Episode #20

In today’s episode, we explore how thinking of your lost loved one can actually offset symptoms of prolonged grief. Includes supporting research and a simple creative exercise.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* Think About Your Lost Loved One (0:34)

* Don’t Become Obsessive (0:44)

* What the Research Says (1:02)

* Great Motto to Live By (1:49)

* A Simple Exercise (2:15)

Memorable Quote

"Oftentimes, avoidance can be even more troublesome."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “An Attachment-Based Model of Complicated Grief”

Next Episode: The Quiet Crisis of Identity After Loss

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #19

In today’s episode, we discuss “functional freeze,” a trauma-based response, where teh body stays active and the emotions go offline. This is often a tell-tale sign of complicated grief. Includes a simple exercise.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* The Functional Freeze (0:31)

* What Neuroscientists Describe as Dorsal-Vagal State (0:41)

* It’s Often Praised as “Strength”…Yet It Silently Prolongs Grief (0:50)

* A Simple Practice to Support You (0:56)

Memorable Quote

"You’re present at work. You smile in meetings. But inside…you’re numb."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Podcast: “Emotional Shutdown: Understanding Polyvagal Theory”

Study: “The Nature of Grief: Implications for the Neurobiology of Emotions” *

Article: “Dorsal-Vagal Shutdown: How to Identify It”

Next Episode: Thinking of Lost Love One is Best Medicine

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #18

In today’s episode, we discuss how complicated grief can often lead to perfectionism, a coping mechanism.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* What’s Defines as “Faux Productivity” (0:46)

* What’s the Research Say? (0:54)

* A Simple Practice to Support You (1:11)

Memorable Quote

"Healing, itself, rarely looks perfect."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Complicated Grief & Posttraumatic Stress After Loss”

Next Episode: Why You Feel Numb (But Keep Showing Up)

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #17

In this episode, we discuss the many reasons you really have no idea how to grieve.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* We’re Ill-Prepared to Deal with the Loss We Face (0:26)

* Those Around Us Offer Faulty Bromides (0:38)

* We’re Never Taught How to Properly Lose Things (1:01)

Memorable Quote

"All that you’re being told is defective."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through Loss

Next Episode: Why You Have No Idea How to Grieve

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #16

In this episode, we’ll explore how ruminating over your loss actually increases shame and guilt. Research-based findings. Includes simple exercise.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* The Relentless Loop (0:22)

* What Is Rumination? (0:40)

* What’s the Research Say? (0:53)

* A Simple Practice to Support You (1:11)

Memorable Quote

"Rumination only increase shame, guilt, and emotional exhaustion."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Emotional Regulatory Strategies in Complicated Grief”

Next Episode: Why You Have No Idea How to Grieve

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #15

In this episode, we’ll explore how lingering regret worsens grief severity, oftentimes pushing bereavement into the realm of complicated grief (2-12 months of “sticky” grief) or even prolonged grief (more than 12 months of “sticky” grief.) A simple experiential exercise is also included.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #GriefPodcast #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy #Regret

Topics in this Episode

* Types of Grief Regret You Might Have (0:34)

* What the Research Says About Grief Regret (0:59)

* Regrets are an All-to-Common Theme (1:23)

* A Simple Practice to Support Your Process (1:34)

Memorable Quote

"Regret is common…but must be processed."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Bereavement-Related Regret Increases Grief Severity”

Next Episode: Rumination Increases Shame & Guilt in Grieving

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #14

In this episode, we discuss how unresolved grief isn’t just emotional in nature but also physical, as it can affect gut health and subsequently cause digestive issues. Included is a simple somatic exercise.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy #GutHealth

Topics in this Episode

* It’s Not Just Emotional; Physical Symptoms of Grief (0:30)

* It’s Not Just Stress; It’s Your Gut-Brain Axis (0:42)

* The Vagus Nerve Reacts Sharply to Emotional Distress (0:49)

* What Does Research Say? (1:07)

* A Simple Practice to Support Your Process (1:29)

Memorable Quote

"Unresolved Grief is a Prolonged Threat to the Nervous System."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “The Psychobiology of Bereavement and Health”

Next Episode: Regret Intensifies Grief Symptoms

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #13

In this episode, we explore why still crying months, or even years, after a deep personal loss does not mean you’re grieving wrong, nor does it mean you’re failing or broken in an way. Unresolved grief is a personal journey. You’ll also find a quick exercise to help you along the way.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* In Western Culture Grief Seems to Have an Expiration Date (0:29)

* The Science and the Soul Say Otherwise (0:35)

* Research: Intense Waves of Grief Can Persist Long after the Loss (0:40)

* Crying Doesn’t Mean You’re Stuck (0:57)

* A Simple Practice to Support Your Process (1:19)

Memorable Quote

"Crying means your nervous system is trying to regulate."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Complicated Grief and Post-traumatic Stress After Loss”

Next Episode: Grief and the Gut-Brain Axis

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #12

In this episode, we’ll take a look at prolonged grief’s impact on cognitive function, long with a study that finds prolonged grief can cause cognitive decline. Includes a simple experiential exercise to help you along.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #HealGrief #GriefHealing #HealingAfterLoss #ComplicatedGrief #ProlongedGrief #TraumaticGrief #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* Prolonged Grief Can Sharply Diminish QOL (0:28)

* Research: PGD Increases Risk of Cognitive Decline (0:38)

* Brief Experiential Exercise (1:01)

Memorable Quote

"PGD can lead to a sharply diminished quality of life."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Prolonged Grief and Cognitive Decline”

Next Episode: When You’re Still Crying Months Later

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com

Episode #11

In episode #11 of The Quiet Crisis podcast, we discuss the phrase, “You just have to move on” with your unresolved grief. Yet, nothing could be further from the truth. So says a 2022 Frontiers in Psychology meta-analysis. Includes a short DIY exercise to help you with your grief.

#Grief #GriefSupport #GriefHelp #GriefRecovery #Resilience #HealingGrief #HealingAfterLoss #ArtTherapy #ExpressiveArts #NarrativeTherapy

Topics in this Episode

* What the research says (0:18)

* Grief rarely follows a linear timeline (0:27)

* Resilient individuals integrate loss into identity (0:31)

* A quick reframe (0:45)

* A simple exercise (1:06)

Memorable Quote

"I’m not trying to move on. I’m learning to live beside it."

Healing Links

Self-Study Healing Suite: Grief Therapy in a Box

1:1 Coaching Program: Evolving through LossSupporting Links

Study: “Long-term Grief Recovery Isn’t Linear”

Next Episode: How Prolonged Grief Can Cause Cognitive Decline

If you’re a woman navigating incessant grief after profound personal loss, and you wish to effectively process and “complete” that grief (without ever “forgetting”), explore my revolutionary and critically-acclaimed, self-paced healing suite, Grief Therapy in a Box.” If you’re more the 1:1 coaching type, check out my Evolving through Loss program.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nelsonpahlphd.substack.com