the random thought pod

Bridge & The Girl talk about not the olympics, deplatforming & second chances, not talking politics, storing up happiness, ideologies & theology, & Robert Morris. 

The Girl and bridge talk about throwing people onto the bus, quartz, perennials, unreasonable vs. unrealistic,  advertising vs. therapy, kicking the crutches, communal music, sin, speaking our truth, individuality, lore, old sayings that sound wrong. 

Bridge Livwat on X (twitter… lol i think we all know X i twitter): https://x.com/bridgelivwat 

The Girl on X: https://x.com/idrinkanarchy 

For the book “Co-Crazy” https://www.amazon.ca/Co-Crazy-Psychologists-Recovery-Codependency-Addiction-ebook/dp/B09NP2W1CM/ref=sr_1_1?crid=MKGHUZ2I55E8&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.RFZwyPABUSyrP5IVVU9ndQ.D0ESpJhvVgc49sKa_Lhdg3Nl3z67Is4-1Nv6WTQowgk&dib_tag=se&keywords=cocrAzy&qid=1718039212&sprefix=cocrazy%2Caps%2C190&sr=8-1

Hello all. Welcome to the random thought pod. I am your random thought leader bridge livwat. No guest this week… it’s just me, a monologue. I honestly don’t know if i have heard a podcast episode where the podcaster says “monologue” in a monologue podcast. Kinda funny… anyway. Prior to my life falling apart with the divorce i am in the midst of, i had thought about a book idea. I think it is called “theology that skips a couple of steps”. 

Now I am still building that theology… also i will be tied up with school for the next year l, but i feel i’m discovering something.

The concept is that maybe the spirituality that i am moving toward still is essentially Christianity, but it is a little bit more expedient. I think that a lot of the Jonathan Foster and Thomas Jay Oord convos i had on the wax museum have formed my view of God, along with Richard Rohr’s universal Christ… which was also discussed on the wax museum podcast. 

But essentially, i believe God is Love and he has created everyone of us in the image of love. I think that image of love is a higher self. It is the better version of who we are. It is the version of us that will work for the flourishing of other living things. This version also works for the flourishing of ourselves. 

In this, we can love our neighbors as ourselves… but if we have no self-love, there is no love to give to others. This is where the internal family systems work i have been doing with Marie has been so helpful. I am very prone to self-sacrifice, which is something Christianity is often prone to endorse. As discussed in episode 12, there are different parts of us that we need to gently bring back under the leadership of the core self. And i think that part of me who wants so desperately to ensure that people around me are ok needs to ensure that the core is also being taken care of… it needs to make the core its top priority. This is where my core self can sit down with that part. Let’s call this part “serv”. So core puts his his arm around serv and says “hey… i see you genuinely care about all of these people. That is so incredibly admirable. Did you know that you can still do that, but also make me your top priority?”

It’s almost like the whole airplane rule of put your mask on before you help others with their masks, but i think maybe we need to take this further… I don’t think we should be taking care of ourselves JUST because we need to be healthy enough to help others. I think we should take care of ourselves because we are worth taking care of. 

Self-love is such an important thing. 

I love my little church. I remember pastor Jackie was talking about sabbath and she said that the intention is not to be that we sabbath, or rest in order to have the energy to do our work throughout the week… the intention is to work throughout the week so that we can sabbath. 

So, if we truly love self, we are not merely trying to repair ourselves for the intention of being used… we take care of ourselves because we are someone we actually love. 

It is so difficult to love someone you don’t know. I have really worked as a dad to listen to my children. In listening to my children, I can understand how they see the world and I can see how i can help them navigate it. 

Now… the loss of such an important relationship has put me in a position where I have needed to do much self-reflection. It is in the listening to myself that I can know myself and see how i can love myself. There are multiple facets to this.

Initially, i had to leave social media because of that temptation to be what people want me to be in those spaces. It can pull me away from my core self. It was wild to see how my brain wandered without that stimuli… what i decided to do was develop this tool i call my survival journal...

Bridge talks to Marie Lerch (Kootenaygirl) about how her internal family systems (IFS) life coaching helped him through his impending divorce. 

For Love Maven Life Coaching: https://lovemaven.ca/ 

Marie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kootenaygirl69 

Marie on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mamalele

Bridge & The Girl talk about daddy play, deconstruction, fear of authority, therapy, boundaries, and alternate news

For the book, “Why We Sleep”

https://shorturl.at/JKSTV

The book “Irony and Outrage”

https://shorturl.at/aJSZ7

Episode 10: The Girl > i read books but not those books

Bridge Livwat and The Girl talk about: pretty privilege, Matt Walsh, unpopular opinions, the echo chamber concept, and south park storytelling

Tirefall

https://t.co/3GTkaiSAuM

Follow @anantigonegone on Twitter. 

