The Power of Synergy with Gabrielle Cardona

The Power of Synergy with Gabrielle Cardona

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  • The Power of Synergy, September 3, 2022
    The Power of Synergy
    September 3, 2022
    The Power of Nature; Cooperating With It
    Introduction:
    Definition of Synergy
    There is no neutral energy
    4 Dichotomies:
    *Social Energy:
    1. Friends
    2. Interruptions
    3. Noise
    4. Special Occasions
    *General Focus
    1. Tangible is better, even if it’s bad
    2. Literal is better, for practical reasons
    3. Directions are not confusing
    4. Hypothesizing is a waste of time
    *Making Decisions
    1. Making people happy is best
    2. Making sense is good
    3. Creating pain is bad
    4. Self-neglect is habitual
    *Carrying out decisions
    1. Knowing rules and following them
    2. More excited at the beginning? Or the end?
    3. Writing lists and keeping them handy
    4. Planning? Or spontaneous?
    4 Levels of Activity
    *Dominant
    1. Like breathing
    2. 8 hours/day: minimum 50%
    *Auxiliary
    1. Like eating
    2. 3-4 hours/day: 25-30%
    *Tertiary
    1. Like walking
    2. 2-3 hours/day: 15-20%
    *Inferior
    1. Like running
    2. 1-2 hours/day: 5-10%
    *What’s worse? Not doing what is you? Or doing what isn’t?
    1. Making it habitual is harmful
    2. Getting yourself back is a slow process: 5-10% at a time
    3. The 21-day rule of a habit
    Quality over Quantity:
    Personal Care: for yourself first
    *People are willing to help and share
    *When the ROI is real, it’s “worth it” for everyone
    Equipped: Prepared beforehand
    *Know what you will need
    *Have it “available” and “in stock”
    Milestones and Rewards:
    *Close enough to be achievable, but far apart enough to be challenging
    *1:4 ratio
    *4-week maximum distance
    *Weight example (break it down as many times as you need to)
    *Don’t undermine your work
    Support System:
    Physical: SP
    Emotional: NF
    Mental: NT
    Moral: SJ
    *Have them available and aware; concession
    *Have 5 of each (so know who in your life is what)
    Affirmations:
    *Always in the positive
    *1:3 ratio
    *Simple and short
    *Say the whole list until they’re all completely believed
    *Add one and remove one every 21 days
    Checklists for focus:
    *1:4 ratio (already do, occasionally do, rarely do, never do)
    *Just make it 8 things that you’ll do in a 24-hour day
    *Change the list every 3 months
    Shot-in-the-arm for energy:
    *At least 33% improvement
    *Keep everything accessible
    *Not more than twice, daily
    Negative Emotions:
    *Anxiety
    *Fear
    *Anger
    Conclusion:
    56 min
  • The Power of Synergy, May 7, 2022
    The Power of Synergy with Gabrielle Cardona
    May 7 Radio Show 
    The Synergy of Jealousy
    *Introduction
    What is synergy? What is jealousy? Is it a healthy response? 
    *The difference between the sum, the product, and exponents
    Addition, multiplication, and powers (Synergy as a principle)
    *2 and 7: 9 or 14 or 128 
    (vs. 7 and 2: 49)
    *4 and 8: 12 or 32 or 65,536
    (vs. 8 and 4: 4,096)
    *5 and 9: 14 or 45 or 1,953,125
    (vs. 9 and 5: 59,049)
    *Are you the base or the power? S is the base: the manifestation. N is the power: the augmentation.
    *2 elements required to create jealousy
    Insecurity and provocation: there is no “neutral” energy. It’s either positive or it’s negative. 
    *Provocative without provocation
     
    *Trust is about YOU—not the other person
    If you’re confident, you don’t have to worry about others not being loyal or faithful to you. If you’re worried about the person, you need to break up.
    *Are YOU relationship material?
    Relationships are a privilege—not a right. They are a lot of work: like food. Eating does not mean you know how to cook. 
    *Can a man and woman just “be friends”? *My best friend’s wedding story example vs When Harry Met Sally (5 minutes)
    *Can sex not be a factor in a relationship? Platonic? 
    *Or does it change everything, universally: you never see each other the same way; “you can’t change back”
    *Men only have enough blood for one head at a time
    *Vulnerability comes with sex, whether you want it to or not
    *Universal boundaries need to be predetermined
    And not negotiable—consistently enforced. Especially by the woman. Verbally. In detail. If they change, they need to be updated. And confirmed—by both parties. 
    *Sexual Harassment 
    Law and Order episode of rape: is a woman ever “at fault”?
    *Is there a point of no return: when you cross the line, have you forsaken your right to say “no”?
     
    *D.O.S.E. = The biochemistry of orgasm
    If you laughed more, you would need sex less.
    *Dopamine: SJ
    *Oxytocin: NF
    *Serotonin: NT
    *Endorphins: SP
    *Marriage terms and conditions different from dating? How?
    When you live together for 18 years, why haven’t you stepped up to the plate and signed the contract? Do you even know why? Does the person that you’re with know? 
    *Neutral neuters
    *When you “don’t care”, you harm yourself and the people you’re with. “Girls just wanna have fun” = selfishness and abuse
    *Do you think about other people when you’re “with” your mate?
    *Jealousy even between family members 
    Juan’s daughter is a great example! My husband had to walk me through it. And my sons and daughter.
    *What are the real threats to a romantic relationship?
    Same gender friends are potentially just as threatening to a courtship or marriage! 
    *Disclosing relationship secrets 
    *Taking priority over the spouse
    *Family members are potentially just as threatening as friends when they’re more important than the mate
    *Men are more vulnerable to women’s abuse than women are to men’s
    *Sex and the City issue people asked me about
    There’s “nowhere to hide” when someone is living with you: *SSB = Secret Single Behaviors
    *I’ll be damned if I apologize first
    *The husband trying to be part of Charlotte’s group of friends
    *“We are work and sex and nothing more”
    *What is trust
    To each person, based on functionality and personal experience. The other person is just an element. Not a factor.
    *My husband doesn’t trust other men. He completely trusts me. But not at first. It’s something that must be earned.
     
