The Principal Purpose Podcast

Rhonda Farr, a Certified Life Coach, joins The Principal Podcast to discuss emotional intelligence and emotional intimacy.  

Rhonda Farr works with high performers who are struggling in their relationships and marriage. She helps people who thrive at work, but can’t connect emotionally or physically in relationships. 

She says about herself that emotions are her jam! Processing them, healing them. Feeling them creating them.

Rhonda and Lynn discuss:

• Rhonda gives the best definition of emotional intelligence
• Rhonda talks about going through the day and being triggered physically and emotionally
• “And so the first thing that we have to do is notice those situations where we are being trigger. And then get curious about them.”
• Rhonda shares how to increase one’s emotional intelligence
• “What does one do after getting curious?”
• “When we can tolerate and handle our own emotions and regulate, regulate a little bit, we might get to have a more honest conversation, which is a layer beneath that.”
• Lynn and Rhonda talk about how to handle or what to say when feeling defensive.
• Rhonda explains why children have an easier time with emotions than adults and shares how to teach our children emotional intelligence.
• Learn how to teach our children about emotional intelligence

Learn more about Rhonda’s work and how to work with her privately at https://rhondafarr.com/work-with-me/ or follow her at @rhondafarr_coaching

You can also listen to her podcast https://rhondafarr.com/podcast/

Subscribe to The Principal Podcast to get more deep-dive interviews, tools, and inspiration for educators on topics making a difference for educators.  

Visit https://pod.link/1570909211 to learn more about The Principal Podcast for educators.

About the guest

Before having her four boys Rhonda was as a family counselor for a substance abuse center.  She married her counseling background with life coaching to help others feel emotionally connected in their marriages.  She loves to sort through all the feels. 

She believes and knows intimacy work + emotional work= growth and connection. 

She helps high-performers such as school leaders who thrive at work but struggle to connect emotionally in relationships.

About the host

Lynn Hardin is a Retired Elementary School Principal and Certified Life Coach for educators. 

She understands the stress and anxiety associated with being an educator pre and post pandemic.  She is a wife, mother, grandmother, dog lover, and artist. 

She is passionate about helping teachers and school leaders overcome anxiety, chronic stress, and worry to live happier and healthier lives. 

Connect on Instagram @_lynnhardin.  To work with Lynn privately go the http://www.lynnhardin.com and schedule a call.

Jane Pilger, a Master Certified Life Coach, joins The Principal Podcast to discuss the phenomena of binge eating and how to support yourself instead of shame yourself.  As women and educators, we understand that food takes up a lot of mental space.

Jane and Lynn discuss:

• Jane shares what a Master Certified Coach is and why she decided to become one and work with women who want to stop binging and feel safe in their body or safe around certain foods.
• Jane talks about her first binge and what she did to stop.
• Lynn describes binging as a young woman
• “The nervous system is going to respond based on its perception of safety.”
• Jane talks about how we use food to disconnect and when we can look at it without shame or judgement, we can approach the behavior with understanding
• What is binging anyway?
• “In talking about it, that we can remove the shame”
• Lynn and Jane emphasize the importance of talking about it
• Jane describes her program where one learns there are 8 reasons for binging and there are 8 solutions
• Thoughts on Jane’s favorite teacher Mr. Apple and his impact on her

Learn more about Jane’s work and how to work with her privately at https://www.janepilger.com/work-with-me and more about her program The Binge Breakthrough here https://www.bingebreakthrough.com/blueprint

You can also listen to her podcast https://www.bingebreakthrough.com/podcast

Subscribe to The Principal Podcast to get more deep-dive interviews, tools, and inspiration for educators on topics making a difference for educators.  

Visit https://pod.link/1570909211 to learn more about The Principal Podcast for educators.

About the guest

Wife. Daughter. Sister. Friend. Cat mama. Christian. Triathlete. CPA. Commercial real estate broker and developer. These are a few interesting things about me that I can fully embrace and appreciate now that I am no longer consumed by thoughts about what I have eaten, what I will eat, or collapsed in shame thinking something is wrong with me. Now I spend my time and energy connecting with others, helping women end the cycle of shame around food and their bodies, and chasing finish lines. I strive to make a difference in the lives of those around me while living a life of love, trust, adventure and growth. 

About the host

Lynn Hardin is a Retired Elementary School Principal and Certified Life Coach for educators.  She understands the stress and anxiety associated with being an educator pre and post pandemic.  She is a wife, mother, grandmother, dog lover, and artist.  She is passionate about helping teachers and school leaders overcome anxiety, chronic stress, and worry to live happier and healthier lives.  Connect on Instagram @_lynnhardin

Relationship Coach Kari Lynn Morgan and Former Principal and Life Coach Lynn Hardin got together over tea and chatted about the following

• Transitions from work to home
• Communication Skills for getting what you need
• Connection creating safety
• Relationships being important because we work with people
• The power in expressing one's concerns
• Parent complaints misnomer
• chickens
• Her favorite teacher and why

To learn more about Kari Lynn go to https://www.karilynncoaching.com/  

or send an email to /[email protected]

To learn more about Lynn go to

https://www.lynnhardin.com/

or email her at [email protected]

Happy New Year and this is the month that we put the pedal to the metal for advancing student learning.  There are three random tools that are making my new year fun, simple, and productive.  They are easy to implement and can be used for all ages.

The three new things that I'm doing for the new year and I invite you to join me is to add a sensory experience using your five senses to your planning.

Whatever it is that makes you feel present, that makes it more enjoyable using sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch.

The second thing that I'm doing is noting the remarkable using notes, journals, planners or bulletin boards, and the third thing is ditching or donating and de-cluttering my digital and physical environment.