https://twitter.com/anantigonegone

m1nd1’s tweet:

https://x.com/m1nd1/status/1727870240443531517?s=20 

you’re wrong about podcast in The Sound of Freedom

https://pod.link/1380008439/episode/6eb128939a1ed18eb3cee55abe5783b2

Follow The Girl at twitter.com/idrinkanarchy

Follow BRIDGE LIVWAT at twitter.com/bridgelivwat

Joshua Lawson talks about his book Drugs & Jesus: Faith Meets Harm Reduction

Josh’s website:

https://www.lawsonwrites.com/#/

Josh’s Tik Tok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@joshualawson74

Josh’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/joshua__lawson/ 

The face of addiction

https://www.amazon.ca/Face-Addiction-Stories-Loss-Recovery-ebook/dp/B098JVPF1Y/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3CZA8ZXJJHN5P&keywords=the+face+of+addiction&qid=1699886217&sprefix=the+face+of+addiction%2Caps%2C117&sr=8-1

Drugs & Jesus

https://www.amazon.ca/Drugs-Jesus-Faith-Meets-Reduction/dp/1957007591/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1TPQ1ZCBSNWT2&keywords=drugs+%26+jesus&qid=1699887444&sprefix=drugs+%26+jesus%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1

The Crackdown Podcast

https://pod.link/1450566001

The creator who talks about vertical and horizontal morality:

https://www.tiktok.com/@iblamebill?lang=en

Peace and Good Order by Harold Johnson

https://www.amazon.ca/Peace-Good-Order-Indigenous-Justice-ebook/dp/B07L7SYLFC/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1T3JTZZRB5OBA&keywords=peace+and+good+order&qid=1699893607&sprefix=peace+and+good+order%2Caps%2C184&sr=8-1

Ren - Sick Boi

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Q6uCrpzbPY

Bridge Livwat and The Girl talk about deep watering, people who aren’t where they should be, mock accidents, Coke bottle name, no one enters my body without permission, guy who doesn’t like prophet because he says bad stuff, NCIS, a lawyer that used to lawy, 1984, journalists and Facebook, pranked!, moth light moon evolution, something profoundly unorthodox about Jesus, and not borrowing trouble.

Follow The Girl at twitter.com/idrinkanarchy

Follow BRIDGE LIVWAT at twitter.com/bridgelivwat

How Minds Change - David McRaney

https://www.amazon.ca/How-Minds-Change-Surprising-Persuasion-ebook/dp/B093R2CP2V/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36L20A2BDJMK1&keywords=how+minds+change&qid=1697201134&sprefix=how+mind%2Caps%2C222&sr=8-1

What’s Our Problem - Tim Urban

https://www.amazon.ca/Whats-Our-Problem-Self-Help-Societies-ebook/dp/B0BTJCTR58/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1697466922&sr=8-1

Defending Democracy from Its Christian Enemies

https://www.amazon.ca/Defending-Democracy-Its-Christian-Enemies-ebook/dp/B0BYM3GRN6/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1698685073&sr=8-1

Hello Ren:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc

Bridge Livwat and The Girl talk about being random thought leaders, dark toddler humor, kids who are not cannon, spanish with an american accent, nhl pride, and how our minds change

Follow The Girl at twitter.com/idrinkanarchy

Follow BRIDGE LIVWAT at twitter.com/bridgelivwat

How Minds Change - David McRaney

https://www.amazon.ca/How-Minds-Change-Surprising-Persuasion-ebook/dp/B093R2CP2V/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36L20A2BDJMK1&keywords=how+minds+change&qid=1697201134&sprefix=how+mind%2Caps%2C222&sr=8-1

What’s Our Problem - Tim Urban

https://www.amazon.ca/Whats-Our-Problem-Self-Help-Societies-ebook/dp/B0BTJCTR58/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1697466922&sr=8-1

“When you debate a person about something that affects them more than it affects you, remember that it will take a much greater emotional toll on them than on you. For you it may feel like an academic exercise. For them, it feels like revealing their pain only to have you dismiss their experience and sometimes their humanity. The fact that you might remain more calm under these circumstances is a consequence of your privilege, not increased objectivity on your part. Stay humble.” - Sarah Maddox

Dr. Dana Hicks talks about his book “The Knot: How to Secure Healthy Relationships While Not Being Tied to Marriage’s Past”

Dana’s website:

https://www.danahicks.blog/

Dana on X:

https://twitter.com/danahicksauthor

The book:

https://www.amazon.ca/Knot-Secure-Healthy-Relationships-Marriages-ebook/dp/B0BL46FFCQ/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1687785412&sr=8-1

Bridge mentions Mike the Therapist:

https://twitter.com/sacwriter

The creator who talks about horizontal vs. vertical morality, Rachel Klinger Cain:

https://twitter.com/iblamebill

The podcast episode on the movie Sound of Freedom:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439?i=1000626860729