    *What are YOUR terms—not negotiable?
    Are you always honest about all of them—and therefore trustworthy to your mate?
    *The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth is vital to trust. At all times.
    *When you’re not completely open about everything, people wonder. Their imagination is insane.  
    *The way I’m gorgeous and friendly with men would potentially make a lot of men jealous. Why isn’t my husband? 
    *Conclusion
    *Are you jealous? Do you like it when other people are—doing things to provoke that negativity? Provocative vs. prevocational.
    *The elements and number examples of jealousy repeated.
    *There is no neutral.
    *Relationships are about power. Power comes with responsibility. Responsibility demands accountability.
    Synergy is what we create when we come together. When you come together with people, make sure you use your power for positive.
    55 min
  • The Power of Synergy, April 21, 2022
    The Power of Synergy with Gabrielle Cardona
    April 21 Radio Show Theme:
    My Coaching Program, Part 4
    Tools and Resources for success
    Introduction:
    Segment 1:
    1. Losing Focus 
    2. Feeling Alone 
    3. Destructive Thoughts 
    4. Internal Resistance 
    5. Low Energy 
    6. Negative Emotions  
    Losing Focus: Milestones and Rewards
    4 milestones are good enough to be motivational, but still challenging
    Feeling Alone: Setting up a support system
    4 Dispositions: have at least 5 people on each list. And their contact information—with their approval
    Segment 2:
    Conquering Destructive thoughts Through Affirmations
    1. Always phrase affirmation statements in the present indicative tense.
    2. Keep them short and simple. 
    3. They should consist of highly complementary statements about wonderful things that you are and do. 
    4. Write a list of a minimum of ten affirmations. But they need to be proportionate: a 1:3 ratio. 
    5. In the 1:3 ratio, one statement needs to be a statement that you completely believe. Without a doubt, you know it’s true. One needs to be something that you suspect to be true but sometimes wonder about. The last one needs to be something that you don’t believe at all but would give anything to have true. Just knowing that brainwashing yourself by saying it out loud enough times would make it true is reason enough for you to put it on the list. What do you want to have/be/do more than anything? Write it down. 
    6. Shuffle the list of statements so they are randomly placed.  
    7. Have at least seven copies of the complete list, strategically placed throughout your general environment so they are a permanent fixture in your daily activities, seen repeatedly as you go through your regular routine. Even if they are discreetly concealed from the general public, you still know where they are.  
    8. Frequently say them out loud in a casual way, at random times, as you are doing daily activities. 
    9. Have a set schedule that you also routinely use to recite the affirmations. No matter what is going on in your life at that time of day; other things can wait. This is not negotiable. 
    10.  Keep a copy of a list physically with you at all times so that in the event that you feel a need for immediate positive reinforcement to cancel negative thoughts it will be easily accessible. 
    11. Read the list out loud at least 5 times, daily. More, as needed.
    12. Say the whole list out loud until you completely believe each and every statement. As many times as it takes for that to happen. That may be for up to 15 minutes, depending on how you’re feeling at the moment you start.
    13. Have several “emergency” (and that may mean private, depending on your personality) places in your world (home, work, etc.) where you can go to recite them out loud, uninterrupted, if negative feelings begin to manifest within you.
    14.  Even if you are crying, continue to say the statements out loud, with conviction, through the tears.  
    15.  If you are stuck on one statement—just can’t convince yourself that it’s true—keep going until you do. If you say it out loud, frequently enough, your mind and heart will stop resisting.  
    (Break at 24 minutes: 1 minute)
    Segment 3:
    Overcoming Resistance by making habits with daily checklists
    1:4 ratio
    Segment 4:
    Giving yourself a shot in the arm
    1. Keep any objects that will be used in a place or circumstance where you can have immediate access to them. 
    2. Do not use any activity or object more than twice per day. 
    3. Do not spend more than ten minutes doing any activity, unless prescheduled. 
    4. Do not spend more than 50 percent of your hourly pay rate to purchase anything needed for the activity. (If you do spend more, it no longer qualifies as this level of activity)
    5. Do not place any demand or pressure on any other people without their prior knowledge and consent; they must feel prepared if you ask for their participation. 
    6. Do not consume more than the equivalency of 10 percent of your total daily caloric intake. 
    7. They must be powerful and effective enough to improve your overall (emotional, mental, and physical) condition by at least 33% percent when you’re done. 
    8. Be predetermined, specific activities corresponding to specific circumstances, so little or no thought is necessary in the moment that you are selecting which one you need. 
    9. You must completely mentally separate and emotionally detach from anything negative in your environment so you will be fully engrossed in the positive activity you are doing. 
    10. You must immediately deal with the issue or problem that generated the initial need for a shot-in-the-arm within you when you are done. 
    Segment 5:
    Managing Negative Reaction Emotions
    Anger
    Fear
    Anxiety
    1. The direct cause of it—what immediately happened before it occurred 
    2. The environmental situation that facilitated it, and 
    3. Your reaction(s) to your reaction(s). 
    Then: List three of them at the end of the day and note, in detail, what you experienced and what you learned from that experience about life and yourself. 
    *The emotion  
    *The immediate and direct trigger
    *The situation that caused the immediate trigger
    *How you responded to the emotion, separate from what caused it
    Conclusion
    55 min

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