The Ranches Podcast

Mean Girls 

The Mean Girl behavior used to start in middle school but now it is starting  in 2nd and 3rd grade.

Back to School

As we transition from summer to the new school year, it’s important to recognize that some kids handle the change better than others. Also, some kids enjoy the seclusion of summer while some relish the idea of more social contact.

Eye Contact Younger Kids

For younger kids, eye contact is critical and has to be taught. I went as far as going forehead to forehead with my kids for important points - Discipline and Praise.

- Heath Kull

Pain vs. Obedience, Respect and Performance

Sometimes, as parents, we tend to focus on obedience, respect and performance of our children. While those things are important, we shouldn’t be so focus on them that we become blind to the pain that are kids are experiencing.

Parents tend to believe that if their kids loved them, they’d obey, respect and do as told. Kids tend to believe that, if their parents loved them, the relationship and the child’s struggles would be more important than obedience, respect and performance.

This same concept applied to moods.

Triangulation

Triangulation is exactly as it sounds. If you picture a triangle and you are at one of the points and your child at another, whoever or whatever is at the third point is the subject of the triangulation.

Could be parents or step parents

Could be teachers

Could be friends

Could be issues

Could be grandparents

Could be siblings

Cooking with Kids

Cooking is a great way to show kids that you like them and you like spending time with them while investing in theirs skillset. Find recipes until they have a favorite. Then have them make it for the family.

You can love kids til the cows come home, but sometimes they’d rather have someone who likes them and wants to spend time with them than someone who loves them.

Forgiveness vs Gratitude

Instead of getting stuck in an endless “sorry” loops, try replacing “sorry” with “thank you”. For example. Instead of saying “sorry I am late”, try “thank you for being patient and waiting for me.”

Any change will cause loss and will be reacted to. Stick with it.