I lost a few friends last month as I developing my own interpretation of gender theory as it exists. I don't have the attention to read much, but I did listen to a variety of University Professor discussions from both conservative and liberal views. I find flaws in both views and flaws within historical activism, as our currently divisive opinions have always been divisive opinions within queer culture. For all you 28 year olds out there....these issues existed before you were born. Go seek out activists like Sylvia Rivera, as she spoke the year before she died, about how Pride was now a capitalist movement, and not about Pride. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hI2bxUSRF7I And I believe these issues will always exist, particularly in the modern age of social media. Corporations control the narrative by making us angry and trending on controversy. They take our money, as if they show us support, all the while, pushing for divide. A war tactic to seek power: divide and conquer.
My friends that I lost last month never had an issue with me before I posted about Non-binary identities. I thought they always knew my stance on it. They also always knew I supported them and encouraged their lifestyle or gender explorations. However, seeing it in writing, where people were calling me horrible names, they felt triggered, as if they were on the wrong side by associating with me. I even said: I'm still the same person you always knew. Nothing has changed, yet, here we are. I'd be happy to discuss what I meant with you in person.
Those conversations never happened. Why? Perhaps the cognitive dissonance of how their views on gender contradict itself in some ways. They would have to face this dissonance, and reason with it. I believe that this is something most of us want to avoid. Because to be wrong or hypocritical or to lack understanding means we are imperfect - we have to sit in our discomfort. What better way to avoid this discomfort than to block someone on social media or uninvite them to your public events?
Yet in the end, we are all losing because the ones in power are still in power. You and your feelings aren't helping the rights of others to be accepted among the mainstream. Your comfort from not having your feelings hurt and by posting on social media about how mad you are that Roe Vs Wade is gone, isn't going to help the fact that it is reality and people on the left are moving to the right.
I consider myself a radical - my shadow self is a nihilist, anarchist, and wants to see the world be destroyed because it's pretty worthless. My inner child, the innocent that lives deep inside of me, wants to see us have full understanding and acceptance of one another. To be able to agree to disagree and still enjoy each other's company. I recently went to southern Mississippi, an hour east of New Orleans. My friend, who is a trans woman, invited me to karaoke. The contrast of the bar made me so happy that I was in a Utopia dream. We had queers, drag queens, trans, what have you, mixed in with red neck regulars. We were all drinking, singing, dancing....well it was mostly the queers singing and dancing, but we were all together in this quant local bar in a small town of one of the reddest states in America. It is my dream come true. That this could be possible everywhere we go. However, most of our lives are spent on social media, through text messages. And we feel safe with those who are like us. The downfall is that we will never expand our thinking if we just stick to what makes us comfortable and never have discourse with those who think or question different perspectives. Is this so radical for me to believe or is this just being a human? Because no matter the sides we take, I hope that we all want the same thing in the end: for us to all get along and live our best lives.
Gender has been a hot topic and I believe that our brains are incapable of evolving fast enough to accept transhumanism and beyond. We don't have a w