Choosing a word of the year is a great alternative to doing New Year's resolutions. Which I'm not a big fan of because I don't, they've never worked for me.

I personally don't know anyone else they've ever worked for, and the research shows that about 99% of us give up by January 19th. Plus, there are a lot of other ways to fulfill one's purpose, to accomplish goals, to live our best life to to make changes.

And the practice of choosing a Word of the year is that instead of setting a lot of different New Year's resolutions, you just select one single word to be your focus or purpose for the year.

And besides, another thing about those New Year's resolutions is, , we can change our lives at any time. All right, so back to our word of the year and how we're going to do it.   You can use this word to set your goals or intentions for each area of your life.

"Grief is deep love with no place to go."

What losses have you experienced this year?  Is it an object or possession, a relationship, emotional well-being, a loved one or pet, money, your career or calling, health, or spiritual connection?  Odds are you have experienced a loss in one or all of these categories.

As if a loss wasn’t enough the grieving process comes next.  Loss and grief are partners.

The holiday season is here, and the expectation is that this is supposed to be a time of happiness and joy.

However, if you are grieving any loss, it may seem hard to find hope in dark days or strength to celebrate.

I want you to know that you are not alone, and I get it.

What if you could finish out the year inviting more peace into your life?  This is my hope for you.

Download my guide “Leave Work at Work and Drive Home Happy” – https://www.lynnhardin.com/resource

Or simply come and say hello over on Instagram @_lynnhardin

https://www.instagram.com/_lynnhardin/

The topic of mistakes is vital to work-life balance for educators because thinking about or ruminating about them is one of the top ways we bring our work home.

The work in paper form travels in the trunk of our car from school to home and back to school again. Then there is the mental work we bring home. You know when we can't focus and keep replaying what happened in our head, wishing we had said something different or done something differently? You can't sleep or wake up thinking and reliving what happened.

We all make mistakes. The good news in this podcast is that you will learn three simple things that can help you leave work at work when you make a mistake.

To make mistakes is the human experience and a school leader's best learning.

Today’s episode is all about the to-do list. More specifically, the doable to-do list. As educators, we have multiple to-do lists that seem impossible! I will share tips and tricks in compiling a feasible to-do list you can create on your own. I’ll lead you through the mindset and perspective around this practice and discuss the importance of having a to-do list that is meaningful and believable to you. Finally, you’ll receive a plan with steps to create a doable to-do list that will simplify your life and give you the balance and freedom we so desire as educators. Stay tuned for this insightful episode about creating a personal doable to-do list!

In This Episode:

• [01:50] What is an achievable to-do list? 
• [04:11] After making your doable to-do list, honestly rate the possibility of making this list happen.
• [07:56] Create a doable to-do list with the intention of success and happiness for that day.
• [11:02] How to create a doable list.
• [16:23]  What is valuable about the doable to-do list is we begin by loving ourselves, committing to ourselves and making what we are doing realistic.
• [17:16] When is the best time to create your doable to-do list?

Key Takeaways:

• Do not create your to-do list from a place of judgment or shame. Create a doable to-do list with the intention of success and happiness for that day.
• The most important thing when creating your doable to-do list is to think about what you want to do for that day, what you need. Also, always reflect on where you are. It's about creating a to-do list that you can commit to.
• Keeping our word to ourselves not only gets things done that need to be done, but it also lightens the load in our minds. Then we start to become a person who states what we are doing or going to do and is intentional in our word which builds confidence and self-esteem.
• When creating a doable to-do list, it is important to only look at the next 24 hours, no further.

This episode is all about journaling. Do you ever think to yourself, why can't I just simplify my teacher life? Most likely, you start the year strong, but by November, you are simply exhausted. This exhaustion will lead to what we call 'stinking thinking.' It's time to take those self-limiting doubts and turn them around. Tune in as we help you learn how to use your conscious brain more consciously to work in partnership with the instinctual part of your brain, rather than just having knee-jerk reactions and stinking thoughts.

In This Episode:

• [02:00] Noticing your ‘stinking thinking’ is a skill that you can develop.  
• [05:35] It’s time to work together with the conscious part of your brain, AKA the human spirit.  
• [08:50] Look at your thinking and decide what is true; remember, you have the power to choose. 
• [10:10] Journaling 101: what you need to know.  

Key Takeaways:

• The best way to look at your thinking is through journaling. 
• Get a journal – don’t overcomplicate it and find something simple. 
• Keyboarding will not get the same results as writing it down with pen and paper.
• Try writing about yourself, writing your thoughts, and write down what you think about your students. 

So many teachers complain about how difficult it is to balance work and home. Sadly, work takes a more significant percentage of time and energy. Since it is human to strive for homeostasis and balance, that's what we're going to dive into during this episode. Plus, we will discuss a simple solution for refining work-life balance and finding out how all of this connects to our thoughts. We go in-depth on our beliefs, specifically, 'stinking thinking.' Tune in as I give tips, tricks, and what to do about those self-limiting thoughts in our head.

In This Episode:

• [01:30] We spend the most amount of our time doing work. Well, work-life balance is possible! 
• [08:10] Start simple and figure out what slight shift you can make today. 
• [12:00] Make sure to put energy into your self-talk and think about your boundaries. 
• [17:00] When you become aware of your thoughts, then you will no longer fixate on them.  

• [22:15] Call to action: look for teeny tiny thoughts that you can change in your life.

Key Takeaways:

• Buy an uncomplicated and straightforward journal. Then, write down simple steps on how you will achieve work-life balance. 
• Decide what time you will end work each day. Write it down in your calendar, so you don’t forget. 
• Remember, if you don’t do something perfectly, you still need to be kind to yourself. 
• Watch your self-talk. Talk to yourself the way that you talk to other people.