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On today's PoM Podcast Episode I sit down with former University of Notre Dame football player Trevor Ruhland to talk about life beyond the game. Trevor shares his journey through college football, the pressure that comes with competing at a high level, and the hidden battle he faced with an eating disorder.

This conversation goes deeper than sports. We unpack the mental toll that performance, identity, and expectations can have on a man—and what it looks like to confront those struggles head-on. Trevor opens up about hitting a breaking point, doing the hard work of getting his mind right, and finding a healthier path forward.

If you’ve ever struggled with identity, control, or mental health—or know someone who has—this episode is a real, honest look at what it takes to fight back and rebuild.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The reality of playing high-level college football
• How an eating disorder developed behind the scenes
• The mental and emotional challenges athletes often hide
• Steps toward healing, discipline, and renewed purpose

This is a conversation about strength—not just physical, but mental and spiritual.

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On today's Podcast episode I sat down with Brad and Heidi Mitchell founders of Build Your Marriage. Today we discuss their latest book, "Build Your Marriage With Prayer" a 40-day guide to help couples to learn to begin to pray together.   

Many couples struggle to move beyond surface-level prayers or feel awkward praying out loud together. In this 40-day journey, best-selling authors and speakers Brad and Heidi Mitchell guide you through proven prayer practices designed specifically for couples. Each day includes guided prayers, thoughtful reflection questions, and practical exercises that deepen your spiritual intimacy as a couple. Couples learn to pray together naturally and authentically. Transform your marriage through the power of prayer―starting today.

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Today we continue our conversation that we begin the last time taking a look at the implications of Joshua's charge to the people and the benefits or consequences to those who took that charge seriously. 

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In Joshua 24 we see the end of a life well lived. Joshua begins by reminding the nation of how the Lord has always gone before them. 

He then transitions to a strong charge to get them to lead their home well, to choose this day and everyday who they will serve. The problem is the people believe that saying the right things are more important than actually doing the right thing. 

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In Joshua 23, we begin to wind down the life of Joshua. It is clear that he is old and advanced in years. 

Joshua gives the leaders clear instructions on how they should live, and a warning about what happens if they throw off restraint and live like the nations around them. 

Joshua has followed the Lord and led his people for many years now and it is time for him to leave this earth. He makes sure that before he leaves he tells reminds them of the truth that they have been experiencing all these years. 

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On today's PoM podcast conversation I sat down with Andrew Jax, founder of 6 Pack Dad. Andrew has worked with over 500 busy men to reclaim their health, energy & longevity without exercise or strict diets.  

6-Pack Dad helps you build a plan unlike anything you’ve tried before — one that actually fits your life and delivers lasting results.

You can access a free copy of Andrew's ebook, Ditch The Dad Fat, here: https://ditchthedadfatbook.gr8.com 

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In Joshua 22, the tribes of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh finally head home. After years of fighting faithfully alongside their brothers, they return to the east side of the Jordan. But before they cross over completely, they build an altar—an altar that almost sparks a civil war.

What looked like rebellion was actually a desire for remembrance. What felt like division was really a plea for unity.

In this episode of The Pursuit of Manliness, we unpack the tension, the misunderstanding, and the powerful lesson for men who want to lead well in their homes, churches, and communities.

We’ll talk about:

• The importance of finishing strong after seasons of obedience
• How assumptions can fracture brotherhood
• Why courageous conversations prevent unnecessary battles
• The responsibility men have to protect unity without compromising truth
• Building “altars” in your life that point the next generation to faithfulness

Joshua 22 reminds us that mature men don’t react—they seek understanding. They don’t assume the worst—they pursue clarity. And they don’t drift from their calling once the battle is over.

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In this episode of The Pursuit of Manliness, we walk through Joshua 14–21 and confront a reality every man knows: waiting can be very difficult.

The land had been promised. The battles had been fought. But now came the slow work of allotment, boundaries, and settling in. For some, the promise felt delayed. For others, it may have felt overlooked. Yet in the waiting, God was still working.

In this episode we look at:

Caleb’s unwavering faith — decades after the promise was given, he was still ready to take the hill country. He did not grow bitter. He did not grow passive. He did not grow weary.

The steady faithfulness of God in distributing the inheritance exactly as He said He would.

The quiet obedience required to trust the Lord when progress feels slow and recognition feels small.

Joshua 21:45 reminds us: “Not one word of all the good promises that the Lord had made to the house of Israel had failed; all came to pass.”

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In Mark 11 we see Jesus showing His displeasure of what has become His temple and what it was doing to those who were to benefit from it. Many times as men we appreciate the emotion that we see from Jesus. However when we step back and consider how we are bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, (1 Corinthians 3:16) we must consider how Jesus views the way we are taking care of our temple. 

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In Joshua 13, we read the sobering words: “Joshua was old and advanced in years…” (Joshua 13:1). The battles have been many. The victories significant. The scars real. Yet the Lord tells him, “There remains yet very much land to possess.”

In this episode of The Pursuit of Manliness, we issue a clear charge to older men: Do not disengage. Do not coast. Do not check out.

Our culture tells seasoned men to slow down, sit back, and let someone else carry the weight. But Scripture shows us something different. Even in advanced years, Joshua is still leading, still dividing the land, still stewarding responsibility, and still obeying the Lord. 

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