For the longest time, I used to say, quite confidently also, that I didn’t like people. The foolishness that comes with a lack of self-awareness.

Now I know it wasn’t that I didn’t like people. It was that I didn’t understand what was happening inside me.

When you don’t have language for your inner world, you default to simple labels. And if the adults don’t understand what’s happening inside them, it’s very difficult for them to help a child understand what’s happening inside the child.

But now that I understand my own signals and can articulate what’s happening inside me, now that I know where I end and someone else begins, I find myself more patient. More open. More curious.

I dislike confusion. I dislike emotional noise. I dislike lack of clarity, especially with my emotions and feelings.The truth?

I like people. I just needed to learn how to understand myself first.

Hello

In this episode of Real Talk, I’m unpacking something that’s been sitting with me for a while — trauma, patterns, and how stories we’ve never named can quietly shape entire families. We often think trauma is a modern concept, but when you look closely at Scripture, you begin to see patterns of pain, favoritism, control, fear, and overcorrection woven through generations.

Using the story of Rebekah, Jacob, and Joseph, I explore how unexamined experiences can influence decisions, relationships, and even destinies. This isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about awareness. Because if we don’t pause to ask where certain patterns began, we may unknowingly continue what we were meant to heal.

It’s honest. It’s reflective. And as always, it’s Real Talk.

Everyone comes from somewhere.

Everyone carries a past.

Everyone has things that were done to them, things said to them, things they learned and things they’re still unlearning.

We should and can be more gracious with our speakings.

In this episode of the podcast I talk about the truth we all feel but rarely name: that love, on its own, doesn't always reach the places it's meant to. I touch on emotional and psychological needs—those quiet, unseen, deeply human parts of us—are so often misunderstood, dismissed, or simply never given the space to breathe.

Even when we give love, when we try our best, it can start to feel empty—mechanical, even—if the person on the other end doesn't feel seen, heard, or truly considered.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered why love didn’t feel like enough, and for those who want to learn how to show up in a way that truly matters.

Because love is the beginning. But it’s never the whole story.

Happy New Year!!!!

In this first episode of the year, I dive straight into talking about three areas of life to check to avoid being overwhelmed. These areas are

I am sure you would find some value in listening.

Cheers to an amazing 2025 🎊🥳

Heeey,

No motivational speaking... Just vibes because why not. Once a while just shock people, not like I think this will shock you if you know me at all.

Enough said.

Enjoy the listening, and cheers to the new year.

Surest regards,

Ola

Offence usually starts small.

When we learn not to take things personally, when we learn that the actions of others are a reflection of their world and not ours, then we no longer open ourselves to the poison their opinions may become to us.

This episode is dedicated to men. Men generally have it hard for different reasons and in this episode a few men talk about how they relate with friends, family, and how these community of people impact teir mental health.

In this episode I share thoughts on what feedback is and how you can take it and use to fuel your growth. When you begin to see feedback as a gift, you'll learn to find a use for the opinion that is given to you as feedback.