern University – Palmer School of Theology), prepared him to serve as a Children's Mental Health Clinician, Guest Expert and Media Consultant on shows like 100 Huntley Street, The Perspective and The 700 Club Canada. His remarkable ability to engage and bring clarity to the complex challenges of healing in relationships sets him apart as a true facilitator of change. His desire to impact relationship culture around the world is made personal every day as he continues to learn, heal, and grow in his most prized relationships with his wife and two daughters.

“Your experience….. It's going to help other people “ - God

 trauma is like pushing pause on someone's emotional development.- Dr. Drew

learn, heal, and grow. - Dr. Drew

healing comes in waves and stages. It's not all at once. You don't go from, I struggle. I had trauma to I'm healed. Overnight, like that doesn't happen. It comes in waves. So you kind of go through this healing and then I feel like your spirit, your body, everything has to catch up with what just happened.

Humans are humans and they're messy. So there's gonna be trauma somewhere.- BRigette

curiosity is what brings the possibility of healing- Brigette

what I've learned is then after you know yourself, now it's time to decide what to do with that. And that's actually the hardest journey yet to come, but the most important.- Brigette

if you want to have these moments where you're like, oh my gosh. I'm facing this and I have to, I can release it, put yourself in situations, go to counseling, put yourself in spiritual situations, do meditation, because when you prepare your heart and mind to see and receive, that's when you can transform.- Brigette

It's time to let this go so that you can be the next evolution of you without the guilt that's weighing you down- Brigette

Tips from Dr. Drew to start on the journey of healing:

1.Journal regularly and often, this gives you an understanding of what your feeling and thinking. Write them like a letter to yourself or to God.

2.If you are stuck, I would definitely say a lot of people think it's overrated, but I like to teach people how to breathe and how to be calm because there's real benefit to being where we are. We try to escape the unpleasantness and logically it makes sense, but just like when we do all the stuff for our kids, we're telling them that they can't handle it.So if you tell yourself, I can't handle, I can't handle that, you're capping your own growth. So breathe, calm yourself, remind yourself that you're actually okay. So that's number one. 

3.Number two, I would just. Listen for God's direction. And I know, I know  it's a journey of knowing how each individual hears God for some people, it is clear voice for some people. It's a feeling, it's a sensation. It's signed. There are so many different ways, but cultivating that openness with that curiosity and the anticipation 

To Connect with Dr. Drew: https://calendly.com/coachdrewcan/30-minute-define-my-next-step-clarity-consultation-call https://www.instagram.com/coachdrewcan/ www.coachdrew.ca https://app.searchie.io/hub/KrplrXbR18 - Effective Journaling Link 

To Connect with Brigette:

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www.thestrongandcapable.com

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There are so many truth about being human... and a lot of times we don't like to actually talk about them or admit that we MIGHT be human.

In this bonus summer episode Brigette Heller, Host of the Strong and Capable podcast shares truths about human connection, identity and struggle.

Andrea Renee Banfield, founder of Life In Wholeness LLC, supports people to wholeness in well-being of mind and spirit through the vibration of sound, working.with Spirit to remember lost aspects of the self, and coaching to find the quiet of being in thought - allowing new pathways to form which bring forward the dreams they have always wanted to create in relationships, business and life - living life in joy and celebration.  Andréa's personal accomplishments include an album of wonders to connect one to inner wisdom, untie the knot, and set the listener in the pattern of creation.  Her album can be downloaded at andreareneebanfield.bandcamp.com or found on her website at andreabanfield.com

 it starts to building more of a confidence within yourself and also finding a peer group that allows you.  to find yourself, right? They encourage you to be like, no, that's not for me. Like they like you to say, no thanks, because it lets them know that you are being true and authentic to yourself and not just falling part of the group.- Andrea

And you said something really interesting, you said sometimes you break the mold and you fall right into another mold.- Brigette

Absolutely. And you can see it all the time happening, like people who are breaking out of a mold of the, what their growing up environment told them to be.

Mm-hmm. . And then they just move into another environment that a peer group tells them they need to be mm-hmm. . Um, and so that would be a good example where they feel like they've broke the mold. But really they just have fallen into a new mold, um, based off of the input that's coming to them from the outside world, not from what's coming from within themselves, per se, other than the uncomfortable feelings of not fitting in with the outside world.

where I'm at now? I'm at a place of all possibilities. So I've broken the mold so many times and have had more and more mentors come in who have taken me into more and more just like hidden mysteries of life. Mm-hmm. So I've been able to get to this place where truly I.

Being out of the mold means you have all possibilities open to you, and then you get to create the mold that you wanna live your life in. And then you get to create that and that space and  and the way in which it's been done has been very beautiful.- Andrea

do you think you're God? I was like, What are you talking about? And she said, why do you think you have the power to change everyone's circumstances or that is your responsibility? She said, it's not yours and you are trying to act and save everybody as if you're God. She's like, you've gotta stop that. And it, it hit me so hard and sat with me for a very, very long time. Cuz I believe it is our duty to do good and to love others, but to carry the burden fully as if it's our own is not actually healthy.- Brigette

we're meant to light up in every way, and when we light up, we become this beacon for others- Brigette

Connect with Andrea: lifeinwholeness.com and andreabanfield.com

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